Why do people enter chatrooms and ignore a general welcome and just sit there say nothing then leave. Whether it be males,fems or cpls its nice to be polite and I know its a swinging site but saying hi doesnt mean you want to shag them its just being polite and welcoming. Is it me or are they just ignorant b*******.
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Sex God
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from my point of view, sometimes saying hi back can lead to uninvited whispers because they think your not only being polite but are interested in them, and they see the saying of hi as an invite to whisper you even if your already in the middle of 1 or more conversations.
from my point of view, sometimes saying hi back can lead to uninvited whispers because they think your not only being polite but are interested in them, and they see the saying of hi as an invite to whisper you even if your already in the middle of 1 or more conversations.
Its something that totally baffles me constantly. If you open a room, and people are in effect invited in (as its not a private room) isn't it polite to say hi and make people welcome.
I do have to admit that I get quite irritated in some rooms when people come in and get ignored - and I cant for the life of me see why anyone would think a simple 'hi, how are you?' is something that should be construed as an invitation to whisper and more.
I think the main problems are:
1. People whispering to their own clique and ignoring other people, perhaps not intentionally, but so into their own chatter in whispers, they don't notice anything else going on. Rooms where there are mainly whispers going on tend to stunt the chatrooms.
2. People are often in several rooms at once, I saw one member in 7 room the other day, I was browsing the chatrooms and they were just about everywhere I went. I do wish SH would remove this facility.
3. There does seem to be a large number of people who just sit and watch the chat and that of course is their choice to do so - but why the Dickens go into a chat room if you dont want to chat - or are they just sitting there hoping for some cam action to start (probably).
I open my own room most nights, and everyone (when its a managable number) is personally welcomed when they enter (if a lot of people are in then I put a blanket welcome into the room) and all are invited to join in with the chat. No prizes for guessing why new people come in and say 'wow, this is a very friendly room, can I stay?' Perhaps it's because I and the regulars in Golds Room are friendly, polite and easy going, and actually chat - none stop
Goldsmith
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I do have to admit that I get quite irritated in some rooms when people come in and get ignored - and I cant for the life of me see why anyone would think a simple 'hi, how are you?' is something that should be construed as an invitation to whisper and more.
I think the main problems are:
1. People whispering to their own clique and ignoring other people, perhaps not intentionally, but so into their own chatter in whispers, they don't notice anything else going on. Rooms where there are mainly whispers going on tend to stunt the chatrooms.
2. People are often in several rooms at once, I saw one member in 7 room the other day, I was browsing the chatrooms and they were just about everywhere I went. I do wish SH would remove this facility.
3. There does seem to be a large number of people who just sit and watch the chat and that of course is their choice to do so - but why the Dickens go into a chat room if you dont want to chat - or are they just sitting there hoping for some cam action to start (probably).
I open my own room most nights, and everyone (when its a managable number) is personally welcomed when they enter (if a lot of people are in then I put a blanket welcome into the room) and all are invited to join in with the chat. No prizes for guessing why new people come in and say 'wow, this is a very friendly room, can I stay?' Perhaps it's because I and the regulars in Golds Room are friendly, polite and easy going, and actually chat - none stop
Goldsmith
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Sex God
i never said i dont say hi, what i said is that sometimes saying hi leads to uninvited whispers.
yes being already involved in a conversation or in another whisper you can also miss new arrivals in the room and dont always say hi but this generally happens when there are 70 plus in the room. when you have a room this full and the people are constantly coming and going saying hi and bye personally can interrupt the flow of the conversation you are already involved in and it can seam all you are typing is hi 'so and so' or bye 'so and so' and no real conversation is being said.
i have generally stopped using chat for the moment it is probably a phase i am going through and does not mean i dont ever go into chat any more it just means i am taking a break from it. this has nothing to do with how the chatters behave and i am sure i will be back to chatting when i am ready.
if more people paid attention to the chat etiquette and aup then there would be less people moaning and criticizing of the site.
use the site and chat as you see fit as long as the aup and chat etiquette are observed, sit and dont say anything if thats what you want. stop moaning that no one says hi to you, get on with it, move rooms, keep trying and above all have fun
yes being already involved in a conversation or in another whisper you can also miss new arrivals in the room and dont always say hi but this generally happens when there are 70 plus in the room. when you have a room this full and the people are constantly coming and going saying hi and bye personally can interrupt the flow of the conversation you are already involved in and it can seam all you are typing is hi 'so and so' or bye 'so and so' and no real conversation is being said.
i have generally stopped using chat for the moment it is probably a phase i am going through and does not mean i dont ever go into chat any more it just means i am taking a break from it. this has nothing to do with how the chatters behave and i am sure i will be back to chatting when i am ready.
if more people paid attention to the chat etiquette and aup then there would be less people moaning and criticizing of the site.
use the site and chat as you see fit as long as the aup and chat etiquette are observed, sit and dont say anything if thats what you want. stop moaning that no one says hi to you, get on with it, move rooms, keep trying and above all have fun
Sex God
am still around hun and you know how to get hold of me if u after a natter :rose:
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if more people paid attention to the chat etiquette and aup then there would be less people moaning and criticizing of the site.
