Just wondering if anyone ever gets a reply on here??
I have sent loads and loads of emails to people that are asking for meets and never get a single reply...
The only replies i've had are when i send winks( which i only do when i'm in a rush)???
Sad Scott :0(
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Warming the Bed
Good shout... I have sent out a number of messages this week, all read and not one reply..... Must be a problem with the site because I am gods gift!
Seriously.... 10 couples cant all be ignorant enough not to even say thanks but no thanks....or could they????? Hmmm. Shame... fantastic Hotel room in central London going spare for 4weeks.
Seriously.... 10 couples cant all be ignorant enough not to even say thanks but no thanks....or could they????? Hmmm. Shame... fantastic Hotel room in central London going spare for 4weeks.
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Quote by Alpinestars
Just wondering if anyone ever gets a reply on here??
I have sent loads and loads of emails to people that are asking for meets and never get a single reply...
The only replies i've had are when i send winks( which i only do when i'm in a rush)???
Sad Scott :0(
It could be due to several reasons:
No picture on your profile - most people think that's very important before they agree to meet. I'm sure you'll have good reasons why you haven't got a face pic in public, but no excuse to not have one without your face to give them an idea of what you're like (but not necessarily a cockshot!!!!!).
Two line profile. That's your sale room, your opportunity to 'sell' yourself. Nobody who reads an advert which says "car for sale, blue, £4,000" will think that's enough info to tempt them to buy it, so in the same vein, people wont contact you if you can't be bothered to give them a reason to do so.
Forum posts. You've only posted a dozen, which in itself isn't a block on people contacting you (less is more, some say!), however a lot of them are a bit negative and moans about not meeting anyone. If you are going to post, try and make them more interesting or upbeat to make others think you may be able to hold a conversation.
Oh, and your forum posts mention you were 31 in Jan 2010, but your profile shows you as 34??
These are suggestions that may or may not help. I'm sure you'll find many people get responses and many don't. Have a think about the type of profile you reply to and why and you may answer your own question!
Mal
Must say, Mal has that exactly right....
We get lots of"unsolicited" messages from guys, first thing we do is check the profile. When we do so, the first thing we look for is a photo. Next we look for an interesting self portrait in text form. Then we look for any "discrepancies" ie. age as described, sexuality stated as "straight" but requesting meetings with bi-guys or TV's, status down as single, then mentions of a partner etc. etc.
We don't judge, for instance if a guy is actually married, but playing away, that is his business, BUT, as soon as he tries to hide the fact, it points to him being decietful which does not encourage us to meet him.
As to replying with a "thanks but no thanks", why should we? If a guy can't be bothered to construct a decent profile, or fills it full of bull, we don't see why we should expend any effort. In our case, not only would we delete the message, but set his profile to "ignore" at the same time.
There are LOTS of guys on here, chasing a tiny number (relativly) of women who actually play. The onus is on you guys!
Oh! As a final note, guys who whine about not getting meets DO NOT come over as horny!
We get lots of"unsolicited" messages from guys, first thing we do is check the profile. When we do so, the first thing we look for is a photo. Next we look for an interesting self portrait in text form. Then we look for any "discrepancies" ie. age as described, sexuality stated as "straight" but requesting meetings with bi-guys or TV's, status down as single, then mentions of a partner etc. etc.
We don't judge, for instance if a guy is actually married, but playing away, that is his business, BUT, as soon as he tries to hide the fact, it points to him being decietful which does not encourage us to meet him.
As to replying with a "thanks but no thanks", why should we? If a guy can't be bothered to construct a decent profile, or fills it full of bull, we don't see why we should expend any effort. In our case, not only would we delete the message, but set his profile to "ignore" at the same time.
There are LOTS of guys on here, chasing a tiny number (relativly) of women who actually play. The onus is on you guys!
Oh! As a final note, guys who whine about not getting meets DO NOT come over as horny!
In my sorry defence...
In Jan 2010 i was 32 now 34...
I always reply to ad's that are asking for a spur of the moment meet and Always provide pics of myself in the reply...
Correct me if i am wrong but , usually when i go out dogging the couple's never ask me my name or age or any questions for that matter...they just want some fun.
Still confused as to why people ask for a 'meet today' and don't reply , when i have provided all the info they need and i am very nice lad !!
Reason for no profile pics is that i know people that have accounts on h
In Jan 2010 i was 32 now 34...
I always reply to ad's that are asking for a spur of the moment meet and Always provide pics of myself in the reply...
Correct me if i am wrong but , usually when i go out dogging the couple's never ask me my name or age or any questions for that matter...they just want some fun.
Still confused as to why people ask for a 'meet today' and don't reply , when i have provided all the info they need and i am very nice lad !!
Reason for no profile pics is that i know people that have accounts on h
There are private galleries for pics....Indeed you use one as an Avatar in this very forum. Your profile is pathetic....were you to message us, we would delete and block you, no question.
However, we can only offer our opinion as a couple (although I am the female, and it was my idea to respond) which is entirely "as we see it." As you obviously feel you are doing it right, then it must be us that is wrong and your lack of response is simply pure bad luck!
Your membership, your choice, no question.
However, we can only offer our opinion as a couple (although I am the female, and it was my idea to respond) which is entirely "as we see it." As you obviously feel you are doing it right, then it must be us that is wrong and your lack of response is simply pure bad luck!
Your membership, your choice, no question.
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Quote by Alpinestars
In my sorry defence...
In Jan 2010 i was 32 now 34...
