my wife has expressed an interest in wanting to be watched while we have fun+sex.
however i have no idea how to do it , i have read the rules but how do we know if others are interested??
i like the idea of being in a safe enviroment( locked in the car) but would like her to see all the guys wanking off as well.
i am in hampshire, where is the ebst place , for first timers as i understand some places can get a bit busy and may freak her out??
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first time help!!
The wanking issue WAS traditionally the "dogging exchange" 
The problem being, most of the guys now getting into this game are looking for a shag, or at least a gobble..That is fair enough, plenty of that to be had too 
BUT venting a load to air is all to often seen as a waste of dogger goo these days i'm afraid :lol:
The younger fellas are usually a little embarrassed anyway, never mind the fact you are shagging yer missus up the bum with five onlookers :shock: :wink:
We sometimes suggest to them "mrs dirty gets very aroused by watching fellas play with themselves" (she does)..sometimes they do, other times they tell ya they are saving it for something more insertive :lol:
She PROBABLY will get freaked out at a busy place (most are)..in this case, it might be worth recruiting the services of some local wankers via an advert to that effect :wink: you can still make it feel spontaneous if you pen the fantasy right :wink:
The problem being, most of the guys now getting into this game are looking for a shag, or at least a gobble..That is fair enough, plenty of that to be had too BUT venting a load to air is all to often seen as a waste of dogger goo these days i'm afraid :lol:The younger fellas are usually a little embarrassed anyway, never mind the fact you are shagging yer missus up the bum with five onlookers :shock: :wink:
We sometimes suggest to them "mrs dirty gets very aroused by watching fellas play with themselves" (she does)..sometimes they do, other times they tell ya they are saving it for something more insertive :lol:
She PROBABLY will get freaked out at a busy place (most are)..in this case, it might be worth recruiting the services of some local wankers via an advert to that effect :wink: you can still make it feel spontaneous if you pen the fantasy right :wink:
Sexpert
If it is your first time, just be careful, but make it sexy.
Check out the place the day before you arrange to go there. take her there and ensure that it is a place you will both feel comfortable in and if poss make sure its a similar time than that arranged to allow you to see if police or boy racers frequent or visit.
personally i would suggest a non dogging location for any first time show
and remember...you are the couple...you make the rules...only do what ever you both are happy with..
Have fun and stay safe
(and travel to derby some time)
Check out the place the day before you arrange to go there. take her there and ensure that it is a place you will both feel comfortable in and if poss make sure its a similar time than that arranged to allow you to see if police or boy racers frequent or visit.
personally i would suggest a non dogging location for any first time show
and remember...you are the couple...you make the rules...only do what ever you both are happy with..
Have fun and stay safe
(and travel to derby some time)
Warming the Bed
Would certainly concur with all that has been written below. All the popular sites are exactly that - very popular and can therefore be quite intimidating. We certainly don't advertise any more.
We used to live near Portsmouth and know some decent less popular sites if you want. If you PM I can let you know.
Otherwise there is always xxxxxxxxxxx but expect a crowd!
Enjoy, its great fun!!
Mods Edit - Please keep specific locations to private messages rather than on the open forums, or these places end up with even larger crowds.
We used to live near Portsmouth and know some decent less popular sites if you want. If you PM I can let you know.
Otherwise there is always xxxxxxxxxxx but expect a crowd!
Enjoy, its great fun!!
Mods Edit - Please keep specific locations to private messages rather than on the open forums, or these places end up with even larger crowds.
Sexpert
dont suppose there any chance of finding any single ladies wanking love to watch that ?
