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:bounce: I can get rid of it from my sig now :grin:
Thank you :smug: :lol2:
TJ
Ok ok already! pmsl
Signature changed but I'm hanging onto the penguin facelift for now.....
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My pet hate is those who set up a room, constantly flash the warnings for the slightest infraction, get uppity if someone - even newbies - question it and then blame SH for making up the rule. If you choose to make it a non-directing room it is not because SH made you do it.
I even had one such person realise that I and someone I knew well were having a whispered conversation and threatened to throw us both out of the room, saying that SH didn't 'allow' people to have private conversations. mad
Whispering doesn't bother me. The only diff between a whispered and a non-whispered comment is that it's in italics. Sure, if it's offensive or being used to hide direction then, yes, cut&paste it and have it stopped, but really, why some folk find it so offensive I'll never know. confused
As far as directing goes, yes, it can be boring, but given how good most people are at ignoring any kind of comment and blanking people trying to engage them in any level of conversation why does directing then become such a problem?
I guess I'm just trying to say that there are those on both sides of this divide who need to learn some consideration or tolerance.wink No doubt there are those who will assume that I'm a perpetrator of both these heinous crimes, so I look forward to the abuse this post is likely to engender :twisted:
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I even had one such person realise that I and someone I knew well were having a whispered conversation and threatened to throw us both out of the room, saying that SH didn't 'allow' people to have private conversations. mad

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I can't believe anyone thinks that!! confused :? :?
Quote by targaid
As far as directing goes, yes, it can be boring, but given how good most people are at ignoring any kind of comment and blanking people trying to engage them in any level of conversation why does directing then become such a problem?

Some people like directing/to be directed whilst others hate it. It is all about personal taste which is why we have the rule that if it says no directing in the room title then there is no directing in that room. I despise directing but it doesn't matter what I think. That is why there is a choice of rooms.
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No doubt there are those who will assume that I'm a perpetrator of both these heinous crimes, so I look forward to the abuse this post is likely to engender :twisted:

Not at all!!! :shock: :shock: :shock:
It is good to see this Forum being used for the purpose it was intended - intelligent, grown up debate!!! :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup:
Quote by targaid
As far as directing goes, yes, it can be boring, but given how good most people are at ignoring any kind of comment and blanking people trying to engage them in any level of conversation why does directing then become such a problem?

Directing can be a real pain to the general atmosphere of a room and conversations can be drowned out by all the directors calling out their instructions/requests/sad little comments etc.
Having spent many occasions in rooms where there is little else being said, it can and does become a bore to most people.
All site hosted rooms such as Beach, Jacuzzi etc are the ones which are most often full to capacity, partly I am sure, because people know on the whole they can go into those rooms and hold a conversation without watching endless line after line of "get your tops off" "can we see more?", "you've got the best tits on this site, but I'd love to see your pussy" -
- or as one guy said a couple of nights ago "spread your cunt open and drag your fingers through it and them lick them clean" :shock: The only fem on cam had her jeans and a tee-shirt on and promptly closed her cam!
I mean honstly :!: Would these guys speak to women in that way if they had just met them in a pub? dunno
My opinions of directors is something akin to pond life. They rarely endulge in a proper conversation, get cheap kicks out of seeing naked flesh on cam and quite honestly upset a lot of people, both men and women in rooms where many people have joined to avoid such innane chit chat confused :?
To be fair, when a no directing warning is posted in a room, many of these directors will apologise and refrain from doing it again - at least while an op is in there ;-)
However, it has to be said that quite often the fems on cam do encourage the directors, even in the no directing rooms.
This not only puts their own account at risk of a ban for encouranging directing, but also makes it more difficult for the fems on cam who do not want to be directed.
If they fail to do as suggested by some of the directors, they are often abused and insulted.
Basically, it all boils down to respect for other members. If you want to direct, join a room which permits it - likewise if you want to be directed, either join a room which permits it, or open one of your own smile
If everyone respected other peoples preferences, as well as the rules, things would run a lot smoother.
Somehow, I doubt this will ever fully happen. Not whilst we have so many one handed typists on here anyway ;-) :lol2:
TJ
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Quote by RedHot
All site hosted rooms such as Beach, Jacuzzi etc are the ones which are most often full to capacity, partly I am sure, because people know on the whole they can go into those rooms and hold a conversation without watching endless line after line of "get your tops off" "can we see more?", "you've got the best tits on this site, but I'd love to see your pussy" -
TJ

