I know there is no actual answer to this - I just want to shout into the ether really!
But why do so many people send out private messages then close their account without waiting for an answer?
I had 6 private messages sent to me last night, all by accounts which today are gone (maybe the same account, who knows?). I get that some people expect the site to provide an -fuck and run away once they find that other members are looking for more than "I live near you, you'll do" - but why bother sending out messages if you are planning to leave the site? At least give me a few hours to consider whether you are worth getting to know!