Mid''s room...and the tolerance of people.

3 Dec 2007

I need to know why regular users of the mid's room, find it ok to take the p*** out of guy's who come in the room, go on cam, and wank.
This may not b your thing, and i can understand u wouldnt want to wach it, but myself and many others do. If u dont......THEN DONT WACH THE CAM!!!!!! it's as simple as that.
On Sunday i was in the room, and saw 2 guy's go off cam, because of regulars saying thing's like: oh the tuggers are in again.....why do they feel the need to do that, wankers....bet they aint even looking at a girls cam, prob's looking at each other wanking.
It happened again 2 day, but i had 2 say my piece, and one did see my point, when i said : i'm str8, but i dont take the p*** out of the bi-girls that go on cam.
People on this site need to respect others, and what they like to do.
If we expect the freedom to choose, we should give that same freedom to others.
We have been on this site 2 years now, we love the site, the mid's room, and the people in it, let's make EVERYONE welcome regardless of age, gender, or sexual preferences.
We would like to hear you'r view's on this.
Thank you, and thank's 4 taking the time to read my rant. rolleyes

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3 Dec 2007

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3 Dec 2007

your right tho and its not just restricted to the mids room i think its a phenominom to any regular room. the jacuzzi and beach bars for example dont seam to get that many jibes at the wank cams.
when i go in a regular room i am there to chat to friends and possible arrange a meet not really that interesteed in the rude cams unless its to see 'the goods on offer' redface

i prefere to see the faces or bodies of the people i am chatting to

3 Dec 2007

I agree with you, each one to their own, the rare occasion you'll find me in a chat room I'll sometimes view a man on cam - because I like to. Other times and most of the time I'll just let them get on with it and don't click on them to view. Simple as. lol

3 Dec 2007

well said von i totally agree...there should be more respect shown to men who have the bottle to cam up and wank in the room...not my thing but i dont find it offensive...well unless they got a big cock then i'll watch lol.... neither si or myself have a problem with what ever someone chooses to do on cam...if its not your thing its simple like you say dont look
for an swinging site there are a lot of people with hang ups and prejudices ....but they expect everyone to accept there little kinks ...
should stop the bitching and just enjoy the site
well done once again von xxxxx you are great and have a great attitude and out look and are totally respectful of others veiws and preferences...both of you are...honest genuine people luv ya to bits we both do xxx

3 Dec 2007

I'm not sure if i should post on this thread, but what the hell, lambs to the slaughter!
The deal with the midlands room is it has become very close-knit, which has it pro's and con's.
One of it's con's is when a strong character from that room disagrees with something, then the sheep usually follow suit. Why i hear you ask? i can't be really sure, perhaps it has something to do with acceptance or admiration or longing. Like i said i'm not sure.
I have seen the 'tuggers' comment been made on several occasions, i know some members of the room agree with the objections to it, yet i also know that when some of those exact same members are actually mere sheep and will confess in different enviroments that they have no problem or even enjoy watch such.
I sometimes love to see a good wank on the screen, so i support wankers everywhere. However i don't enjoy it when it's voiced publicly by the gent enjoying himself that i am watching, if i'm hounded with invites to watch or if i'm blasted with whispers saying 'do you like?' or 'talk dirty to me.' etc. I like cams cause it gives me the chance of being a secret voyeur, so chit chat kind of ruins the whole 'wow this is hot!' moment.

3 Dec 2007

don't you think this ought to be in the chatroom forum dunno

In all honesty, I have always been welcomed into the mids room. I don't think you can pick out just one room from all servers- everyone is different in all the rooms & like different things.

3 Dec 2007

This actually happened today in the NE room and I admit to being one of the offenders. (Piss takers not wanking on cam!).
The room was pretty quiet with some idle chitchat between a few of us. A female goes on cam wearing a provocative outfit. Within minutes, half a dozen guys have their cams on and are wanking furiously.
Forgive me, but it's feckin laughable. So I laughed. I also laughed at their crap chat-up lines.
So did several other people - including the female on cam.
It was just such a huge change in the atmosphere of the room and the stereotypical behaviour of the single males involved that encouraged the jibes. None of it was nasty although I guess it could be taken that way. I don't use the Mids Room and wasn't there to see the incident you mean so I can't comment on that.
If you've got a problem, report the offender - yes, even if that is me!

3 Dec 2007

Quote by Chaotic_Spirit
I'm not sure if i should post on this thread, but what the hell, lambs to the slaughter!
The deal with the midlands room is it has become very close-knit, which has it pro's and con's.
One of it's con's is when a strong character from that room disagrees with something, then the sheep usually follow suit. Why i hear you ask? i can't be really sure, perhaps it has something to do with acceptance or admiration or longing. Like i said i'm not sure.