just to pick up on this point....ive actually found the opposite. those rooms are the worst ones to be in, in my experience, there's whispers and directing and insluts flying all over - with no room host to help moderate behaviour. theres also no room "community spirit" in there, if you get what i mean?
for that reason i only go into regional rooms that have regular chatters as i can be sure thers a room host in there who knows the rules and will help other chatters sort any problems out.
totally agree with all your other points tho :thumbup:
Quote by sexkittenhfx
just to pick up on this point....ive actually found the opposite. those rooms are the worst ones to be in, theres whispers and directing and insluts flying all over - with no room host to help moderate behaviour.

I find the same as well.....
Its not a certainty that a regional or user created room has a host but its more likely than not...
yes youre right mallock, but even if theres no room host in those rooms there tends to be regular chatters in there, that community spirit thing i was on about lol and the room can moderate itself dunno
As whispering is such an issue I find it strange that a fix hasn’t been made to disable whispers. We hate whispers, generally its single men saying what a babe my girl is. Its true and it’s a compliment so our question to those guys is why whisper it?
Whispers can also be extremely offensive, last night we were on cam and were publicly abused by a single male antagonist. He then followed this by sending a stream of abuse on whispers. It would be better if we were able to either disable the whispers or somehow appear to be offline – ie no name in the chatters window. I know we could report him but whats the point? He would just sign in again under a different name, at least we know who he is and can change rooms should he reappear.
I think a warning mesage has little effect on these guys.
The point of reporting is to have action taken against the abuser and protect others from their abuse. If they get a ban, either temporary or permanent they can't just come back with a new name because they would have to pay and we do have ways of knowing if they have been a member here before and would ban them again.
There is no point coming into the open forum and whinging about being abused when you're not prepared to make the effort to report it.
Report it to one of the Ops or Admin and tell them which room, server, date and time and the logs can be checked and the situation dealt with. Although ops can't check logs, by telling them, they can keep an eye on the person if they see them in the chatrooms.
we can only help you if we know what's going on, we're not psychic!
Hope that helps.
Mal
Thanks for the feedback. Actually I did go to the reporting pages but the process is rather long winded with too many drop down options before you get where you need to be. In this instance being rather disturbed after the event I did not pursue it.
The purpose of my message was not to whinge, as you put it, but simply to highlight, discuss and give my opinion on an issue - which is what I thought forums were all about.
That's ok. Perhaps the feedback about it being difficult to report might prompt Admin to simplify it - as I said, it all helps - when we know about it!
Mal
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If 'No Directing' is applied to all site hosted rooms (because of how annoying and disruptive it can be to the flow of the chat) - what was the logic in reversing the chatroom rules so that directing is allowed and not discouraged unless 'No Directing' is stated in the room name?
What you imply by having the rule this way around is … directing is acceptable behaviour and ‘No Directing’ is the exception. Which then follows that the site hosted rooms operate under rules which are the ‘exception’ to the standard rules. confused
Do I really have to explain why that is not the way to do things?
Quote by PoloLady
If 'No Directing' is applied to all site hosted rooms (because of how annoying and disruptive it can be to the flow of the chat) - what was the logic in reversing the chatroom rules so that directing is allowed and not discouraged unless 'No Directing' is stated in the room name?
What you imply by having the rule this way around is … directing is acceptable behaviour and ‘No Directing’ is the exception. Which then follows that the site hosted rooms operate under rules which are the ‘exception’ to the standard rules. confused
Do I really have to explain why that is not the way to do things?

I fully agree!!! :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup:
If I had my way all rooms would be non-directing unless it said "Directing Allowed" in the title.

