Things that piss you off in chat

But they are Supermen, only Kriptonite can harm them lol

Just had a message from someone who couldn't be much further from everything we've said we're looking for.  Since he clearly didn't bother to I've replied politely asking him to read our profile and let us know if he thinks we're a good match.  Somehow I don't think we'll hear back.

Well we did hear back.  Despite being 15 years younger than our minimum age, not local (120 miles away), unable to accommodate and listing both gay and bi guys as potential playmates (despite claiming to be straight) amongst other things, he still feels he's a good match. I just don't understand why what we've written isn't clear to him but at least he's been polite so far.

Unbelievable? No. Is this guy an Idiotic time waster? Yes definitely. 

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Well we did hear back.  Despite being 15 years younger than our minimum age, not local (120 miles away), unable to accommodate and listing both gay and bi guys as potential playmates (despite claiming to be straight) amongst other things, he still feels he's a good match. I just don't understand why what we've written isn't clear to him but at least he's been polite so far.

 Unfortunately, this type of person seems to be more usual than not on here these days 😞

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Well we did hear back.  Despite being 15 years younger than our minimum age, not local (120 miles away), unable to accommodate and listing both gay and bi guys as potential playmates (despite claiming to be straight) amongst other things, he still feels he's a good match. I just don't understand why what we've written isn't clear to him but at least he's been polite so far.

 Unfortunately, this type of person seems to be more usual than not on here these days 😞

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Unbelievable? No. Is this guy an Idiotic time waster? Yes definitely. 

We just don't understand why they are contacting people who aren't going to be interested in them. Why not spend their time contacting people whose requirements they match?  Bizarre.

Great profile name @ onthehill BTW 

there arent any

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there arent any

Why are they still here then?  Masochism?

In many cases (not specifically on here) I find people tend not to read things fully, if at all- if you reset that as your baseline it helps it be more tolerable.  

Add to this if they don't read/pay attention to your profile, they are definitely telling you something about themselves... its then up to you what you do with that information...I know it makes me consider whether I want to spend time even talking to them, let alone anything else!

Certainly a good point.

One thing that does annoy me a bit is guys assuming that just because we've had some dirty fun in chat, that I definitely want to meet them in person irrespective of distance or whether they fit what I'm looking for for meets. I am very chatty so there is no way I could possible meet everyone I chat to even if I wanted to. Most people on here are great fun though and lovely to chat with - it's just the few that then start to pester that gets a bit wearying. Lynn xx

the trick is knowing when you arent wanted and no means no.

Pictures!!!

When we 1st came to SH chat rooms it was a vibrant community where members (some) talked discussed a whole raft of subjects from the lifestyle we lead here to topics from the real world that effect us all or just generally light hearted banter with each other..

Then pictures in chat came along & there seems to be less chat or should that be less stimulating chat!!

In this respect I’m as guilty as the next person as a voyeur I’m quiet happy to view a picture in chat & pass comment & no doubt it does get members noticed & maybe meets..

But when you have a couple of rooms open your interest in & they all go orange within seconds of each other with the same pictures it feels like spam e-mail or a mass mail drop companies do!!

Think I’m just getting old & should go with the flow & chill lol..

Not in chat but something that pissed us off all the time:

Our most recent exchange with a guy whose profile states:

     Not specified
Location     ??? , United Kingdom
Distance     ???  mi. from you
Meeting     Accommodate,  Hotel,  Travel
Last Online     Online now
Joined     2 weeks ago
Gold    
Person 1
Sexuality     Straight Male
Age     25
Assets    
Build    
Drink    
Height     6' 0
Smoke    
Trans    
0 Vouches
Seeking

    Straight couple
    Couple with bi female
    Couple with bi male
    Bi couple
    Gay female couple
    Straight male
    Bi curious male
    Bi male
    Gay male
    Cross dresser
    Straight female
    Bi curious female
    Bi female
    Gay female
    Transgender FTM
    Transgender MTF

Interests

No interests.
Comments

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Not exactly comprehensive eh...  and in no way what we've stated we're looking for at all but evidently that didn't matter, even after we asked him to read our profile.  Anyway for those guys who seem to think couples/females here are all stuck up or rude, this is what they have to deal with here again and again and it's why they often choose not to reply and just block people instead.

