well...we emailed back about 7 guys last night for fun (they know who they are!!) and not one turned up..this has happend everytime we have tried planning anything on here..no wonder people stop dogging and swinging all the time...so come on guys why even bother emailing saying your going to be there if your not!!!??
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Couples that allow males to join in there fun are thin on the ground at the moment so those that are available should be treated with the utmost respect. Unfortunately it is idiots like those that you have experienced that make it hard for genuine doggers like myself. If you haven't any intentions of meeting why waste there time with promises that you have no intention of keeping. On the other side to the coin I have been led up the garden path a few times by couples that said they would meet and haven't turned up and one couple I had been in touch with for a while invited me to there house one evening and when I got there they had never heard of the couple, boy was that embarrassing. So even though there are perhaps more males that are timewasters there are couples, or supposed couples, that do the same thing.
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Shit happens, but let's move on and not turn this into a total whinge about people not turning up. Put it down to experience, you'll know who NOT to invite next time.
Mal
Shit happens, but let's move on and not turn this into a total whinge about people not turning up. Put it down to experience, you'll know who NOT to invite next time.
Mal
Sex God
OK, sometimes we make plans and have to cancel, like I did yesterday
.... but the decent thing is to tell people you can't make it, or at least apologise. I've lost count of the amount of times I've arranged to meet guys dogging and they don't turn up. They don't turn up to private meets either, but I think the rate of dogging timewasters is higher than those of private meets. I don't arrange as many dogging meets as I used to for exactly that reason - I am sick of being messed around. 
Quote by bluexxxi totally agree with you there.,...alot of guys make such a fuss about never been able to meet a couple, and when u invite them they just string u along and not even bother to tell you there not coming...its a boring convo i know but its just really annoyed me :x :x with it not been the first time (probs not last neither) that its happend
OK, sometimes we make plans and have to cancel, like I did yesterday
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Sex God
Wry smile from G , scratches , farts , thinks 'well thats why dogging was never planned' and slides away silently ( leaving a ripe smell in the thread)
Casanova
Sorry to hear your misfortune, but that's "people" for you. It happens even with the most reliable one's, people who you know and think you can trust, there's always a chance that something will crop up. Even when I send out party invitations, everyone on my invitation list is known to me, and out of the 50-odd invitations that go out, 25 might say that they are coming, out of which only 15 will ever ring the door bell on the night. From what I gather, other people experience the same sort of thing happening to them too.
Mind you, apologies cost nothing if there was a genuine reason for not attending.
I wonder if the Mods can keep a register of time wasters, with names reported in confidence to them, and if enough complaints are received about certain individuals, "disciplinary action" like private caution, or the withdrawal of PM'ing rights or banning from the forum altogether being an option open to them? After all, these people are wasting the time / expense of the genuine members.
That said, in fairness, anyone holding their breath as to the possible turnout of people who say that they are coming, (esp. after reading what has been said on the subject on numerous occasions) ought really to have a "Plan B" available to them, in case the worst does happen.
Mind you, apologies cost nothing if there was a genuine reason for not attending.
I wonder if the Mods can keep a register of time wasters, with names reported in confidence to them, and if enough complaints are received about certain individuals, "disciplinary action" like private caution, or the withdrawal of PM'ing rights or banning from the forum altogether being an option open to them? After all, these people are wasting the time / expense of the genuine members.
That said, in fairness, anyone holding their breath as to the possible turnout of people who say that they are coming, (esp. after reading what has been said on the subject on numerous occasions) ought really to have a "Plan B" available to them, in case the worst does happen.
Sex God
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I wonder if the Mods can keep a register of time wasters, with names reported in confidence to them, and if enough complaints are received about certain individuals, "disciplinary action" like private caution, or the withdrawal of PM'ing rights or banning from the forum altogether being an option open to them? After all, these people are wasting the time / expense of the genuine members.
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In practice that would be very difficult. In the majority of cases it would be one person's word against another. We'd get all sorts of complaints, some out of spite, some out of revenge. We wouldn't know who to believe.
. It sometimes happens when would report in the photo ads, and unless there is evidence we have to give alleged timewasters the benefit of the doubt. If we carried out such a policy it wouldn't be long before people would be up in arms about our verdicts....No, no, no, no, no....... :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:
Having said that, it might be fun to play Judge John Deed
Casanova
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We'd get all sorts of complaints, some out of spite, some out of revenge. We wouldn't know who to believe.
I agree that there would be difficulties, and I don't advocate immediate action, but if one guy gets independently reported by 5 or 6 people then a trend can be picked up on. And aside from that, just the notion that messing people about can get you into trouble might be enough to act as a deterrant in the first place.
