What BIoke said. :thumbup:
I especially liked the fact that if I ask him for an honest opinion, he'll give me one :rascal:
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Why do people act that way?
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Quote by BIoke
I came out of a long term relationship many years ago (my first BIG one) and I remember feeling really, really shit at the time - you know when you think the world is gonna end and someone stole all of your insides and there's one big, gaping hole where your heart used to be? A good friend asked "Are you OK?". and my usual reply would have been "Yeah, I'm fine!" However, I replied "No, I'm shit actually." They replied "Good, now you've said that we can help you." It was one of the smartest things I ever learned and did.
Been there recently and have the friends to help me through it. And it's bloody wonderful to have honest but supportive people around me who will say it like it is. Friends who are so much better than the one who thought she'd fuck up my life. I actually pity her now. But I've come through it a better person who isn't frightened to be on her own and is actually quite enjoying her new-found freedom.
Bloke
Quote by jaymar
I didn't realise by me putting a thread up about apology could wind the whole forum up.
It was just a topic for conversation, most people that have posted here do not seem wound up.
Some people are threatened by "nice" gestures minx ...
They feel that people should be trying to "get one over on them"
When they can`t see the angle ...it annoys them
Don`t let it worry you
What a load of codswallop!!!
No one can be 100% nice all the time Flower, it's not human nature for gods sake, and if they are, it's slightly worrying.
And please don't presume people are threatened by niceness, 'cos I ain't, it's falseness I'm wary of.
Oh how the worm has turned in the Flower bed
:wink:
Gandhi and Mother Terresa were very nice all the time
Dave_Notts
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Quote by blonde
Gandhi and Mother Terresa were very nice all the time
Dave_Notts
Ah .............. but are they members?:giggle:
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Hope not - they're dead! :shock:
Quote by Dave__Notts
I didn't realise by me putting a thread up about apology could wind the whole forum up.
It was just a topic for conversation, most people that have posted here do not seem wound up.
Some people are threatened by "nice" gestures minx ...
They feel that people should be trying to "get one over on them"
When they can`t see the angle ...it annoys them
Don`t let it worry you
What a load of codswallop!!!
No one can be 100% nice all the time Flower, it's not human nature for gods sake, and if they are, it's slightly worrying.
And please don't presume people are threatened by niceness, 'cos I ain't, it's falseness I'm wary of.
Oh how the worm has turned in the Flower bed
:wink:
Gandhi and Mother Terresa were very nice all the time
Dave_Notts
You're a bugger do you know that??
BIoke :smoke: bloody fantastic post, I felt I was actually sitting right beside you and 100% believing what I was hearing/reading.
There's a woman on here who used to regularly PM me following some of my posts. Her comments were she loved reading my frank and honest thoughts and admired me for that, until the day I was frank and honest with her. I no longer receive PM's from her nor does she acknowledge me in here much.
Am I 'bovvad'
- nope. People can be so hypocritical can't they? Quote by Theladyisaminx
I have just read the steam room and it upsets me to read it at times, I don’t know really why I go in there, as there are always people that have been upset by others here.
I really can not understand why people would intentionally go out to hurt another person in any form, it saddens me if I think I may have caused offence in something I have said while writing and more often I have sent a private mail apologising if I felt I may have caused offence.
Why can’t people just be nice to each other, life is too short to be nasty, and quiet often the person you aim it at isn’t the person you have normally been upset by, I feel.
I would apologise even if I didn’t think I had done wrong, I just don’t like to think I have upset anyone. It is then up to them if they accept my apology but it makes me feel better.
Surely the feeling you have inside isn’t a nice feeling if you feel you have hurt someone, so why not just say sorry.
I know some people are a little more sensitive than others, but generally they are the ones that care the most about others.
Why don’t you just say sorry?
Good post.
The steam room is a strange place to say the least.
I have often been in there and found posts which are no more than thinly veiled anonymous snipes , which , complain at thinly veiled anonymous snipes.
Take for an example the well established political game in SH of starting untrue rumours about someone as a way of discrediting them. Post it in the steam room and ergo you have a route to spread your bullshit and garner support for it. Job done, If your're a shitehouse!!!
it is no-more than "tit for tat" .....
and those who do it, should realise that what they thought was a sensible tactic could backfire on them....dont use "dirty warfare" if you cant handle what might be thrown back at you in response.
Quote by DeeCee
I have just read the steam room and it upsets me to read it at times, I don’t know really why I go in there, as there are always people that have been upset by others here.
I really can not understand why people would intentionally go out to hurt another person in any form, it saddens me if I think I may have caused offence in something I have said while writing and more often I have sent a private mail apologising if I felt I may have caused offence.