You cant be wrong as thats exactly what I think.... :-)

3 Dec 2007

Quote by hisandhers
don't you think this ought to be in the chatroom forum
In all honesty, I have always been welcomed into the mids room. I don't think you can pick out just one room from all servers- everyone is different in all the rooms & like different things.

Dont put many things in forum, so if it's in the wrong place, we appologise, but our intention was for it to get read, and that appears to b happening.
The mid's room is the one we r in most of the time, and we have seen this occur many times in here.
Perhaps it is more wide spread than we realised, if so we really think something should b done about it.

3 Dec 2007

Quote by Mallock2006
I'm not sure if i should post on this thread, but what the hell, lambs to the slaughter!
The deal with the midlands room is it has become very close-knit, which has it pro's and con's.
One of it's con's is when a strong character from that room disagrees with something, then the sheep usually follow suit. Why i hear you ask? i can't be really sure, perhaps it has something to do with acceptance or admiration or longing. Like i said i'm not sure.

You cant be wrong as thats exactly what I think.... :-)
Careful Mallock, If we start agreeing on something people will talk lol

3 Dec 2007

Quote by Chaotic_Spirit
I'm not sure if i should post on this thread, but what the hell, lambs to the slaughter!
The deal with the midlands room is it has become very close-knit, which has it pro's and con's.
One of it's con's is when a strong character from that room disagrees with something, then the sheep usually follow suit. Why i hear you ask? i can't be really sure, perhaps it has something to do with acceptance or admiration or longing. Like i said i'm not sure.

You cant be wrong as thats exactly what I think.... :-)
Careful Mallock, If we start agreeing on something people will talk lol

I hadnt thought of that :shock:

3 Dec 2007

Quote by Marya_Northeast
This actually happened today in the NE room and I admit to being one of the offenders. (Piss takers not wanking on cam!).
The room was pretty quiet with some idle chitchat between a few of us. A female goes on cam wearing a provocative outfit. Within minutes, half a dozen guys have their cams on and are wanking furiously.
Forgive me, but it's feckin laughable. So I laughed. I also laughed at their crap chat-up lines.
So did several other people - including the female on cam.
It was just such a huge change in the atmosphere of the room and the stereotypical behaviour of the single males involved that encouraged the jibes. None of it was nasty although I guess it could be taken that way. I don't use the Mids Room and wasn't there to see the incident you mean so I can't comment on that.
If you've got a problem, report the offender - yes, even if that is me!

Well it's nice to see u have addmitted 2 being an arse lol

, but how u can stereotype single males like that is beyond me.
A good tip 4 ya......Think how u would feel if people were to take the P out of you, or someone you know or like.
Treat others the way you would like to b treated.
thank's 4 your response xxxxxxxxx

3 Dec 2007

It's not the tuggers i have the issue with but the full package. We very rarely get anything beyond an extreme close up of a bell end with a whisper the second we click on the cam. Something along the lines of, like what you see ? Want me to cum for you ? Very rarely do they interact with the room.
I think a lot of the piss taking has arisen because we use this as a way to remove offenders to the no whispering / no directing rule, this ensures the room remains a vibrant chatty room once the host has left.
I must admit that i didn`t relise anyone appreciated the "tuggers" but have had my opinion changed. I'm sorry if my view of the "tuggers" offends anyone and can see that the swinging site is there for all sorts.
I still don`t see why they have to come into the regional "chat" rooms when there are numerous wank rooms to accomodate their needs.
It would be great to get a tuggers view to this post ... if they can actually type. (oops my piss taking coming out again!)
Suede x x x

3 Dec 2007

Quote by Suede-head
I still don`t see why they have to come into the regional "chat" rooms when there are numerous wank rooms to accomodate their needs.

Valued input, but we could say the same about the sex cams, tit cams, party cams and pussy fiddle cams too. Yet these don't tend to get the same treatment as wank cams do.
They is nothing to say in the mids room title or the occasional mids room rules that get posted every now and then that wank cams aren't allowed or unwelcome. So why can't they wank there?

3 Dec 2007

Quote by Suede-head
It's not the tuggers i have the issue with but the full package. We very rarely get anything beyond an extreme close up of a bell end with a whisper the second we click on the cam. Something along the lines of, like what you see ? Want me to cum for you ? Very rarely do they interact with the room.
I think a lot of the piss taking has arisen because we use this as a way to remove offenders to the no whispering / no directing rule, this ensures the room remains a vibrant chatty room once the host has left.
I must admit that i didn`t relise anyone appreciated the "tuggers" but have had my opinion changed. I'm sorry if my view of the "tuggers" offends anyone and can see that the swinging site is there for all sorts.
I still don`t see why they have to come into the regional "chat" rooms when there are numerous wank rooms to accomodate their needs.
It would be great to get a tuggers view to this post ... if they can actually type. (oops my piss taking coming out again!)
Suede x x x

I still don`t see why they have to come into the regional "chat" rooms ............would you tell someone from another region to get out the mid's room???? dont think so.........so why should the guy's that wank? i can see ur point about the whispers , but no-one should b whispering or directing in the room, if thats wat it states.
Regards you doing it to deter the whispers, not all the guy's that wank on cam whisper without asking, and if those wanking are badgered off cam, it spoils it for, not only the guy wanking, but for those that like to wach also, so effectively you are imposing ur dislike on 2 sets of people, who have no dislike to bell end's, close-up's or otherwise.
Thank's for ur

3 Dec 2007

I agree about the other cams too Chaotic. That`s from a personal selfish view.
I like the mids room cos it generally is what it says a "chat room" Any kind of "sex" cam means i cant get in the room and chat.

3 Dec 2007

Quote by daredevil-32
Well it's nice to see u have addmitted 2 being an arse
Ummm .... but I didn't! I'm not "an arse"*, thanks and that's just your opinion anyway just like my comments are mine. No amount of "lol" is gonna change that.
, but how u can stereotype single males like that is beyond me.
very easily - ONE - they do it themselves and TWO I've been here long enough to see that, as a generalisation, it's TRUE! If they don't want to be treated like the single male stereotype then maybe they shouldn't act that way? BTW, I didn't stereotype the individuals, I said their behaviour at that time was stereotypical.
A good tip 4 ya......Think how u would feel if people were to take the P out of you, or someone you know or like.
Treat others the way you would like to b treated.
Thanks for the "tip" - think I'll pass, though as yes, I have had the piss taken out of me and a helluva lot worse abuse than a few jibes about wank-cams.
thank's 4 your response xxxxxxxxx

* btw, isn't that abuse? Albeit in jest 'cos you stuck a :lol: on the end but since you don't know me, anything about me or even seem to fully comprehend my posts I could take that as a personaly insult - just like the guys I poked fun at in the chatroom?

3 Dec 2007

Dares
Its because i don't think the guys who come in and wank have a place in the mids room. We are not anti wanking and have been known to encourage it .. you may have seen us in the Sunday morning Wank for Me room !
As i responded to Chaotic my views are some what selfish in that i believe the "action" cams, be they wanking (male or female) or otherwise change the tone of the room. I love the mids room for what it is, i use other areas of the site and chat-rooms for my voyeuristic and performing needs

3 Dec 2007

Quote by Marya_Northeast

Well it's nice to see u have addmitted 2 being an arse
Ummm .... but I didn't! I'm not "an arse"*, thanks and that's just your opinion anyway just like my comments are mine. No amount of "lol" is gonna change that.
, but how u can stereotype single males like that is beyond me.
very easily - ONE - they do it themselves and TWO I've been here long enough to see that, as a generalisation, it's TRUE! If they don't want to be treated like the single male stereotype then maybe they shouldn't act that way? BTW, I didn't stereotype the individuals, I said their behaviour at that time was stereotypical.
A good tip 4 ya......Think how u would feel if people were to take the P out of you, or someone you know or like.
Treat others the way you would like to b treated.
Thanks for the "tip" - think I'll pass, though as yes, I have had the piss taken out of me and a helluva lot worse abuse than a few jibes about wank-cams.
thank's 4 your response xxxxxxxxx

* btw, isn't that abuse? Albeit in jest 'cos you stuck a :lol: on the end but since you don't know me, anything about me or even seem to fully comprehend my posts I could take that as a personaly insult - just like the guys I poked fun at in the chatroom?
rolleyes

3 Dec 2007

Quote by Chaotic_Spirit

Well it's nice to see u have addmitted 2 being an arse
Ummm .... but I didn't! I'm not "an arse"*, thanks and that's just your opinion anyway just like my comments are mine. No amount of "lol" is gonna change that.
, but how u can stereotype single males like that is beyond me.
very easily - ONE - they do it themselves and TWO I've been here long enough to see that, as a generalisation, it's TRUE! If they don't want to be treated like the single male stereotype then maybe they shouldn't act that way? BTW, I didn't stereotype the individuals, I said their behaviour at that time was stereotypical.
A good tip 4 ya......Think how u would feel if people were to take the P out of you, or someone you know or like.
Treat others the way you would like to b treated.
Thanks for the "tip" - think I'll pass, though as yes, I have had the piss taken out of me and a helluva lot worse abuse than a few jibes about wank-cams.
thank's 4 your response xxxxxxxxx

* btw, isn't that abuse? Albeit in jest 'cos you stuck a :lol: on the end but since you don't know me, anything about me or even seem to fully comprehend my posts I could take that as a personaly insult - just like the guys I poked fun at in the chatroom?
rolleyes

what's your point?

