I am starting this topic from a different angle to another topic called uninvited whispers
Continuously whispering when not invited is plain bad and ignorant and there is no place for them in chatrooms. Also whispering in a room that states no whispering is also not on.
But they are there for a reason - a person wants to say something without the others in the room reading it.
Before I whisper I read that persons profile
If the profile says that they don't want whispers - I don't.
If the profile dosn't - then I always ask myself
1. do I ask that person if I can whisper and send the message to everyone
or 2. do I whisper the words "please can I whisper?"
I prefer the second because if I did the first way I might look a perve (we all are). Alot of us are shy and don't want others to know we want to whisper. However if I get a whisper or a message in open chat saying no or no reply - I don't continue.
There should be nothing wrong with ONE uninvited whisper.
Let me know what you think especially from those who try to responsibly whisper
Vell as you visit my room on server 2 on a fairly regular basis, i agree, there are sometimes good reasons for a whisper, if only ask if its ok to whisper.
But its unfortunate that sometimes when people whisper without being told they can, they get rather aggressive when they are asked not to whisper.
i never mind someone whispering me asking if thats ok, as long as they respect my answer if its a no.
Good point made well Vell, thanks
Goldsmith
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Great to be getting replies to my post some for and some against. The idea of the post was to put my view from a responsible whisperer and to ask that we arn't all tarred with the same brush.
I know there are a few that have been intimidated by whispers which haven't been controlled. But this reflects society where there are bullies in every way of life. Those that do bully must be removed and those that don't think or are ignorant must be shown the error of there ways.
fabio thanks for your reply - but if you read my post again and for further clarification if there is a misunderstanding -
if the chatroom says "no whispers" or "ask before you whisper" then there must be no uninvited whispers.
Also if a person profile states "no whispers" then whatever room it is - no whispers should be directed to that person.
However there are the other rooms with no rules and this is where the poll and post was directed at to introduce a protocol for polite whispering.
This should mean that if you are inundated with whispers and there is a protocol you can report that person for not following it if they are not following it, you can put on your profile *no whispers" and I believe there is a tool in the chatroom that prevents whispers. But selecting that might mean that you don't meet a person who is genuine and too shy to tell you in pubic what he or she thinks.
Please try to look at it from my side - as I have tried to look at yours. If a room to discusses whispers please refer them to this page
vellvell
Yep a PM is an alternative way of doing it - like I said, I wasn't advocating a rule change, just giving an example of why someone might want to whisper first rather than asking in open chat.
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i'm a single girl and get loads of uninvited whispers and sometimes i just turn pc off as it is stress , look at it from this veiw ,,,,, in chat ur chatting to friends u always talk to and someone whispers u , this takes the text up a row so when like me u get 3 4 or 5 in a row u have then lost the conversation u was having and have to say no to all them , then people u were talking to think u are not responding and u spent the next 10 - 15 mins playing catch up ,
now from my point this is too much over and over again so its not just cause its rude it stop u chatin and doing ur thing so if i get them , i tend to ignore them , if they go on i cut n paste them and so on . it say on my profile to ask and i usually say yes unless its a bad time to get caught up in them ,this is my veiw and hope it helps a little to understand how stressfull uninvited whispers get over and over again ...
thanks , welshdish
whilst i agree with the bulk of original poster is there not an option toturn off whispers and if someone is polite enough to ask then put them back on again and only reply to that individual as a couple but mainly me on cam or in room(fem) the one thing that pisses me off is phone numbers, ring me, hear me cum, this that and the other get a life i am currently looking for my first bi fem experience and because of persistant pesters most genuine females dont speak up or even come into rooms any more for the fear of us not being a genuine couple and just a male posing as such
yes the option is in the tools menu located at the top right of the chat text window along with enable sounds etc
it does my head in when people whisper without asking and getting permission.
and to be honest it really grates when someone whispers asking can they whisper?? you thick fooking twat is what i think, i wont even respond, by whispering can you whisper you have defeated the question.
to be honest most whispers are not required, especially at initial stages, small talk is nicer to start with, not personal info that can only be exchanged in private.
how hard is it to ask someone if you can whisper them?
i tend to say no anyhow as the min you go into whisper and discover they have nothing intresting to say they think they have the right to forever whisper you.
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Great replies to my original post.
Dirtygirly did mention in her reply that uninvited whispers were against the rules and I can't argue against that because I have agreed to them
Persistent whispering seems to be the bane of some posters. Perhaps SW needs to provide an option in members profiles to turn off whispers for those that don't want to receive them. I hope any further posts will support this together any other views.
vellvell
i take it you havnt been in chat for the last few weeks lol since we changed to 5 cams the option to block all whispers was added as well ... just a shame that people on your friends list cannt have an automatic enable whisper option as well but hey ho its an improvement all the same
