Am i wasting my time ? and should i give up now ?

25 Nov 2012

Hi i have joined this site and LOVE IT but am i wasting my time ? because lol

im a married man who loves his wife very much BUT when it comes to sex she is lights off and basic sex only and doesnt understand my need for more ,,,,i want to join in on a gangbang , i havnt licked pussy for 19 years , i would love to be one of 2 or 3 or 4 men pleasing a woman in a party or even to watch and play .
im short !! fat and 6" not much going for me but im so horny hahahhaa if this sounds like a desperate ploy to have a shagfest YOUR RIGHT hahaha
i just didnt want to waste my time pestering woman and pissing people off ,,, i live in teesside and im clean and very discreet ( i need to be )
so there ya go ,, what do you think ?

25 Nov 2012

Don't give up - but you need to be patient if you want to get what you want (or anything close to it). My quick advice would be:
- Spend time in Forum and/or Chatroom, joining in conversation and getting to know people. Not just those who are playing on camera, but the general chit-chat.
- Be respectful. We all come on here for some relaxing time, not just expecting to meet in 10 minutes time, so come on for the chat & to look around and treat anything else as a bonus.
- Have a look at who is looking for men to meet (this page is where you'll find that). Don't reply unless you meet the criteria they're looking for, or it just looks like you're wasting people's time (... and to be honest, you are!).
- Go to a social or a munch if you can. Once people know you're a "real" person then they're more likely top chat with you on here and consider you for a meet.
- And - most important - put yourself in the shoes of the people you're looking to meet. Amazing how often you see someone in a chat room messaging a couple who are playing on camera to say something like "I'm only 80 miles away and could be there in an hour and a half"! Why the heck would they want to wait that long to meet with a guy they'd never heard of until 10 seconds before? Basically, it's a "buyer's market" for the ladies and couples - they are not short of offers, so they get to pick and choose. If they recognise your name and have chatted to you, they're more likely to put you at the top of the list.
Oh - one more thing - there are other threads on here offering suimilar advice, so maybe check out some of those too?
Good luck!
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25 Nov 2012

Thanx for your reply i will take your advice thankyou lol

25 Nov 2012

Hi Taxi, some really good advice given by Manchester and the only thing I can add, is that you only get from the site, what you put into it. You also have to remember that numbers are against you as there are many more males looking to meet than there are couples/females looking to meet them. That means you have to stand out from the others, and make the couples/ladies want to meet you rather than the fifty other singles who have contact them.
Have a look at this thread, which, although it is a fairly old one, the information is still relevant.
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/20451.html
Good luck and what ever you decide, hope things work out for you.