SAFE DOGGING

6 Dec 2006

Hi All,
Can anyone please confirm the best way to go dogging as we have been to quite a few places and they are always full of men. Are there any rules & is really that safe.
If you are having fun with your partner and would like to have someone watch you is it better to arrange a meeting with someone after you build up a trust or does that take the Fun away from it all? We would like to hear from other Doggers on the best way to go about having fun.
Luv
D & T
lol

xxxx

6 Dec 2006

I have moved your post from the cafe to the Dogging section because you are more likely to get better advice from those that only read in here.
I hope you get plenty of answers :thumbup:

6 Dec 2006

welcome to the world of dogging ... we are fairly new to the scene and like yourselves have been to places where men are there in fairly large numbers, we went a couple of times to a picnic area just off roundabout without doing anything ..mainly cause panic set in .. on or first time that some thing did happen it was pouring with rain and there was only one guy there, rain it seems stops it getting to crowded..on the next occasion we went it was busy with lots of guys there wanting to watch, coming close to the car .. we got chatting to about 5 or 6 of them got to admit they was real gents, nice and polite, in the end we asked two guys to go the other end of park while the other guys made sure we wasnt interupted .all this is a spur of the moment thing and we found exciting .. we have discussed pre arranged meet but having read about no shows and it actually happening to us we have decided to go to go unarranged , On the other hand if its a couple that you want to meet prob a pre arranged meet is better there is far less likely hood of meeting a couple .. Hope this helps .. enjoy whaever way you decide to go.

6 Dec 2006

Cheers lifesacool,
We feel that our usual sites are been overrun with single guys.
I really wouldnt mind but the wee Mrs doesnt feel comfortable with 10 guys round the car!!! Well maybe we will just try it in the rain!! lol

6 Dec 2006

Don't knock the fact there are single guys in car parks late at night, they are afterall your audience and as said most are very well behaved. If there are too many then ask for a few to leave, if they don't go elsewhere it's their loss
Dogging would be dead without all the guys who hang around all night in all weathers to enjoy the presence of of a couple or two
SC

6 Dec 2006

Whenever we go - places are always empty confused

6 Dec 2006

Dogging can be great guys but it all depends on what you want and how far your prepared to bend your rules as to how much sucess you will get!!
ie if you only want couples your looking for the proverbial needle in a haystack to start with and your meets and subseqent ejoyment will be limited as there are sadly far fewer couples than single guys to dog you. As for the single guy element and safety it is really a matter of the situation and the old luck thing, some nights we will go out and there are a few "old style" doggers out at a location who are really well behaved as they realise that by acting curteously and staying within "the rules" etc they will get what they want (to watch you two or ur good lady play wink

), then unfortunately we wil go out some nights see that the location is rife with people out to (sometimes inadvertantly some times not) spoil everybodys fun, some do this by not knowing the ettiquette and rushing in and swamping the cpl, only for the cpl to drive off (generally earning them a good telling off by the more experienced doggers), and some are just out to be ass holes and see doggers as easy targets!
Basically if you see more thaqn one male in a car, our advice is steer well clear, look out for smaller groups of guys for a better time, it can be too difficult and sometimes scary for you as a cpl to try and keep an eye on everybody at the same time and groups of guys tend to form a bit of a melee so as to see the action.
The best advice realy is to go with your gut feeling about a situation, if it doesnt feel right then drive away there are ALWAYS more locations where you can find other opportunities the odds are stacked very heavily in couples favour lol

The possibility of having a pre arranged (sometimes frowned on by the traditionalist dogging cpls) meet is always available to you, that way you can control numbers and tell the guys exactly what you want and expect and generally get what your looking for, its worth considering even to see how you both find dogging initially,
anyway have fun and be safe..xx

7 Dec 2006

Juniper -couple ... Got to admit although the one that i wrote about in previous post .. the dogging areas that we know of are very few and far between having prob to travel 30 miles or so, dont know how far u travel but maybe you may have to go further ??? if other people know nearer places to us .. pm us

7 Dec 2006

You're a long way from me so it's unlikely we'd meet, which is a shame.
Your profile says NO SINGLE MALES, so dogging probably isn't the best activity to indulge in although there are many ways in which you can just have one (Wouldn't mind a £ for every time I've heard that surprised

) or two watchers.
Everyone is different and some people like one two or twenty two so it's up to you to make what you want clear.
Most people soon get the message and if you prefer arrange more secluded meets with singles or couples.
I do both and it's alll baout preferenfe

7 Dec 2006

Thanx Srne,
Although we do like an audience we feel too many nice known dogging spots are turning into boy racer paradise! If its not the boy racers its full of 2 many guys, although the fine mrs loves to put on a show wee feel that although they are told to watch only they are overly keen to join in, which we wont have!! Is there any set rules to dogging, or is it for the couple to decide?
lol

7 Dec 2006

Quote by MW6969
Your profile says NO SINGLE MALES, so dogging probably isn't the best activity to indulge in although there are many ways in which you can just have one (Wouldn't mind a £ for every time I've heard that ) or two watchers.

Our profile also says "No Single Males" as it states that we will adveritse as and when - the reason for this, is the amount of winks etc.. we get from the single males for MFM or even just for the female . We are swingers in to couples but do occasionally fancy a MFM but this is usually with the males who have taken the time to chat etc....
As for dogging - that is a different ball-game all together, we actually found that for us, unarranged meets suited us better and have had some success there - the point i was making originally was that it seems to be very quite at the moment - so maybe we will wait till spring wink

7 Dec 2006

Love the photos Juniper_couple babes,
My BF would love for me to be involved with another couple but at present i dont feel up2 this. I prefer some FF fun and then back to own partners. I know this is a little selfish of me but i dont feel we are ready for full swing as yet. Has any ever felt a tad jealous even at soft swing rather than getting turned on by it? Would love to hear your comments. xxxxxx rolleyes

7 Dec 2006

Quote by bigboy-hughjass
Thanx Srne,
Although we do like an audience we feel too many nice known dogging spots are turning into boy racer paradise! If its not the boy racers its full of 2 many guys, although the fine mrs loves to put on a show wee feel that although they are told to watch only they are overly keen to join in, which we wont have!! Is there any set rules to dogging, or is it for the couple to decide?

it is obviously up to the couple to decide what goes on guys anything else would be or could be construed as or molestation, you have to be happy with what goes on and make clear what you are and are not prepared to do.
your best bet from what your saying is possibly to advertise for a couple of guys and have a pre arranged thing in our opinion, as you seem a little unsure about going to a known site and taking the risk of swamping or guys doing more than you want (though this probs wouldnt be a prob if you make it very clear from the off set).
It depends what you want, are you looking for ppl to join in? if not and you want ppl to watch, stay in the car, lock the doors and if u feel like it open the window and let them have a touch or let the missus touch them? its entirely up to you :shock:
there are no set "rules" for dogging, just as in swinging you have your limits other people have theirs and you do only what you feel comfortable with and what does it for you!! there is a sort of "ettiquete" between doggers and most of the more in the know guys will stick to this. Its natural to be nervous but instead of letting it ruin your fun use it to add to the excitment!

7 Dec 2006

Not forgetting that if your meet is at a dogging site you WILL have other watchers.
You may like to pick a place that main-stream dogging hasn't found yet (I think there are about 4 in the whole UK) or use a tesco carpark (every little helps)

7 Dec 2006

Quote by bigboy-hughjass
Love the photos Juniper_couple babes,
My BF would love for me to be involved with another couple but at present i dont feel up2 this. I prefer some FF fun and then back to own partners. I know this is a little selfish of me but i dont feel we are ready for full swing as yet. Has any ever felt a tad jealous even at soft swing rather than getting turned on by it? Would love to hear your comments. xxxxxx

Firslty - dont feel selfish whatsoever hun - take things at your own pace and do not feel pressured with things - it is your relationship that matters the most !!!
Personally, i have never felt jelous and our experiences have been good things so far - if you think you may be jelous, it is either not for you or you are not ready - there are plenty of couples out there that want just female interaction then own partners, so i would say dip your toes in and see wink