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I hate to agree with Bilko here wink
But, I believe that it is just as rude to direct people and tell them what to do as it is to whisper them without asking first.
Maye admin will make the new chat(when ever it arrives) to no directing unless it states "Directing Allowed" in title of room.
woo
Quote by Mykap
Whispers can also be extremely offensive

As Mal has stated already if you copy and paste the abusive whispers or in fact any abuse in the chatrooms into a note pad file or even word, with the room name. server and approximate time of it happening and send it to one of the chatroom ops or indeed admin, it will be dealt with.
We and ultimately admin will take action against any body who abuses another member whether it be thro whispers or in full view.
Abuse of any sort will not be tolerated on this site at all.
Here is a message I post in chat regarding this.
All the members of this site deserve to be treated with manners and respect whatever shape, size, age, colour, gender someone might be!!
We are mostly all here to have fun and have a laugh and a joke.
So please act like adults and treat them as such because any body who does not do so may find themselves the subject of an ops or admin intervention on their account.
woo
Quote by sexkittenhfx

All site hosted rooms such as Beach, Jacuzzi etc are the ones which are most often full to capacity, partly I am sure, because people know on the whole they can go into those rooms and hold a conversation without watching endless line after line of "get your tops off" "can we see more?", "you've got the best tits on this site, but I'd love to see your pussy" -
TJ

just to pick up on this point....ive actually found the opposite. those rooms are the worst ones to be in, in my experience, there's whispers and directing and insluts flying all over - with no room host to help moderate behaviour. theres also no room "community spirit" in there, if you get what i mean?
for that reason i only go into regional rooms that have regular chatters as i can be sure thers a room host in there who knows the rules and will help other chatters sort any problems out.
totally agree with all your other points tho :thumbup:

have only been in this room 5 mins and have yet have not had any whispers but then I am set as "busy" and all my pics are hidden.
A very small part of the conversation in the Beach Bar - No directing, :
some bloke says: <girl on cam> needs spunk on her boobs
bloke2: <girl on cam>, would love to play with you both
bloke3: id love to see her slip her fingers in nd out
Couple: body is yes but lets see ya face hun
bloke2 again: let the dog see the rabbit hunnie
bloke3: pleasure you got a lil white stain on them knicks
Niiiiice!
Quote by woohoo

Whispers can also be extremely offensive

As Mal has stated already if you copy and paste the abusive whispers or in fact any abuse in the chatrooms into a note pad file or even word, with the room name. server and approximate time of it happening and send it to one of the chatroom ops or indeed admin, it will be dealt with.
We and ultimately admin will take action against any body who abuses another member whether it be thro whispers or in full view.
Abuse of any sort will not be tolerated on this site at all.
Here is a message I post in chat regarding this.
All the members of this site deserve to be treated with manners and respect whatever shape, size, age, colour, gender someone might be!!
We are mostly all here to have fun and have a laugh and a joke.
So please act like adults and treat them as such because any body who does not do so may find themselves the subject of an ops or admin intervention on their account.
woo
I can confirm that reporting abusive or offensive behaviour really does work!
At first, I tried to ignore it but then thought - why the hell should they get away with it? The majority of us abide by the rules, why shouldn't everyone be the same. I was getting absue for not allowing someone to whisper, ignoring whispers, rejecting someone, not getting my tits out etc etc etc ... anything and everything. It angers me and on rare occasions, it has upset me.
I've seen other people get very upset by the comments of a few nasty people who can't get what they want.
So I started reporting all the behaviour that broke the aup.
I've been called an arse-licker and I should get a life blah blah .. I don't care. If it gets rid of the arseholes so the nice people can enjoy the chatrooms in peace then it's worth it.
I play by the rules and so do all the people i like to chat to. Why should it be spoilt by a few?
So if you encounter any abuse that angers or upsets you then don't think the Ops don't bother with it - they do! I've seen 'em in action and they ain't to be messed with! lol :twisted:
If anyone has any abuse to report, they can always pm the details to a chat room Op. There is a list of us here
Let us know the room name, server number, time of incident and nature of the abuse and it will be dealt with by one of us or by Admin.
Most of us log on daily and we are all happy to help ;)
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If anyone has any abuse to report, they can always pm the details to a chat room Op. There is a list of us here

Link not working Minx (you have a / between words view / topic) - but hopefully this one does :lol2:
here
TJ ;-)
Quote by RedHot
If anyone has any abuse to report, they can always pm the details to a chat room Op. There is a list of us here

Link not working Minx (you have a / between words view / topic) - but hopefully this one does :lol2:
here
TJ ;-)
Don't be silly T-J, of course the link is working!! lol
Well it is now-thanks! redface :giggle:
Quote by BiWelshMinx
If anyone has any abuse to report, they can always pm the details to a chat room Op. There is a list of us here
Let us know the room name, server number, time of incident and nature of the abuse and it will be dealt with by one of us or by Admin.
Most of us log on daily and we are all happy to help ;)

