I know we`ve kinda been , dunno , focused on one another since mr 2`s was diagnosed in may, but everyone seems to have disappeared ..... guess it`s what he always said... can count your true friends on 1 hand/..... peeps have been amazing n the kids have been troopers
but where 2 go from here ?? I just don't know...............
being invited down spa when hub aint even been dead 2 weeks ?? that's way wrong !!!!!!!!!!!!!
this `ll just vanish into the net ...
You've got to take time to heal and do what you think is best...
You've got friends here but they won't hold it against you if you decide to take time out or even leave totally....
You can always keep in touch other ways...
I can only imagine how empty you must be feeling right now but don't try and take it all on and cope alone..
Lean on your friends.....It's what they would want....
xx
To some, it may seem way too early but you must go where your heart tells you to go.
You will have wonderful memories to be sure but that doesn't for one moment mean that you can't get on with your life and who is qualified to say what a 'decent' period is anyway?
Go for it. Re-engage. Live your life. It's got bugger all to do with other people. Sod them and cherish his memory. Never think for a single moment that you are being disloyal to him.
Possible reason everyone seems to have disappeared is that they are on a guilt trip. They don't know how to handle it so take the least line of resistance and stay away. That is their problem, not yours.
Lift your head up high and go where life now takes you. It isn't wrong. It is the right thing to do if you are comfortable with it. Tongues may wag but ignore them and walk confidentaly away. They're probably only jealous that you have been able to handle things so well so are not worth concerning yourself about.
Respect the past but don't be tied down to other people's expectations about how you must now conduct yourself.
My views may seem harsh to some but you have to go on.
Life is for living. I wish you every happiness in where your life now takes you.
Two's
they either want to give you space, heavily engrossed in own family matters over xmas, or those want to get you out as a way to relax/break (spa invite ?), unless you've spent a lot of time with people and know each other well it's always hard to know how to react/support after the initial news.
so just take your time and be about on here when you want, even if only to read the forums and have the occasional laugh and banter in Chat.
As Steve, G, and L&R have said you'll know what to do when you want to do it.
there is no time limit on grief.
dont rush or let others rush you.
Christmas and New Year can be the worst time for grief about a loss. You remember all the good family times you had etc etc....there is no remedy.....apart from time. Time does heal....thou for some it takes longer, whilst for others its quicker. There is no no set time limit for grief.
As for moving on, you do it at your pace. however a good way at looking at it, is you knew Mr Two's better than any one.....and what do you think he would be saying looking down now !! Whatever you think he would be saying. I say go with that, because I am guessing its the correct course.
Hope your pain eases soon, and stay positive.
Do sincerely hope 2014 brings you the contentment and happiness again.
xx
Two's
You will know what is right for you, when the time is right, you do what you want when you want.
xx
hi twos , u know what someone suggested was wrong, so girl u know ur own mind and u will do what and when u deem right, xx
Two's, we really cannot imagine what you are going through at the moment, and how you must feel. We have both lost people very close to us, and know the hurt, pain and sense of emptiness that is there and will be for a long time, but we all you can do now is take it one day at a time. Do what feels right for you and only do as much or as little as you feel comfortable with (and I am not referring to swinging, I mean life in general).
Some people will feel as if they don't know what to say to you, or how to behave when they see you, and inviting you to their events, is probably their way (rightly or wrongly) of showing they are thinking of you and are trying to be as normal as they possible can be. Don't hold it against them, they are probably just trying to be there for you.
As for what you will do now, there is no need to decide today, tomorrow or the week after. Take each day as it comes and don't worry about things you don't need to worry about. Just make sure that what ever happens, you take advantage of the support of friends and family, they are invaluable at a time like this, and although it is little comfort, just wanted you to know that although we have never met you, we are thinking of you xxxxx
LG. x
