Lots of discussions on tv and radio about what ken clarke said about this weekend,Imagine this scenario. A swinging couple meet another swinging couple and agree to swap,same room fun,groping goes well but as one male goes to the toilet for 5 mins and returns he's confronted with his partner and the other couple getting dressed as the other male has "finished" playing with the guy's partner who went to ended the "fun", but the agreement was both parties swapped,apart from feeling cheated is this classed as ?
Some really odd situations can arise in the "swinging scene" ...I (Ron) know of several couples where the lady is really turned on by "play ".
I was in a Hotel room a short while ago ...where the lady appeared completely unwilling to play and her partner got very abusive towards her and said ....we'll the fucking bitch ! I was completely shocked and of course and refused to take part until he grabbed me by the arm took me into the toilet and explained the situation to me.
Ron
Absolutely right Sara ...
now I know "the rules" and what is required - one plays the game accordingly and along pre-agreed/arranged limits.
I'm told - there's even a group of guys on ALT that advertise such services hey ho the human mind never fails to amaze me ;-)
It is time the government woke up and changed the law, we need a new law governing the situation where an adult (over 16 in this case) has sex with a minor (under 16)
At the moment some poor bloke can go to a nightclub (average minimum admission age 21) pick up a girl he believes (and the club believes) is over 21, have sex with her only to be later charged with because it turns out that she is under 16, so many girls can dress to make themselves look over 21 what chance has a guy got knowing she is under 16.
Having his life ruined with a charge hanging over him is disgusting especially since the minor gets away without any charges whatsoever yet she is the only one who knows that what they are doing is illegal. Surely an alternative charge can be found/legislated. Does the guy really deserve to be charged with , doesn't this confuse people about what is ? surely is having sex with someone against thier will either by force or some other method (victim asleep or drugged for instance).
Different in the case of someone over the age of 16 having sex with someone under the age of consent and knowing thier age, often 14 and 15 year olds have been known to get pregnant to 19-21 year old boyfriends without any charges being brought against them, why is that ?
Even rarer is the conviction of a woman having sex with an underage boy.
Younger women on here, if you are around the age of 18 - 24 would you be happy to carry your ID around a swingers club or party with you so that anyone playing with you can check your ID first, and I mean driving licence or passport not one of the easily faked "passes" ? Has any SH member arranging a meet with you ever asked you for proof of age ? could they not be guilty of "intention to commit " if they do not check, after all they are meeting with the intention of having sex with someone who may or may not be over the legal age of consent ?
Food for thought methinks
The Law is NOT black and white, it is supposed to be but another colour is added to the mix, the CPS. a crime is committed but the CPS decide wether or not to pursue a conviction, costs too much, evidence a bit shaky, courts too busy, prisons to full.
Some politicians were recently charged with claiming expenses they were not entitled to, someone, somewhere decided to prosecute some but not others, shouldn't every single one have been charged so that that a court of law could decided who was guilty of fraud and who simply made a mistake ?
Often people are not charged with offences for financial reasons, "not in the public interest" so the Law is NOT black and white, a law that says xxxxx is illegal should read xxxxx is illegal but permitted if the CPS deem it not worth going to trial for.
Hard to secure a conviction if the 15 yr old girl does not testify against partner that got her pregnant ? I heard there was something called DNA that is permissable as evidence in a court of law!
I understand the CPS and that sometimes the decsions they make are necessary but don't defend a bunch of people who are not Judges actually deciding a persons fate before they have been tried in a court of law, that is the job of the judges, that is what we have a legal system for not for civil servants without a law degree to decide.
If we are to respect the law then it must be equal to all, in your own words, some women are tried for of a minor, some, why not all, why "especially in the education system" if a child cannot give consent it doesn't matter if it is consent to a teacher or a cook, that would be for a judge to consider when sentancing, obviously using a position of trust to seduce a child might be worthy of a more serious punishment than a chance encounter for instance.
You can write laws in black and white but then you add the human element, police officers, victims, CPS, Judges, Magistrates and The Home Office.
Thier introduction to the equation changes law, some decide not to prosecute even though they believe a crime has been committed, a victim will not press charges or give evidence, a policeman decides a warning is sufficient, the CPS decide it is not in the public interest to take the case any further, the Home Office issue guidelines on how offences should be dealt with, Magistrates and Judges decide not to impose a punishment.
Laws are often interpreted differently, carrying a concealed weapon is and offence but the offence is ignored on religious or cultural (Sikhs and Gurkhas carry concealed knives as part of thier culture and for religious reasons) so those who enforce the law choose to see this as being different to those who carry a concealed weapon perhaps for the purpose of commiting a crime.
Diplomatic Immunity renders many laws useless, black and white says it something is illegal, the grey area of diplomatic immunity says "yes it's illegal but you cannot be prosecuted or punished for it"
Ideal world not here yet......... Real world very different to black and white