just wondered why it is:
you get in touch with sinlge males for dogging fun, or they email you, it takes ages to do all the pic swapping to make sure everyone ok with who they meeting, we turn up at arranged place and time, but the single males DONT!!!!
on friday I emailed 12 single males and after spending loads of time sorting through all emails none of them turned up!!!
fair enough one male couldnt find the place, but i purposly emailed this many as I knew from previous experience that they all wouldnt turn up.
I just cant understand it why waste our time, why not just say:" I cant make it"
"sorry your not for me" "sorry after our emails i have bottled it"
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Orgasminator
if its single males you are looking for, sometimes its just better to go to a well known doggin site and your bound to be swamp with them.
unforunately this site has gone to pot and we do have a lot of timewasters on our hands.
unforunately this site has gone to pot and we do have a lot of timewasters on our hands.
I know where your coming from Chaotic... This site has been over run recently by non swingers... It's extremely rude not to turn up to a meet.. think there are to many people that agree to meet and then pull out... if people have to cancel for some reason surely they would bother to let the other parties know... Here's hoping that real swingers will overcome the masses of non swingers joining up...
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Orgasminator
It is a shame. Best of luck though Tina, i hope when someone does decide not to waste your time, that you do enjoy it.
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I know where your coming from Chaotic... This site has been over run recently by non swingers... It's extremely rude not to turn up to a meet.. think there are to many people that agree to meet and then pull out... if people have to cancel for some reason surely they would bother to let the other parties know... Here's hoping that real swingers will overcome the masses of non swingers joining up...
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Doggers are swingers aren't necessarily the same though!
This isn't just the domain of single males though, couples let people down too - fantasy vs reality! We've been discussing exactly that here http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/68651.html
Sexlightened
Same thing happened to us saturday night hun... but at least he text to cancel :-)
Still the search goes on .... sure there are some single guys on here with the balls to turn up. ;-)
Still the search goes on .... sure there are some single guys on here with the balls to turn up. ;-)
its true.
Speaking as a single male, this sort of thing annoys me as its often so hard to get invited as a single male. More often its the single males people don't want.
Whenever there is an invite, I do my upmost to attend, even to the extent of being asked a few funny questions by our favourite friends in their "flashy cars" lol
If you are ever down in kent, perhaps off on the ferry's or tunnel, give me a pm, i'll cum out. Please don't let a few put you off, us single guys need you. :cry:
Speaking as a single male, this sort of thing annoys me as its often so hard to get invited as a single male. More often its the single males people don't want.
Whenever there is an invite, I do my upmost to attend, even to the extent of being asked a few funny questions by our favourite friends in their "flashy cars" lol
If you are ever down in kent, perhaps off on the ferry's or tunnel, give me a pm, i'll cum out. Please don't let a few put you off, us single guys need you. :cry:
I'd also like to stand up in defence of single males; I have been let down by any number of couples and single fems over the past 6 months. I agree that single males have a bad name and would seem to be in short demand but this is unfair.
Some of the couples I know say that they won't normally swing or dog with single men because they are worried they might get attacked or something; I don't want that association made with me! I just want the same as everyone else, but with such negative attatudes towards us what chance have we got. I reackon that most girls take one look at my photo and see a tall powerful bloke that could do them some real harm and ignore me... I sort of understand this logic, because you can't be too safe; but I'm also a little insulted because I'm actually a real nice geniune respectful person, and people passing character judgments on me pisses me off!
I was wondering the other day if there could be a rating system similar to ebay, whereby members could leave feedback on other members based on there ACTUAL experiances; that way you could see at a glance if someone is punctual and not too pushy or a faker or a nutcase... In reality it would be hard to get on the rating system, because no history is the same as a bad history in some peoples eyes, but it could be made to work?
Some of the couples I know say that they won't normally swing or dog with single men because they are worried they might get attacked or something; I don't want that association made with me! I just want the same as everyone else, but with such negative attatudes towards us what chance have we got. I reackon that most girls take one look at my photo and see a tall powerful bloke that could do them some real harm and ignore me... I sort of understand this logic, because you can't be too safe; but I'm also a little insulted because I'm actually a real nice geniune respectful person, and people passing character judgments on me pisses me off!
I was wondering the other day if there could be a rating system similar to ebay, whereby members could leave feedback on other members based on there ACTUAL experiances; that way you could see at a glance if someone is punctual and not too pushy or a faker or a nutcase... In reality it would be hard to get on the rating system, because no history is the same as a bad history in some peoples eyes, but it could be made to work?
Sex God
Quote by tina1
just wondered why it is:
you get in touch with sinlge males for dogging fun, or they email you, it takes ages to do all the pic swapping to make sure everyone ok with who they meeting, we turn up at arranged place and time, but the single males DONT!!!!
Most likely reason is because they are not single guys, but married ones who want the fantasy but can't explain to the wife where they are going, so never get to live it
We're lucky in that we've never had a no-show, but there's always a first time and although we don't make arranged meets very often, I'm always nervous that each time will be the first
If someone did let us down without letting us know, I would not give them a second chance as I always give my email adress, msn and also phone number, so there is no reason why they can't let us know one way or the other.
No-shows - it's their loss and you're better off without them.
Better luck next time
Tracy-Jayne
turning up for a meet demands ACTION...fantasy doesn't..action is reality, fantasy is not..there is no fantasy in reality...
these guys, or couples are often not intentionally timewasters, they are self decievers..they trust their fantasy will become action..action is reality, not fantasy..you get taken in so easilly because they appear, or sound sincere..often they are..they do not arrange to meet for a joke..they THINK they will turn up..they think, to fantasise..the line on a similar thread somewhere..."i even told them what underwear she'd be wearing" what was the context of that remark? did they ask for that information? why did they?
fantasy is terribly unreliable..much of the internet is fantasy..much of the chatroom, any adult chatroom is used for a masterbation fantasy..why are so many people surprised by that? do your arranged meets..but don't ASSUME too much, you'll be very dissapointed.
these guys, or couples are often not intentionally timewasters, they are self decievers..they trust their fantasy will become action..action is reality, not fantasy..you get taken in so easilly because they appear, or sound sincere..often they are..they do not arrange to meet for a joke..they THINK they will turn up..they think, to fantasise..the line on a similar thread somewhere..."i even told them what underwear she'd be wearing" what was the context of that remark? did they ask for that information? why did they?
fantasy is terribly unreliable..much of the internet is fantasy..much of the chatroom, any adult chatroom is used for a masterbation fantasy..why are so many people surprised by that? do your arranged meets..but don't ASSUME too much, you'll be very dissapointed.
Tough, get over it.
There are plenty of guys WAITING for you to turn up.
You are arranging things in advance and then expect everyone to turn up at a place they don't know, to meet people they've never met. Note all the warnings going the rounds now, not just for couples.
My opinion about arranged meets, for what it's worth, is that they've as much in common with dogging as shit has to sugar.
Pick a dogging spot, check it out in advance, then wander in for look after dark.......or whatever.
Note: not all guys pm'ing you with their details will have 10 inch dicks, or even look like their photos'..most will be the usual rash of chancers and wankers and some may even be worse than that (they may be press)
This game is like football, some genuine fans mixed with a sprinkling of drunks, dossers, wankers and assholes.
There are plenty of guys WAITING for you to turn up.
You are arranging things in advance and then expect everyone to turn up at a place they don't know, to meet people they've never met. Note all the warnings going the rounds now, not just for couples.
My opinion about arranged meets, for what it's worth, is that they've as much in common with dogging as shit has to sugar.
Pick a dogging spot, check it out in advance, then wander in for look after dark.......or whatever.
Note: not all guys pm'ing you with their details will have 10 inch dicks, or even look like their photos'..most will be the usual rash of chancers and wankers and some may even be worse than that (they may be press)
This game is like football, some genuine fans mixed with a sprinkling of drunks, dossers, wankers and assholes.
hi all they are some silly gents on this site, but also some time wasting couples who are just on here to take up time, it seams to me for every 10 replys i send i get 1 in return and some times thats a time waste 
r, why dont people who like wasting other peoples time just get a life and leave us genuine people to it , ps happy new year to you 
r, why dont people who like wasting other peoples time just get a life and leave us genuine people to it , ps happy new year to you 
Sex God
Quote by oral man
yeah and why dont peolpe put more info down in there profile,
We dont put things in our profiles because we dont want unsolicited messages, the less you say about yourself, the less chance of being inundated with messages from plonkers asking if we 'fancy a shag'.
Alot of people on here dont want to use it as a sex site, we want to be able to chat with like minded people and that is why we use the forums. If we want to meet people we put on an advert, or advertise in the Forums section. It does not make people any more or any less genuine that you or me just because they have not filled in their profile, it just means we dont want people to contact us, in other words, dont phone us, we'll phone you
Sexpert
It happens , to couples like us and also when we too play alone, but like has been said further above me, get over it theres plenty of genuine doggers/swingers, single guys girls / and couples around to to more than make up for it.
Just remember the good times youve all had us included, and im sure it out weighs the bad times and dissapointments.