Why can’t people just be nice to each other, life is too short to be nasty, and quiet often the person you aim it at isn’t the person you have normally been upset by, I feel.
I would apologise even if I didn’t think I had done wrong, I just don’t like to think I have upset anyone. It is then up to them if they accept my apology but it makes me feel better.
Surely the feeling you have inside isn’t a nice feeling if you feel you have hurt someone, so why not just say sorry.
I know some people are a little more sensitive than others, but generally they are the ones that care the most about others.
Why don’t you just say sorry?
Good post.
The steam room is a strange place to say the least.
I have often been in there and found posts which are no more than thinly veiled anonymous snipes , which , complain at thinly veiled anonymous snipes.
Take for an example the well established political game in SH of starting untrue rumours about someone as a way of discrediting them. Post it in the steam room and ergo you have a route to spread your bullshit and garner support for it. Job done, If your're a shitehouse!!!
it is no-more than "tit for tat" .....
and those who do it, should realise that what they thought was a sensible tactic could backfire on them....dont use "dirty warfare" if you cant handle what might be thrown back at you in response.
This is what happens when things get too 'friendly'.
( hyperthetical situation follows )
A has words with B over something C said. B & C have words over earlier comment made to A and bad feeling between all 3. D,E & F stop talking to B because they're friends with C and A. G is also friends with A and makes a comment and more bad feelings and misunderstandings arise.
In the meantime, B & C are back on speaking terms albeit tentatively and so are A & B but now B & G are at loggerheads and it all starts getting ugly again. Everyone else has their own ideas and views on what went on between who and who's bitching who etc etc but at the end of the day, who gives a shit?
I, for one, am sick to the back teeth of the atmosphere between members lately and yes, I will hold my hand up and admit to getting narked at a few things that have been said and retaliated instead of walking away from the keyboard.
In the spirit of a new start and getting back to the fun place this used to be, I will apologise for anything I have said that may have caused upset or annoyance. Yes I could have done this in pm but I'll post and be damned. My apology doesn't mean I was wrong in the first place - just a way of burying the hatchet on neutral ground rather than in someone's head! I'm not expecting any response to this other than smoothing over some troubled waters.
Life is too short to be at odds with people, virtually or otherwise
Quote by flower411
I didn't realise by me putting a thread up about apology could wind the whole forum up.
It was just a topic for conversation, most people that have posted here do not seem wound up.
Some people are threatened by "nice" gestures minx ...
They feel that people should be trying to "get one over on them"
When they can`t see the angle ...it annoys them
Don`t let it worry you
What a load of codswallop!!!
No one can be 100% nice all the time Flower, it's not human nature for gods sake, and if they are, it's slightly worrying.
And please don't presume people are threatened by niceness, 'cos I ain't, it's falseness I'm wary of.
Oh how the worm has turned in the Flower bed
:wink:
Hi jaymar .... I have no problem with being refered to as a worm .....useful little buggers they are :thumbup:
But ...I`m at a loss to know how you think this one has turned.
I tend to think I`m pretty consistant in my prejudices
Simply, you don't post like you used to. I always admired your blunt honesty. These days however you seem to have shifted over to the candyfloss textured side!
Just please don't say you're sorry or I'll know for sure aliens have taken over your body :lol:
Quote by Sassy-Seren
This is what happens when things get too 'friendly'.
( hyperthetical situation follows )
A has words with B over something C said. B & C have words over earlier comment made to A and bad feeling between all 3. D,E & F stop talking to B because they're friends with C and A. G is also friends with A and makes a comment and more bad feelings and misunderstandings arise.
In the meantime, B & C are back on speaking terms albeit tentatively and so are A & B but now B & G are at loggerheads and it all starts getting ugly again. Everyone else has their own ideas and views on what went on between who and who's bitching who etc etc but at the end of the day, who gives a shit?
Hmmm, that's a tough one...... both to understand as a 3rd party ..... and to contend with if say, you are one of the protaganists!!!!
Quote by BIoke
I can also be that same bloke that will scoop you up and his arms and try and make it all feel better when the word falls apart.
You are such a liar!!! You just want to go for a gratuitous grope, say to him "it's ok, Daddy's gotcha" and treat him like you are a Bear.
You are such a predator!
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: (again!)Quote by jaymar
I didn't realise by me putting a thread up about apology could wind the whole forum up.
It was just a topic for conversation, most people that have posted here do not seem wound up.
Contradiction in terms there Minx...
No one is wound up actually, they're all just commenting and discussing your topic in their own way, and giving their own opinion.
That's ok isn't it?
Sorry Jaymar I was just using your term on page 2 that said to Fluff " Either you and Minx are winding the whole forum up with this 'apology' business or you're being serious.
That is ok isn’t it? :wink:
