Putting yourself out there in the swinger lifestyle isn’t the easiest thing to do. So far, my stories have been about when things went well. I would now like to offer a change of pace when things didn’t go so well. I’m not talking about erectile dysfunction problems; those happen more often than most people think. I am talking about meeting people who are scary, crazy, or both.
To begin, my Hubby and I met for dinner with an attractive couple our age. They had been in the lifestyle community for many years and were more than willing to show us, newbies, the ropes. Our first encounter with them was the same room swap and it started okay. My Hubby enjoyed the guy’s wife and was still eating her pussy much to her delight while my partner, her husband, had fucked me and was done all in about 3.5 minutes. Rather than sit there and watch my Hubby and the other wife, the guy and I adjourned to my kitchen. He grabbed a stool and for two solid hours told me how wonderful he was, how many women wanted him, how rich he was, the famous woman he had sex with, he was the best skier in Colorado, he went on forever all about him!
When his wife and my hubby came upstairs, I was so relieved I wanted this guy out of my house! They left and I chewed my Hubby out for abandoning me to this guy. He sheepishly reminded me that he was a bit involved and thought I went to another room for more privacy. The guy had my contact information, and he was a Class A manipulator. He talked me into going to their house and it was pretty much a rerun of our first time. The wife answered the door naked and was ready to do my Hubby in their entryway. I didn’t blame her, if her sex life was measured in seconds, I’m sure she appreciated a great lover like my Hubby, I know I do.
My second bad experience was with a guy I had great sex with at a swinger party up in Denver. He even got me squirting which was a first. I don’t see the big deal about squirting other than it sure makes a mess if you have to lay in the wet spot.
My Hubby had a good time with the guy's girlfriend. After what seemed like a short while, my Hubby let me know it was time to leave the party. During the walk to the car, I was upset with my husband for making me go home early. He reminded me it was 2 in the morning, and we had a 75-minute drive in front of us to get home. “Besides he said, you played with that guy for 4 hours.” Well, that gave me pause to think, as it didn't seem that long at the time. The next day my phone was blowing up with texts from this guy. I discussed a threesome with him and my hubby (You know by now how much fun those are for me). Reluctantly my hubby agreed but let me know this needed to be a threesome, not an exercise in humiliation by this guy directed at him. My Hubby is a good judge of character and I was thinking about more great sex only.
Things started out well and boy could this guy fuck. While I was having a great time, my hubby got up and left the room. I should have stopped things right there, but I didn’t. After another hour, my Hubby came back into the room and said the evening was over. The guy glared at him and let us both know he and I weren't done. My Hubby is a large gentleman, but I knew he was pissed and so did this guy. The guy got dressed and was out the door.
Hubby and I sat down and had a long talk about how things were going to go in the future and threesomes were now off the table for a while. I pouted a bit, but my Hubby is a wonderful man, and nothing would drive a wedge in our relationship. He was right and I was wrong. He talked and I listened. This guy wouldn’t let up, he was a total narcissist and all he could think about was adding me to his stable. I blocked him from my phone. He then started texting my Hubby offering to share his stable (sending nude shots of these poor stable women to entice my Hubby's cooperation) if he could have exclusive time with me.
To summarize, both these guys were total narcissists and were well known in the Colorado Swinger Community as assholes. They both shared a pattern of preying on newbies which we were at the time. So be careful about your choices, be safe about how you practice sex, and most of all, if it isn’t fun for both of you, don’t do it.