3 Dec 2007

Quote by Marya_Northeast

Well it's nice to see u have addmitted 2 being an arse
Ummm .... but I didn't! I'm not "an arse"*, thanks and that's just your opinion anyway just like my comments are mine. No amount of "lol" is gonna change that.
, but how u can stereotype single males like that is beyond me.
very easily - ONE - they do it themselves and TWO I've been here long enough to see that, as a generalisation, it's TRUE! If they don't want to be treated like the single male stereotype then maybe they shouldn't act that way? BTW, I didn't stereotype the individuals, I said their behaviour at that time was stereotypical.
A good tip 4 ya......Think how u would feel if people were to take the P out of you, or someone you know or like.
Treat others the way you would like to b treated.
Thanks for the "tip" - think I'll pass, though as yes, I have had the piss taken out of me and a helluva lot worse abuse than a few jibes about wank-cams.
thank's 4 your response xxxxxxxxx

* btw, isn't that abuse? Albeit in jest 'cos you stuck a :lol: on the end but since you don't know me, anything about me or even seem to fully comprehend my posts I could take that as a personaly insult - just like the guys I poked fun at in the chatroom?
You openly addmit to taking the P out of guy's wanking on cam,you also generalised that single guy's on here are all the same,rather than addmit that you were wrong in doing wat you did, you point the abuse think we need to know anymore than that about you.
Thank's 4 the comments.
ohh and i appologise 4 the arse

3 Dec 2007

Quote by daredevil-32
You openly addmit to taking the P out of guy's wanking on cam,you also generalised that single guy's on here are all the same,rather than addmit that you were wrong in doing wat you did, you point the abuse think we need to know anymore than that about you.
Thank's 4 the comments.
ohh and i appologise 4 the arse

Not getting into an argument even though I wholly disagree - apart from anything else it's nothing to do with the thread topic so I accept your apology and also apologise in return for the minor hijack.

3 Dec 2007

Quote by Suede-head
Dares
Its because i don't think the guys who come in and wank have a place in the mids room. We are not anti wanking and have been known to encourage it .. you may have seen us in the Sunday morning Wank for Me room !
As i responded to Chaotic my views are some what selfish in that i believe the "action" cams, be they wanking (male or female) or otherwise change the tone of the room. I love the mids room for what it is, i use other areas of the site and chat-rooms for my voyeuristic and performing needs

Mids room, no directing or uninvited whispers..........were does it state chat room only ????? as far as i am concerned it is a room 4 anyone for chat or cam's. xxxxxxxx

3 Dec 2007

Quote by Suede-head
As i responded to Chaotic my views are some what selfish in that i believe the "action" cams, be they wanking (male or female) or otherwise change the tone of the room.

I have to admit, it sometime does get on my nerves when you can't get into a room simply because a male/female/couple are playing on cam as all the voyeurs take over and fill up the room,esp if its a cpl, but like you its on a selfish level and not because it shouldnt happen.
Nothing to say that they can or can't be there and i have happily lived side by side with such on the swinging heaven chatrooms for god knows how long, not everyone is in to what i'm into, nor am i into what most others are into, so sometimes you have to compromise or simply find another room to chat in.

3 Dec 2007

Quote by Marya_Northeast

Well it's nice to see u have addmitted 2 being an arse
Ummm .... but I didn't! I'm not "an arse"*, thanks and that's just your opinion anyway just like my comments are mine. No amount of "lol" is gonna change that.
, but how u can stereotype single males like that is beyond me.
very easily - ONE - they do it themselves and TWO I've been here long enough to see that, as a generalisation, it's TRUE! If they don't want to be treated like the single male stereotype then maybe they shouldn't act that way? BTW, I didn't stereotype the individuals, I said their behaviour at that time was stereotypical.
A good tip 4 ya......Think how u would feel if people were to take the P out of you, or someone you know or like.
Treat others the way you would like to b treated.
Thanks for the "tip" - think I'll pass, though as yes, I have had the piss taken out of me and a helluva lot worse abuse than a few jibes about wank-cams.
thank's 4 your response xxxxxxxxx

* btw, isn't that abuse? Albeit in jest 'cos you stuck a :lol: on the end but since you don't know me, anything about me or even seem to fully comprehend my posts I could take that as a personaly insult - just like the guys I poked fun at in the chatroom?
rolleyes

what's your point?
If you seriously wish to talk about it my mailbox is open.

