Thank you for taking the time to read my profile; I appreciate you doing so. 

I'm a nice, funny (too funny, some might say), articulate married guy who genuinely seeks a discreet but meaningful intimate friendship with a nice lady who I can get on with on a number of levels.  My aspirations of a lady are not demanding; I'm just looking for the right lady.

I'm not a "player" I haven't taken this step lightly.  But, before you ask  -  YES, I have had a secret relationship before, so I know all the rules and expectations.   

I'm a married family man and to the outsider I would appear to I have it all. In many ways I have, but there is a huge and longstanding hole in my life; namely a lack of intimacy from my wife.  Our marriage is one without any form of intimacy - my wife has become a panda bear and has been so for well over 10 years.  That's difficult for a man to live with.  So that is the reason that I have no intention of breaking the marriage up - nor anyone else's for that matter.

I need to find a likeminded lady who I can be intimate friends with.  Hence, after a long period of reflection about the difficult position that I find myself in I've taken the plunge and explore the world of the internet.  Sooooooo ..... who and what AM I looking for ? 

Well, I'm not so shallow as to have "type's" of women who would be the only sorts I would wish to meet.  I don't 'get' the whole 'type' thing, really.    The complete package of the person in her entirety is much more important to me. 

I have no "requirements"; you could be any age, white, oriental, asian, black, tall, short - it really and truly doesn't matter to me. For me, a charming and engaging personality, intelligence and values are more important than conforming to any "ideal woman" template from the world of airbrushing. I hope you agree. I have my own imperfections like anyone else.  The intelligent mind is often the most attractive thing; I'm most definitely a sapiosexual.

Being discreet, articulate, funny, polite, well mannered, courteous are all things I would look for; particularly as these things are standards that I set for myself. I'm hoping to meet someone who shares my passion for sensuality and intimacy, rather than thinking of these things as merely "sex". I hope to find a lady who is tender and sensual, as well as merely sexually motivated - someone who sees the erotic from many perspectives.  If you're 'vanilla' that simply wouldn't work between us. 

I consider myself to be very sensual and tender.  But I am also uninhibited, extremely liberated and adventurous. I definitely wouldn't suit anyone who is prudish, repressed or square. Bi-curious and bisexual ladies are most welcome - the grey shades between black and white are fascinating and alluring. 

Ideally I'm seeking a lady in the Harrogate, York, Leeds. Ripon area.  I'm seeking someone who's maybe you're a professional / managerial worker and able to meet during the day time and/or after work for drinks or whatever. I'm very much into going with the flow - if it feels right it feels right. And if it doesn't, we'll both know fairly soon. 

My SHORT list of 'This Would Never Work' people.  I'm NOT interested in meeting anyone who falls into the following descriptions: 

* Practices unsafe sex.  It's a condom all the way for me; no compromises on that one. 

* Is a regular player or is in multiple sexual relationships. 

* Takes any drugs at all, or is emotionally unbalanced (no bunny boilers please). 

* Is 'skint' / unemployed / lazy dosser.  "I can't afford 2 work 'coz me benefitz wld B stopped"

If you're the sort of person who communicates by txt msg spk then pls dnt U bovva msg'n me. I 8 it m8.   I'm baffled by how people how claim to be "Teaching Assistants", "Teachers" and "Management" write txt spk garbage ("Like angin wiv me m8's. Lookin 4 sum1 4 a laff".  

If you think we might hit it off I'd love to hear from you.  And please feel free to ask me any questions at all  -  you'll get an open, honest and full reply.

Appearance Information:  This section feels like pimping oneself out but here goes.  OK ... a little about my appearance:  You will find me as follows: 

* 5'8" and most unlikely to get any taller at this stage, 

* Medium build / reasonably fit, 

* Blue eyes (2 of), 

* salt n' peppa hair (like George Clooney has, ha ha), 

* Good teeth (full original set), nice cheeky smile.  

* I'm either clean shaven (:)) or have a close trim designer stubble type full beard (I vary between the two), 

* Clear complexion.  

* I'm well dressed and fashionable.  I like to think that I strive to balance the wish to keep trendy and interesting with the avoidance of looking tragic !  LOL.  Oh well, maybe you'd better be the judge of that one !  : )

I hope that all sounds OK? 

I'm an educated, professional business man who is usually seen in a suit and tie, but am equally at home in jeans and t-shirt; i.e. as is befitting of the occasion.

General Information :  I like to relax, chat, chill out - ideally over a glass of wine or two.  I love walking and go to the gym a couple of times a week to hold off the consequences of eating nice things.  Above all I like good, nice people and decent conversation,