I always reply to ad's that are asking for a spur of the moment meet and Always provide pics of myself in the reply...
Correct me if i am wrong but , usually when i go out dogging the couple's never ask me my name or age or any questions for that matter...they just want some fun.
Still confused as to why people ask for a 'meet today' and don't reply , when i have provided all the info they need and i am very nice lad !!
Reason for no profile pics is that i know people that have accounts on h
I think that's half your problem, Alpine, you are becoming defensive and cannot understand why people have opinions other than your own. For instance, you have just mentioned that in Jan 2010 you were 32, now 34. Ok, but you posted twice in January 2010 and both times you say you are 30
I am 30 y/o straight male
Good looking , 30y/o
As for correcting what you say you have experienced - impossible to do and quite frankly it matters not a jot.
To quote some clever dick who I can't fully recall -
"If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you always got."
You've had a couple of opinions, it's entirely up to you what you do with those opinions and I'm sure neither Dipper or myself will lose any sleep over it.
all the best
Mal
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Quote by Alpinestars
Reason for no profile pics is that i know people that have accounts on h
Why not have profile pics that show your body shape,unless the people that you know on sh can spot you amongst the other thousands of single guys by just your body, then I am sure you ll be safe.
Most couples on here have the ball at their feet regarding meets with single guys/females or indeed other couples ,so you have to stand out so that they will want to meet you.
Just because you say you are a nice lad is not really a reason that females etc will want to drop everything and meet you.
Try going into chat and letting people see that you have a personality ,good manners and above all a sense of humour.
Then maybe try and get along to some socials or munches in your area or even further afield.
You get out of Sh exactly what you put into it and personally I have made some great friends off of here who will remain friends for life.
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To quote some clever dick who I can't fully recall -
"If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you always got."
I believe it is Jaquards Law, also known as the law of requisite variety. has its route in Deemings quality management principles where it was applied to manufacturing processes and has been hijacked by the Neuro Linguistic fraternity as a communications and self improvement mantra.
Warming the Bed
The initial question here was about lack of a reply not about lack of success (although one does obviously follow the other in that respect!)
I do get invites to meet from gay guys and TVs... Not My bag, but my manners will always ensure a reply... thanks but no thanks... they made the effort to message me I can return it.
I honestly think any couple who bars a guy because he dared to send a message (hopefully not offensive)are wrong to do so.
The response to my messages on other sites is much higher..
I do get invites to meet from gay guys and TVs... Not My bag, but my manners will always ensure a reply... thanks but no thanks... they made the effort to message me I can return it.
I honestly think any couple who bars a guy because he dared to send a message (hopefully not offensive)are wrong to do so.
The response to my messages on other sites is much higher..
We did not say he would be barred because he sent a message. What we said was a user WITH A BLANK, NEARLY BLANK or DECEPTIVE profile would get barred bu us, not the site. It's a simple premiss.....if he can't be bothered, why should we?
As to replying......some days we can get so many speculative messages from guys, that it would take an hour or two to reply to all of them. We find that life (that is REAL life, that happens away from this site) takes precedence for us. That may not be the case for everyone, but each to their own.
As for gay and bi-guys messaging you. If your profile clearly states you are straight, then surely, they are taking liberties. Replying to them, even to say "no" just encourages them to try it on all the more!
As to replying......some days we can get so many speculative messages from guys, that it would take an hour or two to reply to all of them. We find that life (that is REAL life, that happens away from this site) takes precedence for us. That may not be the case for everyone, but each to their own.
As for gay and bi-guys messaging you. If your profile clearly states you are straight, then surely, they are taking liberties. Replying to them, even to say "no" just encourages them to try it on all the more!
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Quote by Tonedrebel7
Never had a reply either mate, starting to think this is a bit of a scam! :-(
Not surprised u've not had a reply either!!
Yet another crap profile with no thought put into it.
Warming the Bed
Would imagine you do get inundated, but you would always get a reply from me Dipper!
Guess I need to change the profile pics and stretch the truth(or something!) a little.
Guess I need to change the profile pics and stretch the truth(or something!) a little.
Warming the Bed
Oh dear...... There was a little inuendo in there somewhere but I guess the joke got lost in all the SERIOUSNESS! so much for the advice to be yourself and show some humour... this is a couples site for local couples! Will stick to the dogging...
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Quote by warthog2306
nice to see someone raising the tone with one of the most erudite posts I have seen on here.
Erudite, is that a euphemism?
No, this is!!!
What??
You say euphenism, I say euphonium :grin:
Mal
:wink:
My God! You do take yourself very seriously don't you? You are one of THOUSANDS of single guys on this site, which by the way is far from being a couples site and certainly not "local" as you put it.
Perhaps if you were a little less selfrighteous and a LOT less self pitying, you might get somewhere. Really don't know of any fem or couple that would find that desireable. It's rather like applying for a job with a CV, you have maybe three seconds to make an impression (favorable of course) before your "CV" goes in the bin with hundreds of others. You might want to read what you write and consider that, BEFORE, you click on the "post" button.
Lighten up, for heavens sake!
Perhaps if you were a little less selfrighteous and a LOT less self pitying, you might get somewhere. Really don't know of any fem or couple that would find that desireable. It's rather like applying for a job with a CV, you have maybe three seconds to make an impression (favorable of course) before your "CV" goes in the bin with hundreds of others. You might want to read what you write and consider that, BEFORE, you click on the "post" button.
Lighten up, for heavens sake!
Warming the Bed
I guess a shag is out of the question Then Dipper?