My guess is that getting an e-mail from a Mod saying something along the lines of "we have had 5 complaiints about you, so if you don't have an explination and if there is any more nonsense, you'll have your PM'ing nuts chopped off. We are monitoring the situation so watch yourself." might stop someone in their tracks without anything public needing to be done.
As a guy looking for his first time experience, I find articles like this one really upsetting.
As previously said by the more experienced than me, a simple apology in advance is all that may be necessary to help avoid disappointments.
To all the couples/ladies that have been let down by idiots, please do not this cloud your judgement and heres to plenty of good clean fun for all.
Regards
MM
As previously said by the more experienced than me, a simple apology in advance is all that may be necessary to help avoid disappointments.
To all the couples/ladies that have been let down by idiots, please do not this cloud your judgement and heres to plenty of good clean fun for all.
Regards
MM
Quote by daveandkelly_uki totally agree with you there.,...alot of guys make such a fuss about never been able to meet a couple, and when u invite them they just string u along and not even bother to tell you there not coming...its a boring convo i know but its just really annoyed me :x :x with it not been the first time (probs not last neither) that its happend
OK, sometimes we make plans and have to cancel, like I did yesterday
being one of the minority possibly, i would have given you my mobile number, and asked for yours so I could warn if I would be late or unable to show.
As it stands, the distance would have stopped me replying so all i will say is, dont let the drooping dicks put you off all single guys
Sex God
Quote by partyman
I agree that there would be difficulties, and I don't advocate immediate action, but if one guy gets independently reported by 5 or 6 people then a trend can be picked up on. And aside from that, just the notion that messing people about can get you into trouble might be enough to act as a deterrant in the first place.
My guess is that getting an e-mail from a Mod saying something along the lines of "we have had 5 complaiints about you, so if you don't have an explination and if there is any more nonsense, you'll have your PM'ing nuts chopped off. We are monitoring the situation so watch yourself." might stop someone in their tracks without anything public needing to be done.
We do that already. We have always acted on the policy that if someone complains we will note it and see what else crops up. In cases where it is one person's word against another we have to let it drop, but where there are several reports, say of harrassment, we certainly do act. We would first PM the person concerned and see what they have to say, but where the evidence was very clear we would ban them. I guess if we got several reports of one person's timewasting activities, we would act on that too.
as partyman said, its a little like the party invite you put the offer out to 100 guests, usually there will be an instantaneous favourable will cry off with a day or two, others will cancel last minute, car broke down, come down with flu or babysitter didn't turn up..maybe thirty percent will be telling the truth, so when we tell them, its a shame, not to worry, hope sam gets better soon, its not with too much heart felt sympathy!!..then of course there are the ones that just dont show, felt too anxious about calling off, but think, doesn't matter really, everyone else will turn up, they wont even notice our absence, we'll call them tomorrow..so, if thats friends and family, its not hard to imagine whats going to happen on the internet..guys might think a shag is the most important thing in the world whilst in a chatroom, or browsing websites..the sexual tension is through the roof, they imagine the scene unfolding in their mind's eye, but, given the cold light of day, it loses some they got carried away with the 8 inch heavy cumming repeater bit, now they are looking down at a 6 inch weenie, that once fires is useless for the next two days, maybe the intention to meet was never there in the first place, but i expect most of them thought they could, and would go through with it..some will be genuine, with valid reasons to cancel, but i'm sure the majority just can't hack the reality..many guys talk good sexual performance, but its often a cover up for an underlying sexual insecurity..in saying that, i really am a crap shag.!!
....recently, a couple we know well, put out a general shout for a multi-guy carpark surprisingly she had numerous replies..the way it looked, the finest cocksmen in the country were descending onto a little essex venue, en-masse..they were going to dazzle with their polished routine, the cum would flow into the gullies in such quantity the council would have to pump the system through in the morning, needless to say, this lass was excited..so, what happened?..well, 9 turned up, two managed it, although with as much grace as bernard manning scratching his arse..one lasted 15 seconds, the other longer, but had to wank himself to climax..four guys were having a tug, but couldn't rise to the occassion, the others left when the emphasis was put on them..yeah, they certainly showed her a good time !
......in our early days, we arranged two private meets..we were exploring things which were better tried in time was successful on account of the guys not turning up..after a couple of hours doing hair and make-up, mrs dirty wasn't well pleased to get home to an apolagetic email, the guy had broken down on the way, his phone had no signal, would we care to reschedual for the friday night?..the other guy left it a week, he apparently had been in hospital, having been in a car smash, the good news was that he was now back on his feet, and ready to meet up..tragic?, well, if it was, it certainly didn't prevent him from responding to other couples on line, he was trying to fix up meets every night, a good trick from a hospital bed..but for us, it was an education, and a relief, sitting in a carpark waiting for a stranger to show, with all the enforced expectations, just wasn't sexy.
.......maybe the bottom line is this?.there are genuine, honest guys on this board..we know this to be true, as we have met them, not all of them of course, yet ! .the enthusiasm and good intent of some of the guys is evident in their willingness to contribute, judgement cannot be made for those that do not contribute, other than to take it as a gamble, just don't place a high stake..and by contribute, i dont mean " need bj NOW "!!..the only sexual gratification he requires is achieved when he presses the send button..
.......now, confession time..i've recently become fascinated by the conversation in a chatroom..i'm a lurker..i'm not there to pretend i'm someone i'm not, its the same ole dirty..nor do i invite conversation or lead anyone astray in the interests of my research..having said that, within seconds of me/us entering the room, unsolicited private chat boxes pop up on screen, with enticing handles such as " cock4u"."hungnhorny" and "fuckmachine"..oh exception, these guys are prepared to travel from the extremities of the country on the off-chance of a shag..boy are they desperate..can you imagine what these fuckers are like?..they will travel 300 miles at the drop of a hat, then drive of course they won't, its a game..they want wank chat, its the prime motive...we say, we aint into chat, thanks, but bye...they say..ur wife not want a big one then..we say..no, i'm fat enough for her..they say..no, big cock, thick too..we say, i'm a bit thick myself..they say..she want my fat cock now...we say..no thanks..they say..she want my cum..we say..not really..they say..she horny now, i am..we say..she is horny..they say..cool, me too..wanna phone chat..we say..no, sorry..well, you get the picture !!..then there are the genuine guys and couples of course..nor am i saying there is anything wrong with wank chat, its not our thing, but hey, its popular..the problem occurs when guys confuse it with reality, or couples take it as such..many guys will decieve, in order to heighten their buzz..thats why some of the timewasters will come back to you, with excuses for not showing, in the hope that you are gullable enough to repeat the fantasy process for them...
.....thats not to say that couples aren't enjoying succsessful private meets..maybe their intuition is more finely tuned..lets just get the lads off this thread together with the other regulars for a guaranteed party..
....recently, a couple we know well, put out a general shout for a multi-guy carpark surprisingly she had numerous replies..the way it looked, the finest cocksmen in the country were descending onto a little essex venue, en-masse..they were going to dazzle with their polished routine, the cum would flow into the gullies in such quantity the council would have to pump the system through in the morning, needless to say, this lass was excited..so, what happened?..well, 9 turned up, two managed it, although with as much grace as bernard manning scratching his arse..one lasted 15 seconds, the other longer, but had to wank himself to climax..four guys were having a tug, but couldn't rise to the occassion, the others left when the emphasis was put on them..yeah, they certainly showed her a good time !
......in our early days, we arranged two private meets..we were exploring things which were better tried in time was successful on account of the guys not turning up..after a couple of hours doing hair and make-up, mrs dirty wasn't well pleased to get home to an apolagetic email, the guy had broken down on the way, his phone had no signal, would we care to reschedual for the friday night?..the other guy left it a week, he apparently had been in hospital, having been in a car smash, the good news was that he was now back on his feet, and ready to meet up..tragic?, well, if it was, it certainly didn't prevent him from responding to other couples on line, he was trying to fix up meets every night, a good trick from a hospital bed..but for us, it was an education, and a relief, sitting in a carpark waiting for a stranger to show, with all the enforced expectations, just wasn't sexy.
.......maybe the bottom line is this?.there are genuine, honest guys on this board..we know this to be true, as we have met them, not all of them of course, yet ! .the enthusiasm and good intent of some of the guys is evident in their willingness to contribute, judgement cannot be made for those that do not contribute, other than to take it as a gamble, just don't place a high stake..and by contribute, i dont mean " need bj NOW "!!..the only sexual gratification he requires is achieved when he presses the send button..
.......now, confession time..i've recently become fascinated by the conversation in a chatroom..i'm a lurker..i'm not there to pretend i'm someone i'm not, its the same ole dirty..nor do i invite conversation or lead anyone astray in the interests of my research..having said that, within seconds of me/us entering the room, unsolicited private chat boxes pop up on screen, with enticing handles such as " cock4u"."hungnhorny" and "fuckmachine"..oh exception, these guys are prepared to travel from the extremities of the country on the off-chance of a shag..boy are they desperate..can you imagine what these fuckers are like?..they will travel 300 miles at the drop of a hat, then drive of course they won't, its a game..they want wank chat, its the prime motive...we say, we aint into chat, thanks, but bye...they say..ur wife not want a big one then..we say..no, i'm fat enough for her..they say..no, big cock, thick too..we say, i'm a bit thick myself..they say..she want my fat cock now...we say..no thanks..they say..she want my cum..we say..not really..they say..she horny now, i am..we say..she is horny..they say..cool, me too..wanna phone chat..we say..no, sorry..well, you get the picture !!..then there are the genuine guys and couples of course..nor am i saying there is anything wrong with wank chat, its not our thing, but hey, its popular..the problem occurs when guys confuse it with reality, or couples take it as such..many guys will decieve, in order to heighten their buzz..thats why some of the timewasters will come back to you, with excuses for not showing, in the hope that you are gullable enough to repeat the fantasy process for them...
