Taking the Plunge

10 Jul 2005

We are a couple from West Yorkshire. I am 36 my wife is 27. We have been mulling over giving dogging a try for a while. We regularly make love outdoors and in places like supermarket toilets, pub carparks during the day etc etc, but on our own., We want to take it the step further. However my wife is at present only keen to perform with me to an audience. How can we guarantee that will be respectfully adhered to? I do not want to put my wife's safety at risk. I have read one or two posts on this site about rowdy and disrespectful participants and that is what's putting her off at present. Also what would be the best site in Leeds/bradford/Huddersfield etc for inexperienced Doggers to take the plunge.
Your help in this is most appreciated, hope to meet some of you soon smile

10 Jul 2005

often the guys don't realise that, although well meaning in their intent, the moaning and dramatic threads about the "negatives" of dogging do indeed put new couples off trying dogging for themselves..it just makes for grim reading, and we ourselves have recieved pm's from couples asking how to get into the game whilst avoiding the pitfalls..
we have been dogging for two years now, and have yet to encounter a situation which we feel is a potential threat to our safety..ok, so we cannot speak for everyone, but i'm sure most threatning situations are percieved rather than actual..like you, i love my partner dearly, and would not put her in a dangerous situation for sexual thrills..having said that, i do feel that the heightned tension and awareness that being in such a situation brings, does add the vital spark that makes dogging such a unique emotional experience..maybe its like peering over the edge of a skyscraper, feeling the fear, but with the knowledge that there is a safety rail preventing you falling to your doom.
what will almost certainly happen at some point is this..guys will be on your car immediatly..you may over react..you will probably feel fear, which might quickly turn to anger..don't colour the experience with the emotion..its normal..its an evolved mechanism for dealing with potentially threatning situations..everyone has such reactions to a degree, and they are too deeply ingrained in us to be removed..however, knowledge and familiarity can put them onto a simmer, or on the back burner so to speak..see it for yourself, its fun lol

these guys will be on your car because, for some of them at least, experience has shown them that some playing couples will entertain on a first come first served basis..if the lady only wants two, three or four, then obviously its in the guys interests to get in quick..wether you blame the guys, or such couples for giving rise to such behaviour is up to you..just try to avoid the controlling mentality that gets some couples, often temporarily, hooked on the power play aspect..often a quick shout that "you ain't playing" will disperse the majority, although some will seize the oppertunity to talk to you..how you deal with that is your choice..personally, if i could change one thing about the way we approached dogging in the early stages, it would be to avoid the social aspect we willingly absorbed ourselves into..don't get me wrong, we have made some lasting freindships, but sometimes we have to abandon any notion of performing due to the party atmosphere :lol: :lol: actualy, i'll withdraw that statement..those nights are wonderfull, i would miss them..but for us, dogging is best enjoyed with strangers wink

just be carefull on the roads when driving to the venue, there are some fucking maniacs out there..have fun :wink:

11 Jul 2005

Hi. Your best bet is to use your common sense. If and pardon the pun it doesn't feel right it probably isn't. There are quite a few sites in and around Leeds that my wife and i use, and we have not had a problem. Always be watchful and if your wife starts to feel uncomfortable then leave there is always another day.