why is it when u go dogging u get alot of single bloke who are complete idiots, we are a cpl who go up for a laugh and some fun, if we meet a cpl all the better but my wife does like to play with singles when she thinks found a nice 1 lol, you tell them the rules but then they go and break them why? word gets round with other cpls and they will lose there chances. the women go up to be pleased and treated with respect not to be a piece of meat to be treated how they like, if it wasnt for the cpls-ladies there would be no dogging or fun for them unless they where all gay Shocked . so plz plz chaps try thinking of the ladies for a change and show some respect be thought full and u might get ur chance or u will kill it off its gone very quiet at the moment. try thinking why cos too many idiots out there. know not all the singles are same we know a lot who are genuine and very thought full so plz try being same ty
I know most on here would not do arranged meets, but at least you can set out the ground rules and scenario before the meet. That way you can still have fun without the pitfalls.
i agree with the comments made about the ignorant section of the dogging paternity an wish to say i am well mannered and would never push my way into some situations, i like it when the ladies/couples have a no touch unless asked policy and someone "watching her arse" so to speak, but where are the older women these days
Been doing this for several years - before the heavy press coverage which opened it up to maybe the wrong crowd.
There are some really good guys out there just after some fun and who are willing to leave at the end of the night and accept if they get no action.
Others are not quite so thoughtful and tend to give us genuine chaps a bad name.
It's a shame really as the old days were really good.
These days you never know what you will get.
Advice to any guys who want guaranteed action and want to call the shots ... pay for it as you probably did before (not that I endorse this as it's illegal)
Well, it is unfortunate that I have ot also agree with everything on here. The dogging fratenity of males is a varied and mixed bunch that has been stretched beyond those that did it for the fun that it is to those who go for the cheap thrill and with the mentality that if a couple is performing it is there god given right to join in.
I myself have had good and bad encounters and have seen some antics by single males that makes me still shake my head in disgust at the way they behaved, i have even walked away from some pretty hot action because of the actions of others. But I will also add that I have encountered some fun genuine people whilst out and about both young and old so I think it unfair to tar any age bracket.
As for the idiots in cars racing round, thanks guys for ruining a perfectly fun and social event just because you find it great to spin your car round. I was nearly on the recieving end of one certain young idiot spinning his car round and nearly taking out mine in the process, thankfully i wasnt in it at the time.
So, to summarise there are genuine guys like myself out there young and old who for a number of reasons have had there fun spoilt, all I can say is thanks to those idiots I hope I meet you sometime!!!
I will just try and fit this in before the next list of transparent " I understand and we aren't all like that - any chance of a shag?" posts
Thing is (and this isn't even risking repeating myself -it definitely is)when you go dogging you go for something sensually different, slightly tacky perhaps,mysterious, unexpected. The thrill of strangers in the dark the passion of unknown individuals that exist in your world only as sex objects, and you exist to them as purely a sexual thrill. That's part of it all the fact that they want you so much they are breathless, they are shocked by your sluttiness and that motivates them to sexual control the action not by setting out pre-set rules and regulations but by owning the motivation and by old fashioned perception and reaction to circumstances.
Remember why you wanted to try dogging in the first place? Was it because you wanted a completely new thrill and something different and unexpected? Was it the anticipation of unknown that made it so sexy a thought? Well if you are not prepared for things to sometimes go down a different path to your exact picture then dogging isn't, wasn't and never will be what you want.
If you want to dictate the exact circumstances of a sexual encounter then arrange something with detailed emails and contracts and then do it in your living room (or in your back garden if the feel of the outdoors is what you crave)but don't try and condemn a practice that has been going on for decades if it doesn't work for you, simply stop doing it and do something that you do like.
This message brought to you again (same message different words) by a couple that goes dogging once in a while and sometimes it goes right and sometimes we go home.
Peace
If i understand what Silky and Big G are saying they are suggesting that you should brace ourselves for "anything goes" because this is we go out for.
So if Dee is sucking a guy off and he comes in her mouth you should expect this and she should not tell the guy not to as "you should not dictate the exact circumstances".
WE love dogging and yes what we do is very "sexually different, tacky" and even perverse but boundaries still need to be set so we are all uncomfortable with the play.
The basic rule of how we keep safe is that "no means no". This is sacrsancant. It should be the lady dictating the scenario/situation not the doggers. She has to feel safe, secure and at ease.
If i may a put a question to Silky and Big G, when you have gone dogging has a dogger ever over stepped the mark and done some thing to you that you felt uncomfortable doing?
Though i have every respect for you and your opinions, i am afraid, we have to agree to disagree.
Dee and Paul
Yep that has happened, and we simply ask them to stop. If they don't we will either leave or hit the individual on the face with a hammer.
We have also had the same scenario at clubs and even at private parties. In fact Silky has had it happen in simple couples meets.
Swinging like everything else in life that you do purely for fun should always be fun. The moment it isn't then you should stop doing it. By all means if you can alter the way that you do it to improve your experience then do so, but if something by its very nature isn't what you are looking for then why carry on doing it and them moan about not liking it ?
Incidentally Duo if that all sounds a bit harsh i would add that I respect your opinion too, and of course you are always at liberty to enjoy life as you wish
) and have had my fun ruined on a at least two occasions by older guys.
