I've only responded to four ads, i believe. The first two soon after coming on here, I wrote meticulously and thought for quite a while what to write, as per the ads. It seemed to take bloody ages! All I got back were a long spam replies about how shit this site is and to go to another one etc. I kind of gave up after that.
Recently I responded to another two and just kind of briefly introduced myself and offered to send a face pic, should they be interested. Neither replied, but I never expected them to in all honesty. The reason for not sending a face pic in the first instance would be, as already mentioned, you don't quite know who is going to be getting them.
So a question to single women would be, in general, would a brief introduction be enough to get your attention or would you want a more detailed reply in the first instance?
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Are there any single female ads that are real?
The female feedback on here is great.
I only PM to people's ads if I think I fit the bill as I'm too insecure about myself and know I have to have some aspect to my profile the the woman would want. I always attach a face and body pic (not cock) and put plenty of (but not too much) details.
The replies I've had have been pretty pitiful considering the amount of PM's I've sent. I hope it's not the pics putting them off!!!!!!!!!
I've had one meet and it looks like being regular which is fantastic but variety is the spice of life and the lack of replies is disheartening.
Ladies, why not copy and paste "Thanks for replying to my ad but you're not what I'm looking for, have fun" then reply to all of your replies that have taken time to write a decent PM..........you can bin all the one liners.
Just a thought for us poor guys................. :violin:
I only PM to people's ads if I think I fit the bill as I'm too insecure about myself and know I have to have some aspect to my profile the the woman would want. I always attach a face and body pic (not cock) and put plenty of (but not too much) details.
The replies I've had have been pretty pitiful considering the amount of PM's I've sent. I hope it's not the pics putting them off!!!!!!!!!
I've had one meet and it looks like being regular which is fantastic but variety is the spice of life and the lack of replies is disheartening.
Ladies, why not copy and paste "Thanks for replying to my ad but you're not what I'm looking for, have fun" then reply to all of your replies that have taken time to write a decent PM..........you can bin all the one liners.
Just a thought for us poor guys................. :violin:
Everyone 5,8 and over, dark, any kind of personality please apply. Dont matter if you are dull as dish water please just fit in the looks department.
when i first came on here i chatted away for ages before asking for a pic and finding out i didn't fancy the guy. now i ask for a pic, then start chatting. but that first attraction is vital.
when i first came on here i chatted away for ages before asking for a pic and finding out i didn't fancy the guy. now i ask for a pic, then start chatting. but that first attraction is vital.
Quote by herts
I've only responded to four ads, i believe. The first two soon after coming on here, I wrote meticulously and thought for quite a while what to write, as per the ads. It seemed to take bloody ages! All I got back were a long spam replies about how shit this site is and to go to another one etc. I kind of gave up after that.
Recently I responded to another two and just kind of briefly introduced myself and offered to send a face pic, should they be interested. Neither replied, but I never expected them to in all honesty. The reason for not sending a face pic in the first instance would be, as already mentioned, you don't quite know who is going to be getting them.
So a question to single women would be, in general, would a brief introduction be enough to get your attention or would you want a more detailed reply in the first instance?
to answer your question, personally, a brief intorduction is fine as long as you have some pics on your profile and its completed with some further information about yourself - like mine - then i can make a decision as to whether i want to see what you look like and take things further.
on the other hand if you choose to have no profile and no pics.......its obvious that you need to make more of an effort when replying or what is there to get me interested?
a great way to show face pics without actually sending them to people is to send invites to your private gallery.
as to why those people didnt reply to you....are you sure you were what they were looking for?
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The female feedback on here is great.
I only PM to people's ads if I think I fit the bill as I'm too insecure about myself and know I have to have some aspect to my profile the the woman would want. I always attach a face and body pic (not cock) and put plenty of (but not too much) details.
The replies I've had have been pretty pitiful considering the amount of PM's I've sent. I hope it's not the pics putting them off!!!!!!!!!
I've had one meet and it looks like being regular which is fantastic but variety is the spice of life and the lack of replies is disheartening.
Ladies, why not copy and paste "Thanks for replying to my ad but you're not what I'm looking for, have fun" then reply to all of your replies that have taken time to write a decent PM..........you can bin all the one liners.
Just a thought for us poor guys................. :violin:
well i think youre going about it the right way, theres nothing worse than gettign a reply from a 45 year old stocky built man in scotland when im quite clearly looking for a slim under 35 year old from yorkshire......all that does is show a complete disregard for what im looking for.
the second part of your post that ive made red, is absolutely crucial. and i dont see this as you being insecure, its shows youre realistic and concerned that you make connections with people that you have a mutual attraction and common ground with, rather than messaging every woman/couple on here willy nilly regardless of those things.
i do send a polite no thanks and good luck to those that put the effort in, but why should i spend time being polite to the others who havent even read my profile? so yes i do as you say, i bin them. the thing is, theres always more for the bin than deserve a reply!
Sexlightened
Hi has a single bi fem myself i find alot of men are full of bull ,they married and looking for pics or a good line is MY WIFE DOES NOT UNDERSTAND ME YER RIGHT GUYS WOT IT MEANS IS THAT U WANT A QUICK LEG OVER . SORRY IF THAT SOUNDS HARD BUT I BEEN MESSED ABOUT BY GUYS SAYIN they are single or even a cpl only to get a call from the guy sayin sorry but wife g/f not want to meet but it ok for them to me on their won yer ok guys we single fems not come down in the lasr rain fall so where are the gen single guys lookin for a swing buddie and NOT JUST a quick shag Quote by sexkittenhfx
a great way to show face pics without actually sending them to people is to send invites to your private gallery.
