Hi there,
I'm new to this website and was wondering what is the best entry point, so to speak, for the single straight male? I was thinking of going to Kestrals as it has good reviews on this website and looks to have a non-pressurised vibe about it. Would be grateful for any sage advice from members.
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Sex God
Cant really give any advice on Kestals (never been) but welcome to the site and to the forums, hope you have fun x
Sex God
Hey!
Welcome to the site and forum. Not been to Kestrals, but hope you have fun.
x
Welcome to the site and forum. Not been to Kestrals, but hope you have fun.
x
Orgasminator
Welcome 
I dont think there is a blanket of advice which covers it all, much of it depends on what kind of person you are and what you are looking for from the scene.
On the site, be patient, honest, polite and dont expect replies from everyone you contact or lots of responses to 'single male seeks.....' adverts.
Lots of genuine couples and girls on here (
), but zillions of single guys too so standing out from the crowd can seem difficult at first - no easy answer to this one I am afraid.
Still not got to a club yet......... I really need to sort that out soon :rascal:
Good luck ;)
I dont think there is a blanket of advice which covers it all, much of it depends on what kind of person you are and what you are looking for from the scene.
On the site, be patient, honest, polite and dont expect replies from everyone you contact or lots of responses to 'single male seeks.....' adverts.
Lots of genuine couples and girls on here (
), but zillions of single guys too so standing out from the crowd can seem difficult at first - no easy answer to this one I am afraid.Still not got to a club yet......... I really need to sort that out soon :rascal:
Good luck ;)
Sex God
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Also don't believe anything Skinny says!!
:giggle:
funny not seen skinny or pebble for a while in the forums :haha:
Sex God
Hiya Hanover, welcome to the forums and all that!
Kestrel's looks good. Definitely worth a spin. If you've never seen the way a lot of single guys in clubs behave, hanging around in packs following every fem or couple who walks by them or trying their luck hammering on doors that have been locked to stop 'em just walking in in the first place, prepare to be somewhat taken aback. Best way to stand out from that particular crowd is simply not to emulate them in any way. Just talk to people same as you'd talk to them anywhere else, see if you click with someone enough for them to wonder if there's a role for you anywhere but don't be disappointed if not. Comes with the territory, occupational hazard, but you might see the same couple again another visit and if they remember you as the relaxed, funny guy they chatted to before moving on last time they might just be more inclined to take a chance on you this time. Sounds obvious doesn't it, almost patronising even me trying to explain all this to another thinking, feeling adult, course you wouldn't dream of any of this loitering in packs, hammering on doors, making other people uncomfortable, completely pissing them off nonsense, but it will make sense when you see just how many guys seem incapable of grasping any of that.
Look out for social and club meets local to you in Let's Meet Up, get yourself onto the forum or into the chatroom often as you can, let people get used to you being there as one of the faces, see if you can't occasionally come out with something that actually reveals what kind of a person you are, see if you click with anyone. When I started here and the numbers were relatively small there were big site get-togethers a few times a year. Apart from Mrs NWC's valiant efforts over the years keeping the buzz and excitement going for those new to the scene with a big bash for 200+ like the Wigan Munches it seems to be that the days of the really big socials are gone, replaced by lots of much smaller local get togethers. They'll be put on by either the chatroom ( more likely these days ) crowd, or the forum ( less likely ) crowd, so you'll want to get yourself known as a solid regular, chat or forum to be in with a chance of an invite to a smaller social, club meet, whatever.
Don't rely on your profile to hook people in, it's unlikely to work for you. Single guys outnumber single fems and couples by about four to one, so those looking for a single guy really do have their pick. If you've not got anything physically exceptional enough to turn heads all by itself, then a more subtle approach is needed. They say the brain's the biggest sex organ anyways so show what you've got in there, try and have fun with people before trying to have 'fun' with them.
Hope you enjoy the site, good luck in your search. ;)
Kestrel's looks good. Definitely worth a spin. If you've never seen the way a lot of single guys in clubs behave, hanging around in packs following every fem or couple who walks by them or trying their luck hammering on doors that have been locked to stop 'em just walking in in the first place, prepare to be somewhat taken aback. Best way to stand out from that particular crowd is simply not to emulate them in any way. Just talk to people same as you'd talk to them anywhere else, see if you click with someone enough for them to wonder if there's a role for you anywhere but don't be disappointed if not. Comes with the territory, occupational hazard, but you might see the same couple again another visit and if they remember you as the relaxed, funny guy they chatted to before moving on last time they might just be more inclined to take a chance on you this time. Sounds obvious doesn't it, almost patronising even me trying to explain all this to another thinking, feeling adult, course you wouldn't dream of any of this loitering in packs, hammering on doors, making other people uncomfortable, completely pissing them off nonsense, but it will make sense when you see just how many guys seem incapable of grasping any of that.
