WE THOUGHT WE WOULD HOLD A PARTY IN BLACKPOOL AT OUR CARAVAN WE ARE VERY NEW TO THE SCENE BUT ARE EAGER TO MEET YOU ALL AND INTRODUCE OUR SELFS THE PARTY WILL BE ON WED 20 SEPT AND LETS SEE WHAT HAPPENS THANK YOU FOR YOUR REPLIES THE PARTY IS OPEN TO COUPLES ONLY A EMAIL AND PIC WOULD BE GOOD WE DONT WONT ANY IDIOTS OR PARTY WRECKERS I AM SURE U UNDERSTAND
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Quote by BOND BEAR
WE THOUGHT WE WOULD HOLD A PARTY IN BLACKPOOL AT OUR CARAVAN WE ARE VERY NEW TO THE SCENE BUT ARE EAGER TO MEET YOU ALL AND INTRODUCE OUR SELFS THE PARTY WILL BE ON WED 20 SEPT AND LETS SEE WHAT HAPPENS THANK YOU FOR YOUR REPLIES THE PARTY IS OPEN TO COUPLES ONLY A EMAIL AND PIC WOULD BE GOOD WE DONT WONT ANY IDIOTS OR PARTY WRECKERS I AM SURE U UNDERSTAND
oh boy!!! where to start.....
I could just rant because whatever it is you are after.....you have the idea of a munch WRONG on so many levels......
so rather than do that, i would just get you to click on the terminology for what a munch actually is......
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/terminology/munch.html
after you have read that you may want to change the title..... and not write everything in capitals.... and throw in a bit of punctuation......
Sex God
Quote by fabio grooverider
WE THOUGHT WE WOULD HOLD A PARTY IN BLACKPOOL AT OUR CARAVAN WE ARE VERY NEW TO THE SCENE BUT ARE EAGER TO MEET YOU ALL AND INTRODUCE OUR SELFS THE PARTY WILL BE ON WED 20 SEPT AND LETS SEE WHAT HAPPENS THANK YOU FOR YOUR REPLIES THE PARTY IS OPEN TO COUPLES ONLY A EMAIL AND PIC WOULD BE GOOD WE DONT WONT ANY IDIOTS OR PARTY WRECKERS I AM SURE U UNDERSTAND
oh boy!!! where to start.....
I could just rant because whatever it is you are after.....you have the idea of a munch WRONG on so many levels......
so rather than do that, i would just get you to click on the terminology for what a munch actually is......
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/terminology/munch.html
after you have read that you may want to change the title..... and not write everything in capitals.... and throw in a bit of punctuation......
They've already been told about the capitals
A caravan is an unusual place for a party - is it a big caravan?
I think a party on a Wednesday might be poor on attendees, to be honest.
Sex God
s this is clearly not a munch, I have used my magic powers to change the title to avoid further confusion of terminology.
Quote by t-and-k
this isn't a munch is it?
munches are open to everyone
In theory maybe yes but don't we find that in practise they aren't and tend to be invite only / known names ?
Have you read this? It's in the 'Terminology' section to your left.
What's a Munch?!
A munch is a purely social event held in a totally neutral environment, often somewhere like a pub, where members of Swinging Heaven get to meet each other. As there's no play involved everyone can relax which gives newbies a chance to ask questions of the more experienced without any fear of getting jumped on, and gives the regulars time to catch-up with old friends and make new ones.
You'll find organised Swingers Munches 'stickied' at the top of the Let's Meet Up forum. Usually they are centrally organised by one or two people who are more than likely well known members of Swinging Heaven. The exact location is kept strictly secret between the organisers and those who have been invited; strictly secret before and after the event. Organisers will usually only give out the exact location information to those who are invited just a few days before the event.
Getting an invite most likely involves getting registered on the forum and PMing (sending a Private Message via the forum) to the organiser asking to be invited, or adding your name(s) to the list by replying to the Munch thread - it's that simple.
A Munch is open to all - couples, singles, Gay, Bi, CDs, etc., there are no limits. The exception to this is the brand new newbie, i.e. those who have just joined the site or have not been an active participant. This is only to prevent gawpers, journalists and those who are just TOO curious. Remember, if you are keen to attend a Munch and meet other swingers, but are considered too new for this one, join in and keep posting because there'll be another Munch coming along shortly.
We have a strict rule that anyone organising a Munch on here is doing so solely for Swinging Heaven members, and is not promoting, colluding or otherwise involving any other website, club or group. Only people from Swinging Heaven who have been specifically invited are allowed to attend the Munches that are advertised on here.
Munches are a great way to finally meet all those people you've been chatting with on the Swinging Heaven Forum or in the Swinging Heaven Chatroom - and then who knows where it might lead
:P
Quote by John & Natalia
We are new to the forum and this thread of post is kind of scary, it gives the impression that their is a lot of group elitism. These people are new and probably don't need to be sledge hammered. Just a specific piece of ' not sure what you mean' 'are you sure you have the terminology correct' and ' flag the capitals they are a bit heavy' .............yikes.
In any case to the newbie’s nice to see you posting and putting something in, and it is a shame that so many needed to take away from your gesture.