A good idea...
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as to why those people didnt reply to you....are you sure you were what they were looking for?
Ultimately, the only way to find that out was to respond to them. I did match the general criteria, and my comments were observations rather than being a criticism. I know mine is just one of many replies. The way I see it is that I don't expect to hear anything back, if I do, great. If it goes any further than that, even better. I will still be the usual happy me!
Quote by herts
a great way to show face pics without actually sending them to people is to send invites to your private gallery.
A good idea...
Quote by sexkittenhfx
as to why those people didnt reply to you....are you sure you were what they were looking for?
Ultimately, the only way to find that out was to respond to them. I did match the general criteria, and my comments were observations rather than being a criticism. I know mine is just one of many replies. The way I see it is that I don't expect to hear anything back, if I do, great. If it goes any further than that, even better. I will still be the usual happy me!
well you have a good attitude towards it and im sure you will reap the rewards at some point
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Well the Chat rooms is down so I thought I'd have a look in here. Interesting reading.
Yes, there will be pic collectors on here, both male and female.
Yes, it is easier for women to get what they want, (Men are suckers !!) (oops)
and Yes, the dicks that reply to adds with one liners or when they dont meet the criteria derserve to be binned.
But importantly, EVERYONE deserves mutual respect. That means that men should read and respect a lady's criteria and only reply when they fit. In return, those who put together a well constructed reply deserve a response even if its 'No thanks'.
I have sent a number of PM's out where I met the basic criteria only to have a response to 2 of them. None of the others were one liners but they probably didnt like the look of me (most likely) or didnt want daytime fun with a maried man. Fine but at least have the courtesy to say so.
Oh well, back to work. Have fun everyone, afterall, that what we all want isnt it?
Stud_Muffin99
Oh and Herts, you're not the only one!!
Yes, there will be pic collectors on here, both male and female.
Yes, it is easier for women to get what they want, (Men are suckers !!) (oops)
and Yes, the dicks that reply to adds with one liners or when they dont meet the criteria derserve to be binned.
But importantly, EVERYONE deserves mutual respect. That means that men should read and respect a lady's criteria and only reply when they fit. In return, those who put together a well constructed reply deserve a response even if its 'No thanks'.
I have sent a number of PM's out where I met the basic criteria only to have a response to 2 of them. None of the others were one liners but they probably didnt like the look of me (most likely) or didnt want daytime fun with a maried man. Fine but at least have the courtesy to say so.
Oh well, back to work. Have fun everyone, afterall, that what we all want isnt it?
Stud_Muffin99
Oh and Herts, you're not the only one!!
hi everyone, well we are a couple so get to see things from both sides so to speak...........we have been on s/h and yes it is difficult to find genuine fems, but there are some on here as we have been lucky enough to meet a few. we can imagine the sort of crap messages they recieve as we all get those.
even now it does annoy us a little when we get no replies but can understand why............have now found the best way is to use the chat rooms more as cams dont half help show who is who lol, and as a couple it si jo and not rick who tends to chat and be on cam as it is more reasuring to the other fems that way.
so ladies dont judge all the mail u recieve by what u get from the idiots and for the rest of us we just need to be patient be honest and the genuine fems will be sorted from the non genuine ads
J & R x
even now it does annoy us a little when we get no replies but can understand why............have now found the best way is to use the chat rooms more as cams dont half help show who is who lol, and as a couple it si jo and not rick who tends to chat and be on cam as it is more reasuring to the other fems that way.
so ladies dont judge all the mail u recieve by what u get from the idiots and for the rest of us we just need to be patient be honest and the genuine fems will be sorted from the non genuine ads
J & R x
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Quote by miss h
Everyone 5,8 and over, dark, any kind of personality please apply. Dont matter if you are dull as dish water please just fit in the looks department.
when i first came on here i chatted away for ages before asking for a pic and finding out i didn't fancy the guy. now i ask for a pic, then start chatting. but that first attraction is vital.
Fair enough. We have found the opposite whilst on here we have chatted to and met people we would swing with but wouldent pick up in a night club. We found the pesonality and outlook to be more important.
As for genuine Fems well if ...
They dont have a phone
they dont have a picture mobile
they dont have a cam
They dont have any way of getting a pic on the web
Then dont bother, simple as. 99% of people in the UK can at least get access to one of the above.
I once saw a great ad on here from a single fem that stated at the bottom of the ad if you are genuine couple please send a picture of the 2 of you clothed or naked holding a sign saying " ***** we are a genuin couple" great ad, and why not.
Cheers
Mr Tweeky
Warming the Bed
I think there's very little doubt that many of the single female ads are posted either by men (banned profiles in this category are generally under 25 yrs old / pics are clearly not real) desiring communication with other men; or women with a commercial interest. Unfortunately many of us men - including me at times in the past - can be highly gullible when presented with a young hot filly!!
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when i first came on here i chatted away for ages before asking for a pic and finding out i didn't fancy the guy. now i ask for a pic, then start chatting. but that first attraction is vital.
Same here miss h
Wanna chat ? :grin:
Sorry
I think I need a photo session for some new pics.
