Hi Chris and :welcome: to SH here's some threads that you may or may not want to read, they were started off by the more regular members of the site and are designed to try and offer some folks help. When I first joined I ignored them and in hindsight wish I hadn't now.
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/20451.html
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/advice/single-men.html
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/13919.html
Also you may want to put some more details about yourself in your profile and other than that get posting in the forums, which I've just noticed you've done over in the cafe. You'll be ok, all the best :thumbup: