Forgive me if this is a tedious subject discussed many times before but I am just wondering about the signal or in some cases lack of it.
I have always subscribed to the "no signal, no go" rule which i would like to think was out of observance to etiquette. However, if I am brutally honest it also has something to do with cowardice.
Anyway, a couple I met recently through other means said that they never give a signal as it spoils it for them and that they prefer the men/couples to be bold enough to make the move. I have spoken to a few others since and found that this response was not unique.
Needless to say I am in a quandry and I would be obliged of the views of the couples on the board. Is approaching without a signal rude and invasive or is it a turn on for some and is there indeed an accepted rule on this matter.
Joe
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Have you read this, Joe?
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/30801.html
Mal
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Mal
Hi Joe,
As we have met you know our view on the subject but for those who don't this is it.
We don't signal for what we consider to be a very good reason.
If we were to signal guys would then approach our car. No problem in that. The problem arises when the guy approaches if Sue doesn't take to him. It would just come across that we are messing guys about if Sue then decides not to "play".
We are well aware that most couples don't feel this way and we respect that.
All we can say is sorry to guys if we don't give them any hints that we are available to be approached but really do feel that this is prefarable to them approaching us and messing them about.
We find that most guys will get the message that we are available to be approached if we don't move off when they park up near us. By near we don't mean on top of us.
As we have met you know our view on the subject but for those who don't this is it.
We don't signal for what we consider to be a very good reason.
If we were to signal guys would then approach our car. No problem in that. The problem arises when the guy approaches if Sue doesn't take to him. It would just come across that we are messing guys about if Sue then decides not to "play".
We are well aware that most couples don't feel this way and we respect that.
All we can say is sorry to guys if we don't give them any hints that we are available to be approached but really do feel that this is prefarable to them approaching us and messing them about.
We find that most guys will get the message that we are available to be approached if we don't move off when they park up near us. By near we don't mean on top of us.
As I am local, I wondered if Pete and Sue could PM me and let me know where abouts they go. Due to the lack of action in Warrington I am now venturing further afield - Leigh/Wigan most recently, but I am now happy to go further in my quest for activity.
I know many couples prefer to just turn up and see how it goes rather than pre-arrange things, and I understand why. All I want is to turn up in places where there is a faint glimmer of a chance that something will happen, rather than times and dates!!!
Any help would be much appreciated!
I know many couples prefer to just turn up and see how it goes rather than pre-arrange things, and I understand why. All I want is to turn up in places where there is a faint glimmer of a chance that something will happen, rather than times and dates!!!
Any help would be much appreciated!
if we signalled in the bristol area the carpark would sink
under the weight of doggers rushing over
its ok to come over but if nothing happens in a few mins then walk on.
the big no-no is to make it so obviouse you atract others or tap the window
if a couple wants to speak or arange a meet up the road they will drop the window if not its time to move on.
happy hunting
ps
be discreate but make sure they have seen you
it may save you a slap or two
under the weight of doggers rushing over
its ok to come over but if nothing happens in a few mins then walk on.
the big no-no is to make it so obviouse you atract others or tap the window
if a couple wants to speak or arange a meet up the road they will drop the window if not its time to move on.
happy hunting
ps
be discreate but make sure they have seen you
it may save you a slap or two
You could always do what a local "dogger" does....he parks up outside the car park and then jogs about...if he sees a car with a couple in he jogs around it, and around it, and around it....then stops and bends down to "do his laces up"...while staring through the window....it's quite hilarious to watch....with his little bandy legs pumping away...so far I've seen him get threatened with a thumping twice, and have the car door opened just as he jogged around it for the umpeenth time...and knocked him arse about face...
