Hi all
I am kind of thinking of giving up with the cam rooms. Good as the idea is, it seems really not to be geared up for, nor appreciated by, any couples or single women looking for single guys. I'm fairly certain I've never pushed in, nor being overbearing. On the contrary I'm always aware of being careful to introduce myself after waiting and viewing for a few minutes, and then in terms of a general greeting. In extremis, I've gone as far as asking if any real humans are online :-). And almost invariably I've been met with a wall of silence.
Maybe there are no real humans in the cam rooms, but if there are, a simple "hello" would be a greatly comforting thing to see. Or am I missing something really fundamental here?
Perhaps this is a general thing for single guys? There appear to be some guys who have penetrated the inner sanctum, but most haven't. The question is, if so, how?
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Orgasminator
Having just seen you come into a room - Why am I not surprised!!!
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Orgasminator
To quote:-
"Afternoon all oh no is this another room full of bots?"
is hardly a good start...... nor a good way to built a rapport with others in the room.
"Afternoon all oh no is this another room full of bots?"
is hardly a good start...... nor a good way to built a rapport with others in the room.
Ah, OK, maybe I was a bit lacking in expressing myself correctly, but that was just a sign-off after a lot of failed starts in other rooms. I was referencing that after a series of "Hellos" and "Afternoon room"'s, many with the same inhabitants. I can fully understand why CPLs and single women get the limelight, but it would be nice to be greeted as a fellow human being, albeit just a single guy. I've always tried to be very general in introducing myself to rooms. All I was trying to highlight was that despite multitudinous polite introductions and conversational generalisations over the last months, all I have received is silence.
Compared to other camchat sites I am a member of, this is, by a long way, the least responsive, and as it is the most local that makes it the more disappointing :-(
Compared to other camchat sites I am a member of, this is, by a long way, the least responsive, and as it is the most local that makes it the more disappointing :-(
Sex God
Have you thought about setting your own local room up?
Some of the friendliest rooms I have experienced have been location-based rooms. I'm guessing that when they were first getting established they took a little time and perseverence on the part of the room hosts, but it has definitely paid off as they are very friendly rooms.
Just a thought.
Some of the friendliest rooms I have experienced have been location-based rooms. I'm guessing that when they were first getting established they took a little time and perseverence on the part of the room hosts, but it has definitely paid off as they are very friendly rooms.
Just a thought. Hiya. Yes, have actually done that, and as you say they are very slow. Had some positive, but very little feedback there too. The thing is, I think that single guys have very little luck on here. When I was part of a couple, a couple of years agao, it was so different... couldn't keep all of them away :-) Now, as a single guy, I find the best responses seem to be from the USA and Germany. And I'm kind of curious as to why that is
Orgasminator
A couple of years ago is a lifetime on here!!! 
On the serious side tho:-
As a single male it is very difficult just through the shere numbers you're competing against! We always recommend that people go to a room social/munch and meet other locals and room regulars. It helps build 'confidence' in you with the couples / ladies.
It also helps to just join in the main room 'banter' and drop in regularly and stay awhile - 'room fleas' who just pop in then immediately leave just give the impression of 'being on-the-hunt' for cheap cam thrills or 'PnP's (Pop and Perve) profiles.
It takes time and effort on your part (we've all had to do it) there's is no magic panacea. Pick a room that suits you whether local or specific - you'll soon see who the main contributors are - talk to them, they will usually help draw you into the conversation and will usually say 'hi' on your next visit..
It's much easier to say hi (name), that just a general room greeting (unless you're well known).
Happy chatting...
On the serious side tho:-
As a single male it is very difficult just through the shere numbers you're competing against! We always recommend that people go to a room social/munch and meet other locals and room regulars. It helps build 'confidence' in you with the couples / ladies.
It also helps to just join in the main room 'banter' and drop in regularly and stay awhile - 'room fleas' who just pop in then immediately leave just give the impression of 'being on-the-hunt' for cheap cam thrills or 'PnP's (Pop and Perve) profiles.
It takes time and effort on your part (we've all had to do it) there's is no magic panacea. Pick a room that suits you whether local or specific - you'll soon see who the main contributors are - talk to them, they will usually help draw you into the conversation and will usually say 'hi' on your next visit..
It's much easier to say hi (name), that just a general room greeting (unless you're well known).
Happy chatting...
I don't see much difference in real life meeting new people and in a chatroom to be honest.
You don't walk into a pub every couple of months and expect everyone that is in there every day to talk to you straight away.
You don't start work at a new office and expect everyone to change their routine or stop talking to their circle of friends to talk to you.
Its like most things, it takes time and effort but it can be worth it in the end :thumbup:
You don't walk into a pub every couple of months and expect everyone that is in there every day to talk to you straight away.
You don't start work at a new office and expect everyone to change their routine or stop talking to their circle of friends to talk to you.
Its like most things, it takes time and effort but it can be worth it in the end :thumbup:
Mod
Ive found the best way to interact, is to sit and listen for a while if you are new and then pick your moment to "join" in with the banter.
Usually humour crosses all barriers and politeness will generally get you laid quicker than " big cock on cam about to cum"
Well, unless the person on cam is REALLY big or the girl/couple are looking for big guys.
Usually humour crosses all barriers and politeness will generally get you laid quicker than " big cock on cam about to cum"
Well, unless the person on cam is REALLY big or the girl/couple are looking for big guys.
Casanova
Kinda found the best way, is to just be yourself 
At the end of the day, if your yaself, and people like who/what you are then they will talk to you.
But then again, I've never been particularly shy, so not sure about that. Key thing is to find a room you 'click' in with the people, and get stuck in, no one minds new people, as long as they are courteous and honest. Simple as that :)
At the end of the day, if your yaself, and people like who/what you are then they will talk to you.
But then again, I've never been particularly shy, so not sure about that. Key thing is to find a room you 'click' in with the people, and get stuck in, no one minds new people, as long as they are courteous and honest. Simple as that :)
Orgasminator
Quote by Dawnie
I don't see much difference in real life meeting new people and in a chatroom to be honest.
You don't walk into a pub every couple of months and expect everyone that is in there every day to talk to you straight away.
You don't start work at a new office and expect everyone to change their routine or stop talking to their circle of friends to talk to you.
Its like most things, it takes time and effort but it can be worth it in the end :thumbup:
couldn't say it any better myself.
everyone on the site was once "new" so i'm guessing everyone has gone through that "no body seams to be talking to me" stage.. but you just have to keep working at it... just join in the converations, and the 2 rooms i find extremally freindly are both Beach bars on S2. always a freindly face inthere willing to chat (fair enough thats normally me!).
Master of Sex
What they said - Humour is a good ice breaker - and constant uninvited wispas to women are a real turn off - just be polite and get to know people - its just as all the others said - takes time but is worth it in the end!!
but is worth it in the end!! 