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Is it boring in The Pool or is it just me?!

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Just curious to see how you hardcore chat&forum users find it in the greatest of lobbies. For many months I thought I didn't see the appeal because I was a newbie/outsider, so partially ignored. At times I worked it consiously so that I could build a presence/connection with regular users, and I got as far as the regulars kissing me hello but I still hardly ever managed to get to know any of them or have a decent conversation in the main room (or picked up anybody that I later met, for that matter!).
Perhaps at times when it is not busy... it may be slow enough for a topic to stick but most of the times it is either nobody talking, or people talking all at the same time and conversation going whichever way, or sticking to low-level flirting (which can be exciting if you're involved but utterly boring when just reading others doing it lol ), or being diluted by constant running commentary on cams (which is good because then I know which cams to switch on :P ).
So the question is, if you enjoy the pool, what do you do there that does it for you? I *think* smaller rooms just suit me better, but I still feel like I am missing out to not go in the lobbies.
No begger talks to me in chat anyway, so I just have a monologue for five minutes lol
Dave_Notts
It's called the pool for a reason....
Towels on sunbeds spring to mind. I bet if you had a regular role call, half the people logged into that room wouldn't answer.
It used to be a room full of fun and interesting chat, so many people craved being able to log into the room. Now once people get their space they then go off and chat elsewhere. I even know some people that log in as soon as they come home from work, they get their tea and don't even look at a screen for a couple of hours.
To be honest, i prefer a room sometimes that only has a few people in.
At times i go into rooms with just 1 person in and have had a great laugh.
I do pop into the pool on occasions just to say hi to the people i know, and that's mainly in the afternoons. It's very rare i go in on an evening, i prefer to jump in and out of the not so well known one's.... and get to know new people.
I don't care what room I am in as long as there are people that I can chat with.
I do normally end up in the Pool though after I have wandered the other rooms. But if I find the chat interesting in any room and there is someone worth-while to perve on cam then I will stay in the room.
A room is a room is a room... Its the people that make it but I do agree that it gets boring when there are 125 people in a room and only a small percentage are actually talking. But people are on here for different reasons, some like to chat some like to watch the cams. ( I like to do both lol)
I just chat lol
We use the site on and off, sometimes every day, sometimes maybe once or so a week (maybe less).
The chatrooms are a great place to chat... sometimes... but of late it tends to be full of people just sat there.
I don't know whether they are physically sat at home just watching the screen or whether they have simply logged in and gone off to do something else.
Occasionally a female comes on the camera, which sort of ruins any existing chat once the room gets flooded with the customary "wow you're gorgeous" rubbish (which is invariably directed at a lone elbow or half a boob or something).
But, I suppose it is like anything, you get out of it what you put into it. When Bex is in the room she is flooded with chat (which is mainly a load of faceless insincere hollow compliments), but when I am in there it is a strugge to get anything out of anyone.
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a load of faceless insincere hollow compliments

:-o And I believed all of them!
Frankly I don't care if 115 people just sit there snoozing and only 10 do the talking, I do mind that when the 10 talk sometimes as a newcomer your lines just get ignored (invisible user syndrome) and I do mind that the 90 out of the 115 suddenly come alive at the sight of an elbow camera, as described above lol Dave, really, having a long monologue is the only way I have ever managed to "join in" or stir things up, without having to revert to flashing everybody my huge.... smile. Shockingly, I have also forgotten I was in a chat lobby on a couple of occasions, so I understand the people that log on to see what's up and then never look back, as there's not much there to engage! But my favourite has to be the wall of hellos and goodbyes - a whole screenfull of everyone checking in/out smile What were we talking about?
Anyway, apropos of this moan, can we have a cameraless lobby please :lol: :thumbup: kiss Cheers!
i find my self loosing interest in the regulars rooms like the pool when you could almost name 100 of the 125 profiles guaranteed to be in there when you hit the enter room button. often the same talking to the same with the same ol's doing the same ol on cam
:giveup:
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i find my self loosing interest in the regulars rooms like the pool when you could almost name 100 of the 125 profiles guaranteed to be in there when you hit the enter room button. often the same talking to the same with the same ol's doing the same ol on cam
:giveup:

Personally I find the Pool a refreshing break periodically!
" . often the same talking to the same with the same ol's doing the same ol on cam'
Maybe it's time for you to explore...
We find the lobby rooms tend to be full of people not even in arms length of the keyboard!
I think I started chatting about kids tv shows from the early 80s, that with apparently looking like Mers bro and of course peeving Shi Foxy and Mer got me chatting. Sah and I got comfy in there and it's gone fine so far.
LiamnSteve are a blast
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I think I started chatting about kids tv shows from the early 80s, that with apparently looking like Mers bro and of course peeving Shi Foxy and Mer got me chatting. Sah and I got comfy in there and it's gone fine so far.
LiamnSteve are a blast