3 Dec 2007

Quote by Marya_Northeast

You openly addmit to taking the P out of guy's wanking on cam,you also generalised that single guy's on here are all the same,rather than addmit that you were wrong in doing wat you did, you point the abuse think we need to know anymore than that about you.
Thank's 4 the comments.
ohh and i appologise 4 the arse

Not getting into an argument even though I wholly disagree - apart from anything else it's nothing to do with the thread topic so I accept your apology and also apologise in return for the minor hijack.
np, it's wat it's all

3 Dec 2007

I do agree with tolerance 1000% and i dont mind watchiing men wank in fact i find it quite erotic .. if im give the choice to watch them.. i have been guilty of going off on some guys that are doing that.. but only for the reason that im bombarded by whispers asking me to watch them wank.. there looking at my pics an coming on them and somedays its so much i will leave a room.. so i can see both sides of it.. tolerance is the key to swinging but they also need to respect that if i wanted to watch i would.. and if i click on .. an move off straight away its not an invite for 10 to 15 whispers in a row sometimes sayin the filthest and sometimes nasty things to me if i choose not to watch that particular person......
i feel your anger an i see why you feel that way, but sometimes i will shout at them to stop it from my side.. if ive done that an you not realised why then i appologise.. i never intend to hurt anyones feelings..
ive been chased away from many a room by the quite blokes who dont look like there doing anything but playing with themselves.. but sometimees theres more to my bark than just barking...:-(
kisses an hugs dares loves you lots.. xxxxxxxx

3 Dec 2007

Quote by FurbyHug
I do agree with tolerance 1000% and i dont mind watchiing men wank in fact i find it quite erotic .. if im give the choice to watch them.. i have been guilty of going off on some guys that are doing that.. but only for the reason that im bombarded by whispers asking me to watch them wank.. there looking at my pics an coming on them and somedays its so much i will leave a room.. so i can see both sides of it.. tolerance is the key to swinging but they also need to respect that if i wanted to watch i would.. and if i click on .. an move off straight away its not an invite for 10 to 15 whispers in a row sometimes sayin the filthest and sometimes nasty things to me if i choose not to watch that particular person......
i feel your anger an i see why you feel that way, but sometimes i will shout at them to stop it from my side.. if ive done that an you not realised why then i appologise.. i never intend to hurt anyones feelings..
ive been chased away from many a room by the quite blokes who dont look like there doing anything but playing with themselves.. but sometimees theres more to my bark than just barking...:-(
kisses an hugs dares loves you lots.. xxxxxxxx

Interesting post, and first off, they is no need to apolgise, usually when posts like this are made it's normally to make us all think and the more various opinons and experiences put into this topic helps us all not think one sided.
Sometimes they is no room host, and the only way to defend ourselves is to be a tat abusive to get rid of a constant pest thats breaking the room rules. But then i suppose the blame then also lands on ourself for not thinking on our toes, starting another room with a room host that can remove the wanking whisperer.
Fab post furby, made me rethink my postion on this topic.

3 Dec 2007

Quote by FurbyHug
I do agree with tolerance 1000% and i dont mind watchiing men wank in fact i find it quite erotic .. if im give the choice to watch them.. i have been guilty of going off on some guys that are doing that.. but only for the reason that im bombarded by whispers asking me to watch them wank.. there looking at my pics an coming on them and somedays its so much i will leave a room.. so i can see both sides of it.. tolerance is the key to swinging but they also need to respect that if i wanted to watch i would.. and if i click on .. an move off straight away its not an invite for 10 to 15 whispers in a row sometimes sayin the filthest and sometimes nasty things to me if i choose not to watch that particular person......
i feel your anger an i see why you feel that way, but sometimes i will shout at them to stop it from my side.. if ive done that an you not realised why then i appologise.. i never intend to hurt anyones feelings..
ive been chased away from many a room by the quite blokes who dont look like there doing anything but playing with themselves.. but sometimees theres more to my bark than just barking...:-(
kisses an hugs dares loves you lots.. xxxxxxxx

We take on board all your comments, and can only say, you will never be chased out of a room that we hold the key's to.
love ya 2 bit's, xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx