hi, im a young guy who has had very limited luck through the site. ive been 100% genuine and honest in my ad but very little luck. i know i am young and maybe not the most attractive person and my lack of experience counts against me, but least im being honest about it. i always thought that it was better to be truthful from the start. it just makes me wonder when i see other ads from guys with some pretty big claims and statements. i know there are far more single guys than couples so meets are always going to be rare but it seems people would rather go with obvious lies than genuine am i just becomming bitter and twisted that people just arent interested in me. any advice or input would be great but please no full on character assasinations.
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is honesty the best policy?
Quote by young-begginer
hi, im a young guy who has had very limited luck through the site. ive been 100% genuine and honest in my ad but very little luck. i know i am young and maybe not the most attractive person and my lack of experience counts against me, but least im being honest about it. i always thought that it was better to be truthful from the start. it just makes me wonder when i see other ads from guys with some pretty big claims and statements. i know there are far more single guys than couples so meets are always going to be rare but it seems people would rather go with obvious lies than genuine am i just becomming bitter and twisted that people just arent interested in me. any advice or input would be great but please no full on character assasinations.
OK, a few observations, you have made the big connection, as a single guy you are at a huge dissadvantage. Just do the sums and you soon realise that you are not in the top ten, no single male is. Having said that, it's not an impossible situation.
I would advise the following:
1) Invest a bit more time and effort in your profile, its the 1st thing anyone looks at and its the only thing people can judge you by. You have got to get out and sell yourself.
2) A few good pictures, but keep cock shots to a minimum.
3) Put plenty of effort into your ads, compose them in a word processor, play around with it till you are happy then cut and paste to SH.
4) Stick with the honesty thing, it realy is the best policy
Hope this helps, have fun and good luck
Forum Virgin
Quote by young-begginer
thanks to everyone so far for the advice. x
did you have any luck then?
Warming the Bed
Well you just have to be yourself! Very difficult to meet anybody off these sites, whether you are single or couples, so bear with it!! We struggle to find couples but each to their own!!
Hi,
Just want to emphasise what Sassy-Seren said.....be patient and try get to know people.
I'm at the other end of the age spectrum - I'm 59 - let's get real - what chance have I got? The majority of people on here are looking for guys somewhere between our age brackets.
I thought that I'd never get to meet and play with anyone, so just settled for chatting to people. Guess what...when they got to know me, some agreed to meet for a drink - with some of them there was a spark and I got to play with them...still do.
I've met some great people off here. You will too if you take your time and don't expect the first ones you chat to to leap straight into bed with you.
Good luck m8 and persevere.
Paddler
Just want to emphasise what Sassy-Seren said.....be patient and try get to know people.
I'm at the other end of the age spectrum - I'm 59 - let's get real - what chance have I got? The majority of people on here are looking for guys somewhere between our age brackets.
I thought that I'd never get to meet and play with anyone, so just settled for chatting to people. Guess what...when they got to know me, some agreed to meet for a drink - with some of them there was a spark and I got to play with them...still do.
I've met some great people off here. You will too if you take your time and don't expect the first ones you chat to to leap straight into bed with you.
Good luck m8 and persevere.
Paddler
There's a lot to be said for honesty.
And a lot said against it !
You obviously aren't going to put down that you suffer from excessive intestinal methane generation.
Or that you have a body odour problem under stress.
Putting down that you possess a male reproductive organ of sufficiently large size that it can be used as a flagpole if needed, MAY influence some, probably those of same-sex interest.
However, you should think carefully before stating that your height is under 60 inches, better still, just state that you are smaller than metres....nobody has tape measures at hand when needed !
Get the drift ?
And a lot said against it !
You obviously aren't going to put down that you suffer from excessive intestinal methane generation.
Or that you have a body odour problem under stress.
Putting down that you possess a male reproductive organ of sufficiently large size that it can be used as a flagpole if needed, MAY influence some, probably those of same-sex interest.
However, you should think carefully before stating that your height is under 60 inches, better still, just state that you are smaller than metres....nobody has tape measures at hand when needed !
