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It's been a week since I was told - it's still the first thought I have when I wake up ...... Neil's dead
I can't properly get my head round it. I haven't seen him for yonks, but the impact he had on me has ensured that his passing has left me, and so many others, utterly stunned.
I am so sorry for your loss Gem - I too watched you and Neil blossom from flirting, to full on rock solid love.... You never needed to tell people you loved him, you just oozed it from your whole being. Just the way you looked at him spoke volumes (pretty crap at being mysterious and hiding your feelings ain't ya!
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Neil was a massive influence on here and he never had a clue :lol: he used to have me crying with laughter, he was so much fun to banter with cos he always responded in totally off the wall ways. He never took offence and went along with pisstake banter in his own unique hilarious style, giving as good as he got.
The way he used to beat himself up if he thought he had upset someone (which he never did as far as I remember), just made him even more lovable. He was always one for the underdog too, fighting their corner. He was always in the middle of debates, he seemed to love them. He had his opinions, he offered them without ramming them down people throats, he was very open to discussion, always listened to others opinions without poo pooing them (excluding bigoted, holier than thou opinions, which he would poo poo and make me laugh just by the way he done it :lol:
I remember meeting him for the first time at a munch, then all went on to Adam & Eve's afterwards..... For many of us, it was our first venture into a club, and we all had the exact same faces
:shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:
Having had a drink (or 3), I was feeling brave, so decided to tackle the hot tub :hunk: I got my kit off, then went all shy and embarrassed, so instead of getting in hot tub like a sexy siren would, I ran so fast, boobs flying everywhere, and practically done a bomb
I came to the surface, only to see Neil cowering in the corner, still sporting his :shock: face
:rotflmao: :rotflmao:
That was it then, we were up to our necks in water, with no elegant way of getting out the hot tub, no steps or anything! :uhoh: so there we sat, marinading in chlorine for hours! "You get out first", "no you", "no you", "ok get out together' 1, 2, 3...." So out I leapt, and he never
Then I saw a flash, boobs flying, if you blinked you missed it Gem making her hot tub entrance :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Neil's face >>>> :smitten:
... And there they sat..... And sat .... and sat :lol: .......... And bonded :inlove:
Neil had such a way about him, a wonderful energy, a gorgeous nature....
One of the good guys....
In all our hearts forever RIP buddy
Sent with love
Xxxx
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... From an ipad, which has taken bluddy ages to write.... Lost it twice already, cos shut the wrong window
I can't properly get my head round it. I haven't seen him for yonks, but the impact he had on me has ensured that his passing has left me, and so many others, utterly stunned.
I am so sorry for your loss Gem - I too watched you and Neil blossom from flirting, to full on rock solid love.... You never needed to tell people you loved him, you just oozed it from your whole being. Just the way you looked at him spoke volumes (pretty crap at being mysterious and hiding your feelings ain't ya!
)Neil was a massive influence on here and he never had a clue :lol: he used to have me crying with laughter, he was so much fun to banter with cos he always responded in totally off the wall ways. He never took offence and went along with pisstake banter in his own unique hilarious style, giving as good as he got.
The way he used to beat himself up if he thought he had upset someone (which he never did as far as I remember), just made him even more lovable. He was always one for the underdog too, fighting their corner. He was always in the middle of debates, he seemed to love them. He had his opinions, he offered them without ramming them down people throats, he was very open to discussion, always listened to others opinions without poo pooing them (excluding bigoted, holier than thou opinions, which he would poo poo and make me laugh just by the way he done it :lol:
I remember meeting him for the first time at a munch, then all went on to Adam & Eve's afterwards..... For many of us, it was our first venture into a club, and we all had the exact same faces
:shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:
Having had a drink (or 3), I was feeling brave, so decided to tackle the hot tub :hunk: I got my kit off, then went all shy and embarrassed, so instead of getting in hot tub like a sexy siren would, I ran so fast, boobs flying everywhere, and practically done a bomb
I came to the surface, only to see Neil cowering in the corner, still sporting his :shock: face
:rotflmao: :rotflmao:That was it then, we were up to our necks in water, with no elegant way of getting out the hot tub, no steps or anything! :uhoh: so there we sat, marinading in chlorine for hours! "You get out first", "no you", "no you", "ok get out together' 1, 2, 3...." So out I leapt, and he never
Then I saw a flash, boobs flying, if you blinked you missed it Gem making her hot tub entrance :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Neil's face >>>> :smitten:
... And there they sat..... And sat .... and sat :lol: .......... And bonded :inlove:
Neil had such a way about him, a wonderful energy, a gorgeous nature....
