Things that piss you off in chat

Looks like the site is on its way out -  no chat and mainly people from outside UK, who are fairly pointless for anyone who might ever want to meet. It’s a shame as it used to be a great resource at one point.

JJ, you are not the only one who has had fun, it’s also about developing friendships as well. If you do not put the effort in to meet the right people then you will crash and burn. Be patient, no one wants someone who rush’s or demands.

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JJ, you are not the only one who has had fun, it’s also about developing friendships as well. If you do not put the effort in to meet the right people then you will crash and burn. Be patient, no one wants someone who rush’s or demands.

 Thanks but you appear to be providing a solution to a problem that I’ve not complained about. 

My point was about the assumption that a single male is desperate (which you have kind of illustrated that point). 

I’m happy with my life, met some lovely people on here and no doubt will meet some more, there are some blokes who go at it like a bull in a China shop, they only end up more frustrated.

Chat doesn’t bother me really you can ignore people easily. The thing that annoys me about the site is no mandatory picture ID on joining. 

If folk had to give a face pic of themselves with a hand written reference to user name and date it would massively reduce the fakes etc. Chat wise if I’m really picky guys spamming close up cock pics or ignoring sexual preference and pm’ing with nonsense. 

As I sad though it’s easily ignored and im sure some like what I don’t lol 

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last time I was on people was talking about the God damb weather !! And how many tea bags are in a box :/ i mean for fuck sake what have you got to do to get some proper dirty talk !! ????

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Chat doesn’t bother me really you can ignore people easily. The thing that annoys me about the site is no mandatory picture ID on joining. 

If folk had to give a face pic of themselves with a hand written reference to user name and date it would massively reduce the fakes etc. Chat wise if I’m really picky guys spamming close up cock pics or ignoring sexual preference and pm’ing with nonsense. 

Yep I agree, but it would need to be done every couple of months or weeks or else it would make a mockery of the image verification process as people would take everyone as genuine, whereas  lots joined as genuine couples but are now either single males or even sometimes, single females, hence why we say if you suspect a profile not to be what is advertised, then use the report profile tab and admin will investigate.

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last time I was on people was talking about the God damb weather !! And how many tea bags are in a box :/ i mean for fuck sake what have you got to do to get some proper dirty talk !! ????

Open your own room and ask for it lol 

Or try to get your head round the idea that the fact we're swingers doesn't mean the only thing we have to chat about is sex.

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Oh your a keeper!!!

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last time I was on people was talking about the God damb weather !! And how many tea bags are in a box :/ i mean for fuck sake what have you got to do to get some proper dirty talk !! ????

Open your own room and ask for it lol 

Or try to get your head round the idea that the fact we're swingers doesn't mean the only thing we have to chat about is sex.

As I said if you wish to direct the chat open your own room most do not like to converse anyway lol 200 in a chat room 7 chatting lol 

Lately I've noticed profiles that make it clear that they're not looking for single males, then list what they are looking for which includes bi and bi curious males.... it also lists couples with bi males which is fair enough, but they really should make up their minds!  😁

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Lately I've noticed profiles that make it clear that they're not looking for single males, then list what they are looking for which includes bi and bi curious males.... it also lists couples with bi males which is fair enough, but they really should make up their minds!  😁

Plus many I’ve met say no single males but do meet they just don’t want the epic level of pm’s and contacts from every thirsty single male on SH.  Let’s be honest most guys are like a volt of vultures to a wake lol. 

IMO the site should be able to completely filter out from contact you know you don’t want but unfortunately it doesn’t. 

Some of us are actually looking for single males - just straight ones.

As for the OP and things that piss us off, why is it that so many guys don't seem to understand that we are a couple with our own sex life outside of here and don't want or need extra sex as much as they need any sex.

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Some of us are actually looking for single males - just straight ones.

As for the OP and things that piss us off, why is it that so many guys don't seem to understand that we are a couple with our own sex life outside of here and don't want or need extra sex as much as they need any sex.

Totally understandable, it’s hard for everyone finding actual decent genuine people that actually want to meet x. The amount of couple profiles that contact me to later catch them out as just a guy is very disappointing and frustrating. X

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Some of us are actually looking for single males - just straight ones.

As for the OP and things that piss us off, why is it that so many guys don't seem to understand that we are a couple with our own sex life outside of here and don't want or need extra sex as much as they need any sex.

Totally understandable, it’s hard for everyone finding actual decent genuine people that actually want to meet x. The amount of couple profiles that contact me to later catch them out as just a guy is very disappointing and frustrating. X

It is common and that's why you should always either ask to see them on cam first (no need for faces unless you need that) or get some clear photographic evidence which proves it's a real couple not some sad bloke. 

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Some of us are actually looking for single males - just straight ones.

As for the OP and things that piss us off, why is it that so many guys don't seem to understand that we are a couple with our own sex life outside of here and don't want or need extra sex as much as they need any sex.

Totally understandable, it’s hard for everyone finding actual decent genuine people that actually want to meet x. The amount of couple profiles that contact me to later catch them out as just a guy is very disappointing and frustrating. X

It is common and that's why you should always either ask to see them on cam first (no need for faces unless you need that) or get some clear photographic evidence which proves it's a real couple not some sad bloke. 

