Right, back on the laptop.  You're on the list, Finnie, and of course you two are welcome HnS!

Not a problem, I'll add you later when I'm on the laptop

I've created a group for the social.  When it's approved, I'll add you all and post some hotels there.

The date is the 14th of April, and of course I can add you Ruby!

People definitely meet, and they definitely play.  I don't know what you mean by thinking it's facebook - the social side has always been important.  That's how I've always met people.  Friends first, whatever follows after (if it does).

Down you go, Donnyco!  Be good to see you

Thank you 50!  I've had a brilliant weekend.  Hope people's heads aren't too sore this morning

It'll be good to see you, Geordies

It was going to be in March, but there are a few other things happening then too

What's this?  Kat coming to Geordieland?!  I must still be dreaming.

There might just have to be a birthday cake

Not normally my thing, but that's something I have to see

Who's interested in a little pub-crawl-style social in Newcastle next April?  If I put a date down I'll be forced to organise something.

Couples

50ShadesOfFun

ChattyPair

OrientalApple and BrightSide

Geordiecpl2001

Donnyco

Nenewbies

JamesMarie

Single women

Wendy1984

JuicyJilly

Louie66

Single men

DJohn

Solari

Flying_Nut

Stpiersq

Finnie

Utopia_G (Saturday afternoon, maybe)

youngfresh18

Ben196823

Only six sleeps if you get too excited and stay up all night on Friday.  But I don't recommend that.

Great time.  Lovely to meet all the people who I did meet, and for all the people I somehow missed out on... we'll just have to do it again.  Thanks Rogue!

Another social?  Let me think... for less than a millisecond.  Of course I'd love to come.

Brilliant night! I had a great time. Lovely to meet all you wonderful people. Thank you Chatties and thank you everyone :cheers:

I will definitely be there.  And food give me food!

That's an easy one: no, it's against the rules.  There's a link to the Acceptable Use Policy at the bottom of the page.

If it was allowed, it would be too open to abuse: person A has a grudge against person B, makes up some story about them not showing up, person B gets upset and fights back, friends of both side pile in... it gets very ugly very quickly, and creates an atmosphere that no one wants to be in.

You found a date!  Count me in

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 Yay!

Add me to the list.  It's a long way to go, but I'm missing my friends

I did remember!  But I hadn't spent the previous week reminding people that it was on, and hardly anyone showed up.  The questions are all still good to go.

I hope things quieten down for you soon 

The thing is, this is not a "sex date site".  It's a swinging site.

There have been discussions in the past on what swinging is.  I'm not going to go looking for them.  Everyone has a different answer, and there isn't one single correct definition.

For some, the social side of it is important.  It's not about having random sex with random people; it's about having friends that you sometimes have sex with.  It's about having friends who share this aspect of their lifestyle, who you can talk about it with, even if you never fuck them.  If you're only after quick anonymous sex, these people will have no interest in you.

There are women and couples out there who do just want no-strings sex with strangers.  If they want you, they'll let you know.  But remember that as a single man, you're one among many thousands.  You have to stand out in some way.  If they're after looks, and you happen to look like what they want, then you're in luck.  The chances of that are slim.

If, like me, you can't rely on looks, you go with what you've got.  That means personality, and that means getting to know people on more than a superficial level.  So we're back to talking and making friends and being interesting and entertaining and honest.

"you have to pretend".  No.  Don't do this.  It's not a game that you can win by cheating.  It's real people with real lives, and it's about a lot more than just you getting what you want.

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 Now i have a vision of Dee taking an odd sausage or two in the kitchen.............friction burnt lol 

 The pics won't be appearing on Facebook 

 You'll have to post them here instead ;-)

Do you miss the quiz?  I miss the quiz.  It's time we had one again.

So I declare Wednesday the 1st of March to be Quiz Night.  9pm in the quiz room.  Don't let me forget to open it.

My new passport photo.  Who is that person?  I don't recognise them

First bit of advice: if you're a couple, you're swinging as a couple, and you're advertising on here as a couple, you might want to change your account from "single male".  Put a bit of detail on your profile describing who you are and what you're looking for (and not looking for).

After that, post an ad, post in here, get yourselves known in the chat rooms, go to socials.  When you find someone you like the look of, spend some non-swinging social time with them in a public place.  If you're all still interested after getting to know each other a bit (and your "nutter/creep/dangerous weirdo" alarms haven't gone off), I'm sure you won't need any help with the rest :-)

It was still great to see you two again.  I'm going to have to put a quiz together sometime.

It was a different experience for the single men.  I understand why - they have regular members who come on couples nights because they expect there to be no single men.  We were tolerated, not welcome.  It was clear the staff didn't really want us there.

We were left waiting in the quiet room for the others to come and join us.  They never did.  There was porn playing on the TV in there.  When I arrived it was three men and one rather passive woman, who was expected to simply respond as the men thrust bits of themselves at her.  It was all about what the men wanted.  Her pleasure wasn't considered at all.  In a later one, a man snuck into a woman's bedroom and started touching her while she slept.  That was a bit jarring after being told explicitly that consent is essential.  If you're looking to set a mood, you need to consider the mood you're setting.  There must be better porn out there somewhere.

So I spent an hour or so watching the fish, before being told that we might was well just go down to the bar and dance-floor.  Now, I realise that I'm alone in this, and others like the loud music.  But I go to socials to socialise, and that's impossible if I can't hear anything that anyone says.

I left early, and am not tempted to go back.

This isn't a complaint (apart from the porn - I thought we were past that kind of objectification).  Life is full of risks, and sometimes things don't work out.  It didn't work out for me.  Others enjoyed themselves, and that's great.