on tuesday night i was at a car park between boreham wood and mill hill on the A1 there was probably about 10 cars there all with guys in at about 900pm a people carrier pulled into the car park the driver was a guy and in the passenger seat was a stunning lady they drove around for a few mins then parked up at which point a no of the guys who where standing around started shuffeling towards the car why dont they just sit back and wait it is so selfish rude and obviously of puttin fo many couples as it was for these that night when will they learn not to pounce like a pack of hungry wolves because all that happens is the couples leave and go else where as a genuine guy i would like to say to this couple if they read this or any other couples sorry for the ignorance of single men
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hi,we used to do dogging but as you say a few of the men that go out cannot help themselfs,what we found was each one of them was frightened they would be left out if they didnt get in first,but as you say couples need time too get things started and as we did couples move on,or in our case just stopped dogging.
Sex God
I dont understand ....why does someone standing outside the car stop the couple getting started ?? If they are there to show what difference does it make ? What after all is the correct amount of time to wait ? Sometimes it almost sounds like couples are on some kind of a power trip ....with over use of words like 'respect' and 'etiquette' . As long as its clear what everyone is there for then why sweat about a few guys standing nearby ?
Sexlightened
Hi ya, i agree, well thats what everyone goes there for isnt it? Me i tend to wait a little but thats only because im too shy to go closer and wait for others to look first lol
Pete
Pete
Master of Sex
Hi everyone,I think its a matter of different things for different people,some couples don't mind being approached straight away as silk says,some couples might drive away if that happens,some like to get warmed up first,some like to 'control' the situation and only be dogged when they are ready. I don't think there's a specific time to wait before approach,its anywhere between 0 seconds-all night depending on the couple,some couples may drive off if not approached immediately because they think no one must be interested in them.I have absolutely no idea how to tell who wants what unless I've seen that couple before and observed their tendances and or preferences and even thats not a guarantee that this time will be the same as the last time. there is no formula to adhere to as far as I
Sexlightened
Quote by Silk and Big G
I dont understand ....why does someone standing outside the car stop the couple getting started ?? If they are there to show what difference does it make ? What after all is the correct amount of time to wait ? Sometimes it almost sounds like couples are on some kind of a power trip ....with over use of words like 'respect' and 'etiquette' . As long as its clear what everyone is there for then why sweat about a few guys standing nearby ?
Sometimes one or both partners are a bit shy until they get into the "swing" of it (sorry I couldn't resist that). Jen has been known to wear an airline sleep mask for a bit while I play with her because she doesnt like to see guys crowding around. There comes a point when she doesn't feel so shy, but for newbies it has to be off putting at some of the busier spots. Our experience is that places are either very busy or completely dead, there isn't much of a happy medium for newbies.
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I dont understand ....why does someone standing outside the car stop the couple getting started ?? If they are there to show what difference does it make ? What after all is the correct amount of time to wait ? Sometimes it almost sounds like couples are on some kind of a power trip ....with over use of words like 'respect' and 'etiquette' . As long as its clear what everyone is there for then why sweat about a few guys standing nearby ?
Sometimes one or both partners are a bit shy until they get into the "swing" of it (sorry I couldn't resist that). Jen has been known to wear an airline sleep mask for a bit while I play with her because she doesnt like to see guys crowding around. There comes a point when she doesn't feel so shy, but for newbies it has to be off putting at some of the busier spots. Our experience is that places are either very busy or completely dead, there isn't much of a happy medium for newbies.
ooof coures there is........just say to them come back in a few they dont then move on!
Get some mobil numbers off other doggers and they will tell you where the action is
Sexlightened
Hi all,
As an aspiring dogger I tend to agree to the point that we dont like to have a hoard of doggers come streaming over as soon as we get there. We always think about security at the back of our mind and those precious minutes to get ourselves sorted and to observe what is going on is important to allow us to relax.
Thats why we like the idea of using lights as a signal to say we are ready for some fun?
I dont know - in these times of uncertainties i think you have to be careful!
I do think it depends on your experience ie there are people who have been doing this for years and know the site inside out and the people and go out all the time.. and there are those that go out every so often trying out different places and still learning who is out there.
But as someone has mentioned earlier... each to their own.
I have noticed some of the experienced couples talking about getting down to it and then in the next breath on a different post mention as soon as they arrive someone knocking on their window before they get settled? That would suggest to me it depends on your mood at the time too.
All I would say to the single man - just wait 10 mins.. what have you got to lose I am sure not all couples will leave if they dont get any attention within that time... wait for lights or take a stroll. I am assuming couples want to be watched if they are there and know there are other cars there thus they might be watched.
Thanks for letting me rant.
Love to you all though.... either way we take control.
Dave and Kelly good to see you.... catch you soon.
S&N
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As an aspiring dogger I tend to agree to the point that we dont like to have a hoard of doggers come streaming over as soon as we get there. We always think about security at the back of our mind and those precious minutes to get ourselves sorted and to observe what is going on is important to allow us to relax.
Thats why we like the idea of using lights as a signal to say we are ready for some fun?
I dont know - in these times of uncertainties i think you have to be careful!
I do think it depends on your experience ie there are people who have been doing this for years and know the site inside out and the people and go out all the time.. and there are those that go out every so often trying out different places and still learning who is out there.
But as someone has mentioned earlier... each to their own.
I have noticed some of the experienced couples talking about getting down to it and then in the next breath on a different post mention as soon as they arrive someone knocking on their window before they get settled? That would suggest to me it depends on your mood at the time too.
All I would say to the single man - just wait 10 mins.. what have you got to lose I am sure not all couples will leave if they dont get any attention within that time... wait for lights or take a stroll. I am assuming couples want to be watched if they are there and know there are other cars there thus they might be watched.
Thanks for letting me rant.
Love to you all though.... either way we take control.
Dave and Kelly good to see you.... catch you soon.
S&N
XX
i have to agree with iluvminis
until you have observed a couple a few times you have no idea whwt they want from the situation
its hard for us single doggers
it takes a lot of guts and experience to approach a car with a couple in it
you never know what reaction you will get
i suppose thats part of the lure of dogging though
until you have observed a couple a few times you have no idea whwt they want from the situation
its hard for us single doggers
it takes a lot of guts and experience to approach a car with a couple in it
you never know what reaction you will get
i suppose thats part of the lure of dogging though
