A question for all doggers whether you're single or a couple.
Is it unreasonable to expect a single guy to stay and watch if an attractive couple start to play ?
We're an experienced couple and without wishing to sound big headed or bias my wife is an exceptionally attractive woman , whenever we go out whether it's just shopping or for a drink she always gets second glances off both men and women , as I said it's not big headed but I am very proud of this of the reasons I like dogging is that I get a huge kick out of playing with my wife knowing the guy is outside the car seeing an attractive woman having fun and wishing he could join in , very often if they're polite clean and reasonably attractive they do get to have some fun.
The reason for my question is that we went out last night on a spur of the moment so didn't have time to arrange a meet as we normally do, we went to a spot not advertised as a dogging spot but we know it happens frequently there. we weren't in the mood to make polite conversation we just wanted to pull up start having fun , put the light on so any spectators could have a good view and if they fitted the above description then they could possibly join in.
When we got there a car was there so we pulled in behind , he turned his brake lights on and off a few times and I did the same to signal and we started having some fun and turned the interior light on , after about 5 mins he still hadn't got out of the car so I flashed lights again , after a few more minutes he drove off , we moved spots and this scenario repeated itself another twice before we got really pissed off and went wife really took this hard and assumed they didn't think she was attractive enough for them to watch.I'm pretty angry that people who claim to be desperate for some fun should make her feel this way , are there so many attractive dogging couples around that single guys can afford to be choosy ? I managed to re-assure her that unless they had come right to the car there's no way they could have even seen if they fancied her or not because it was dark , the windows were very steamy and we were parked at least 30 feet from each car ( we never pull right up next to them). And as i said don't want to sound big headed but I would find it amazing if they saw her and didn't want to watch.
I can only assume they were just looking for men only or because of the fact we pulled in and started playing immediately and made it clear what we were doing they may have thought it was a police trap , other than that they may be really inexperienced and didn't know what to do but they all gave the usual signs , one guy even drove past at walking pace , turned at the top of the lay by came past again (while I was leaning over her with my head down below with the light on), and he still drove out , if we weren't making it obvious what we wanted then I don't know what else we could do.
Apologies for the length of this post but wanted to give you a clear view of what happened. It would be interesting to hear guys views and if other couples have experienced anything similar.
So please single guys , next time you get pissed off at the lack of action please remember couples go through it too. Happy new year to all
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I'm not sure if it was a single guy in the car as your post switches between the singular and plural - 'they' and 'he'.
However, if it was a single guy, perhaps he was gay? The brake light thing seems to be a sign that gay guys use a lot - it's like that scene from Close Encounters when they try and communicate with the aliens sometimes in the carparks I visit, with brake, reverse, fog lights flashing etc etc
I've also been in a carpark at 4am in the summer when 3 couples were trying to attract the attention of any of the 8-10 blokes they were there but the guys were more interested in one another LOL
If it was a couple I'd suggest that it likely has far less to do with how attractive your wife is and far more to do with the context in which they were playing - maybe, like you they just wanted to go out and be watched and couldn't be arsed getting out of the car? After all - it was minus 4 where I was last night
If you view who watches (and I'm not saying you do) you and your wife as a measure of how attractive she is and say it has/had a negative effect on her if she doesn't get watched, then I'd question if Dogging is really the sport for you.
Interesting post though :thumbup:
However, if it was a single guy, perhaps he was gay? The brake light thing seems to be a sign that gay guys use a lot - it's like that scene from Close Encounters when they try and communicate with the aliens sometimes in the carparks I visit, with brake, reverse, fog lights flashing etc etc
I've also been in a carpark at 4am in the summer when 3 couples were trying to attract the attention of any of the 8-10 blokes they were there but the guys were more interested in one another LOLIf it was a couple I'd suggest that it likely has far less to do with how attractive your wife is and far more to do with the context in which they were playing - maybe, like you they just wanted to go out and be watched and couldn't be arsed getting out of the car? After all - it was minus 4 where I was last night
If you view who watches (and I'm not saying you do) you and your wife as a measure of how attractive she is and say it has/had a negative effect on her if she doesn't get watched, then I'd question if Dogging is really the sport for you.
Interesting post though :thumbup:
That was good wife is safe in the knowledge that she is extremely too up here in the North have similar problems but as naive as it sounds I never considered the gay recently were out and the guy across from us was watching and when she looked in his direction his engine started and he was gone.I immediately checked to see if her teeth had fallen out or gone black I then started to think of the beauty is in the eye of the beholder scenario so I fully understand the again if you are in Yorkshire or we in Wales put us to the top of your
One of the problems round here is the boy racers who like to flash their ligths to attract people over, and then take the piss or drive off at high speed.
