Newbies

Hi everyone new couple to the site just wanted to say hi and  looking forward to getting to chat with you and possibly meet if your what we are looking for 😊😊

Welcome to the site. Best of luck on your journey here - I hope you have lots of fun! 

hi,if you fancy a chat anytime contact me x

Well as a complete newbie and to boot a 64 year old male widower who seeks fun it seems i am at a great disadvantage as there are many many other younger men out there looking for the same. There is however many a good tune played on an old fiddle, but getting into the band seems the hard part. Are men my age who have sexual talents got to be consigned to the geriatric dustbin doomed to play with themselves as no one else will. Comments and opinion welcome folks and any tips gratefully received.

Quote by Robtheunruly
Well as a complete newbie and to boot a 64 year old male widower who seeks fun it seems i am at a great disadvantage as there are many many other younger men out there looking for the same. There is however many a good tune played on an old fiddle, but getting into the band seems the hard part. Are men my age who have sexual talents got to be consigned to the geriatric dustbin doomed to play with themselves as no one else will. Comments and opinion welcome folks and any tips gratefully received.

 There are plenty of people here looking for older guys, so don't feel that your age is directly against you. 

I'd suggest you set a profile picture. Single men outnumber couples and females massively around here - I can't speak for others but I rarely look at a profile of a single guy without a profile picture because for the most part I'd expect the rest of the profile to be empty. 

Joining in with the forum conversations as you already have will help, as will using the chatrooms if you are comfortable to do so - it gives a chance to get to know people and build a social foundation which will likely lead to more down the line. This place isn't a short cut so don't expect to be meeting someone immediately - most people are careful about who they meet so really want to get to know a person first but there are plenty of people who will want to meet with you. 

I would also say, if someone turns you down it is easy to think the one thing you are most hung up on is their reason - so if you are concerned about your age, you think they feel you are too old for them - try not to do that to yourself. Don't even think about why, just forget them and move on. Honestly, it will drive you mad if you keep trying to figure out what you did wrong to a person! 

Be sure to read the profiles of people you approach too - you'd be amazed how many messages I get offering the complete opposite from what I want just because the guy has a stock message he sends out based on an idea of what "all women" want in a man. 

The last thing (because I'm aware I waffle!) - don't sit back and wait for people to contact you. Because of the balance of the membership here, single women (and couples too) receive LOTS of messages from single guys so very rarely feel the need to make first contact - this means that there is unfortunately no room for men to be shy. 

Quote by Robtheunruly
Well as a complete newbie and to boot a 64 year old male widower who seeks fun it seems i am at a great disadvantage as there are many many other younger men out there looking for the same. There is however many a good tune played on an old fiddle, but getting into the band seems the hard part. Are men my age who have sexual talents got to be consigned to the geriatric dustbin doomed to play with themselves as no one else will. Comments and opinion welcome folks and any tips gratefully received.

 We met on this site about six years ago.

My man is your age and i am slightly younger 🙄

As they say" age is just a number"

It is all about your outlook and attitude. 

Be positive and get yourself out there either in chat or when socials start again,put your name down.

As my mum says " whatever is for you,wont pass you by"

Good luck