I know how you feel! I have asking for people to PM me with any other sites around the Kent area for ages but never get any replies. :cry:
I totally agree with the good lady above and sorry to reiterate the point but the link below should take you to a thread over in the Let's meet up forum which is intended to give us blokes some help and advice when posting on this site and also how to improve our chances.
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/20451.html
Anyway have fun and all the best :thumbup: