We've been lurking in the background for far too long now, and we have decided that its time to come out of the corner of the room and talk to people, so a big HELLO to everyone.
So, as an opening post . . . ., interested in everyones thoughts on Facebook and adding "friends". Facebook to both of us is about connecting with friends we don't necessarily see or talk to often, and we tend not to add "people that know us" and we see regularly.
Myself & MrsG have had a friend request from someone in the village who you would say hello to in the pub etc. but haven't got much else in common with them. Would you accept their friend request?
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No but I would make an effort to get chatting next time I see them in case they are lovely, bonkers, sexy, psycho. 
I think the thing with FB is that it's used differently by almost everyone. I use it daily to keep in touch with what my friends (in the same town and across the world) are up to, and to share the odd witticism. ;) Others I know only use it for games, some only use it very occasionally, and even more won't touch it at all because of their privacy concerns.
Just like this Site, there are people on FB who only friend those they know well, whilst others seem to think they need to make as many connections as they can - no matter how tentative.
In fact, I think your question is one of the main reasons FB have now separated their connections into 'friends' and 'acquaintances'. I believe you can move people into the latter category so you don't get a constant stream of irrelevance jamming up your news feed.
I think the only person who can say what you should do is you, and that would be based on your personal use of the tool. :thumbup:
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well I would add them....because they might get the hump if you don't....then if not interesting in any way...I would delete them a week later. They might spot you not added them,....but they get wouldn't know you deleted them.
Problem can be with facebook....to many nosey parkers !!! I find family are actually the worst !!!
well I would add them....because they might get the hump if you don't....then if not interesting in any way...I would delete them a week later. They might spot you not added them,....but they get wouldn't know you deleted them.
Problem can be with facebook....to many nosey parkers !!! I find family are actually the worst !!!
I used to like FB, it was a networking site for people to get to know each other, keep in touch with friends, make new friends and yes mke friends with people at your local in the safety of your own home and avoid that chatting face to face situation when your at the pub.
But now it is just a marketing tool for every Company to advertise their wares on, poke us and we will donate 1p to charity, follow us on FB, play this free game so we can find out personal information that you have showing on there for marketing purposes, it has been stolen from the public and we rarely use it now.
But now it is just a marketing tool for every Company to advertise their wares on, poke us and we will donate 1p to charity, follow us on FB, play this free game so we can find out personal information that you have showing on there for marketing purposes, it has been stolen from the public and we rarely use it now.
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I used to like FB, it was a networking site for people to get to know each other, keep in touch with friends, make new friends and yes mke friends with people at your local in the safety of your own home and avoid that chatting face to face situation when your at the pub.
But now it is just a marketing tool for every Company to advertise their wares on, poke us and we will donate 1p to charity, follow us on FB, play this free game so we can find out personal information that you have showing on there for marketing purposes, it has been stolen from the public and we rarely use it now.
When did Facebook ever belong to the public?
Facebroke is an over rated pile of garbage I think.
People go down the pub with " mates " and spend half the time chatting on FB, what has happened to people's ability to communicate via mouth?
How much has Facebrokes shares collapsed by? But if people get pleasure from it, then that's fine...........isn't it?
People go down the pub with " mates " and spend half the time chatting on FB, what has happened to people's ability to communicate via mouth?
How much has Facebrokes shares collapsed by? But if people get pleasure from it, then that's fine...........isn't it?
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I used to like FB, it was a networking site for people to get to know each other, keep in touch with friends, make new friends and yes mke friends with people at your local in the safety of your own home and avoid that chatting face to face situation when your at the pub.
But now it is just a marketing tool for every Company to advertise their wares on, poke us and we will donate 1p to charity, follow us on FB, play this free game so we can find out personal information that you have showing on there for marketing purposes, it has been stolen from the public and we rarely use it now.
When did Facebook ever belong to the public?
I use the public baths and the public Library, I use phone boxes and post boxes, I use the post office and Asda, all of which are owned by companies but intended for the public to use, what are you trying to say ? that we should not expect a site initially designed for private networking should not be used for private networking ?
Business might have taken it over and that might have been inevitable but that doesn't make it right or that I should still use it, to those who enjoy the site, good on you, have fun, to those who don't like how it has changed, do what I do and find an alternative
Just please, don't question my personal choice and personal opinion, you can have your own choices and opinions it is not for you to question mine.
Thank you for your responses, everyone with a different opinion.
Foxylady, we sort of know him so we know he isn't the bonkers sort (or sexy) although we know he likes a drink having carried him home from the pub on occasion. Deancannock, we think your approach is best. And Midcouple think you are right. FB has its uses for keeping in touch with the more distant friends but the business side, advertising, spam is a pain.
So taking the Dean approach say hello to everyone, make friends . . . we can always walk away at a later point.
Mr&MrsGerty
Foxylady, we sort of know him so we know he isn't the bonkers sort (or sexy) although we know he likes a drink having carried him home from the pub on occasion. Deancannock, we think your approach is best. And Midcouple think you are right. FB has its uses for keeping in touch with the more distant friends but the business side, advertising, spam is a pain.
So taking the Dean approach say hello to everyone, make friends . . . we can always walk away at a later point.
Mr&MrsGerty
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I used to like FB, it was a networking site for people to get to know each other, keep in touch with friends, make new friends and yes mke friends with people at your local in the safety of your own home and avoid that chatting face to face situation when your at the pub.
But now it is just a marketing tool for every Company to advertise their wares on, poke us and we will donate 1p to charity, follow us on FB, play this free game so we can find out personal information that you have showing on there for marketing purposes, it has been stolen from the public and we rarely use it now.
When did Facebook ever belong to the public?
I use the public baths and the public Library, I use phone boxes and post boxes, I use the post office and Asda, all of which are owned by companies but intended for the public to use, what are you trying to say ? that we should not expect a site initially designed for private networking should not be used for private networking ?
Business might have taken it over and that might have been inevitable but that doesn't make it right or that I should still use it, to those who enjoy the site, good on you, have fun, to those who don't like how it has changed, do what I do and find an alternative
Just please, don't question my personal choice and personal opinion, you can have your own choices and opinions it is not for you to question mine.
What on earth are you on about? You don't have to use it if you don't want to and I really couldnt give a toss as to whether you do or not but it has never been in the sort of public ownership you claim. Mark Zuckerberg founded Facebook and is still the major shareholder, Chairman and C.E.O. You are naive in the extreme if you don't expect him and the other shareholders to make money from it. I'm sure you would!
Public baths and libraries are owned by local authorities and you pay for these services via your council tax.
The other services you mention are all owned/supplied by private companies that charge you for the privilege of using them.
Naive for thinking that a networking site wouldn't actually be a networking site .. perhaps, maybe I should get trading standards to look at how they describe themselves and what they actually are then.
I do know that FB is losing 6 million members a month in the US and 2 million members a month in the UK alone. Those are the numbers closing accounts, no doubt many more are like me who now leave their accounts dormant, never actually visiting the site anymore.
But expecting a CEO to make money out if it, maybe, many sites exist only to encourage advertisers, but most of the businesses advertising on FB do not pay for the priviledge, they simply open user accounts, they could argue that they are merely networking but I think we all know they are not there to make friends and chat or play games.
Perhaps the businesses are welcome on facebook to compensate for the loss of public profiles on there, keeping up the numbers does help with the stock market price of FB and encourages those advertisers who do pay not to take their business elsewhere.
I do know that FB is losing 6 million members a month in the US and 2 million members a month in the UK alone. Those are the numbers closing accounts, no doubt many more are like me who now leave their accounts dormant, never actually visiting the site anymore.
But expecting a CEO to make money out if it, maybe, many sites exist only to encourage advertisers, but most of the businesses advertising on FB do not pay for the priviledge, they simply open user accounts, they could argue that they are merely networking but I think we all know they are not there to make friends and chat or play games.
Perhaps the businesses are welcome on facebook to compensate for the loss of public profiles on there, keeping up the numbers does help with the stock market price of FB and encourages those advertisers who do pay not to take their business elsewhere.
Sex God
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Naive for thinking that a networking site wouldn't actually be a networking site .. perhaps, maybe I should get trading standards to look at how they describe themselves and what they actually are then.
I do know that FB is losing 6 million members a month in the US and 2 million members a month in the UK alone. Those are the numbers closing accounts, no doubt many more are like me who now leave their accounts dormant, never actually visiting the site anymore.
But expecting a CEO to make money out if it, maybe, many sites exist only to encourage advertisers, but most of the businesses advertising on FB do not pay for the priviledge, they simply open user accounts, they could argue that they are merely networking but I think we all know they are not there to make friends and chat or play games.
Perhaps the businesses are welcome on facebook to compensate for the loss of public profiles on there, keeping up the numbers does help with the stock market price of FB and encourages those advertisers who do pay not to take their business elsewhere.
so why not get your B&B business on there and use it to your advantage
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Naive for thinking that a networking site wouldn't actually be a networking site .. perhaps, maybe I should get trading standards to look at how they describe themselves and what they actually are then.
I do know that FB is losing 6 million members a month in the US and 2 million members a month in the UK alone. Those are the numbers closing accounts, no doubt many more are like me who now leave their accounts dormant, never actually visiting the site anymore.
But expecting a CEO to make money out if it, maybe, many sites exist only to encourage advertisers, but most of the businesses advertising on FB do not pay for the priviledge, they simply open user accounts, they could argue that they are merely networking but I think we all know they are not there to make friends and chat or play games.
Perhaps the businesses are welcome on facebook to compensate for the loss of public profiles on there, keeping up the numbers does help with the stock market price of FB and encourages those advertisers who do pay not to take their business elsewhere.
The site was initially designed for the use of Harvard students only, then it was opened up to students of other American Universities and then it was eventually opened further to allow the general masses to use it. The site continues to evolve.
I use it to keep in contact with family members and friends, some of whom live abroad. I never click on any of the advertising banners, never use any of the 'free' games or apps and guess what? I never receive any spam!
There will be many reasons why people are leaving the site and Facebook will only continue until something better comes along. Remember My Space?
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Naive for thinking that a networking site wouldn't actually be a networking site .. perhaps, maybe I should get trading standards to look at how they describe themselves and what they actually are then.
I do know that FB is losing 6 million members a month in the US and 2 million members a month in the UK alone. Those are the numbers closing accounts, no doubt many more are like me who now leave their accounts dormant, never actually visiting the site anymore.
But expecting a CEO to make money out if it, maybe, many sites exist only to encourage advertisers, but most of the businesses advertising on FB do not pay for the priviledge, they simply open user accounts, they could argue that they are merely networking but I think we all know they are not there to make friends and chat or play games.
Perhaps the businesses are welcome on facebook to compensate for the loss of public profiles on there, keeping up the numbers does help with the stock market price of FB and encourages those advertisers who do pay not to take their business elsewhere.
so why not get your B&B business on there and use it to your advantage
Two reasons, the first is my personal belief that advertising for free on there is wrong, many sites do not charge for it's use by members of the public, not just networking sites, they pay their costs by offering advertising space for hire and I have no argument with the advertisers on facebook who pay for advertising there. it is the ones that use it for free by opening profiles for the pure purpose of advertising what they have for sale, these profiles vary from corporate business's to prostitutes, I certainly wouldn't want a child of mine clicking on a profile to find naked or half naked pictures of a prostitute offering her services on there.
The second reason is that for my business not all advertising is good advertising, I recently had a call from a server operator offering to put us at the top of the google search page, when I tried to explain that we didn't want to be at the top we would prefer to be the last listing and never found by anyone on there, the caller couldn't really get his head around it, when I asked if he knew what swinging was he said "for people who like dancing, swing, Glenn Miller" I explained the alternative explanation and he put the phone down saying "disgusting"
Channel 4 have contacted us on two occasions recently, the first was an invite to appear on their "four in a bed" programme and the second wanted to come along and interview our customers about their lifestyle. Discretion for our customers is paramount to us and so both offers were politely declined.
Sex God
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Naive for thinking that a networking site wouldn't actually be a networking site .. perhaps, maybe I should get trading standards to look at how they describe themselves and what they actually are then.