I wasnt moaning, or criticisine the site, I was merely stating the reason I think the chatrooms are sometimes very quiet, but full of people not openly chatting - at all.
use the site and chat as you see fit as long as the aup and chat etiquette are observed, sit and dont say anything if thats what you want. stop moaning that no one says hi to you, get on with it, move rooms, keep trying and above all have fun
Get on with what?
The point is you can go into a room, well many rooms, and there is no chat, not a word, from anyone. Why? Are they all whispering, or are they in several rooms not chatting lol.
Oh and a further point is that a lot of the 'quiet ones' arent too busy doing whatever they are entitled to do to put your cam on!
These are merely observations, thats all, just a viewpoint.
Sex God
i was answering the op mostly on the moaning issue, and when you post after someone it can be taken that you are criticizing them, that is why i took it slightly personally no offence was caused and also non should be taken i was just giving my opinion as well
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i was answering the op mostly on the moaning issue, and when you post after someone it can be taken that you are criticizing them, that is why i took it slightly personally no offence was caused and also non should be taken i was just giving my opinion as well
Thats good then, Yes I see what you mean xx
End of the day there are some chatrooms in SH are very clicky and no matter how you try to join in by saying hi or whatever you are more often ignored. I say hi to be friendly and welcoming whether it is my room or a room ive just entered but get the general feeling that most males, unless you are in the click of that room get ignored. I many times open a room and sometimes get only a few in and mostly when you say hi they ignore you or just leave as soon as you say hi to be honest I find this very rude as manners cost nothing.
Quote by Sara_2006
from my point of view, sometimes saying hi back can lead to uninvited whispers because they think your not only being polite but are interested in them, and they see the saying of hi as an invite to whisper you even if your already in the middle of 1 or more conversations.
I agree with you Sara, I often find that happens, using this account and my non opping one. Even pisses me off :thumbup:
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3. There does seem to be a large number of people who just sit and watch the chat and that of course is their choice to do so - but why the Dickens go into a chat room if you dont want to chat - or are they just sitting there hoping for some cam action to start (probably).
Now you see, I do this all the time in my non op account
The most common reason is because I am straightening my hair :lol2: Sometimes it is because I am waiting to talk to someone, doing something on the forum or I am there but have slipped into whipsers and completely ignore anyting else
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End of the day there are some chatrooms in SH are very clicky and no matter how you try to join in by saying hi or whatever you are more often ignored. I say hi to be friendly and welcoming whether it is my room or a room ive just entered but get the general feeling that most males, unless you are in the click of that room get ignored.
Yes the rooms can be cliquey but its the same old story really, you wouldn't walk into a pub you didn't know, shout hello and expect everyone to say hello back. You'd need to go in a few times to establish yourself as a regular and get to know a few people at a time.
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End of the day there are some chatrooms in SH are very clicky and no matter how you try to join in by saying hi or whatever you are more often ignored. I say hi to be friendly and welcoming whether it is my room or a room ive just entered but get the general feeling that most males, unless you are in the click of that room get ignored.
Yes the rooms can be cliquey but its the same old story really, you wouldn't walk into a pub you didn't know, shout hello and expect everyone to say hello back. You'd need to go in a few times to establish yourself as a regular and get to know a few people at a time.
best advice i ever got when i was a single male on here was to go in the room you were interested in and just talk bollocks to yourself until someone has to take you on...seriously it works either that or create a one sided conversation with yourself as if you answering someone who is talking to you in whisper..perserverance is the key though just keep going in and saying hi until you are "established" as a regular
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Quote by AlanStone
chatrooms in SH are very clicky and no matter how you try to join in by saying hi or whatever you are more often ignored.
Most of the rooms will be full of people who actually know each other and are firm friends now,altho it does look like a clique.
They didn't start off that way as they have probably made their friends thro SH by talking and joining the chat.
Best way might be to try and get your name down for any socials and then you ll meet the people there and it is a good way to start off chatting by saying "Hi we met at the social"
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chatrooms in SH are very clicky and no matter how you try to join in by saying hi or whatever you are more often ignored.
Most of the rooms will be full of people who actually know each other and are firm friends now,altho it does look like a clique.
They didn't start off that way as they have probably made their friends thro SH by talking and joining the chat.
Best way might be to try and get your name down for any socials and then you ll meet the people there and it is a good way to start off chatting by saying "Hi we met at the social"
spot on woo :thumbup:
I find in most rooms....if respectful and join in with the chat.....people are respectful back to you. To many people come in...and simply say..who wants a meet now...tonight..and then moan because no one talks to them !!!..they then say its all clicky in here and moan.
join in....be involved with respect and humour..and you will always be accepted.
join in....be involved with respect and humour..and you will always be accepted.
Quote by Bear69
chatrooms in SH are very clicky and no matter how you try to join in by saying hi or whatever you are more often ignored.
Most of the rooms will be full of people who actually know each other and are firm friends now,altho it does look like a clique.
They didn't start off that way as they have probably made their friends thro SH by talking and joining the chat.
Best way might be to try and get your name down for any socials and then you ll meet the people there and it is a good way to start off chatting by saying "Hi we met at the social"
spot on woo :thumbup:
A spot on woo? Needs to exfoliate more - oh ffs im turning into a metrosexual
Nah absolutely 100% right - just chat away - doesnt matter if its total rubbish, but if you make em laugh it helps oil the wheels