I don't think they were 'sledge-hammered' at all. Read the responses, first one was very polite:
You can't call it a munch if it's open to couples only. I think what you mean is a private party.
Nothing heavy there. And then the next one was equally illuminating:
oh boy!!! where to start.....
I could just rant because whatever it is you are after.....you have the idea of a munch WRONG on so many levels......
so rather than do that, i would just get you to click on the terminology for what a munch actually is......
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/terminology/munch.html
after you have read that you may want to change the title..... and not write everything in capitals.... and throw in a bit of punctuation......
Fabio even gave them the link to the Munch definition and offered advice with the capitals too!!
Frecklebird was very polite, asked a question and offered some more advice about the day:
They've already been told about the capitals icon_
A caravan is an unusual place for a party - is it a big caravan?
I think a party on a Wednesday might be poor on attendees, to be honest.
All in all the responses were positive, helpful and informative. Blue changed the subject title to avoid confusion - I really don't see anything negative or elitist in any of the answers.
:? Feel free to PM me anything I have missed here.
Sex God
Quote by John & Natalia
We are new to the forum and this thread of post is kind of scary, it gives the impression that their is a lot of group elitism. These people are new and probably don't need to be sledge hammered. Just a specific piece of ' not sure what you mean' 'are you sure you have the terminology correct' and ' flag the capitals they are a bit heavy' .............yikes.
In any case to the newbie’s nice to see you posting and putting something in, and it is a shame that so many needed to take away from your gesture.
In what sort of way is it elite????
They have been told about the capitals thing before...if you don't believe me then please check the posts....
They have asked to come to muches....again, check the posts (and I am just guessing that if you wanted to come to one, you would at least try to find one what one was, and what it entails....)
after all that they decided to ignore/not bother with what everyone else had put before....they call the original post BLACKPOOL MUNCH.... if they hadn't it that... no one would have bothered writing... and they are doing a disservice to all those people who do organise them because it is a lot of bloody hard work...trust me!!!
Quote by t-and-k
this isn't a munch is it?
munches are open to everyone
In theory maybe yes but don't we find that in practise they aren't and tend to be invite only / known names ?
in which way does it not work in practice????
the only people who i have said no to with the north east munch are new newbies.. for example i don't use the chatroom very often, but to anyone who only uses the forum you have only been around for 3 weeks....anyone who says they use the chatroom i have asked people who do so i can check.... i have sent people a pm to explain i will check, so people have been happy with that and i have added them..... some people never bothered getting back... make of that what you will...... :)
sean xxxxxxxxxxx
Sex God
Quote by John & Natalia
We are new to the forum and this thread of post is kind of scary, it gives the impression that their is a lot of group elitism. These people are new and probably don't need to be sledge hammered. Just a specific piece of ' not sure what you mean' 'are you sure you have the terminology correct' and ' flag the capitals they are a bit heavy' .............yikes.
In any case to the newbie’s nice to see you posting and putting something in, and it is a shame that so many needed to take away from your gesture.
I disagree completely. The replies have shown concern that the couple didn't seem to know what exactly they were doing. To advertise a couples party one week ahead, giving very little time for any sort of vetting, is very dangerous. Presumably they were just going to give out the location details after brief email exchanges or MSN chats - this is fraught with all sorts of dangers, as they don't seem to know any of the established members here. They could end up inviting the Lancashire Ripper.
To adopt such a sneering tone to the posts of the experienced members here, who know how much work and care is involved in organising even a small gathering, shows a distinct lack of your alleged "charm".
Mike.
well...from the point of a virtual new member....namely me
i think its how you approach the gorum...i also heard and read that some people were concerned that there was an elitist segment in SH....
take my word for it this just isnt true...ive met quite a lot of SH members now either in clubs or socially and never once have i been made to feel uncomfortable...infact id say that they have gone out of their way to make me feel welcome..
as i am a single male ...this being supposedly hard to be invited to the said clubs/socials i find that as said is not in the least bit difficult....
tip of the day.....just get known on forums/chat rooms .....attend socials ....meet people in person....be polite and friendly....dont be afraid to ask questions....
i wont mention names of whos socials to ask as i dont think its my right to do so......just keep an eye on the forum and make a few posts....
and above all ENJOY <<oops caps
dargento
i think its how you approach the gorum...i also heard and read that some people were concerned that there was an elitist segment in SH....
take my word for it this just isnt true...ive met quite a lot of SH members now either in clubs or socially and never once have i been made to feel uncomfortable...infact id say that they have gone out of their way to make me feel welcome..
as i am a single male ...this being supposedly hard to be invited to the said clubs/socials i find that as said is not in the least bit difficult....
tip of the day.....just get known on forums/chat rooms .....attend socials ....meet people in person....be polite and friendly....dont be afraid to ask questions....
i wont mention names of whos socials to ask as i dont think its my right to do so......just keep an eye on the forum and make a few posts....
and above all ENJOY <<oops caps
dargento
Half a mo wait a min !! The post never mentions the word "Munch" lol it says lets meet up for a party in a caravan.
