We seem to still get the ever present advances from guys that don't meet our profile, are too far away, only want a social or that we simply don't hit it off with (sometimes more than one).
Our kids are 14 and 12. It's very difficult at times to fit everything in, especially with kids at such an inquisitive age. Not to mention an age when they don't want to go to bed. That's why we are so more direct these days than when we first joined the site. Quite frankly there are plenty of ways to be a timewaster, and the paragraph above describes a few of them.
We have had plenty of no-shows, just like so many other people on here. It's galling to think of the effort we have gone to in getting the kids out the house, or worn out when they were younger; the money spent on getting in a few drinkies, some new underwear or whatever else was required; and the multitude of other things that have to be thought of at times to arrange a great meet only to be let down by yet another guy. The long distance guy who says 'I'll be there in two hours' and after four we go to bed. The guy that swears blind he is on the way, but unfortunately there are leaves on the line and his train can't get here. The lost guy. The guy that never intended to meet, just fancied it. The guy that has bottled it at the end of the road. The guy who's aunties step cousins dog has just bitten the cat that scratched a squirrel that ran in the road and caused a car crash meaning he cant get his car off the drive!
Many new people to this site just assume that everyone falls into bed with everyone and that by signing up they will be guaranteed sex until they beg for a night off. The reality however is somewhat different. They fail to realise that we are all people with our own lives to lead and sometimes we get on, sometimes we don't. Sometimes meeting for sex or coffee is practical, but at other times it's laughable to contemplate.
However, when we find someone that we can see eye to eye with long enough to get groin to groin; when they meet our profile; and when they don't have ridiculous 400 mile train journeys, then it is most definitely still worth the effort of arranging a trip to nannies for the kids at the weekend or for them both to sleepover at a friends on the same night. It's worth putting the effort in and getting the reward.
In short, remember who you are here, why you are here and most importantly... Your password so you can still come back one day ;)
when my kids were younger they stayed at relatives or had sleepovers at friends and those were the times to play, short notice meets. being divorced there was always the ex they stayed with on a more regular basis. but now they are more grown up the older ones babysit the younger ones, more time to plan and get excited over the planning of things. dont give up even if its just staying on the site and chatting to friends and possible future meets
we same kat, 16yo at home, she has mates over two three nights a week, we plan stuff coz she says she is going to do such and such so we start to make plans or think about making plans, then hey presto she announces she changed plans. as anything she does usually involves us being her personal taxi service it always impacts us.
our son has long since left home but we have his kids at a weekend now and then.
weekday meets out of question, as are week nights, weekends are restricted to sat nights.
at the mo all our plans are on hold till new year due to xmas and other issues.
long and short, your not alone kat we all struggling. must be very hard for you being a single parent and even getting time to yourself must be hard let alone time enough to play. don't give up just yet the site would be very quiet without you.
It's very difficult getting out as our youngest is now at the age where she's not keen on going to grandparents because they don't have internet access. We have to plan well in advance and try arrange meets around our birthdays etc so we can get away to a hotel for the night without all the questions of why you going away for the night. Socials are a good night away because we get plenty of notice and time to arrange things.