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Some of us are actually looking for single males - just straight ones.

As for the OP and things that piss us off, why is it that so many guys don't seem to understand that we are a couple with our own sex life outside of here and don't want or need extra sex as much as they need any sex.

Totally understandable, it’s hard for everyone finding actual decent genuine people that actually want to meet x. The amount of couple profiles that contact me to later catch them out as just a guy is very disappointing and frustrating. X

It is common and that's why you should always either ask to see them on cam first (no need for faces unless you need that) or get some clear photographic evidence which proves it's a real couple not some sad bloke. 

It’s amazing how many get offended by the request to validate though lol I’ve never had an issue with it one of the reasons I’m verified too! 

Verification is fine but it's like an MOT - valid at the time it's issued. The only way to be certain you're chatting to a genuine female/couple is to see them together.

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Some of us are actually looking for single males - just straight ones.

As for the OP and things that piss us off, why is it that so many guys don't seem to understand that we are a couple with our own sex life outside of here and don't want or need extra sex as much as they need any sex.

Totally understandable, it’s hard for everyone finding actual decent genuine people that actually want to meet x. The amount of couple profiles that contact me to later catch them out as just a guy is very disappointing and frustrating. X

It is common and that's why you should always either ask to see them on cam first (no need for faces unless you need that) or get some clear photographic evidence which proves it's a real couple not some sad bloke. 

It’s amazing how many get offended by the request to validate though lol I’ve never had an issue with it one of the reasons I’m verified too! 

Verification is fine but it's like an MOT - valid at the time it's issued. The only way to be certain you're chatting to a genuine female/couple is to see them together.

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Some of us are actually looking for single males - just straight ones.

As for the OP and things that piss us off, why is it that so many guys don't seem to understand that we are a couple with our own sex life outside of here and don't want or need extra sex as much as they need any sex.

Totally understandable, it’s hard for everyone finding actual decent genuine people that actually want to meet x. The amount of couple profiles that contact me to later catch them out as just a guy is very disappointing and frustrating. X

It is common and that's why you should always either ask to see them on cam first (no need for faces unless you need that) or get some clear photographic evidence which proves it's a real couple not some sad bloke. 

It’s amazing how many get offended by the request to validate though lol I’ve never had an issue with it one of the reasons I’m verified too! 

Verification is fine but it's like an MOT - valid at the time it's issued. The only way to be certain you're chatting to a genuine female/couple is to see them together.

Sure but people refuse to cam or DONT separate log in. At least if couples were verified on account creation it would help reduce the fakes. No reason why it couldn’t be renewed yearly. But it only a bandage not a cure I agree 

If a couple you are supposedly going to meet/engage with refuse to cam (and they don't need to show their faces to prove they're a male and female on cam do they) or even chat by phone then the easy thing is to cease contact with them at that point.  If everybody did that the fake couples would largely go away.  They only persist because so many people fail to apply common sense to the problem and then find they've actually spent weeks chatting to a single guy  who's misled them and was either just seeking dirty chat/wank material or was actually going to turn up to a meeting alone and use the old 'sorry the wife's ill' excuse.  The answer to the latter scenario is to insist on a quick phone call with both other parties before setting out to the meeting and maybe have a plan B ready for any such event.  Ultimately you have to be prepared to walk away and not let the desire to have sex overrule your common sense because that's what these people prey on just like the romance scammers who con fortunes out of people.

I agree I don’t meet couples if I’ve not spoken to both parties. It’s the only way and agree and disagree about faces as I’m always asked for face pics but it’s never reciprocated so I tend not too unless those asking send their faces when they ask as that’s what I do. 

It’s a frustrating game that could be made far more fun and easier lol 

Being in a chat room and nobody is chatting… it’s a ‘chat room’ people. You say ‘Hi room’ and … silence. Not all the time but most times.

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Being in a chat room and nobody is chatting… it’s a ‘chat room’ people. You say ‘Hi room’ and … silence. Not all the time but most times.

Why is that guys who wink us because they say they're new members and can only send a few messages then send us a 'hey, how are you?' message?  If you only have a few messages, why not make the most of them and actually write something worth reading?

we would rather people openly chatted .... but we also know that doesnt seem to be the way on here

We know we are as much about being sociable as sexual .. it does annoy us that people seem to have one thing on the mind, but hey ho

Pictures in chat!!

Ppl put up a pic & get comments which is fine I comment on some myself..

But it’s the ppl who spam a rm with half a dozen pics at a time , time & time again so the chat thread gets lost...

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Pictures in chat!!

Ppl put up a pic & get comments which is fine I comment on some myself..

But it’s the ppl who spam a rm with half a dozen pics at a time , time & time again so the chat thread gets lost...

Its one of the reasons we favour the chat room "pool" no pics in there, just chat

sword_stileto I agree with you here, maybe if the mods could limit a chatroom poster to 2 pics per 'clock on' then others may be willing to contribute. As an example a regular poster on Beautiful tits floods the room with photos every time they come on. I use they here rather than he / she to try to keep them anonymous