Look out for social and club meets local to you in Let's Meet Up, get yourself onto the forum or into the chatroom often as you can, let people get used to you being there as one of the faces, see if you can't occasionally come out with something that actually reveals what kind of a person you are, see if you click with anyone. When I started here and the numbers were relatively small there were big site get-togethers a few times a year. Apart from Mrs NWC's valiant efforts over the years keeping the buzz and excitement going for those new to the scene with a big bash for 200+ like the Wigan Munches it seems to be that the days of the really big socials are gone, replaced by lots of much smaller local get togethers. They'll be put on by either the chatroom ( more likely these days ) crowd, or the forum ( less likely ) crowd, so you'll want to get yourself known as a solid regular, chat or forum to be in with a chance of an invite to a smaller social, club meet, whatever.
Don't rely on your profile to hook people in, it's unlikely to work for you. Single guys outnumber single fems and couples by about four to one, so those looking for a single guy really do have their pick. If you've not got anything physically exceptional enough to turn heads all by itself, then a more subtle approach is needed. They say the brain's the biggest sex organ anyways so show what you've got in there, try and have fun with people before trying to have 'fun' with them.
Hope you enjoy the site, good luck in your search. ;)
Sex God
Oh shush you, you, you silver-tongued flatter you! Though if there's any more ego stroking to be had, well, I quite like being tickled a bit while you do it, just . . . here. :twisted:
Sex God
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Neil its good to see you still have bloody good posting skills :thumbup:
Just what I was thinking too - good Yorkshire sense... magnifique, Neil! :thumbup:
Just wanted to say a big thanks to everyone who took the time and trouble to responded to my initial post, particularly Neil! Really appreciate the considered advice and warm and friendly welcome. I was always planning to take things slowly and low key, no cock shots from me! Hopefully I can befriend some like-minded individuals locally and see where that takes me. Still planning on going to Kestrels during the daytime later on this week, if only to experience a nude spa! Anyway, take care and I hope you all have a fun weekend.
Quote by Hanover43
Just wanted to say a big thanks to everyone who took the time and trouble to responded to my initial post, particularly Neil! Really appreciate the considered advice and warm and friendly welcome. I was always planning to take things slowly and low key, no cock shots from me! Hopefully I can befriend some like-minded individuals locally and see where that takes me. Still planning on going to Kestrels during the daytime later on this week, if only to experience a nude spa! Anyway, take care and I hope you all have a fun weekend.
Having :small-print: Neil's post, I concur.
Btw,
to :swingingchair: Hanover43.Paddy
Sex God
Quote by neilinleeds
Hiya Hanover, welcome to the forums and all that!
Kestrel's looks good. Definitely worth a spin. If you've never seen the way a lot of single guys in clubs behave, hanging around in packs following every fem or couple who walks by them or trying their luck hammering on doors that have been locked to stop 'em just walking in in the first place, prepare to be somewhat taken aback. Best way to stand out from that particular crowd is simply not to emulate them in any way. Just talk to people same as you'd talk to them anywhere else, see if you click with someone enough for them to wonder if there's a role for you anywhere but don't be disappointed if not. Comes with the territory, occupational hazard, but you might see the same couple again another visit and if they remember you as the relaxed, funny guy they chatted to before moving on last time they might just be more inclined to take a chance on you this time. Sounds obvious doesn't it, almost patronising even me trying to explain all this to another thinking, feeling adult, course you wouldn't dream of any of this loitering in packs, hammering on doors, making other people uncomfortable, completely pissing them off nonsense, but it will make sense when you see just how many guys seem incapable of grasping any of that.
Look out for social and club meets local to you in Let's Meet Up, get yourself onto the forum or into the chatroom often as you can, let people get used to you being there as one of the faces, see if you can't occasionally come out with something that actually reveals what kind of a person you are, see if you click with anyone. When I started here and the numbers were relatively small there were big site get-togethers a few times a year. Apart from Mrs NWC's valiant efforts over the years keeping the buzz and excitement going for those new to the scene with a big bash for 200+ like the Wigan Munches it seems to be that the days of the really big socials are gone, replaced by lots of much smaller local get togethers. They'll be put on by either the chatroom ( more likely these days ) crowd, or the forum ( less likely ) crowd, so you'll want to get yourself known as a solid regular, chat or forum to be in with a chance of an invite to a smaller social, club meet, whatever.
Don't rely on your profile to hook people in, it's unlikely to work for you. Single guys outnumber single fems and couples by about four to one, so those looking for a single guy really do have their pick. If you've not got anything physically exceptional enough to turn heads all by itself, then a more subtle approach is needed. They say the brain's the biggest sex organ anyways so show what you've got in there, try and have fun with people before trying to have 'fun' with them.
Hope you enjoy the site, good luck in your search. ;)
This post should be in the site help-guides and a sticky in the forum. Excellent points throughout.
Sex God
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Sex God
Hannover, this link may take you to a fairly old post, but the advise and guidance within it still stands, and this may give you some ideas, and hopefully make your time on the site a lot more pleasurable.
Good luck, and really do hope you have lots of fun
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/20451.html
Good luck, and really do hope you have lots of fun
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/20451.html
Sex God
Quote by Big_Fraser
Still not got to a club yet......... I really need to sort that out soon :rascal:
Oi :waves:
