Can some one pleasse enlighten me as to why when I message regular people on here who are known for dogging or advertise it, I do not get a reply from them. Even a polite reply wouldn't go amiss just to say, that it is invite only or I don't want to mention it because of the so called 'single lad knobhead brigade'
All I ask is for what is a good night at certain locations or in the case of that big park in Nottinghamshire, where in the park is best to find the action, since I could park up at several locations along with the normal day trippers/dog walkers etc. and see next to nothing going on.
If anyone who does frequent said park (daytime/evening), could they please be kind enough to pm me what tree to park near on my next visit. Even anything closer to South Yorkshire would be a bonus.
Thank you for your time in reading my rant.
B
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Why the secrecy to long time members ?
dogging sites are very much protected by those who go to them....The way i found about about good sites was that i knew of 1 site locally....
I kept going there and mostly it was shite...occassional cples but too many guys, eventually got to know a couple of the regulars who then told me where they dissapear too.
Dunno but may well be the same your way.....remember its the anticipation which makes it wot it is....and go expecting nothing
I kept going there and mostly it was shite...occassional cples but too many guys, eventually got to know a couple of the regulars who then told me where they dissapear too.
Dunno but may well be the same your way.....remember its the anticipation which makes it wot it is....and go expecting nothing
Sex God
The problem BiB is that the majority of dogging sites already have enough doggers so people are a bit protective about sharing locations and therefore, increasing the numbers who attend. Competition for the singles and too many doggers for the couples.
Also being a long standing site member does not necessarily mean you are genuine. It actually means nothing, and speaking for ourselves here, we have been stung previously by giving out details of good places and as we want them to stay good locations, only to find the person has broadcasted the details and within a few months we end up with another site ruined, or swampled with singles. That is why we are a bit hesitant at giving out the details to someone we dont actually know.
Also a lot of the doggers have found these places by putting in a bit of effort, by sitting in freezing, often boring car parks for hours and hours on end, so they may just think that anyone who really wants to get involved, should also put in the effort
No offense meant by any of the above, but try and see from the other side. Perhaps the people who refuse to give out locations are the ones who are genuine and dont want to take the risk with someone they dont know.
Also being a long standing site member does not necessarily mean you are genuine. It actually means nothing, and speaking for ourselves here, we have been stung previously by giving out details of good places and as we want them to stay good locations, only to find the person has broadcasted the details and within a few months we end up with another site ruined, or swampled with singles. That is why we are a bit hesitant at giving out the details to someone we dont actually know.
Also a lot of the doggers have found these places by putting in a bit of effort, by sitting in freezing, often boring car parks for hours and hours on end, so they may just think that anyone who really wants to get involved, should also put in the effort
No offense meant by any of the above, but try and see from the other side. Perhaps the people who refuse to give out locations are the ones who are genuine and dont want to take the risk with someone they dont know.
Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
The problem BiB is that the majority of dogging sites already have enough doggers so people are a bit protective about sharing locations and therefore, increasing the numbers who attend. Competition for the singles and too many doggers for the couples.
Also being a long standing site member does not necessarily mean you are genuine. It actually means nothing, and speaking for ourselves here, we have been stung previously by giving out details of good places and as we want them to stay good locations, only to find the person has broadcasted the details and within a few months we end up with another site ruined, or swampled with singles. That is why we are a bit hesitant at giving out the details to someone we dont actually know.
Also a lot of the doggers have found these places by putting in a bit of effort, by sitting in freezing, often boring car parks for hours and hours on end, so they may just think that anyone who really wants to get involved, should also put in the effort
No offense meant by any of the above, but try and see from the other side. Perhaps the people who refuse to give out locations are the ones who are genuine and dont want to take the risk with someone they dont know.
good point well made!!!!
you may also want to look at it from the other side of the fence. contact from you out of the blue to say can i watch you , can i shag you, tell me where you go so i stalk you. not got a lot going for it! every dogging spot has a set of doggers in some respects couples pick the sites they goto to for certain things.
why would they change that balance more than it is already with the opertunist doggers by adding one more.
how many mails a week similair to this do couples get?
did you realy think your the only one?
do the foot work you may be respected for it!
why would they change that balance more than it is already with the opertunist doggers by adding one more.
how many mails a week similair to this do couples get?
did you realy think your the only one?
do the foot work you may be respected for it!
Sex God
Think of it another way, if you knew of a pub where they gave beer away free for the first 5 customers, would you tell a complete stranger about it and risk missing the free beer yourself
bib you really are missing the point on all this mate , a good analogy for dogging ( i think ) is fishing , you can pick the best peg going but there are no guarantees you just need to be patient and hope that something or someone comes along.
sure you can increase your odds and go to popular places but this might backfire because some couples ( i know we do ) avoid these places for that very reason .
patience is a virtue pal and you need to put in the hard hours to get some reward because in my experience you may see nothing for a long time but that 1 glimpse or show spurs you on untill the next time.
happy fishing
sure you can increase your odds and go to popular places but this might backfire because some couples ( i know we do ) avoid these places for that very reason .
patience is a virtue pal and you need to put in the hard hours to get some reward because in my experience you may see nothing for a long time but that 1 glimpse or show spurs you on untill the next time.
happy fishing
Forum Virgin
...but to be fair you might also get a wee bit teed off with the self-righteous stuff that emanates (with tedious regularity) from the same self-appointed police of the practice on this website lol
You may also get a bit miffed by being harrased by the cops who obviously have nothing else to do and get a buzz out of visiting doggin sites themselves.
They bug you even if you're doing nothing.
Went out last Saturday for a burger and just decided to eat it in a local park car park. It is a dogging spot at night but was not there for that and had no intention of it (just wanted to eat).
A car drove up and parked at the other end of the car park, I carried on eating then a cop car pulled up about 15 mins later.
Next minute I'm being given the 3rd degree and having my name taken and my car checked for insurance and stuff. Was given a lecture about being in a doggin stot and told to go home.
Make of that what you like...
Anyway, the advice to you is to be a good and patient dogger (ie respectful and not pushy when a cpl arrive) but do be prepared for the occasional Plod
Would not mind so much if it was a police woman :-)
Then again I may get arrested for improper use of a truncheon :-)
They bug you even if you're doing nothing.
Went out last Saturday for a burger and just decided to eat it in a local park car park. It is a dogging spot at night but was not there for that and had no intention of it (just wanted to eat).
A car drove up and parked at the other end of the car park, I carried on eating then a cop car pulled up about 15 mins later.
Next minute I'm being given the 3rd degree and having my name taken and my car checked for insurance and stuff. Was given a lecture about being in a doggin stot and told to go home.
Make of that what you like...
Anyway, the advice to you is to be a good and patient dogger (ie respectful and not pushy when a cpl arrive) but do be prepared for the occasional Plod
Would not mind so much if it was a police woman :-)
Then again I may get arrested for improper use of a truncheon :-)
Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Also a lot of the doggers have found these places by putting in a bit of effort, by sitting in freezing, often boring car parks for hours and hours on end, so they may just think that anyone who really wants to get involved, should also put in the effort
must have been some effort
even when you told me where you where going to be i still had trouble finding it :D 
Sex God
Well at the risk of Thor naming me as one of the 'police' I dont subscribe to the secrecy stuff. If people go to the effort of asking me direct I always tell. After all we dont want to meet the same three doggers over and over any more than they want to meet the same three couples.
I dont however reply to the six word posts in the forum from chancers who would most likely show up on the off chance and spoil a site for those that make an effort. Dogging was always about exchange of information except it used to be all done in darkened car parks. Theres nothing wrong with keeping the exchange going as long as it is just that, and not people who have the wrong impression about what it is. If someone asks me " where can we find a site that is guaranteed to have only two nice doggers who are never rude, and there are never any police cars there and everything will go just as we planned it" I wont respond, because it doesnt exist. Similarly if a dogger approaches and asks such silly questions we reply likewise.
Dont keep em secret just exchange rather than just give away.
I dont however reply to the six word posts in the forum from chancers who would most likely show up on the off chance and spoil a site for those that make an effort. Dogging was always about exchange of information except it used to be all done in darkened car parks. Theres nothing wrong with keeping the exchange going as long as it is just that, and not people who have the wrong impression about what it is. If someone asks me " where can we find a site that is guaranteed to have only two nice doggers who are never rude, and there are never any police cars there and everything will go just as we planned it" I wont respond, because it doesnt exist. Similarly if a dogger approaches and asks such silly questions we reply likewise.
Dont keep em secret just exchange rather than just give away.
Quote by Silk and Big G
Dogging was always about exchange of information except it used to be all done in darkened car parks.
Yeah, and a real pain it is trying to point-out a location on an AA map, at night, using just the interior light of a car. Whenever you need to use the headlights to see the fine detail it is raining !
Now, with the advent of 3g mobile b/band and laptops you can just call-up google maps and BINGO .
Anyway, have you tried looking at the carparks on google maps ?
Always a winner. The ones to look out for are the ones with well-defined marks-of-use but no cars in.
Then visit during the day, preferably early morning, before the cleaners have done their bit.
I have a process I call "snapshotting". It takes time. Just drop-by the chosen place at various times and have a wander....look for "evidence" of use. Note the regulars...same cars, same people, same place/s.
This game is not about driving into a place just to find a couple, it's about being there when they drive in. Even if a couple have "worn-out" their interest in a particular guy/guys, they frequently park near them...maybe a bit of security there ?