Only frecklebird has touched on the real problem here, namely how the heck you gonna fit us lot into a flippin caravan lmao
Do we get to play hide n seek too like Father Ted did? if so, put me on the list lol
Only frecklebird has touched on the real problem here, namely how the heck you gonna fit us lot into a flippin caravan lmao
Do we get to play hide n seek too like Father Ted did? if so, put me on the list lol
Sex God
Quote by dargento
well...from the point of a virtual new member....namely me
i think its how you approach the gorum...i also heard and read that some people were concerned that there was an elitist segment in SH....
take my word for it this just isnt true...ive met quite a lot of SH members now either in clubs or socially and never once have i been made to feel uncomfortable...infact id say that they have gone out of their way to make me feel welcome..
as i am a single male ...this being supposedly hard to be invited to the said clubs/socials i find that as said is not in the least bit difficult....
tip of the day.....just get known on forums/chat rooms .....attend socials ....meet people in person....be polite and friendly....dont be afraid to ask questions....
i wont mention names of whos socials to ask as i dont think its my right to do so......just keep an eye on the forum and make a few posts....
and above all ENJOY <<oops caps
dargento
Thank you dargento, it is always good to hear the perspective of relatively new members of the forum
As others have said, there is no elitism here. All it takes for a newbie to become established here is a bit of time on their part to get to know people --- just as would be the case in any real life situation. If you were a stranger in a pub for example, you most probably would not make friends if you jumped in feet first into a conversation at the bar, especially if your first words were to criticise what they were talking about or if you tried to get invited to their house for a party! However, if you made polite conversation, got to know people and let them know you, the chances are you would make friends in no time. It is EXACTLY the same here. As lots of people obviously know each other on here, I can appreciate the nervousness of newbies to reply to posts, I was very reluctant to post myself when I first joined :shock: . If you are unsure about how the forum works or what the various terms mean, there is a mentoring system to help (see the sticky post at the top of the cafe).
In fact, a lot of the regs welcome new blood into threads, it gives new opinions, new personalities, and new people to have a laugh with. If a newbie appears to be genuinely trying to make friends you would be suprised how many regs will go out of their way to help, either on the board or in PM. Once you do let your personality come across, you will find it very easy to get invites to social events, munches, parties, club meets, and to get private meets too.
The problem at the beginning of this thread was that the meet was called a munch. As has been explained munches are social events open to everyone, and the meet advertised here did not fulfill the criteria to be called a munch. It was not rude or elitist of me to change the title, I merely did it to avoid confusion on the part of people reading it. As any munch organiser will tell you, munches take a lot of work to organise and security has to be tight to avoid people like the press getting invites. There's no problem with anyone posting a meet up, sexual or otherwise as long as it is within the AUP.
Hope this helps.
Quote by popsucker
Half a mo wait a min !! The post never mentions the word "Munch" lol it says lets meet up for a party in a caravan.
Only frecklebird has touched on the real problem here, namely how the heck you gonna fit us lot into a flippin caravan lmao
Do we get to play hide n seek too like Father Ted did? if so, put me on the list lol
The post DID mention the word 'munch' and Blue changed it - have you read ALL the thread???
:P
Sex God
Quote by t-and-k
in which way does it not work in practice????
the only people who i have said no to with the north east munch are new newbies.. for example i don't use the chatroom very often, but to anyone who only uses the forum you have only been around for 3 weeks....anyone who says they use the chatroom i have asked people who do so i can check.... i have sent people a pm to explain i will check, so people have been happy with that and i have added them..... some people never bothered getting back... make of that what you will......
Quote by t-and-k
this isn't a munch is it?
munches are open to everyone
In theory maybe yes but don't we find that in practise they aren't and tend to be invite only / known names ?
Sorry Sean I didn't mean to imply that the whole munch attendance is reliant purely upon being part of a clique or are at all elitist. but I do feel that nn's post could have been misleading for new-newbies who tend to casually read info they pick up on the forums and take it as gospel. This isn't an attack on nn merely a suggestion that we post more clearly and consider the lowest common denominator when answering questions. I know dumbing things down often seems ridiculous but it covers all bases as those in the know won't read the answer with any great intent whereas those new to the forum will at least gain consistent and accurate info on which to base their own post's
:)
K xxx
Yes, and if people 'dumb things down' it makes them sound condescending twats, then they get all kinds of shit for that. It's a lose/lose situation.
It has been suggested many times that we all post more clearly; the people who suggest that are generally shot down in flames. The idea of not inviting 'new newbies' to a munch is to avoid the ones who casually read what they see on the forum. The people who stick around, get to know the terminology and don't take forum comments as gospel. NN was right, a munch is open to all.
well all though i undrrstand i got it wrong have you watched what members said at least i asked younto my house which is a poxy caravan which sleeps 8 sorry we did not make it to the club but my partner time of month Iresent some of the comments made we always said we where newcombers thank yoou for your support we are ageniune couple who have reached thebtime of our life and want to do something about it then if you stlill think about uis with no understanding then we will close our account and find another way of eplioting our orizons forget the spellimg
GOOD LUCK TO EVERBODY
KIND REGARDS
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GOOD LUCK TO EVERBODY
KIND REGARDS
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