Joining in?!?

26 Nov 2005

My and my girlfriend have been doggin over a month now and we have toyed with the idea of someone joinin in. people who have watched us have asked if they could touch her but i shook my head as we are still kinda new to this.
I would like to know if you have let another man touch your girl and if it changed things?
I dont mean she's gonna go suck off strangers or anythin, just maybe when she is givin me head or im givin her head she can wank them.
I dont want it to change things i.e i start finding it hard to kiss her after what she has done with someone else etc.
Cheer's R+H

26 Nov 2005

Quote by _dog_
My and my girlfriend have been doggin over a month now and we have toyed with the idea of someone joinin in. people who have watched us have asked if they could touch her but i shook my head as we are still kinda new to this.
I would like to know if you have let another man touch your girl and if it changed things?
I dont mean she's gonna go suck off strangers or anythin, just maybe when she is givin me head or im givin her head she can wank them.
I dont want it to change things i.e i start finding it hard to kiss her after what she has done with someone else etc.
Cheer's R+H

Who suggested letting someone join in? you need to both want it for it to work and you sound like you don't really like the idea much tbh confused

26 Nov 2005

I cant coment from the blokes side of things but the one thing I would say is dont do it unless you are both 100% sure you want to do it.
There is nothing wrong with being a couple who just shows, and a lot of the 'genuine' doggers want couples who show. At the end of the day, that is what dogging started out as but with the publicity it has received it as now become more related to 'outdoor' swinging. Nothing wrong with outdoor swinging but dont feel pressured into doing anything that you dont feel comfortable with.
And remember, there is no rush. You havent been doing this very long, why not wait and see how you feel in a few months time.
Good luck to you both whatever you decide.

26 Nov 2005

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
And remember, there is no rush. You havent been doing this very long, why not wait and see how you feel in a few months time.

Yep, what Mr Wiggy said! biggrin

26 Nov 2005

We have talked about it together and both got really turned on by the thought. on wednesday while we were fucking i passed her a dildo (called 'dilly') and she started sucking it and this really turned me on! I know its not the same as a real person but it got me going.

26 Nov 2005

Quote by _dog_
We have talked about it together and both got really turned on by the thought. on wednesday while we were fucking i passed her a dildo (called 'dilly') and she started sucking it and this really turned me on! I know its not the same as a real person but it got me going.

seems tto me you guys arnt really ready to go this far yet so i would agree with the others and wait a while it has GOT to be something you both agree on wink

26 Nov 2005

Quote by Serendipity
And remember, there is no rush. You havent been doing this very long, why not wait and see how you feel in a few months time.

Yep, what Mr Wiggy said! biggrin

Excuse Me, with my Chest I am definately not MR Wiggy, its me MRS Wiggy!!! lol

:giggle:
Just edited previous post cause realised I was saying it from a mans point of view redface

26 Nov 2005

I agree with the others. Don't be pressurised into going any further than you, as a couple want to go.
And sucking on a piece of plastic is not the same thing at all. Many relationships have hit the rocks due to jealousy.
Having said that, my experiences of progressing.
We had watched a DVD about dogging, and Lissa fancied a try.
So off we set, eventually finding a site that was actually in use.
We put on a show that night, windows up and without interacting with the viewers.
Next time was the same.
Third time, Lissa asked me to wind the window down a little, and allowed them to touch her.
Fourth time,window down, and mutual touching and wanking.
Fifth time, opened the door and Lissa was given oral. She then moved to the back seat for more oral, blow jobs and a bit of shagging.
Pretty much the same as that, any time we have been since.
So how did I feel? Elated!
But I had watched previous partners getting it on with guys. I know it is only a bit of fun and a large bit of pleasure. And remember it favours the girl. So many hands and ,if you go that far,cocks for her to enjoy.
Are you sure you could handle it? If you're not, keep the windows closed, relish the attention you are getting, and fantasise about what might have been when you get home.

26 Nov 2005

I think if your not sure, your not ready.
Its all very well having a piece of plastic / rubber in your girlies mouth.
Imagine it was another blokes throbbing hard cock, would it still be the same.
Just a thought
Sorry to be graphic :shock: I needed to to illustrate my point.

26 Nov 2005

Quote by halfofacouple
Third time, Lissa asked me to wind the window down a little, and allowed them to touch her.

well it would be our 3rd now, we have done it on the bonnet and given oral while some guy stood next to us and masterbated as well as with the windows down and a guy rite beside us. I suppose if its safe we will just do as our mood wants us too.

26 Nov 2005

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Excuse Me, with my Chest I am definately not MR Wiggy, its me MRS Wiggy!!! :giggle:
Just edited previous post cause realised I was saying it from a mans point of view

Consider yourself renamed Mrs Blonde Wiggy now!! :grin: (just don't tell Blonde ok?)
HalfofaCouple is right about the jealousy, you definitely need to take very slow steps into it - I guess the ideal situation would probably be with just one dogger present who won't be offended if you ask your girlfriend to stop touching him (disappointed but not offended! wink

26 Nov 2005

when we have dogged its allways been the same guy that has watched. he is very polite and 'asks' if he can touch and at the end of it all he thanks us and wishes us a safe jorney home. We are yet to expirience what its like to have an audience more than 1 person. :shock: :shock: :shock: passionkiss

:shock: :shock:

26 Nov 2005

what a nice chap was his name harry and did he arrive on a bike biggrin

26 Nov 2005

dunno i will ask him nextime dunno

lol

26 Nov 2005

Quote by _dog_
dunno i will ask him nextime lol

Dont worry _dog_ cause Markz was just having a bit of a joke there with you. He was referring to Harry Jones who lives, I mean posts, in the forums very often! A very nice chap who sometimes goes dogging on his bike lol

Good luck to you and remember only do what you want, and even though the bloke you meet might be nice, you might not feel the same about him if the big greened eyed monster kicks in wink

Have fun whatever you decide, but whats the rush, enjoy the showing :wink:
Mrs Wiggy aka Blonde Wiggy
PS Dippity, if you knew half the things I had done this week with Munch Invites, then you definately be having me change my name :wink: Off to dye my hair now - Brown!

26 Nov 2005

ok dog, i'll post my thoughts later, as we've kinda done the touchy feely thing ourselves..i've got nothing to add, in fact i'll say much the same as the gang, only i'll do it in 500 sentences, where they do it in 5..i will just say though, if you have any notions of letting the fellas paw your girl's assets at this time of year then i'd think again pal..she'll hit the fucking roof son..of course, the lads will be in heaven, i've not found a pair of thermal gloves that'll radiate heat as effectively as a flange...don't say i didn't warn ya..back later.

26 Nov 2005

27 Nov 2005

its easy to get pulled along but it often goes tits up when the gilt sets in
been there done it!
if you are going to try
pick a quiet time only one guy so that you can control the situation
make sure hes not done the rounds of the car park and his hands are clean.
when you open the window if he dives straight in. up the window and brake his fingers a good dogger will wait for you to give him a sign or he will ask before touching.
set your own pace.
there are loads of doggers so dont panic if you dont get a good one first time.
always lock the door
keep checking shes happy. dont go to far at a time
best of luck!

27 Nov 2005

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Dont worry _dog_ cause Markz was just having a bit of a joke there with you. He was referring to Harry Jones who lives, I mean posts, in the forums very often! A very nice chap who sometimes goes dogging on his bike
!

And if you ever meet Harry on his bike _dog_......... don't let your other half sit on his crossbar :shock:

27 Nov 2005

Quote by gurl
And what a lovely chest it is too :inlove:

ops: :oops:
I seem to remember saying something very similar to you, but I also included those bloody fantastically, sexy, legs of yours!
Him'nHer, I say the pics in the Cafe, know exactly what you mean :shock: Harry would never land flat on his face with that sticking out in front of him lol

Think his mother must have swung him round with it when he was a kid and it stretched it soooooo much :lol:
Sorry for Hijack, _dog_ promise not to do it again wink

27 Nov 2005

Quote by _dog_
when we have dogged its allways been the same guy that has watched. he is very polite and 'asks' if he can touch and at the end of it all he thanks us and wishes us a safe jorney home. We are yet to expirience what its like to have an audience more than 1 person. :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:

Sounds like you have the perfect test subject in place then! If you and your girlfriend decide to try having a dogger involved, you can have a quiet word with him and explain the situation - if he's as polite and respectful as you say I'm sure he'd be willing to play along, he doesn't have anything to lose really biggrin

Heed DDs words about the weather though, icy fingers on either of your bits will shrink your passion quicker than spotting your mother in law in the car next to you! :shock:

27 Nov 2005

bloody hell dog, what a night we had last night rolleyes

we got roped into one of those quiz night things..first question, "what was ghandi's first name"? guess what twat shouted out "goosey goosey"? redface

anyway, to top it all, this fella gave me some bottles of what he called "liquid dynamite"..it apparently was some home brewed real ale concoction..fucking hell, when i got home, i set about them with a vengence..mrs dirty later told me, that just before my lights went out i started barking...i've been on rubber sheets most of the night son..i now see why harry wears cycle clips..fuck's sake, usually i don't feel normal until i've supped a couple of tins, but i'll be laying off that gear for a while..that was a rough night :cry: anyway, back with you now..where was we?
oh yeah..you've sort of reached a junction..up until now, you've only played around in front of a single fella, and three missions later, you are wondering if the "laying of the hands" approach will bring you some greater thrills..yeah, it a great deal depends on your motives..and you can only answer that question if you are going to be honest with yourself..
you see, with this game of ours called dogging, there are several angles from which couples come at it..the safest option, is for couples who are in good, loving relationships, to extend their sexual boundries to encompass exhibitionism, and possibly interaction, of which there are varying degrees obviously, in order to explore their erotic potential..such couples soon find contentment, at a level that suits them, whether that is flashing a boob, or a full on anal gangbang..it matters very little, whats important, is the contentment, fun comes from contentment, and dogging should always be fun. wink

another option, a far less satisfying one, is what i'd term "chasing the dragon" this is always the messy result of (usually male) sexual imagine your partner doing certain acts with other guys, and the thought is very arousing..its a feeling too, there it is, just under your breastbone..the "dragon's lair"..often your partners feelings become secondary to your excitement..she might say yes, she'll go through with it, if only to make you happy..of course, thats all you need to hear in order to convince yourself its a mutual desire..there might be a nagging, sinking feeling in your guts from time to time that tells you this path is potentially a destructive one, but sometimes the excitement feels overwhelming.., so you put the doubts to one side..
one day you give vent to the fantasy, its thrilling to watch your girl wanking off another man..your girl is delighted with the passion it has released in you, and you yourself, spend much time thinking about, reliving and fantasising about the event over the next few days..you decide to repeat the scenario, its fantastically horny, and once more, you feel the tingle of excitement seering through your veins, at work, whilst shopping and driving to your colours your days, and it feels good..
then, eventually, the feeling dulls..you become bored..don't panic by the way, its relevant to most in lesser ways, thats why the holiday firms will be hitting you with brochures just after christmas :wink: lol

so, what do you do to feel that surge again..wouldn't it be just one little step further for your girl to suck the fella off? after all, its not like she was having full sex or anything, is it? no, not yet , of course, this might not be applicable to you, its only one example, but judging by the amount of bored faced couples we've encountered, habitually trotting out the same, jaded, passionless bareback gangbang scenario week after week, its not an uncommon situation..nothing left to explore, all options exhausted and little in the way of excitement left..so, where do you go from there.
obviously, your partner might enjoy the physical pleasure from interaction, again, its another aspect, but, if you are given to jealousy, can you handle it? what if she wants to go further? what if she enjoys it a little too much? will you then step back and take delight in her indulgence, or will the image of the guy with the big cock that gave your girl such a thrill become your mental executioner in the days or weeks to come? its an unforgiving game for those that bite from the forbidden fruit without regard to the possible consequences..
naturally, you might not be a guy that is given to over indulgence in sexual mind fucking..you might be able leave the fantasy behind, once the erotic stimulation has been given vent..then its over, its dealt with..have a wank, have a shag..its finished with..no thinking, no fantasy, consequently no jealousy, nor pain.. :wink:
for what its worth, we've explored most options along the way .we've now gone full soon discovered that for us, nothing comes close to the subtle tingle of electricity that "showing" to strangers provides..we both have the option to share ourselves with others, we really don't impose any restrictions..its just that we really don't desire to do so.
to illustrate my point further, i've spent much of today fantasising about a large pie..its even given me an erection a couple of times..i've been shaking with excitement in the anticipation of the taste, and smell of aforementioned feast..shortly, mrs d will serve up this pie, and i will relish it with such enthusiasm, i dare say it'll barely touch the sides..once i have consumed this pastry bound offering, my appetite will be sated..however, the excitement would have gone too..there will be an emotional void, which only exists due to the mental high..if you throw a brick into still water, it will create ripples..but for each peak, there will be an equal depression left in its wake..soon there will be so many ripples, it will be hard to discern what follows what..if your girl wanks a fella off, fine..just make sure the "high" doesn't turn into an emotional rollercoaster ride that you cannot get off :wink: ooop, my pie has arrived, see ya, have fun :wink:

28 Nov 2005

I've only one answer to dirtydogger ... Can I share your pie?
Seriously, if you are unsure about how far to go but want to give a go you need to be in a "SAFE" situation where you can call a halt at any time. That really needs a one on one situation. I'd offer my services but you don't say where you live!
Another alternative is to try a club. In the better clubs, the single men will take "No" as an answer and you can gou as far as you like.

28 Nov 2005

WOW thanks for that! have you ever wrote a book?
Very impressed with everyones comments and i thank you all for your help biggrin

We will let you know our outcome.
R+H