??? - Hey how are you both?  
9 minutes ago
osemlover - Thanks for the message but we're not looking for the same things.
??? - What are you looking for? and no worries
osemlover - It's all in our profile.
??? - Oh you want older fair enough I’m very mature but no worries if you wanna see a pic of me I can send but if not enjoy your night thanks
osemlover - It's not just age.  You are looking for loads of stuff we're not interested in.
??? - Oh I only put a variety of things because I’m new to the app haha not interested in all the things on my profile haha just looking for regular fun live in eynesford drive accom easy going
My profile not accurate haha
osemlover - Maybe you should write a profile which is accurate and then people will have a clue who you are. Just an idea.
??? - Haha yeh well I’m new to this site lol I can tell you more about me if you like haha ,  How has your day been?

The mind boggles.

...and then it swings in exactly the opposite direction. I was reading someone's profile recently, and "polyamory" was referred to. It really was a good job I was sitting down. I shook my head, and read it again - I was right the first time.

I'm not what they are looking for, but I contacted them anyway, just to congratulate them for raising the tone considerably.

Osem, you know by now that not all the roads are paved in gold, there are loads of potholes to avoid, I’m getting to many messages off single men, where on my profile does it say I play with blokes ???

No where, please read before replying or am I doing something wrong.

mine is trying to join in and being totally blankedx

I could of been sarcastic then but stopped ! 😂

It’s true, just be normal and above all honest.

ive got to the point where i just talk to myself if they are like that lol

I know Kittygirl, that 1000yard stare appears and the next thing I know I’m dribbling and shouting at the screen.

the assumption that a single male is desperate. 

And all wives are in a state of constant need of "sorting out"

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the assumption that a single male is desperate. 

 One way to avoid that is not to have on your profile that you're willing to meet anyone aged between 18-99 surely.

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the assumption that a single male is desperate. 

 One way to avoid that is not to have on your profile that you're willing to meet anyone aged between 18-99 surely.

 Wouldn’t want to be accused of being ageist. 

good point, well made. 

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mine is trying to join in and being totally blankedx

 Know that feeling, next time i see you in chat ill make a point of not being one of those *hug*

Thank you. 

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good point, well made. 

 That was in respect of 2for2more’s point...

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the assumption that a single male is desperate. 

 One way to avoid that is not to have on your profile that you're willing to meet anyone aged between 18-99 surely.

 Wouldn’t want to be accused of being ageist. 

lol how on earth is having a preference for an age group when it comes to personal relationships being ageist?  We're not talking employment law here.  Everyone is entitled to exercise their personal preferences.

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the assumption that a single male is desperate. 

 One way to avoid that is not to have on your profile that you're willing to meet anyone aged between 18-99 surely.

 Wouldn’t want to be accused of being ageist. 

lol how on earth is having a preference for an age group when it comes to personal relationships being ageist?  We're not talking employment law here.  Everyone is entitled to exercise their personal preferences.

 At a guess, I'd say even the most successful of singletons on here would tell you this is no place for desperation. Single blokes make up something like 85% of the active membership, competition is great.

Let's be honest, the most likely motivation for the vast majority of single blokes to be on this site in the first place is the thought that he might get to have sex with someone else's wife without risk. And in all seriousness there is a real possibility that they might get lucky enough for that to happen... But when you consider the ratio of single blokes to couples that are actually looking for single male company, the chances of them being in the right place at the right time, and their compatibility. The only question remaining in my mind is.. Are the odds on their fantasy turning to reality, greater or smaller than the odds against winning the national lottery jackpot twice in a row.

I was joking re ageism. In any case, if that’s someone’s preference, who is anyone to judge. 

I can’t disagree with you, I’ve had fun on here and I guess I am a ‘lucky one’. For me, at least, there is something uncomfortable about assumptions in general.