I’m 6ft, 78kg, athletic build and, so I’m told soft on the eye. I am privately educated and graduated in Politics at a top university. I’ve worked in media for many years and best describe myseld as a creative. I’ve led an amazing life to date.

How best to describe myself? Definitely confident, trustworthy, versatile, very open, understanding, mischievous with a soupçon of wit (as potent an aphrodisiac as one’s physical attractiveness).

I'm here to find a female soul mate especially one who sees herself as a Sapiosexual. I liken a relationship to a chocolate cake. The icing is sex and often the best part, yet it only constitutes 10% of the cake. The rest of the cake is the day-to-day relationship itself - honesty, trust, respect and open communication between each other which requires effort and compromise from both sides. There is no imbalance of power. We respect each other's independence, can make our own decisions without fear of retribution or retaliation, as well as share decisions. Yet, if the icing (sex) is dull then the likelihood of tasting the sponge is virtually non-existent.

Sexually I have explored most avenues. I'm not new to this lifestyle and have experienced both FFM, MMF and foursomes in the past with an eclectic single females and couples. I believe I’m one of those rare guys who tales time to understand what turns you on and as someone who has always been dominant sexually, my MO has always been giving pleasure which, if done right, gives you pleasure which turns me on even more. Modesty aside, I’ve had few complaints.

What am I looking for? I know exactly but describing my ideal is very hard. What I don’t want is filters, one liners, fillers – you get the picture. In essence, I am searching for (pardon the cliché) a soulmate who empathises with what I’ve written. Physically you’re in good shape (slim-ish), tall-ish, an Alpha female by day (yes, I love a strong woman) and submissive by night. Someone who loves the arts, the odd intimate music festival and is for 45+. A woman who feels as comfortable in a pair of jeans and wellies as a gorgeous dress and elegant heels.

I am most definitely a romantic and also an optimist. I am genuine and no time waster and believe in quality over quantity. If you’ve read to the end than ‘’Bravo’ – you’ve done well. If it resonates and you think you at least partially match my checklist, then please message me.

If I message, then please accept it as a compliment much deserved and if you don’t reply then I understand. We all have our tick boxes.

To quote Anais Nin, ““And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” Here’s to blossoming!

Stay safe.

Jonathan aka JC x