hiya all, just wondered if im doing something wrong as i have answered loads of adds over the last year but nobody seems to be interested in meeting or dogging, when i have been out i am very polite and never just drive straight up to a car like most of the single men do, i sit and wait for a signal, please all you couples and females out there prove to me all of this is genuine
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Sex God
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hiya all, just wondered if im doing something wrong as i have answered loads of adds over the last year but nobody seems to be interested in meeting or dogging, when i have been out i am very polite and never just drive straight up to a car like most of the single men do, i sit and wait for a signal, please all you couples and females out there prove to me all of this is genuine
and prove to you they are genuine by doing what???
no offence but this is just the same single guy rant as you get everywhere.... and before you ask, yes i am a single guy and yes i have has much success
but you will find that you have to get yourself well known... if this is your first post, how on earth is anyone suppose to know you from adam!!!
how do you stand out from everyone else..... are you actually a swinger or just someone after a quick thrill, because if you are just after sex you may as well go and pay someone for it......
do you actually read the ads, do you match what they want, are you local to them, remeber that if you write a one line reply, how much does someone learn about you...
see what goes one around here and relax!!!! it takes time and you get out of it what you put in.....
sean xxxxx
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you say it takes time i have been here on and off for ayear now, and yes i only reply to adds matching me to them, and from my area, i do get replies but they are all from gay guys pretending to be couples(got nothing against gay people, but its just not me)
You only joined today.. where've you been hiding????
I think the problem is that you are looking for "success" perhaps suggesting you view this site as a competition with the top prize being a meet. It also implies that you feel the site owes you something and if nothing happens, it has failed. The common reply from people seems to get "get yourself known" and this site has got to be a better way than sititng around in car parks wondering whether to walk up to a car or not.
Sex God
so as a couple we get single guys pretending to be couples - then again we`ve just spent a very pleasant best part of the weekend with a really nice couple
just be patient and persevere
good things cum to those who wait!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2`s
just be patient and persevere
good things cum to those who wait!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2`s
Sex God
So you changed your email address! Were you using the same handle before now,or did you change that too,and if so why?
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changed my eeeeeeee-mail address
Really? As far as we are concerned you haven't had a previous email address. Care to let me know by PM?
Mal
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Sprayer did let me know his old email addy and yes, he has been on here since last year. However, Sprayer, looking back at your old posts, nearly all of them were just you aasking for meets and replying one or two lines to others. That doesn't exactly get your personality known, does it? Try to join in more, rather than just say you want to meet.
Mal
Mal
Quote by sprayer
hiya all, just wondered if im doing something wrong as i have answered loads of adds over the last year but nobody seems to be interested in meeting or dogging, when i have been out i am very polite and never just drive straight up to a car like most of the single men do, i sit and wait for a signal, please all you couples and females out there prove to me all of this is genuine
Shouldn't this one be in the dogging section anyway??
You seem to just want dogging activities, but if you do want some good, honest advice about being "succesful"on the site then read the following.
I am a single male who is now established & been accepted by couples and singles. Here’s the best advice I can give to single males trying to get established in the swinging scene…….
1. Always be open & honest about what you are looking for. No-one likes making the effort to meet someone only to find out that they are looking for different things.
2. Use the chatroom and get known in there. People will get a "feel" as to whether they can trust you or not.
3. Never say you are gonna meet someone & then not turn up. People hate timewasters.
4. Meet people just for socials if that is all they are offering. If they are impressed with you then the sex will come naturally. As I community isn’t just about sex, it’s about people just meeting up as friends too & having a relaxed meet with no pressure.
5. Be willing to go out of your way to meet people. Don’t forget……you are the one who is wanting to meet people who are already established on the swinging scene & therefore, they will not go out of their way to meet you as they already have a circle of friends who they know are genuine & easy going.
6. And probably most important DON’T EVER SEEM DESPERATE TO MEET PEOPLE. Don’t push someone to meet & if someone says no then that’s what they mean. A lot of people get put off by someone being overkeen & see it as a kind of stalking.
7. Have a look in the message boards & see what people have put into those. This will give you some sort of idea as to the kind of ad to post. And always post in every board that applies to you as this will give you more chance. (Don’t forget to keep checking them regularly too as a lot of people forget to check & miss out)
8. Try going to one of the various clubs that are available all over the country or go to an open party invitation or munch thats been posted. This will show people that you are genuine.
9. When filling in a section on your ad to what your looking for the more information you give about your self the more your profile will stand out more people will read it and take you more seriously as you have taken more time & effort over what your looking for.
Not a lot else that I can add really apart from BE PATIENT If you keep trying and are patient then it will happen eventually. Don’t be put off by a few negative replies. I must have had hundreds of negative replies before I got my first meet. But once I got my first meet I have found it a lot easier to meet people.
I really hope this has helped.
Marcuso