? ok a couple of questions
how do we know its a dogging spot?
when we get there hat do we do, just park up and start kissing and fondlening each otehr and wait for our audience?
sorry very unsure of all this stuff and dont want to scare my missus.
or piss anyone off giving them the wrong idea.
i know this is old hat to some of you but its a big deal to us.
and yeah i will update my profile, i just dont want to get hundereds of single guys PM us all the time.
hence why no pics
how do we know its a dogging spot?
when we get there hat do we do, just park up and start kissing and fondlening each otehr and wait for our audience?
sorry very unsure of all this stuff and dont want to scare my missus.
or piss anyone off giving them the wrong idea.
i know this is old hat to some of you but its a big deal to us.
and yeah i will update my profile, i just dont want to get hundereds of single guys PM us all the time.
hence why no pics
Orgasminator
Quote by look
ok a couple of questions
how do we know its a dogging spot?
when we get there hat do we do, just park up and start kissing and fondlening each otehr and wait for our audience?
sorry very unsure of all this stuff and dont want to scare my missus.
or piss anyone off giving them the wrong idea.
i know this is old hat to some of you but its a big deal to us.
and yeah i will update my profile, i just dont want to get hundereds of single guys PM us all the time.
hence why no pics
OK let's see if i can put this into perspective for you both.
Firstly you must be sure that both of you want to be at the venue in question and have already discussed what your limits are going to be.
Secondly if the venue is a country side car park / lay by / quiet lane etc, it will already be a dogging spot. I will guarantee that it has it's own dogging fraternity some of which will be in your face doggers whilst others will hide in the bushes just out of site waiting to catch a look at the mrs.
Thirdly there are no rules anymore, light flashing means nothing these days. So i would play with the mrs without giving any kind of signal and let the real doggers move in, they like this as much as we do as it all adds to the excitement. Oh most of the time we play and don't know if there are guy's watching or not
.Guess what we are saying is just go out and do what comes natural, if you are seen great. If you are on your own there is always the element of what if and thats the whole point.
As a final point you should both have a read of previous post by Dirty Doggers and our friend Mattius, both of them will tell you like it is.
Quote by look
ok a couple of questions
how do we know its a dogging spot?
when we get there hat do we do, just park up and start kissing and fondlening each otehr and wait for our audience?
sorry very unsure of all this stuff and dont want to scare my missus.
or piss anyone off giving them the wrong idea.
i know this is old hat to some of you but its a big deal to us.
and yeah i will update my profile, i just dont want to get hundereds of single guys PM us all the time.
hence why no pics
SHAD covered it pretty comprehensively..You can't guarantee you'll not put yourselves in a situation where you may feel intimidated..Doggers acting intimidatingly, and feeling intimidated can be two different things though
..Many couples underestimate the emotions they feel when sat in a dark carpark, lights off and with advancing doggers sexually fixated upon their good lady's charms At that point, many couples leave, and because they are confused by the way they reacted, they seek to aportion blame not realising it was their own state of mind that caused them to depart :lol: They'll then post on the board saying the "Doggers approached without invite, SCARING us away"..Doggers WILL aproach without invite, some will be subtle, others not so..its part of the game and one you'll soon become acustomed too.Putting yourselves into such a situation will trigger a Pandora's box of ancestorally inherited instincts..We've got a cushy number today, such emotions seldom have need to come to our aid, and when they do, it can come as a surprise..Seldom is sitting in a dark forest whilst being approached by strange males intent on gaining pleasure from your woman a good thing, in the scheme of gene survival :lol: ..Every part of your being will conspire to get you out of that situation pronto :lol: Face it, yer gonna shit yerself, probably :lol: live with it, it's guys will have similar issues to deal with, killing them would be kinda beneficial for your gene survival too, they'll probably be bearing that in mind :lol: ..The two issues comprise the greater difficulty with newbies who often decide its easier to advertise for arranged meets via the board..It is a shame to miss out on the emotions though, its what gives dogging its fire..it's chilli pepper sauce for carpark hot-dogging :wink: Arranged is a different kinda emotion, and allows you to colour the day with mind fuck imagery of beastliness to come..its just, erm...different, but can offer an alternative to those that find the flavour in their carpark a little too unsavoury.(there are issues arising as a result of popularity and desperation).