You have to be very careful who is in the other car before walking over and having a look.
Shame you had the problems but its not your wifes fault looking at the photos.
If you were closer you won't be able to keep me away.
Good Luck
S
You have to be very careful who is in the other car before walking over and having a look.
Shame you had the problems but its not your wifes fault looking at the photos.
If you were closer you won't be able to keep me away.
Good Luck
S
Sexpert
i agree with the above.
If anyone flashed their headlights i would definately not get out the car and go over. flashing headlights is normally a sure sign of boy racers. The only signs that most of the regular doggers around derby use and respond to are either brake lights or internal lights.
Lots of reasons why maybe they/he/she didnt come over to you, but i would suggest keep trying
If anyone flashed their headlights i would definately not get out the car and go over. flashing headlights is normally a sure sign of boy racers. The only signs that most of the regular doggers around derby use and respond to are either brake lights or internal lights.
Lots of reasons why maybe they/he/she didnt come over to you, but i would suggest keep trying
I would say remember there are all types using dogging locations: gay, straight, bi and tranny. It's quite possible that your wife was just not in the desireed category of the guys you met. You might have encountered a guy looking for another guy or for a tranny.
I agree that the breaklight flashing thing tends to be a gay signal but is not exclusively so. You can never be sure. But folk looking for sex generally tend to be cautious about light flashing, do it intermittently and not too frequently. Boy racers who may wanna make fun of you, or even throw rocks at your car which sometimes happens, tend to flash lights vigorously and frequently, often including headlights. That kind of behaviour is likely to scare guys off, unless they're complete novices.
What works well, if you're feeling adventurous, is to put on your internal light for a short time while showing a bit of naked boob. That soon sorts out the straights from the gays.
Good luck with it.
I agree that the breaklight flashing thing tends to be a gay signal but is not exclusively so. You can never be sure. But folk looking for sex generally tend to be cautious about light flashing, do it intermittently and not too frequently. Boy racers who may wanna make fun of you, or even throw rocks at your car which sometimes happens, tend to flash lights vigorously and frequently, often including headlights. That kind of behaviour is likely to scare guys off, unless they're complete novices.
What works well, if you're feeling adventurous, is to put on your internal light for a short time while showing a bit of naked boob. That soon sorts out the straights from the gays.
Good luck with it.
Warming the Bed
not sure about your wifes looks i think you should bring her to bristol for a full review lol
as everyone has said light flashing is difficult lots think its kids or newbie singles.
dont be put off there are shed loads of doggers that would sit there and freeze waiting to see you guys
as everyone has said light flashing is difficult lots think its kids or newbie singles.
dont be put off there are shed loads of doggers that would sit there and freeze waiting to see you guys
Quote by Westfield4if u ever get our way be shure to let us know we will if we venture down ur way too
One of the problems round here is the boy racers who like to flash their ligths to attract people over, and then take the piss or drive off at high speed.
You have to be very careful who is in the other car before walking over and having a look.
Shame you had the problems but its not your wifes fault looking at the photos.
If you were closer you won't be able to keep me away.
Good Luck
S
Sex God
Dont get tense about it guys. The gay thing does happen, but usually they dont get that close to the car once they detect pussy.
We have whinged in a similar way in the early days we were dogging, and realised that everyone has different expectations from their evening. Weve been told we always give a great show, but thats all we do so some doggers get fed up quite quickly when Silky doesnt jump out of the car and blow the whole carpark. What we tended to do- after she got offended the first few times with guys walking off- was that I got out of the car and made it clear to the guys they were welcome to watch and play , but thats all it was gonna be.
Those waiting for an unlikely ganbang usually didnt bother approaching then.
We have whinged in a similar way in the early days we were dogging, and realised that everyone has different expectations from their evening. Weve been told we always give a great show, but thats all we do so some doggers get fed up quite quickly when Silky doesnt jump out of the car and blow the whole carpark. What we tended to do- after she got offended the first few times with guys walking off- was that I got out of the car and made it clear to the guys they were welcome to watch and play , but thats all it was gonna be.
Those waiting for an unlikely ganbang usually didnt bother approaching then.
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Dont get tense about it guys. The gay thing does happen, but usually they dont get that close to the car once they detect pussy.
That depends on whether they like the guy !
You could have had a dozen guys "playing" outside and still have nobody appreciating the woman.... !
Then again, experienced doggers will take only a few seconds to size-up the situation. If the woman is just going through the motions they will be away pretty fast....it's "hard" enough getting "hard" in this weather anyway, without getting that "why doesn't he come and go away" feeling !
Sex God
Hehehe yeah you have some points J . Maybe its my hetero neon sign that is doing it !
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