One of the good guys....
In all our hearts forever RIP buddy
Sent with love
Xxxx
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... From an ipad, which has taken bluddy ages to write.... Lost it twice already, cos shut the wrong window
How woefully inadequate a tribute to Neil that I get a lifetime ban off this site lifted, in order to come pay my respects in words, yet I still don't have any that quite convey anything I want to say!
I wish, like many others, that I were here for other reasons & better circumstances.
Neil will be laughing & pointing at me right now, shaking his head in disappointment! I'm sure he was almost as proud of my SH ban as I was! The very fact I and others are here, Neil, should indicate the depth of feeling within the community - take the piss all you like
I still remember the thigh boots! and the fact he had better legs in them than most of the women! The forum banter, the mid-debate-waiting-up, chain smoking & coffee pot filled til 4am knowing there was a Neil-post coming at some point and it would be worth waiting up for....
Truly an integral part of this site of old & all that came with it into my life, fondly remembered.
Little Gem I cannot imagine your pain. Please do lean on all of us whenever you need to.
I wish, like many others, that I were here for other reasons & better circumstances.
Neil will be laughing & pointing at me right now, shaking his head in disappointment! I'm sure he was almost as proud of my SH ban as I was! The very fact I and others are here, Neil, should indicate the depth of feeling within the community - take the piss all you like
I still remember the thigh boots! and the fact he had better legs in them than most of the women!
The forum banter, the mid-debate-waiting-up, chain smoking & coffee pot filled til 4am knowing there was a Neil-post coming at some point and it would be worth waiting up for....Truly an integral part of this site of old & all that came with it into my life, fondly remembered.
Little Gem I cannot imagine your pain. Please do lean on all of us whenever you need to.
Sex God
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It's been a week since I was told - it's still the first thought I have when I wake up ...... Neil's dead
I can't properly get my head round it. I haven't seen him for yonks, but the impact he had on me has ensured that his passing has left me, and so many others, utterly stunned.
Neil was a massive influence on here and he never had a clue
The way he used to beat himself up if he thought he had upset someone (which he never did as far as I remember), just made him even more lovable. He was always one for the underdog too, fighting their corner. He was always in the middle of debates, he seemed to love them. He had his opinions, he offered them without ramming them down people throats, he was very open to discussion, always listened to others opinions without poo pooing them (excluding bigoted, holier than thou opinions, which he would poo poo and make me laugh just by the way he done it :lol:
Neil had such a way about him, a wonderful energy, a gorgeous nature....
One of the good guys....
In all our hearts forever RIP buddy
Sent with love
Xxxx
Missy, you've so captured it all :kiss:
It's been said many times that I am a gobshite, and during many conversations, I would be my opinionated knowitall self, and in one sentence, Neil would stop me in my tracks, and say to him "I hadn't thought of, or considered that viewpoint."
A very intelligent, and thoughtful man, he was able to pass information with intelligence, research and humour.
I guess one of the highest compliments I could give him, is that on a number of forums people have posed the question of a 'fantasy dinner table' where you could invite guests dead or alive. If I were to host a dinner party of people I have met through the swinging scene, his name on the list would be a certainty.
Like many people, we take each other for granted. I went to an airshow this weekend, and met up with a couple of friends I have not seen for 8yrs. You always think they will be around, and say "I must go and see them soon."
I have to change my way of thinking for a number of people.
If I do this, then in a perverse way, I have Neil to thank. I can honestly say he is, in some small way, influenced me.
Thank you Neil.
P.S. Gem - I wish I could find the words to say to you. I will work on it. xxx
A very intelligent, and thoughtful man, he was able to pass information with intelligence, research and humour.
I guess one of the highest compliments I could give him, is that on a number of forums people have posed the question of a 'fantasy dinner table' where you could invite guests dead or alive. If I were to host a dinner party of people I have met through the swinging scene, his name on the list would be a certainty.
Like many people, we take each other for granted. I went to an airshow this weekend, and met up with a couple of friends I have not seen for 8yrs. You always think they will be around, and say "I must go and see them soon."
I have to change my way of thinking for a number of people.
If I do this, then in a perverse way, I have Neil to thank. I can honestly say he is, in some small way, influenced me.
Thank you Neil.
P.S. Gem - I wish I could find the words to say to you. I will work on it. xxx
Sex God
Quote by essex34m
Like many people, we take each other for granted. I went to an airshow this weekend, and met up with a couple of friends I have not seen for 8yrs. You always think they will be around, and say "I must go and see them soon."
I have to change my way of thinking for a number of people.
If I do this, then in a perverse way, I have Neil to thank. I can honestly say he is, in some small way, influenced me.
Thank you Neil.
This. I was thinking the same this weekend.
All too often we get caught up with 'life' and lose track of the actual people in it.
I'm defo going to try to rectify this.
x
We were so shocked when we found out through friends on here that Neil had died, we are sorry for your loss Gem really gobsmacked he was a great poster on here, as others have said before you may not have always agreed with his POV or what ever! But no on deserves to have this happen to them. I know how I would feel if I ever lost MY soul mate Busty, I would just give up or, or, actually no! I just cannot imagine how your feeling Gem I know we have not always seen eye to eye a lot of the time, but that is, way, way the past now.
You must find a way to carry on not just for your own sake but for his, I'm sure he would be playing holy hell with you, if you were to give up (as would all your friends on here) so after you have mourned him. Pick your self up dust off your shoes and remember him with a huge smile on your face. Things will get better one day and if you do need things give people a shout, especially the old school lot you know how we all do come together when shit like this happens or if there is a good piss up on the cards.
All the Best me and Busty. xxx
You must find a way to carry on not just for your own sake but for his, I'm sure he would be playing holy hell with you, if you were to give up (as would all your friends on here) so after you have mourned him. Pick your self up dust off your shoes and remember him with a huge smile on your face. Things will get better one day and if you do need things give people a shout, especially the old school lot you know how we all do come together when shit like this happens or if there is a good piss up on the cards.
All the Best me and Busty. xxx
I have only encountered Neil in the forums, I was told about this sad lost in the chat rooms having not ventured in here for a while. I always looked forward to what Neil had to say over the years. As others have echoed he made me laugh, ponder, Smile and learn with his words and skill in writing. I was totally shocked and moved when I heard the news about someone I had not even met but feel I had got to know just a little bit from these forums.
What a lovely person he was, such a sad loss.
My thoughts and best wishes are with those that knew and loved him.
Minx
xxx
What a lovely person he was, such a sad loss.
My thoughts and best wishes are with those that knew and loved him.
Minx
xxx
Im still struggling to come to terms with this and its taken me till now to be able to write something without turning into a blubbering mess.
Neil was my friend, a fantastically unique, funny, smart, witty and trusted friend....the best of the best.
I will miss our chats, putting the world to rights, swapping music recommendations, chattin shit, being daft and basically acting like a couple of sixteen year olds.
I remember one particular night when we were both a bit worse for wear (smashed off our faces would be more accurate) you gave me one of your deep and meaningful quotes .
Ive never forgot it mate, in fact its on my facebook favourite quotes thingy and has been for a few years now.
As we were smashed at the time i dont think i remember it word for word but its pretty close, and reading it again kinda sums you up and how i will best remember you fella....
"Its your life. so do with it what you choose, when you choose to do it, with who ever or what ever you choose to do it with.
Never worry about flying in the face of convention, going against the grain of what society requires or expects of you, and be proud to tell them so .
Never care what others may think, your life choices have nothing to do with anyone else, its their problem to overcome, not yours to justify.
So live your life how you want to live it.......but always be mindful of one thing .....
Harm no one......which may sound easy, but may be the hardest of things to do!!"
Neilinleeds
We were due to meet up soon for a gig at Jodrell Bank, i cant think of a more "other worldly" place to see Sigur Ros than at a giant space telescope that listens to stars, galaxies, the universe and the heavens.
I know youll be there mate, prolly flickin the V`s at me coz youve got the best seat in the house sat a`top of that big dish thingy, boppin away an avin a right ole time.
I will miss you my friend,
Love you always,
Dino xxx
Neil was my friend, a fantastically unique, funny, smart, witty and trusted friend....the best of the best.
I will miss our chats, putting the world to rights, swapping music recommendations, chattin shit, being daft and basically acting like a couple of sixteen year olds.
I remember one particular night when we were both a bit worse for wear (smashed off our faces would be more accurate) you gave me one of your deep and meaningful quotes .
Ive never forgot it mate, in fact its on my facebook favourite quotes thingy and has been for a few years now.
As we were smashed at the time i dont think i remember it word for word but its pretty close, and reading it again kinda sums you up and how i will best remember you fella....
"Its your life. so do with it what you choose, when you choose to do it, with who ever or what ever you choose to do it with.
Never worry about flying in the face of convention, going against the grain of what society requires or expects of you, and be proud to tell them so .
Never care what others may think, your life choices have nothing to do with anyone else, its their problem to overcome, not yours to justify.
So live your life how you want to live it.......but always be mindful of one thing .....
Harm no one......which may sound easy, but may be the hardest of things to do!!"
Neilinleeds
We were due to meet up soon for a gig at Jodrell Bank, i cant think of a more "other worldly" place to see Sigur Ros than at a giant space telescope that listens to stars, galaxies, the universe and the heavens.
I know youll be there mate, prolly flickin the V`s at me coz youve got the best seat in the house sat a`top of that big dish thingy, boppin away an avin a right ole time.
I will miss you my friend,
Love you always,
Dino xxx
Sex God
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Damned fine words there Dino. :sad:
fuck that im nickin them there words they are perfikt
Sex God
Quote by Dino
Im still struggling to come to terms with this and its taken me till now to be able to write something without turning into a blubbering mess.
Neil was my friend, a fantastically unique, funny, smart, witty and trusted friend....the best of the best.
I will miss our chats, putting the world to rights, swapping music recommendations, chattin shit, being daft and basically acting like a couple of sixteen year olds.
I remember one particular night when we were both a bit worse for wear (smashed off our faces would be more accurate) you gave me one of your deep and meaningful quotes .
Ive never forgot it mate, in fact its on my facebook favourite quotes thingy and has been for a few years now.
As we were smashed at the time i dont think i remember it word for word but its pretty close, and reading it again kinda sums you up and how i will best remember you fella....
"Its your life. so do with it what you choose, when you choose to do it, with who ever or what ever you choose to do it with.
Never worry about flying in the face of convention, going against the grain of what society requires or expects of you, and be proud to tell them so .
Never care what others may think, your life choices have nothing to do with anyone else, its their problem to overcome, not yours to justify.
So live your life how you want to live it.......but always be mindful of one thing .....
Harm no one......which may sound easy, but may be the hardest of things to do!!"
Neilinleeds
We were due to meet up soon for a gig at Jodrell Bank, i cant think of a more "other worldly" place to see Sigur Ros than at a giant space telescope that listens to stars, galaxies, the universe and the heavens.
I know youll be there mate, prolly flickin the V`s at me coz youve got the best seat in the house sat a`top of that big dish thingy, boppin away an avin a right ole time.
I will miss you my friend,
Love you always,
Dino xxx
I can see the two of you. slumped in a corner somewhere, giggling like a couple of 12 year old girls at a sleepover
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Im still struggling to come to terms with this and its taken me till now to be able to write something without turning into a blubbering mess.
Neil was my friend, a fantastically unique, funny, smart, witty and trusted friend....the best of the best.
I will miss our chats, putting the world to rights, swapping music recommendations, chattin shit, being daft and basically acting like a couple of sixteen year olds.
I remember one particular night when we were both a bit worse for wear (smashed off our faces would be more accurate) you gave me one of your deep and meaningful quotes .
Ive never forgot it mate, in fact its on my facebook favourite quotes thingy and has been for a few years now.
As we were smashed at the time i dont think i remember it word for word but its pretty close, and reading it again kinda sums you up and how i will best remember you fella....
"Its your life. so do with it what you choose, when you choose to do it, with who ever or what ever you choose to do it with.
Never worry about flying in the face of convention, going against the grain of what society requires or expects of you, and be proud to tell them so .
Never care what others may think, your life choices have nothing to do with anyone else, its their problem to overcome, not yours to justify.
So live your life how you want to live it.......but always be mindful of one thing .....
Harm no one......which may sound easy, but may be the hardest of things to do!!"
Neilinleeds
We were due to meet up soon for a gig at Jodrell Bank, i cant think of a more "other worldly" place to see Sigur Ros than at a giant space telescope that listens to stars, galaxies, the universe and the heavens.
I know youll be there mate, prolly flickin the V`s at me coz youve got the best seat in the house sat a`top of that big dish thingy, boppin away an avin a right ole time.
I will miss you my friend,
Love you always,
Dino xxx
I can see the two of you. slumped in a corner somewhere, giggling like a couple of 12 year old girls at a sleepover
Jeez meaty, thats just how it was....where you there? :lol:
Sex God
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Damned fine words there Dino. :sad:
Made me cry now
I think its testament to the special kind of person Neil was, to see so many old faces pop back, just to pass on their feelings of shock and disbelief, or a kind word for Gem, or to share happy thoughts of him.
He made a difference to many peoples lives, in big ways, or in small ways, but all who knew and loved him, have had their lives changed for the better for him being in it, in whatever capacity, weather it be a real life friend, a virtual friend, a forum opponent, someone that he played with, or whatever.
He would be proud, and probably amused to have moved so many people to dust off their SH passwords and post once again!
He made a difference to many peoples lives, in big ways, or in small ways, but all who knew and loved him, have had their lives changed for the better for him being in it, in whatever capacity, weather it be a real life friend, a virtual friend, a forum opponent, someone that he played with, or whatever.
He would be proud, and probably amused to have moved so many people to dust off their SH passwords and post once again!
Warming the Bed
The last contact I with Neil was on AN other where I made a comment above something he had said calling hin NeilnolongerinLeeds and he replied using he new name (Mods edit name removed) and I got confused until someone I think was postie that told it was him under another name
I am not sure but I dont think I ever met him in person but always enjoyed reading and being contact with him through various sites.
I am sure he is still enjoying himself where ever he is and will be missed by many.
Carol
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I am not sure but I dont think I ever met him in person but always enjoyed reading and being contact with him through various sites.
I am sure he is still enjoying himself where ever he is and will be missed by many.
Carol
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What a shame, what a waste and what a loss.
I feel I’ve known him for years, which I suppose I have, but in reality most of it was online. It’s mainly from my dealings with him a forumite that I got to know him. We did share the odd pint, I don’t mean the tight get bought me one, oh no, he would share mine. I speak of what I got to know online.
He was a fantastic poster, he could rant (boy he could he rant) he could be witty, deep, go off in realms of fantasy or do a cutting one liner. Whatever he was posting, you couldn’t help but like him. You just knew Neil was being Neil, not some online persona, he was being himself. When he used these
or a simple FFS! you knew that was exactly what he was doing in front of his screen. We had many a laugh together.
I got the impression that if Neil had channeled his passion and combined it with his intellect he could have done anything he wanted to, be anything he wanted to be.
There are many that will miss him, I wont forget him.
God bless you Neil.
I feel I’ve known him for years, which I suppose I have, but in reality most of it was online. It’s mainly from my dealings with him a forumite that I got to know him. We did share the odd pint, I don’t mean the tight get bought me one, oh no, he would share mine. I speak of what I got to know online.