Just remember the good times youve all had us included, and im sure it out weighs the bad times and dissapointments.
oh that hurt ( n w couple ) sorry sorry but please let me say that when i see an add that i fancy replying to i also like to see what other adds they have posted and if they are what there add says, i meet with a couple about 8 months ago from here and there add said they early 40s, more like 60s but still thay are a very nice couple who i see now and then , smack my bum am a bad boy so sorry xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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hi all they are some silly gents on this site, but also some time wasting couples who are just on here to take up time, it seams to me for every 10 replys i send i get 1 in return and some times thats a time waste
But they don't KNOW you're a "genuine person".
You're just another ad, they're genuine.
You wouldn't believe something a person told you in the "real" world without some checking, so why on here ?
Most, if not more than all, of the " " " single guys " " " on here just want to poke something and empty their balls...to that extent they'll say anything to do just that.
I have chatted with people who have been on this site for years and they have NEVER had a meet, even after replying to dozens of ads.
There's a lot of shit being talked on here now, for instance: Why should anyone expect to find the correct postal address of someone ?
Who in their right mind is going to do that ?
They'd find half the tossers of the world camped-out in their street in a few hours, and the other half a day later....after they've figured how to get there.
Get this: to the press, swingers are news....even if not news, they're a story. It fills a hole with a picture and a few words. Even if their friends and family know their choice of fun, others will not. There are a LOT of REALLY sad people out there who WILL make their life a misery IF THEY CAN. The press KNOW this, some have said that is their REAL reason for "exposing the sad truth of the perverted lifestyle of this woman". Not news, just the "get your own back" attitude.
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Nice new avatar Jomu
I think so.
I may change the hair colour to red, the blonde is ok but people tend to expect me to be a bit scatty and break into tears. If its red they'll just expect to get glared at.
Can't decide on the breast size for my ad yet....at the moment it's about 42A(minus)...no replies are expected at that size so it's a toss-up between 38D or 40DD.
On the other hand, I may just put down "sex mad red head with huge tits who loves to be cum-soaked and shagged"...or similar. Although it seems that putting "sweet, demure young girl (18), never had sex, wants nice man to show her the way....must be young, handsome, well dressed and endowed" is the way to get several thousand replies....didn't know there was that many young and handsome men on here ?
I may also change my sex, in which case my ad will have to read: "f'cking HUGE dick, f'cking HUGE car, f'cking HUGE wallet.......want a SHAG....anyone will do but must be FAST"
Sex God
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it's a toss-up between 38D or 40DD.
On the other hand, I may just put down "sex mad red head with huge tits who loves to be cum-soaked and shagged"...or similar.
:shock: Oi! that's MY line in patter
. . . oh and telling them all you've got 36 DD seems to work well for me :P 
T-J
Sex God
Quote by oral mandont mean they real but we would never meet blank profiles or if we have in add send pic and mobi number ,we still get them asking but its wasting there own time realy
yeah and why dont peolpe put more info down in there profile,
Sex God
Quote by oral man
oh that hurt ( n w couple ) sorry sorry but please let me say that when i see an add that i fancy replying to i also like to see what other adds they have posted and if they are what there add says, i meet with a couple about 8 months ago from here and there add said they early 40s, more like 60s but still thay are a very nice couple who i see now and then , smack my bum am a bad boy so sorry xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
That was never meant to hurt, and sorry if it came accross that way, it was not intended(but I will do the smacked bottom if you want) :twisted: and I do agree that if people are advertising they should give as much detail as possible if they want people to reply. what I was getting at (and I obviously didnt explain very well) is the profiles we all had to fill in when the site changed/updated. A lot of us dont advertise, so just put any old cobblers in our profiles, put in different postcodes from where we live etc in order to stop the chancers (mine says Im 108 but I still get pms from guys saying I look good for my age and do I fancy a shag).
I may be completely wrong on this (as I dont do pre-arranged, so not had the let downs) but the people who are not turning up, have they bothered filling in their profiles and giving loads of details, or have they just filled in the basics?
Also, we do have to remember that there are always genuine reasons why a person cant make a meet. I know they should let you know, if not before the meet, then as soon as possible afterwards, and I know it doesnt make you feel any better when you have been let down, but sometimes we have to give people the benefit of doubt, and believe them when the say why they couldnt meet. We also have to remember that there are just as many time wasters in real life as there are on this, or any other site. A fact of life, not a nice one, but it is a fact none the less.
Oralman, hope the bum isnt hurting too much, but I will rub it better if you want
Forum Virgin
hi
maybe a e-bay type rating system might weed out no shows and time wasters?????
with just boxes to tick (so no nasty comments could be added)
just a thought
maybe a e-bay type rating system might weed out no shows and time wasters?????
with just boxes to tick (so no nasty comments could be added)
just a thought
