Is it just me, or do you find that people are trying to fill their lives with so much "stuff" these days that they forget where their priorities used to lie? It has become so easy to pay lip-service to friendship, with the advent of virtual conversation media, that we are neglecting the most important people in our lives. As long as there is an internet/mobile phone service that we can utilise to "communicate" with each other in an almost offhand sort of way we forget that face-to-face human contact is more precious to some folks than a quick "u ok?" message. As has been pointed out numerous times, the written word on a computer or phone screen conveys little in the way of feeling or emotion (unless it becomes extreme) and I feel we are losing sight of the personal element of friendship. How many people boast that they have in excess of 300 "friends" on facebook (other networking sites are available ;)), and yet never make contact with over half of them? I am aware that some of those friends may be too far away to see personally, but most aren't and one or two may be feeling that they are just a statistic on your popularity rating.
On the other hand, do you feel that bothering to send the "u ok" at least shows you are thinking of them when you are too busy to meet up? Come to think of it, why do we feel that our lives have to be so crammed full that we can't spare time to just do nothing? After all, our friends will always be there, in the ether. Won't they?
"Complacency is a state of mind that exists only in retrospective: it has to be shattered before being ascertained." Vladimir Nabokov.
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is a godsend for seeing our family and friends especially as we have grandchildren in america who grow up so quick and we only get over there once a year, but chat several times a week on . Free too so no hefty phone bills. Never see the point of 300 or so cyber friends but then I don't do facebook, but enjoy chatting in the chatrooms. Technology is great if used correctly. Wish I had had it when I was travelling as a service engineer away from home while my children were young, I missed so much of thier childhood while stuck abroad.
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Is it just me, or do you find that people are trying to fill their lives with so much "stuff" these days that they forget where their priorities used to lie? It has become so easy to pay lip-service to friendship, with the advent of virtual conversation media, that we are neglecting the most important people in our lives. As long as there is an internet/mobile phone service that we can utilise to "communicate" with each other in an almost offhand sort of way we forget that face-to-face human contact is more precious to some folks than a quick "u ok?" message. As has been pointed out numerous times, the written word on a computer or phone screen conveys little in the way of feeling or emotion (unless it becomes extreme) and I feel we are losing sight of the personal element of friendship. How many people boast that they have in excess of 300 "friends" on facebook (other networking sites are available ;)), and yet never make contact with over half of them? I am aware that some of those friends may be too far away to see personally, but most aren't and one or two may be feeling that they are just a statistic on your popularity rating.
On the other hand, do you feel that bothering to send the "u ok" at least shows you are thinking of them when you are too busy to meet up? Come to think of it, why do we feel that our lives have to be so crammed full that we can't spare time to just do nothing? After all, our friends will always be there, in the ether. Won't they?
"Complacency is a state of mind that exists only in retrospective: it has to be shattered before being ascertained." Vladimir Nabokov.
Maybe you should discuss this with your non cyber friends
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On the contraray I think keeping in touch electronically is great. I have many friends and relatives that I wouldn't see unless there is a wedding or funeral , yet now I keep in touch daily and we are as close as ever. I'd never have time to visit them personally and I am really good at buying xmas / birthday cards , writing on them but then never posting them ,so doing via email or Facebook suits me perfectly.
I am as happy to get a joke forwarded as a phone call, because I know they have thought of me and thats enough.
Just re reading this whole thread. I have the the total opposite view to HugsnKisses. I like it when I catch up with people I havent seen in a while and actually talk with them. Its so much better hearing it from the horses mouth as it were than reading it on facebook or on a tiny phone screen. If I couldent be arsed to post someone a card or remember to do it then I obviously dont care that much. You will get or send far more online birthday/congratulation messages etc as its far easier and far less sincere. I dont show my Birthday on Facebook for that reason. For me to recieve a joke then spam it to my entire phone contacts list takes 30 seconds and I didnt think about anybody. For me to phone someone takes valuable time out of my day and shows I care enough to speak to them.
I really dont like the whole Facebook twitter unlimited texts generation of people. I hate sending more than about 5 texts a day and only really use them for convenience stuff like Mrs Tweeky texting me "need washing up liquid" When I am in work and its not convenient to call. This is stuff I will always happily stay on the fringes of.
MSN for video chat with overseas long distance relatives etc is a whole different story and not even comparible. Obviously a very useful facility.
Sorry, not an attack on you HugsnKisses just using your post to show my opposite opinion.
