he has asked me if i will go and start the action with his wife and he would watch but not make his self known.
he wants me to do this and his wife to but im not sure any help on this

Quote by Chaotic_Spirit
just make sure all parties agree and are happy to go along with it, otherwise you can end up in a very strange situatiion, and it's not worth ending your friendship over. Any doubt from anyone i wouldn't advise it, other wise get stuck in and have some fun!