First of all, I will bore you with the tedium of the setup I have;
Anti-Virus Grisoft AVG
Firewall Sygate Personal Firewall
Spyware Lavasoft Adaware & Spybot Search & Destroy
Along with the majority of posters I am encouraging people to go on to to test their machines - it's one way to put the fear of gawd into people who aren't running a firewall...
All these are free, and quite easily configurable. There is a proviso in that Sygate FW does *not* block port 1025, but this is easily changed via quite simple rules - the help file is rather good here too.
AVG and Adaware have probably had enough said about them that adding my drivel to the mix would probably just muddy the waters. However, you will notice that I use two Spyware detectors - Spybot Search & Destroy is also used. This is complimentary to Adaware - there are nasties that one spots and the other doesn't - and vice-versa. Spybot also has quite a nice way of removing traces from the system logs on your computer. Both Adaware and Spybot (to it's mates) are updated regularly. Spybot can be downloaded from
All of the above programs don't take up much resources, and I heartily recommend them, as well as a nice registry cleaner and other system tweaks - but I shall leave that little cherry to another discussion....
Hope this meaningless ego-fulfilling drivel is some use to someone out there...
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semi_lobon_uk
2 weeks ago
Straight Male, 54
0 miles · Stockton-on-Tees
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May I add my tuppence to the pot (we could get rich - everyone send your tuppences in!)
Since I joined this site, and posted a couple of adverts (14040 and 14041 for the curious amongst you - they're identical, but in different categories...) I have had 3 replies. Now this is not one of those threads that says "xxx views and only x replies" - that really gets on my goat (if you'll pardon that expression from a Yorkshireman!) - maybe they ought to wonder why so many people are viewing, but none replying....
The three replies I have had, I have replied in turn to all of them - but two of them chose to not take it any further. That is their perogative, and I have no complaints. The third reply was from a couple, and we are in the process of exchanging emails - just ordinary, run of the mill emails - no (well, hardly any) sex mentioned - it's the "getting to know you" phase. It may or may not end up with us meeting - I don't know. Obviously, I am hopeful.
The point I am making in my usual rambling, disjointed style is that ; yes, the site is set up (and being a computer programmer myself, I have a faint idea about how much time and work Mark must put into the site - so here's a huge THANX for all the hard work...
) for people to meet up and have fun with each other - but it is also a community of a sort - one that I'm proud to be part of - I get just as much enjoyment from reading the threads in the forums (and sometimes laughing out loud) as I do from reading the adverts (and again, sometimes laughing out loud - then I submit my own pictures, and everything calms down again...)
I think I've made some sort of point here, and the fact that my cat is trying to get my attention by walking on the keyboard probably tells me that it's time for me to end here...
Just enjoy it - it's value for money!!
Semi.
Since I joined this site, and posted a couple of adverts (14040 and 14041 for the curious amongst you - they're identical, but in different categories...) I have had 3 replies. Now this is not one of those threads that says "xxx views and only x replies" - that really gets on my goat (if you'll pardon that expression from a Yorkshireman!) - maybe they ought to wonder why so many people are viewing, but none replying....
The three replies I have had, I have replied in turn to all of them - but two of them chose to not take it any further. That is their perogative, and I have no complaints. The third reply was from a couple, and we are in the process of exchanging emails - just ordinary, run of the mill emails - no (well, hardly any) sex mentioned - it's the "getting to know you" phase. It may or may not end up with us meeting - I don't know. Obviously, I am hopeful.
The point I am making in my usual rambling, disjointed style is that ; yes, the site is set up (and being a computer programmer myself, I have a faint idea about how much time and work Mark must put into the site - so here's a huge THANX for all the hard work...
) for people to meet up and have fun with each other - but it is also a community of a sort - one that I'm proud to be part of - I get just as much enjoyment from reading the threads in the forums (and sometimes laughing out loud) as I do from reading the adverts (and again, sometimes laughing out loud - then I submit my own pictures, and everything calms down again...)I think I've made some sort of point here, and the fact that my cat is trying to get my attention by walking on the keyboard probably tells me that it's time for me to end here...
Just enjoy it - it's value for money!!
Semi.
Heather,
Curses and damnation - you've found out my cunning plan!!
I think it's a bit lame when someone has to resort to fake pics to supposedly sell themselves - and then even lamer to use probably the most popular pics on a site in the same site!!
Now we only have to find out where the other pics in the advert were lifted from.... :P
semi.
Curses and damnation - you've found out my cunning plan!!
I think it's a bit lame when someone has to resort to fake pics to supposedly sell themselves - and then even lamer to use probably the most popular pics on a site in the same site!!
Now we only have to find out where the other pics in the advert were lifted from.... :P
semi.
Now here's a subject I never thought I would see on this forum.... 
I used to host some lan parties, as the last house I lived in had a huge kitchen - we could fit about 8 people in the kitchen and another 6 in the living room - and the advent of wireless just made it much easier - no bloody cables for some pissed get to fall over and bring it all down...
Kingpin was one of our favourites too - the mods and add-ons made it a must-play game - once you've shot Homer Simpson, you know you're in love with the game!
Unfortunately, after a few weeks, seeing the electricity bill shoot through the roof kind of persuaded me to bang it on the head - and no-one else would contribute either towards the leccy or their houses, so we tend to play against each other on line now (when I'm not on this site, of course!) - also, it's not really a good place to meet women...
Just thought I would reminisce about another nerdy thing I do....lol...
...now back to the perving... :twisted:
I used to host some lan parties, as the last house I lived in had a huge kitchen - we could fit about 8 people in the kitchen and another 6 in the living room - and the advent of wireless just made it much easier - no bloody cables for some pissed get to fall over and bring it all down...
Kingpin was one of our favourites too - the mods and add-ons made it a must-play game - once you've shot Homer Simpson, you know you're in love with the game!
Unfortunately, after a few weeks, seeing the electricity bill shoot through the roof kind of persuaded me to bang it on the head - and no-one else would contribute either towards the leccy or their houses, so we tend to play against each other on line now (when I'm not on this site, of course!) - also, it's not really a good place to meet women...
Just thought I would reminisce about another nerdy thing I do....lol...
...now back to the perving... :twisted:
Thanks for the kind comments Mark!
I certainly haven't been the most successful of swingers, but as you say - I have had some success - I think it is sometimes over expectation that proves more disappointing than anything else.
All I can say is - keep replying to ads - there are genuine people out there!
Just read Heather's piece - which gave me some tips, and also highlighted some things that I hadn't even considered (being a nerd, my facial pic comes in at a small but lovely 8k - this will make more sense when you read Heather's piece).
trying not to fill the thread with my banal text...
semi.
I certainly haven't been the most successful of swingers, but as you say - I have had some success - I think it is sometimes over expectation that proves more disappointing than anything else.
All I can say is - keep replying to ads - there are genuine people out there!
Just read Heather's piece - which gave me some tips, and also highlighted some things that I hadn't even considered (being a nerd, my facial pic comes in at a small but lovely 8k - this will make more sense when you read Heather's piece).
trying not to fill the thread with my banal text...
semi.
I am a single guy, and have been into the swinging scene (so 60's!!) for about 4 years, over a 10-11 year period (due to relationships) - and I have had quite a few meetings (probably about 15-16) all with couples or as part of a party, but all very nice. I know from talking to the people I meet that there are a few morons out there, but they are very much of a minority - it's just that we all tend to get tarred with the same brush - once a couple have had a bad experience, especially if they are inexperienced themselves, it can put them off for a while - which is why you tend to get the "no single males" in the adverts.
In replying to adverts, or placing your own advert, I have found that there are a few things which seem to help:
1. Be Honest! This should go without saying. I am a presentable normal bloke - not super attractive or hideous, but somewhere in between, and so I never hide this fact. A facial pic is always advisable - then the recipients can make their own minds up.
2. A sense of Humour! You need to be able to laugh at yourself - it's only inserting parts of one body into another, after all.
3. Be prepared for rejection. This will happen. I would say that I have about a 10% hit rate for replies, and about 10% of replies will lead to something else - and not necessarily sex. This means that out of every 100 replies I send, I would expect 1 to go further. However, I have not been monitoring this (I prefer to actually do something with my life), so the ratios may be higher or lower. Places like this site make it much easier than when I used to have to use contact magazines - a 4-5 week wait until you even got a reply would not be uncommon. Even if you get to meet the people you responded to, do not expect it to go any further - go prepared for the best
but also expect the worst - I always leave the decision making about what will happen to the women.
4. Be yourself. Everyone is normal, for a given value of "Normal". This again harks back to the honesty in point 1.
I'm not giving these tips out as a sure-fire way to meet people - god knows, they barely work for me (point 3... ). But hopefully, they will stop some of the morons, and help some of us good guys...
Sorry to have wittered on...
Semi.
In replying to adverts, or placing your own advert, I have found that there are a few things which seem to help:
1. Be Honest! This should go without saying. I am a presentable normal bloke - not super attractive or hideous, but somewhere in between, and so I never hide this fact. A facial pic is always advisable - then the recipients can make their own minds up.
2. A sense of Humour! You need to be able to laugh at yourself - it's only inserting parts of one body into another, after all.
3. Be prepared for rejection. This will happen. I would say that I have about a 10% hit rate for replies, and about 10% of replies will lead to something else - and not necessarily sex. This means that out of every 100 replies I send, I would expect 1 to go further. However, I have not been monitoring this (I prefer to actually do something with my life), so the ratios may be higher or lower. Places like this site make it much easier than when I used to have to use contact magazines - a 4-5 week wait until you even got a reply would not be uncommon. Even if you get to meet the people you responded to, do not expect it to go any further - go prepared for the best
but also expect the worst - I always leave the decision making about what will happen to the women.4. Be yourself. Everyone is normal, for a given value of "Normal". This again harks back to the honesty in point 1.
I'm not giving these tips out as a sure-fire way to meet people - god knows, they barely work for me (point 3...
). But hopefully, they will stop some of the morons, and help some of us good guys...Sorry to have wittered on...
Semi.
maybe because your lips (the one's up top.... ) have more nerve endings than anywhere else on your body, so they are the most sensitive part of the body (though try telling a bloke who has just been kicked in the nads that!) - or maybe I'm just reading too much into this....
Damn, Jags - why is everyone who likes doing the same things as me so far away?
) have more nerve endings than anywhere else on your body, so they are the most sensitive part of the body (though try telling a bloke who has just been kicked in the nads that!) - or maybe I'm just reading too much into this....Damn, Jags - why is everyone who likes doing the same things as me so far away?
Whenever I meet, I always ask as a matter of course whether kissing will be allowed. I actually enjoy kissing, but it's about respecting people's limits - when I've met couples, I think the hubby may feel more jealous about a full lip-lock than anything else that goes on...
Saying that, some couples do like to kiss - or rather the women do - one enjoyed that as much as my tongue being elsewhere - however, this was the exception rather than the rule, as the other posts in this thread have demonstrated...
Saying that, some couples do like to kiss - or rather the women do - one enjoyed that as much as my tongue being elsewhere - however, this was the exception rather than the rule, as the other posts in this thread have demonstrated...