Get the drift ?
Warming the Bed
this site is a total waste of time mate ..all the free sites are..join a pay site where less timewasters and drunk ppl in fantisy land hang out. go to specialist clubs in london and you ll score every time ..good luck.
Quote by carling
this site is a total waste of time mate ..all the free sites are..join a pay site where less timewasters and drunk ppl in fantisy land hang out. go to specialist clubs in london and you ll score every time ..good luck.
This site may not be of use to you - but it is to 1000's of others, attitude seems to be the key.
And for your information this isn't a free site unless you joined before last December.
Sex God
Quote by carling
go to specialist clubs in london and you ll score every time ..good luck.
Sexpert
well being young and single aint easy be better if you found a fem your age that would join you to youto swingwith others....... the single side of swinging for male vaternity can be rather tedious goodluck 
Quote by alanrachel2000
hiya
young begginer
your 168 miles from us put the petrol in your car drive up here one sat night join us at our local club!!!!!
not offering a shag or owt but a good night out gauranteed ............ and who knows wot may happen..
alan rach xxx
What a lovely post! I hope you all have a great time.
:thumbup:
Sexpert
Indeed - there is an offer! Good on ya allenrachel2000 - the rest is up to you young 
If you do take alan and rach up on their offer, you're in for one fun night! :thumbup: They're a lovely, friendly couple to chat to though I'm yet to meet up with them socially, I can't wait :happy: ( if only to get my grubby paws on the sexy Rach :twisted: )
Have fun
Sassy ( still waiting for that truck to make it to the Wales' )
Have fun
Sassy ( still waiting for that truck to make it to the Wales' )
Quote by carling
this site is a total waste of time mate ..all the free sites are..join a pay site where less timewasters and drunk ppl in fantisy land hang out. go to specialist clubs in london and you ll score every time ..good luck.
Ah...............So thats where I'm going wrong....
Many thanks......... oh wise one
:roll: Quote by carling
this site is a total waste of time mate ..all the free sites are..join a pay site where less timewasters and drunk ppl in fantisy land hang out. go to specialist clubs in london and you ll score every time ..good luck.
Well its been ok for me, I have met some wonderful people, including my partner on this site. IMHO its probably the best site. But there ya go, each to their own.
Quote by carling
this site is a total waste of time mate ..all the free sites are..join a pay site where less timewasters and drunk ppl in fantisy land hang out. go to specialist clubs in london and you ll score every time ..good luck.
There are specialist clubs in London for dogging??
Why was I not told this dammit??
Isn't this a pay site now ?
Dohh !
Pray tell, where are the dogging clubs in London ?
I've googled my pc to a near-death situation trying to discover one....got the "pug dog" club....or the Australian dog club of Canada (?) (in London ?)....but cannot find a "dogging" club......
Methinks you've been at the over-75% proof stuff too much !
Dohh !
Pray tell, where are the dogging clubs in London ?
I've googled my pc to a near-death situation trying to discover one....got the "pug dog" club....or the Australian dog club of Canada (?) (in London ?)....but cannot find a "dogging" club......
Methinks you've been at the over-75% proof stuff too much !
Ahh, but he doesn't say they are SEX clubs......maybe he thinks we should go to nal FOOTBALL club ?
Some say they score every time there....and we all know about roasting....maybe that's where HE goes to score ?
Anybody else got any clubs than sex ones ?
Some say they score every time there....and we all know about roasting....maybe that's where HE goes to score ?
Anybody else got any clubs than sex ones ?
Quote by carling
this site is a total waste of time mate ..all the free sites are..join a pay site where less timewasters and drunk ppl in fantisy land hang out. go to specialist clubs in london and you ll score every time ..good luck.
sorry been away for a while but im back and i was amazed at the response to the post. thanks to everyone for taking the time to reply and for all the good advice. and alan and rachel thanks for the offer if its genuine then i may have to take you up on the offer. thanks again to you all you have really given me hope and proved that there are kind and friendly people on the site. thanks xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