Good to know it works for some! :thumbup: And welcome :smile2:
It can be hard to get known, we used to know quite a few to chat to a while back but as we had a break from the site for a while we now don't know anyone in there and get ignored lol
And no, never actually met anyone through the chatrooms, just other forum users and people that have responded when we have placed an advert we have met.
Oh and I should add, If I stick Sharons tits on webcam then everyone wants to talk then but only for wrong reasons lol
we go in and have a great laugh but ppl say its to buisy and get ignored well join in maybe ? weve been in other rooms with 100 plus in em n no 1 name says it all just jump IN.....
LB1 visits the pool a lot and loves it. We've only been on SH since early April, but LB1 didn't find it hard to get to know people in the lobby rooms and get into the banter. Some days it's better than others, but perhaps it depends what you're looking for and what suits you? LB1 prefers a busy room with a lot of people chatting (even when it's hard to keep up!) and finds it nice to regularly chat with the "regulars". The pool suits LB1, as she is looking for light-hearted banter and she likes to chat with anyone and everyone. She's not in there to arrange meets, but she pretty much always has her cam on (as she's a bit of an exhibitionist!) - not always doing anything more than sitting there. Having a cam on tends to mean people talk to you more and, if you can take a joke, it often leads to great banter too!
There are often some very funny, witty folk in the pool, and if you ignore whispers and stick to the main thread, and get involved, and enjoy that sort of bustling chatter, then the pool is great! ????
Lilith xx
We have always enjoyed the chatrooms and we have met people after chatting with them. We aren't that fussed about the pool though. As we said before we find it mainly full of afk people or the same old faces.
Just like all the other women on this site Mrs T get's the online equivalent of a builders wolf whistle whenever she switches the cam on. Funny old thing I never seem to get a similar response, but never mind. Anyway you all know what I'm on about: 'wow, your gorgeous' 'great cam' 'Hi, fancy a chat' 'I am boring and desperate and paste this message to every man, woman, couple or passing startship in the hope I get a reply' To be honest we always try to reply, but 95% of the time the conversation lasts about 3 messages and thats that.
We frequent the same room normally, and just like the OP we can find it hard to be part of the conversation sometimes, and we've been using the chatroom forever so I'm partially aware how daunting it can be for new users at times. it's a shame though, because some nights this place can be rocking
:cheers:drinkies
I love the Pool! and usually find myself keep clicking the Join button until i get a place in the room!
Have never had a problem in there, the regulars are a great bunch, witty, sexy, horny and genuine wink as in all rooms you get days where its all a bit slow and boring and other days where you just can't keep up! I think some feel its a bit 'cliquey' in there as a lot of people seem to know each other but that's because they've chatted... made friends... and a lot have met at sh socials.
At the end of the day everyone has their own favourites and expectations of a chatroom. There's usually a good variety of rooms open.... something for everyone! And if not ... always the option to open one!
Busty xxx
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if you ignore whispers and stick to the main thread

You know, it's becoming more and more clear to me - whispers are my undoing! I can't IGNORE a whisper, for the life of me, including the ones from users that paste the same message over and over... possibly in the hope that one day they will write something interesting? Also, in the 11 months I have been on the chat day&night, I have put on block all of two people. I recently put my whispers on authorise, and all I have achieved by this is to at least accept them at my own pace so that my tabs scroll doesn't get broken (why DOES that happen, anyway! Fix it?).
A couple of nights ago I went in the pool again and had a definitely positive experience. I was using this account (without any gender qualifiers) rather than my single-fem one... and in the two or so hours that I stayed there, even though I was actively chatting, guess how many whispers I received! None! :shock: I managed to follow the main room discussion, have a chuckle and also get some great tips for the following day's play session (thank you, again) - all for lack of distractions/people desperately trying to attract my attention onto themselves. So I guess the way to crack it, for me, would be to lay low and keep chatting.
All rooms can be boring at times, depends on the chat/banter...some nights are hard work to get chat moving and flowing and other nights are a complete blast.
I usually end up in a regional room. as I have met alot of the people i chat too personally but again some nights its dire.
Regarding the pool in all the 6 and a bit years I have been on the site, its only recently that i have started going in there and staying in there an i can honestly say the regs in there have been more than welcoming....stay with it and join in!!!
On a diff note I have never been able to get a foothold in the forum...you get out what you put in i suppose
Here's a little story about the pool room that made me laugh....
We.....but mainly me, like whippy, kiss,....usually use us regional room and very rarely chat in the pool room.
Whilst stood at the bar, waiting to be served, at the last Wigan munch.....me n lil got talkin to a bloke ......:cheers:
I recognized the user name straight away, he is the male half of a cpl that are always in there chatting.......he told us both quite proudly that he was 'one of the main players in the pool room' ( his words) and that next time we see him in there to say hello :thumbup:
So.......next day....in pool room......." hiya *******.....good nght at wigan?"....his reply was....."was you there?"........"yes....we were talking at the bar"...... I describes us selves to jog his memory :sleeping:
He sez...." no.....I don't remember you at all" :confused: :doh:.....end of convo :upset:
Its a good job we're fucking thick skinned rotflmao