I have updated the list now so that you can click on the name to go to their profile and contact the Op of your choice!! confused :? :? :?
Quote by woohoo
I hate to agree with Bilko here wink
But, I believe that it is just as rude to direct people and tell them what to do as it is to whisper them without asking first.
Maye admin will make the new chat(when ever it arrives) to no directing unless it states "Directing Allowed" in title of room.
woo

That is how it was (once) and they seem to think it was a good idea to encourage Directing by changing it to the other way around.
dunno
Edit: after thought.... may be it is because the couples who perform on cam to the directors pull in the one-handed punters and that's where the £'s are at so you need to keep the (largely) non-swinging interactive porn wan... seekers happy confused ... because I sure as hell can't think of another logical reason for it being the way around that it currently is!
Quote by RedHot
However, it has to be said that quite often the fems on cam do encourage the directors, even in the no directing rooms.
This not only puts their own account at risk of a ban for encouranging directing, but also makes it more difficult for the fems on cam who do not want to be directed.
If they fail to do as suggested by some of the directors, they are often abused and insulted.
If everyone respected other peoples preferences, as well as the rules, things would run a lot smoother.
Somehow, I doubt this will ever fully happen. Not whilst we have so many one handed typists on here anyway ;-) :lol2:
TJ
well said ,have oped rooms before where this has happened where fems after we have given out warnings tend to make the job harder by encouraging more on cam then the directing comes thick and fast and does spoil your own night as mostley in a north east room most peeps do tend to meet up regularly for socials n stuff and find we tend to have same people who come in and for a fact within seconds will direct or wispa ,then tend to get people who are in room will sit back and when it kicks off always chip in with snotty comments ,we actually got accussed last week by a single that if your not in our or fabios click you aint got a chance of a meet with a certain single fem who goes in the n/e room ffs i sometimes wonder what goes through peoples minds to think like that hehe now am a pimp daddy.
Quote by flower411
This thread seems to have moved in all sorts of directions but I really want to comment on the official unhosted rooms . The Beach etc ..
I find that these are the most inhospitable rooms and the ones most prone to directing and whispering, precisly because they are unhosted most of the time.
I really can`t understand why there is such a fuss about other rooms being without an owner when these rooms appear to run the majority of the time without hosts and as a cosequence they are rife with directing and unwanted whispers !!
The directors and whisperers use these rooms BECAUSE they are unhosted and unregulated.
I have no doubt i`ll be shot down in flames for this but it does appear to be this way from where i`m sitting !! dunno

well i said the same thing earlier on in the thread and i wasnt shot down so i dont see why you should be :thumbup: i completely agree with you!
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well i said the same thing earlier on in the thread and i wasnt shot down so i dont see why you should be :thumbup: i completely agree with you!

As the default rooms such as the beach are the first place someone will end up if they're new to the chatrooms, I think it's understandable if people get used to it being the norm to direct and then they obviously move on the the hosted rooms in the same mindset.
Yes I know they should read the rules, but I can understand how new users could just get into a habit of directing.
As Polo has already said, I'm not exactly sure why the rules were changed to "directing allowed unless stated otherwise" and as I've been watching this thread it seems noone else does either dunno
I'm certain it would make things very much clearer if the default was "No Directing", "No Whispers" as well as the no email, URL's or phone numbers.
The site rooms are hosted by the Chatroom Ops but because they are so busy everywhere else (and they do have a home life) it's been suggested before that they should be assisted by chat monitors who have the right to moderate improper activity in the public rooms and the tools to remove offenders if they don't comply.
However, this should be for the new chatrooms; SH would unlikely put further investment in to the old one.
Quote by GnV
I'm certain it would make things very much clearer if the default was "No Directing", "No Whispers" as well as the no email, URL's or phone numbers.
The site rooms are hosted by the Chatroom Ops but because they are so busy everywhere else (and they do have a home life)
it's been suggested before that they should be assisted by chat monitors who have the right to moderate improper activity in the public rooms and the tools to remove offenders if they don't comply.
However, this should be for the new chatrooms; SH would unlikely put further investment in to the old one.

Chatroom Ops then dunno