Once you get your head around the fact it's probably quite safe (you might well feel intimidated at times, and you will encounter ridiculously pushy doggers)then you should start to read those emotions as excitement..It's no different than strapping yourself onto a rollercoaster etc..you feel the body's natural fear reaction, but your brain tells it to calm down, everything is going to be ok, probably (well, you have to have a small element of doubt :twisted: )..It's that conflict between the two that makes it a thrill :wink: If one overwhelms the other, you'll be fucked.
To keep the mystery..don't befriend too many doggers..subsequent visits will turn into a social circle (a mistake we made)..If you wish to become phsically involved at some stage, you'll need to have conversation, but until then, turn up, do your thing then fuck off fast :twisted: As SHAD said, don't fill your head with ideas about signals and stuff, too many kid racers use them to lure doggers over these days..If the fellas get too animated, just leave..The fixated shaggers will soon tire of you, then you'll have it easier (most quality couples are considered as "timewasters" by the quick shag brigade, its a title worth striving to attain)..Other couples will latch onto you..be a little cautious..some will just want to say "hello" to a likeminded pervy couple (some couples are relieved to know they aren't out on their own..it makes it more acceptable, knowing other's do it too :lol: ), but in our experience, the biggest pain in the arse in the game today are the swing couples that can't comprehend the notion of entertaining single men..Idiots are to be found aplenty in todays game, instead of getting overly wound up, just try and get "into their heads" :lol: an excersise in dogging psychology..pretty soon you'll be penning as much bollocks as i, and doggers won't approach for fear of being analysed
:lol: Most importantly...don't formulate mind images of how a night should trot out in an ideal situation..this game is best when played in the raw, live and unplugged..have your bounderies, stick with them..then go dance with the devil :wink:
What a well thought out response dirty! Are you a professor? I have to agree with your whole post, I’ve never thought about it that deeply before.
As well as pure exhibitionism, the element of danger is what a lot of people, including myself, strive to experience. Danger has been largely removed from every aspect of our lives. Even the likes of roller coasters, and theme park rides are tainted with the "you know they won't kill you" thought that makes the outwardly dangerous totally safe.
I used to race cars to find the adrenalin rush that makes me know I’m alive. But even that is now so controlled as to be not the excitement it used to be.
Your last paragraph is oh so true. The attitude of some couples on this site towards us single guys has been on occasions downright hostile! Some seem to think that as we are single and we play on this site we're all perverts and must be cheating on someone!
Just because some of us chose to not be attached for a period of time, doesn't mean that we are somehow akin to leppers. It just means we have made a different choice. Whilst I freely admit that some single guys are a pain in the arse, are bullshitters, dreamers and timewasters, it is not the case for some of us out here. Are all couples on here genuine?
I like to take people as I find them, and not condemn them until they give me reason to, and just try to do what this site should be for, and have a little fun.
Once again, well said dirty.
As well as pure exhibitionism, the element of danger is what a lot of people, including myself, strive to experience. Danger has been largely removed from every aspect of our lives. Even the likes of roller coasters, and theme park rides are tainted with the "you know they won't kill you" thought that makes the outwardly dangerous totally safe.
I used to race cars to find the adrenalin rush that makes me know I’m alive. But even that is now so controlled as to be not the excitement it used to be.
Your last paragraph is oh so true. The attitude of some couples on this site towards us single guys has been on occasions downright hostile! Some seem to think that as we are single and we play on this site we're all perverts and must be cheating on someone!
Just because some of us chose to not be attached for a period of time, doesn't mean that we are somehow akin to leppers. It just means we have made a different choice. Whilst I freely admit that some single guys are a pain in the arse, are bullshitters, dreamers and timewasters, it is not the case for some of us out here. Are all couples on here genuine?
I like to take people as I find them, and not condemn them until they give me reason to, and just try to do what this site should be for, and have a little fun.
Once again, well said dirty.
