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maybe i was 18, i can't remember with any certainty, but boy it was to be an eye-opener for me. i'd recieved a phone call from a mate of mine, he'd spotted an ad in the local rag, "gentleman's evening" it read, he felt it might be educational, he wasn't wrong!
lowestoft is on the east coast of suffolk, it grew around the fishing industry, but now, in the freezing depths of winter, it was playing host to three erotic dancers and a comedian, the end of the pier show would never be the same again.
we had decided on bed and breakfast, neither of us fancied tackling that gig sober, i mean, girls, taking their bras off, bloody nora!! the sea was rough, the waves crashed beneath us as we waited our turn in the queue along the boarded pier, man it was cold.
once inside the venue, we took up position alongside the catwalk. the warmth and soft lighting was a pleasant contrast to the inclement conditions outside. groups of men chatted with nervous anticipation, factory workers having a social get together, single men sat in quiet corners whilst others arrived at the tables in pairs. the mix was eclectic,(copyright aknowledged to big g, for terminology used in a previous thread), but we were all united by the common desire to see naked flesh presented in an erotic way.
the comedian ran through his material, chinese, asian, black or irish, gay, women or anyone that dared go to the toilet, nobody escaped his attention, cigar in one hand, micraphone in the other, he had the room in stitches, the booze ran freely, then the words we had waited for, "lads, i want you to give vixen a big hand on her opening, and looking at the size of her opening, you're going to need a fucking big hand"!.the lights fell, and the room exploded, "pussy cat pussy cat" screamed out from the sound system, vixen burst onto the catwalk and the crowd fell silent.
the lady was probably in her mid to late thirties, she went through her routine with well rehearsed grace, one moment bobbing up and down suggestfully, the next, wrapping her bull whip around the neck of a squirming punter, much to the amusement of his workmates. the perfume, lighting, sound and costume blitzed the senses, it was pure hypnotic theatre, magically erotic, vixen held her audience spellbound, and always in perfect control, i realise now, i spelt suggestively wrong, bugger!
ten minutes later she stood poised mid way down the catwalk, she stood only in her knickers and thighboots, her thumbs placed in the elastic as she gestured with her facial expression, "shall i"? she was silently asking, the crowd went wild, they stamped the floor and banged their beer glasses on the tabletops, "off off off" went the chant, several agonising moments passed, then the last remaining garment landed squarely in the face of an unsuspecting man. vixen left the stage to rousing applause, the smell of baby oil hung in the air as a stagehand retrieved her discarded items, man was that something.
for my mate and i, that was the start of a journey into the exploration of the female form that would take us into some bizzare situations, we saw some incredible sights and got into dire straits on more than one occasion, getting knifed in an amsterdam alleyway being one of the most undesireable, but nothing ever really matched the erotic charge felt on that harsh january night in that lowestoft pavillion.
now, when we go out dogging, many of those emotions flood back. ok, mrs dirty's body is one i've seen countless times, but when she is dressed in her finest lingerie, black stockings and leather boots, make up expertly applied and smelling so fucking sexy, i'm every bit as smitten as that fatefull night on the east coast, and if she can enchant me after 18 years of marriage, then i'm damn sure some dogger, feasting his eyes on her slender figure for the first time, is going to return home sporting a monumental boner!!
well, so far, its all about me, but as i'm writing this, i can only give of my experience, which is the feelings of pride and the emotions involved in providing something desireable. mrs dirty is often the one to suggest our excursions, when she tears my clothes off and demands a seeing two upon our return, the assumption is that she benefits too!! our conversations aren't analytical, that is saved for the purposes of entertainment on these pages, in reality, dogging is just something we do, we just have fun with it, we go with the flow, for us, getting into the psychology would kill it dead, but its all there, in all its guises, to be contemplated during our more reflective moments.
to park up in a dark carpark, aware of the shadowy figures congragating around the vehicle, to sense the anticipation and sexual tension is for us, a special kind of thrill, seedily erotic, and erotically seedy. to see and feel mrs dirty getting so aroused by the presence and rarely, interaction from the voyuers is very sexy, to see her completely lose herself in the moment is quite special. to know that every dogger is imagining doing, what i'm doing is quite exciting, when the master joins the dance, it takes on a whole new intensity, but for us, it gives so much.
we see the wide eyed newbies, going through the same emotions i went through all those years ago, is fun. to see the older guys visually feasting on mrs d's naked form is powerfull, when they see mrs d getting dirtier in front of strangers, than most women do in private is quite satisfying, when they gasp in disbelief as mrs dirty shags herself with "black thunder" its quite funny, given that she sports a flange like a mouse's ear, its a seemingly impossible feat, only viable through the intense arousal she experiences through exhibiting for strangers.
but for us, the dogging is only foreplay. the action really kicks off at home. you can see the lust in her eyes, hear it in her voice, all bursting with passion, brought about by the simple exchange of complete strangers watching her and becoming aroused. do we like dogging? you betcha. wink
enjoyed that' but while i was reading it i was wondering weather you did any dogging by yourself before you met mrs dirty" you know on the outside looking in so to speak'
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Good grief Dirty, when you write things like that (especially about Mrs D) reading them is a voyeuristic experience in itself!
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enjoyed that' but while i was reading it i was wondering weather you did any dogging by yourself before you met mrs dirty" you know on the outside looking in so to speak'

no, its a good point though. actually we only discovered dogging in august 2003, so we were many years into our marriage by then. having said that, we met " the master" fairly early on, so i did do a couple of solo excursions to our local venue in order to hook up with him. the problem was, his reputation is deserved, and so much action was landing at his feet, and as such, mine too, the situation became impossible, as i had to reject every advance made. not through guilt, but just because i really didn't want to play, watching would have been nice, but the master was attracting man eaters!!! it was an aspect of dogging i hadn't been prepared for, my expectation was that the game was primearily a voyuer/exhibitionist exchange, but soon realised that most of the couples we encountered were into a sexual free for all, it was more desireable, and less embarrasing to restrict my outings to those which i was accompanied by mrs dirty!! we still get approached regularly by couples looking for full swing, but that aint our dance, so we politely decline.
serendipity, guess i'm getting a tad excitable babe, mrs dirty has bought some new gear, and things are looking good for a weekend jaunt. we hope to give some guys a nice thrill. that piece ran on a bit again didn't it? bugger, i still feel it was too brief though, i didn't get some stuff over right, and to be honest, i came back to it in order to scrub it, as i do, fifty percent of the time! because i send them before reading them through, but, because it had been replied to, i couldn't wipe it, so, shit, i've inflicted it upon you, and we are stuck with it :cry: redface
Very well written piece Mr dirty. You set the scene admirably.
George
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ahh, ta george..must admitt, i was worried this i saw the empty wine bottles on the carpet, then had that horrible memory flashback, when you know that potentially you've done something you'd rather forget, so was rather relieved to see that my sub-consious had gone into dignity preservation mode, just redface lol
mr Dirty
thanx
that was something both enlightning, entertaining and erotic all in 1
it was good
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you are more than welcome kristof smile
again, as is often the case with me, the point of that thread became a little obscure lol really though, i'm fascinated by what influences people, regarding dogging. most of mine i can clearly see, from spotting a young couple having sex, viewed from a high window of a deserted gothic ruin, seeing hookers doing business from within parked cars and being a voyuer to acts of exhibitionism and lewd sex at various clubs and parties.
mrs dirty's influences are different of course, but equally powerfull. doing what we do, rekindles those intense feelings that we felt in our more innocent years, the emotions are very powerfull and wonderfully erotic, and for us, dogging offers a perfect platform from which to indulge them.
just as fascinating though, is the perspective of the voyuer. we can excite the emotions in others, that we felt whilst acting the voyuer role in our youth, more often than not, accidentaly. we see those expressions on the guys faces, and know, from having felt those emotions too, what they are experiencing, and to be able to excite those feelings in others is very gratifying. however, i'd love to hear of some early influences from male voyuers, wether there was a trigger, something that was so erotic, that time and time again you venture out, in the hope of being able to feel that flame of innocent desire burn deep in your stomach again..fucking hell, i make more sense when i'm pissed.!! what the fuck was that all about?? sorry about that..what i'm trying to say is this..maybe, probably, you caught someone getting down to it, and could only stand in awe, rooted to the spot. maybe the little moans were so erotic you felt that high pitched ache in your solar plexus? that emotion will be buried deep in your sub consious now, but still there in all its intensity, does the act of dogging, with the anticipation, bring back to you those feelings?
I really dont know what to say except for thank you for sharing that with us. As always, I felt as I was actually experiencing that with you!
Thank you for yet another excellent post Mr & Mrs D,
NWC
xxxx

well if you care to bend over naughty, i'm sure that can be arranged :twisted: :twisted: xxx
Mr D, get yourself out of the gutter! I was being nice to you lol Oh no, I can see another naughty comment coming my way :lol:
Seriously, it was an excellent post and you could actually feel the atmosphere of the place, smell the smoke and stale beer, feel the embarrasement of the folks having the jokes made about them and feel the nervousness of the young lads seeing their first female 'dancer'. I also felt as I was in the same car park as you and Mrs Dirty, I could even picture the underwear she was wearing, I can see the size of her 'plastic' friend etc etc etc. You are just a born story teller my dear!
Maybe you are right not to analyse, but to just get on and enjoy. After all this life is not a practice run, and as far as I know, we only get one chance to live it!
mr dirty asked if there was singal event that triggered something inside you that changed you forever'
it was i think late september 1972-73 just about to enter my teens' my parents had just bought a new house on a new housing estate that was built around a quite large park,
anyway one evening about 6-7 o clock me and 5 friends were making our way back from the shops via a shortcut through the park and we were walking up one of the tarmac walkways when we noticed a man and a woman "say late twenties, sat on a park bench engaged in heavy petting
and i quickly observed that the womans skirt was hitched right up showing her stocking tops.
anyway all six of us walked straight past sniggering and giggling and having a good look up the womans skirt,she had her legs slightly apart and we could see her red knickers but they were not in the least bothered they just carried on kissing.
now what should have happened then' was that we all went home had our tea then foget the episode totally after a couple of days' but no something changed me that evening and just me' i am still good friends with three of the lads we go drinking and go to football matches together, i asked them about three years ago if there remembered the couple and only one of them said he did but he could,nt remember the stockings and red knickers.
my mates dont know im a dogger and voyuer i hav'nt told them, and i hav'nt told them either that ten minutes after getting home that evening i sneaked back to the park and hid behind a clump of trees and bushes about 30 yards away from the couple who luckily were still there.
i watched with my heart pounding as the man put his hand up the womans skirt, her tan stockings still on show, he was kissing her on the lips then he started to kiss or whisper in her ear, just then i remember a man walking his dog towards the couple in the same direction me and friends had come from earlier the woman had noticed this and said something to her boyfriend and he took his hand out from under the womans skirt "but amazingly, he started to grope her tits through her blouse still kissing her on the lips and the womans skirt was still hitched right up as the man walked past,
i observed the man as he walked by he said something to the dog but he was staring at the womans crotch getting a good eyeful.
i had to go right into the bushes so the man with the dog could'nt see me as he went by
i stayed there till he went past and went out of sight' then i crawled back out and got back into position to see the couple,
it was starting to get dark and on observing the couple who were just kissing now, i decided i was going to walk past them so i came from behind the bushes and trees and started to walk in the direction of the couple, again the woman was the one to see me coming and yet again she said something to her boyfriend, he just about had time to look up as i was going past but he quickly grabbed his girlfriends right leg and pulled it over his legs giving me a full veiw of his girlfriends knickers and bare thighs by now my legs were like jelly i thought i was going to collapse in front of them and my mouth was so dry i thought i was going to choke i carried on walking to the shops and i kept looking back to see what the couple were doing and by the time i got to the end of the park i looked back just in time to see them leaving the park in the oppisite direction.
all in all i watched that couple for about 30-40 minutes that day and in that time all they did was kiss and show the womans stocking tops but it changed me, that one event stirred something inside me so much so that here i am thirty one years later going out and reinacting what happend all those years ago when i was a teenager.
ok the scenario has changed a wee bit instead of me hiding behind bushes i hide behind my steering wheel, and the couple are not sat on a park bench but sat in cars but that overpowering urge is the same when i get out of my car and walk over to theirs my legs still tremble and my throat still goes dry,
whatever drove me to leave my house that evening and go back to the park is still there stronger then ever today and maybe it will last in me forever.
mr +mrs dirty i hope that gave you a bit of insight into what makes some of those guys who wait sometimes in vain, and in all types of weather, for a couple like yourselves to show up.
keep having fun smile :)
Reading Dirtys thread had me thinking of my own first interest into voyueristic situations. I recall my awakening from about 6 years ago, which places me as a late starter I guess.
Anyhow we lived in London at the time and my gf had gone out for the evening with her friends, knowing she would be home late I went to bed about 11pm, I recall it was a hot summers night so we had the bedroom window wide open.
About 30 minutes later I heared a group of girls shouting and singing further down the road obviously the worst for a few drinks, thinking my gf was on her way home I looked out of the window just to see if she was ok.
On looking around the surrounding flats that backed onto our house the voices just became more distant so obviously this was not my gf and friends. Suddenly a lighted bedroom window from one of the flats about 50 feet away caught my eye. There on the bed were two naked bodies, the girls head bobbing up and down on the guys shaft.
I to had that perculier feeling in my stomach that has been described by others. I watched a little longer feeling slightly guilty that I was behaving like a peeping tom, until one thing changed this guilty feeling. The girl goes to the window pulling the nets aside standing naked while the guy takes her from behind, the penny then dropped, they wanted to be seen and I was happy to oblige!...
Obvioulsy the window position was the last scene for this couple as they must have been going for ages before I joined the audience. the girl ended up spreadeagle up against the window with the guy thrusting so hard that her tits were performing a circular dance to his motions.
I never told my gf until the following day as I still needed to be sure I wasnt behaving like a perv!...She said I thought you had been up to something as her window nets were all missarranged.. lol
She then said make sure you wake me up if you see them again as I want to watch... :lol:
guys, that was amazing, and just what i'd hoped for, thank you for taking the time to share your experiences. the time is getting on, and we have to go and give the chaps an eyefull, we're already running late as usual, but thanks again, that was cool wink
right reddog and bigben, tis the morning after the night before, so i'll give your excellent replies a more considered response. interesting that bigben recognised that universal feeling, (just under the breastbone) that we often experience when acting as a voyuer, to an erotic act. also interesting that the feeling is usually more powerfull when the act is accidental, then the emotion is enhanced by the "forbidden" factor, therefore, the further dogging gets from that origional "caught in the act" scenario, the less intense that feeling becomes.
another issue raised, was that of the couple being crept up on. its only my opinion, but i would assume, for various reasons that i wont go into here, that a dogger would derive more satisfaction from being allowed to stalk his prey, than from having it handed to him on a plate? we have only been dogging for a year and a half, so missed the pre-internet days, but i would imagine that the dark clothing and even camo worn by traditional doggers, pay lip service to that underlying desire? jomu has dogged this way for 30 years, if he says i'm wrong, then i'm wrong, its only an idea..however, we prefer to let doggers find us, and often don't aknowledge their presence until afterwards, for us, it embraces those innocent voyueristic emotions. if jomu suggests that wailing sirens and pyrotechnics would satisfy the desires more appropiately, then we'll change our gameplay to accomadate.
however, for me, the most interesting thing, and both bigben and reddog confirmed this in their very honest and wonderfully written accounts, is that the erotic charge felt during those first voyueristic encounters, often during the early teens, can be such a powerfull emotion, and subsequently such a strong influence in later years. it can inspire many people to seek those feelings out, to rekindle that erotic intensity in all its innocence.i'm also certain that those snatched glances can also colour your future preferences for certain clothing on a woman/man, a certain look or even perfume..naturally this will be a sub-consious thing, you may have no direct memory of it, but it will often be the trigger for certain fetishes.
my first encounter was accidental, my subsequent visits to strip shows were to satisfy my absolute admiration of the female form, i would love to photograph, paint or sculpt every woman in the world, but alas, i have a living to make! this encounter was only hinted at earlier, due to me having detailed it in a much earlier thread. it was a very clear view of a teen couple having sex in the missionary position, laid out on the grass, as viewed from the upper window of a ruined gothic style mansion, but i know that simple, five minute encounter made a lasting and powerfull impression on me, if not my fellow voyuers, (we were a small group of teen lads).
its probably true that other aspects of carpark sex are extensions of this same theme, but i'll restrict my ramblings to the voyuer and exhibitionist exchange lol anyway, thanks again for the input. :thumbup:
Thought this one deserved a shameless BUMP! One of the best posts in a very long time lol
We agree, we think that most of these feelings relate to something that has maybe happen in our younger years.
We often enjoyed sex in the car as a way of enjoying our freedom, even if our parents where quite liberal and let us sleep over, it somehow seemed the right thing to do, thinking about being watched never crossed our minds at the time, and we don't really know why,
Once we where on our way home from a party, quite late at night and decided to pull in to a quite layby on a country Lane, With the now wife in party gear and feeling very horny we started to make out in the front, another strange one for you to ponder is that we pulled away from each other at the first site of a cars headlights, as we where only kissing, we could have walked down the high street and no one would have batted a eyelid, it just seemed wrong, maybe our intentions where a bit further in front than our actions.
Well with all the pressures of life and houses etc etc going out like that just sort of stopped and to be honest never seemed to be mentioned again :cry: ,
Then it just sort of happen again not sure when but we seemed, sort of gained our youth back (think it involved a bag of chips and a ride out in the country) rolleyes
We are by no means hardened doggers/showers or what ever the term should be, as we have mentioned to various people we are unsure about pre arranged meets as we feel (not knocking anyone) it spoils the ideas that we have in our heads about being watched by a stranger redface .
Maybe we will eventually move forward who knows confused:
Nice post hotcouple!
If pre-arranged doesn't float your boat then there's no reason to do it.......as for being hardened doggers/showers, I get the impression from most couples here that it's a desire rather than a need and in several cases, it's a form of foreplay before heading home. The time that anyone needs to get it on in front of an audience is probably the time to stop and reflect!
We often enjoyed sex in the car as a way of enjoying our freedom, even if our parents where quite liberal and let us sleep over, it somehow seemed the right thing to do, thinking about being watched never crossed our minds at the time, and we don't really know why,

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I often wonder how often I was the unwitting provider of a good night out for a dogger when I was in my late teens, I distinctly remember using two car parks in Watford with a former boyfriend and constantly stopping what we were doing to listen intently to noises outside!
Quality post and reposts
it makes the waiting game worth playing sometimes