.....thats not to say that couples aren't enjoying succsessful private meets..maybe their intuition is more finely tuned..lets just get the lads off this thread together with the other regulars for a guaranteed party..
I struck lucky just over a week ago to meet up with a couple in Doncaster for some fun...I phoned them as I left the house and then once I reached the location they had selected....Time passed......I called, switched off..............Time passed...............I sent text....no reply...........Time passed.......I went home
Not sure what I'd done or said(I'm by nature very polite) so the next day I sent a text just asking if they were safe and ok as I was a little concerned about them.............nothing.
So sometimes the timewasters aren't the single guys! Like many of you have said, it happens.
They have advertised again since, now theres one I won't be responding to!
Not sure what I'd done or said(I'm by nature very polite) so the next day I sent a text just asking if they were safe and ok as I was a little concerned about them.............nothing.
So sometimes the timewasters aren't the single guys! Like many of you have said, it happens.
They have advertised again since, now theres one I won't be responding to!
We have had to let someone down 3 times in a row now in the last 3 weeks. All due to last minute unforseen circumstances, but must be damned annoying all the same. However, we made sure we let him know and apologised every time and - hopefully - in good time too. Its only right. So no, its not always the single, but often the couple. However, regardless of who it is, LET THEM KNOW.
If you're reading this, you know we'll see ya soon, lol ;)
If you're reading this, you know we'll see ya soon, lol ;)
Warming the Bed
similar to the r soles i was trying to talk to today.
cmon bluexxx mayb we should hav a name and shame section.
cmon bluexxx mayb we should hav a name and shame section.
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I struck lucky just over a week ago to meet up with a couple in Doncaster for some fun...I phoned them as I left the house and then once I reached the location they had selected....Time passed......I called, switched off..............Time passed...............I sent text....no reply...........Time passed.......I went home
Not sure what I'd done or said(I'm by nature very polite) so the next day I sent a text just asking if they were safe and ok as I was a little concerned about them.............nothing.
So sometimes the timewasters aren't the single guys! Like many of you have said, it happens.
They have advertised again since, now theres one I won't be responding to!
absolutely it isnt only single guys..couples, and whether they are all, indeed couples, is doubtfull, are often as bad..its a people thing..sitting in the comfort of your own home, fantasizing about what may be, is easy..saying, "i'll or we, will be up for that" is simple, it roots the fantasy, but gives you space, you have distance and are anonymous,nobody is going to call on you, if your mobile rings you can ignore it, you will cringe, but you are safe..then the moment passes, you may feel a little guilty, but promise yourself you'll turn up next time, and so on..most people are decieving themselves as much as others, and as for couples, well they are two individuals, one partner may make plans on behalf of the couple without the full consent or enthusiasm of the other partner..its just the way it works, it always will be like that..talk is cheap..a mate of mine, not the master, had two sure fire couples lined up at the weekend..drew a blank with both..
Perhaps we could try Verification!!!
Seriously, a dogger here who is naughty, but have only ever had one true experience, and that was my first ever time! nds , but it seems that all the "known " sites have become No No's, So I would love to be given the chance to prove I am NOT a timewaster. and would love to play with couples in the midlands.
What I would ask is that if you are a couple looking for doggers, Drop me a PM, we can get chatting, and hopefully build up a bit of trust, then when you are out and about I can let you know if I can make it.
Seriously, a dogger here who is naughty, but have only ever had one true experience, and that was my first ever time! nds , but it seems that all the "known " sites have become No No's, So I would love to be given the chance to prove I am NOT a timewaster. and would love to play with couples in the midlands.
What I would ask is that if you are a couple looking for doggers, Drop me a PM, we can get chatting, and hopefully build up a bit of trust, then when you are out and about I can let you know if I can make it.
Mod
Quote by haitch
similar to the r soles i was trying to talk to today.
cmon bluexxx mayb we should hav a name and shame section.
Absolutely no chance whatsoever. We have discussed this before and it will not happen. Anyone found trying to name and shame will get very short shrift.
Mal
Sex God
Quote by haitch
cmon bluexxx mayb we should hav a name and shame section.
Don't know why you're referring this to me, but as I have told you in PM, this site does not allow naming and shaming. Matter closed.