He was a fantastic poster, he could rant (boy he could he rant) he could be witty, deep, go off in realms of fantasy or do a cutting one liner. Whatever he was posting, you couldn’t help but like him. You just knew Neil was being Neil, not some online persona, he was being himself. When he used these
or a simple FFS! you knew that was exactly what he was doing in front of his screen. We had many a laugh together.I got the impression that if Neil had channeled his passion and combined it with his intellect he could have done anything he wanted to, be anything he wanted to be.
There are many that will miss him, I wont forget him.
God bless you Neil.
Forum Virgin
There's not a day goes by since I heard the terrible news about Neil that I don't think about him. It's so sad and he will be missed by everyone. :sad: I'm very glad I got to meet him on more than one occasion and, like everyone else here, I LOVED reading his posts! RIP Neil. Little Gem my heart goes out to you. xx
Sex God
I haven't been on site for a while and this is really not what I expected to come back to!
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss Gem. I never met Neil but he always kept me entertained by his posts. A great loss to all who knew him as well as those who will never have the pleasure.
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss Gem. I never met Neil but he always kept me entertained by his posts. A great loss to all who knew him as well as those who will never have the pleasure.
One in a million Nellie and I still haven't really got the words.
I have cried and laughed and shouted at you, searched out old posts (I wish you wouldn't go back and delete so many ya bugger),dredging memories of what a wonderful and passionate man you were.
You will be truly missed and I don't think you ever truly realised the impact that you made on so many people's lives.
That said, I expect to find a fully established ironing goldfish service when I come and join you and kbuk - no slacking!!
Gem my heart is with you at this time.
Jas
XXX
I have cried and laughed and shouted at you, searched out old posts (I wish you wouldn't go back and delete so many ya bugger),dredging memories of what a wonderful and passionate man you were.
You will be truly missed and I don't think you ever truly realised the impact that you made on so many people's lives.
That said, I expect to find a fully established ironing goldfish service when I come and join you and kbuk - no slacking!!
Gem my heart is with you at this time.
Jas
XXX
Orgasminator
What can we say that has not already been said with great eloquence by many people who knew Neil better than us
Just that though its been a few years since we last saw you both we will remember Neil with great fondness
Loads of hugs
Jane n Dave xxxx
Just that though its been a few years since we last saw you both we will remember Neil with great fondness
Loads of hugs
Jane n Dave xxxx
Casanova
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That said, I expect to find a fully established ironing goldfish service when I come and join you and kbuk - no slacking!!
Gem my heart is with you at this time.
Jas
XXX
All we can say is that "HE" certainly takes the best. I am sure that right at this minute, Neil and Kbuk are probally propping up the bar with a pint, possible Kev with his coffee puting the worlds to rights as only they could.
Gem sweetheart our hearts goes out to you and we send you all out love xx
The Tigs xx
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That said, I expect to find a fully established ironing goldfish service when I come and join you and kbuk - no slacking!!
Gem my heart is with you at this time.
Jas
XXX
All we can say is that "HE" certainly takes the best. I am sure that right at this minute, Neil and Kbuk are probally propping up the bar with a pint, possible Kev with his coffee puting the worlds to rights as only they could.
Gem sweetheart our hearts goes out to you and we send you all out love xx
The Tigs xx
I can only hope and pray that this is true... but in amongst the sadness I'm half giggling at the "wisdom" of putting Kev and Neil together on their own to cause havoc for a bit ;)
Orgasminator
Sleep tight Nellie x
*Us*
*Us*
Well ive had a really good night tonight, such great memories, some old school banter and seen some old friends ive not spoken to for ages.
Im going to sign off now as im working early tomorrow.
So good night everyone, and a special good night to my much loved and greatly missed friend Neil
You`ll be in my heart always, sleep well my friend.
Im going to sign off now as im working early tomorrow.
So good night everyone, and a special good night to my much loved and greatly missed friend Neil
You`ll be in my heart always, sleep well my friend
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