I do know that FB is losing 6 million members a month in the US and 2 million members a month in the UK alone. Those are the numbers closing accounts, no doubt many more are like me who now leave their accounts dormant, never actually visiting the site anymore.
But expecting a CEO to make money out if it, maybe, many sites exist only to encourage advertisers, but most of the businesses advertising on FB do not pay for the priviledge, they simply open user accounts, they could argue that they are merely networking but I think we all know they are not there to make friends and chat or play games.
Perhaps the businesses are welcome on facebook to compensate for the loss of public profiles on there, keeping up the numbers does help with the stock market price of FB and encourages those advertisers who do pay not to take their business elsewhere.
so why not get your B&B business on there and use it to your advantage
Two reasons, the first is my personal belief that advertising for free on there is wrong, many sites do not charge for it's use by members of the public, not just networking sites, they pay their costs by offering advertising space for hire and I have no argument with the advertisers on facebook who pay for advertising there. it is the ones that use it for free by opening profiles for the pure purpose of advertising what they have for sale, these profiles vary from corporate business's to prostitutes, I certainly wouldn't want a child of mine clicking on a profile to find naked or half naked pictures of a prostitute offering her services on there.
The second reason is that for my business not all advertising is good advertising, I recently had a call from a server operator offering to put us at the top of the google search page, when I tried to explain that we didn't want to be at the top we would prefer to be the last listing and never found by anyone on there, the caller couldn't really get his head around it, when I asked if he knew what swinging was he said "for people who like dancing, swing, Glenn Miller" I explained the alternative explanation and he put the phone down saying "disgusting"
Channel 4 have contacted us on two occasions recently, the first was an invite to appear on their "four in a bed" programme and the second wanted to come along and interview our customers about their lifestyle. Discretion for our customers is paramount to us and so both offers were politely declined.
so given your extreme morals on this issue do you pay sh when you mention your swinging B&B or is it a free plug
to be honest mids any kid can go on the Internet and find naked women or men, at the age of 12 me and some mates got hold of some top shelf magazines ffs i can only imagine you keep the kids in the basement with only a Janet and john book and very dark light ......jeez (shakes head emoticon )
now a private page on f/book can be anything so people can write reviews etc arrange meets personally i cant see why not and the beauty is only those you approve can see the page but hey it your business and there was me thinking you was an out there type swinger
as for free advertising its an opportunity and as a business man i would have thought every opportunity could open doors with most phones linked to face-book nowadays what better way to pass on the business from one couple to another whilst at a club or something
Sex God
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we weren't quite expecting this to be such a heated subject . . . shall we start something a litle less complicated next time
no chance of that here Gerty
:rotflmao: Nah it's not heated just an exchange of views.
I have operated a Guest House exclusively for swingers for 8 years in Darlaston and now have this one in Stoke on Trent, I can hand on heart say that I have never had a guest book with us after seeing anything we have written on SH.
On the other hand we do actively advertise on other swinger sites, these sites have swapped banners with us and we get a high response from them, we did approach SH to offer the same mutual work relationship but never recieved a reply.
Perhaps that is reflected in other ways I have noticed, for example I am currently organising a North Mids Social meet at atlantisEVOLUTION in Stoke, it is advertised on a number of sites, one site has less than 1000 active members and 21 people have confirmed they will be attending on the site message board, this site has over 1 million active members and nobody has signed up for it.
I have operated a Guest House exclusively for swingers for 8 years in Darlaston and now have this one in Stoke on Trent, I can hand on heart say that I have never had a guest book with us after seeing anything we have written on SH.
On the other hand we do actively advertise on other swinger sites, these sites have swapped banners with us and we get a high response from them, we did approach SH to offer the same mutual work relationship but never recieved a reply.
Perhaps that is reflected in other ways I have noticed, for example I am currently organising a North Mids Social meet at atlantisEVOLUTION in Stoke, it is advertised on a number of sites, one site has less than 1000 active members and 21 people have confirmed they will be attending on the site message board, this site has over 1 million active members and nobody has signed up for it.
