I don't know why I'm like this, but I'm not alone. There are many women who have this same affliction - the inability to connect sex and love. For me they are opposite. The most satisfying sex is men who are not people. Remove the personality, and I enjoy it more. Having sex with an anonymous cock really gets me off.  And all the women I know who share this quirk agree, it seems to be a common theme.

 The gloryhole is the ultimate depersonalised sex, reducing both parties to nothing more than their sex organs. But on the flip side, sharing this experience with someone you love, my husband is amazing. Nevertheless, it is possible to have literally every kind of sex through a gloryhole, and everything is tremendously intensified for a woman like me, my husband gets off watching me having intense fun.

Foreplay is infinitely more "teasing" through the gloryhole. You can make out, French kiss, through the gloryhole. That's the strangest concept. Making out is usually a very personalised, humanised activity. But doing it through a gloryhole completely depersonalises, dehumanises, and objectifies what should be one of the premier acts of "love". What could be more perverse than that?

I really enjoy going to glory holes in clubs, my husband really loves coming along and watching me play and getting involved. It gets him off too. We always start the night by both stripping off. I always start at a gloryhole by making out with the stranger on the other side.

There's a cool trick you can use to get the guy's mouth in the hole. You press your breast against the hole so that your nipple and areola protrudes through it. Guys have this automatic tendency to put their mouth around that. It's like magic. Must be some kind of "mommy" thing.

Anyway, I let them suck a bit, then slowly pull back away from the hole ... and his mouth moves forward into the hole. Then I drop down and go right into a shallow French kiss (you can't go deep because of the wall, but that's ok - it drives them nuts anyway). This gives me a jolt that turns my nipples into marbles and my pussy into a river. My husband knows my tricks and will at the same time, push a finger or two into my pussy. Interestingly, making out with a guy in person usually turns me off - but has the opposite effect through the gloryhole.

The next step is a feel-up. Thigh skin is perfect for that task. I hold my thigh about a inch from the hole. Most gloryholes are wide enough for a guy to fit almost his whole hand. I usually move my legs up and down and turn it around so that he could get a good feel of the whole thing.

Then I will lower my body down so that his hand gets into that "naughty" texture close to the pussy. As depersonalised as the gloryhole is, there is quite a psychology at work that you can take advantage of. There is a huge sexual power shift. The man is a helpless sex recipient. The woman is in total control of how much and what kind of stimulation he gets. The man can only stick his fingers or penis through the hole, but the woman's entire body can be at play.

The gloryhole actually increases the sexuality of her body. Unfortunately, many women who would otherwise enjoy depersonalised sex shy away from gloryholes because of the sleazy venues we stay away from these, we have found that sex clubs are the best source of fun.

So the way I play with this psychology is to offer his fingers ever increasing anticipation. Get him higher and higher on your thigh, causing his finger to anticipate that it will soon be inside my pussy. When it's time to give that finger a sample of your pussy lips, I don't simply put my pussy on the hole. That would cause him to have to probe around for the opening. Instead, I back away from the hole just far enough for him to have to reach way in to keep the tip of his finger on my thigh, then use my hands to spread open my labia, and literally slide my vagina over his finger. This is a little tricky because the only real way to penetrate is from behind, so I have to bend forward and back myself against the hole. Then I slowly slide back and forth along the length of his finger. You'll be amazed how fast that finger gets replaced by a hard cock.

A note about giving pussy through a gloryhole - it isn’t easy. There is no good angle against a flat wall, and there's no way to do a deep penetration. Fortunately, from the male point of view, the excitement of depersonalisation more than makes up for the lack of depth. So, the only point to be made is your own comfort.

Although it is marginally possible to do a frontal penetration facing the wall, your best chance of success will be to take it from behind. Thus, you will have to press your vulva against the hole. The only convenient way to do this is bend over far enough to put your vaginal opening in front of the hole, and take it straight doggie.

Unfortunately, this can give a rather shallow penetration. "Scissor position", sideways with one leg up affords deeper penetration, but places you in an awkward posture that will quickly lead to fatigue. So I always take it bend forward, straight in doggie. After all, the width of the wall can play a factor in the fractional length of the penis, so I need to try for depth.

Once their cock is in, I back myself all the way against the hole and press my backside as hard as I can against the wall. Then I just remain totally motionless and let him "fuck the gloryhole". Very often my husband will either kiss me, play with my nipples or sometimes licks my clit while I am getting fucked, all dependant on what has happened so far in the evening.

That's the psychology on HIS side of the wall. He's fucking the wall, and to him it is incredible. From his point of view it is extremely intense because the focus is entirely on his cock. There are no distractions for his hands to feel up. No voices for his brain to listen to. No demands spoken or implied from the "woman" (who doesn't even exist to him). It is all about what it feels like in its purest sense. At this point it all goes very fast. Men tend to cum rapidly and with a big load, and his orgasm lasts longer than regular fucking as he pushes hard against the hole when he cums. Sometimes I like to stay as quiet as I can because it is so cool to hear the muffled moans and breath filtering through the wall. Some guys even begin to "grope" the wall out of a natural instinct to grab the female during his orgasm. I listen for the sounds of his hands sliding on the wall. Some guys knock on the wall to tell you they are about to cum, most times I let them spunk in me.

When we are playing in the glory hole room, if you have a sadistic streak, a really cool trick to use is to allow him to fuck just until that first cum squirt (you can usually feel this inside you and you can usually anticipate when that's going to happen) I then immediately pull myself off his cock. I love doing this on occasion to watch the remaining squirts shoot out in the air. I find that thrilling. My husband sometimes grabs the cock that is mid-air and wank the last few remaining drops, they have no idea and think it’s me. I find it hot to watch. Of course, I only do that on rare occasion because I don't want to miss out on my own physical pleasure of taking his entire orgasm and feeling his cum trickling down my leg. I am such a cum slut.

I once also pulled off a cock like this while my husband was licking my clit, he got a mouth full of cock and cum, it was very hot, once the guy had spunked I shared a very deep and erotic spunky my kiss with my husband.  Once we a few cocks have finished inside me, it is hot to have my husband fuck me from behind while I suck a new cock through the hole. He loves the feeling of sloppy seconds, I love the feeling of connection with my husband that we both share in the experience.  Other times we love both sucking a cock together before it fucks me through the wall, the idea we both made it hard before it fucks and unloads in me is erotic.

For me, I am a slut or as my husband puts it, a cum slut who likes to control.

So that answers the question a lot of "normal" women ask - why gloryhole sex?