Is it just me or does noone seem to be up for meeting on this site?
I have had 7 arranged visits not show up in a row now... Is it possible to report these people?
Just seems to me like people love wasting others time!
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Yes - you can report - but SH do not have control over what happens outside the site and they cannot make members meet. All that will happen with a report is a note made on the members profile.
You get time wasters on all sites.
I don't swing - but Ive met loads of people from this site. That's because I take part in the social side of SH. Why don't you pop your name down for the Coventry Social? You'll get to know a few more people and make some good friends. That's a good a place as any to start.
I'm sure other members will pop along and give their views :-)
Yes - you can report - but SH do not have control over what happens outside the site and they cannot make members meet. All that will happen with a report is a note made on the members profile.
You get time wasters on all sites.
I don't swing - but Ive met loads of people from this site. That's because I take part in the social side of SH. Why don't you pop your name down for the Coventry Social? You'll get to know a few more people and make some good friends. That's a good a place as any to start.
I'm sure other members will pop along and give their views :-)
Sex God
It's true. No-one has ever met anyone.
How could we. We are all bots. Swing Bots.
Haha
How could we. We are all bots. Swing Bots.
Haha
Hey Hey,
Agree that there probably are a lot of time wasters on this and other sites. There are also a lot of "attention swingers" that post pics , flirt and dangle carrots promising meets that never come to anything.
From our limited experience over the years, we've met a lot of the opposite - sexy, fun, friendly people both socially and sexually. We've either been very lucky or patient, who knows?
Our advice (right or wrong) would be not to rush things with people, get to know them a bit through chat or cam first and speak on phone. People who agree to those things are normally (in our opinion and sure not exclusively) more inclined to meet.
We are regulars at the socials too and find these a great way to meet folks from the site. There are regularly meets on broad st, xstasia and cov - all are a great laugh and well organised by the lovely Bambi, Optix, Two-4-more and Try and others. Give them a go.
Just one more thing, when you were a couple on here, we did message you a couple of times to try and arrange a meet and heard nothing back. Like the title of this post - You win some, you lose some. Just dont take it personally and persist but dont try too hard, should be fun remember!
Hope your luck improves!
Agree that there probably are a lot of time wasters on this and other sites. There are also a lot of "attention swingers" that post pics , flirt and dangle carrots promising meets that never come to anything.
From our limited experience over the years, we've met a lot of the opposite - sexy, fun, friendly people both socially and sexually. We've either been very lucky or patient, who knows?
Our advice (right or wrong) would be not to rush things with people, get to know them a bit through chat or cam first and speak on phone. People who agree to those things are normally (in our opinion and sure not exclusively) more inclined to meet.
We are regulars at the socials too and find these a great way to meet folks from the site. There are regularly meets on broad st, xstasia and cov - all are a great laugh and well organised by the lovely Bambi, Optix, Two-4-more and Try and others. Give them a go.
Just one more thing, when you were a couple on here, we did message you a couple of times to try and arrange a meet and heard nothing back. Like the title of this post - You win some, you lose some. Just dont take it personally and persist but dont try too hard, should be fun remember!
Hope your luck improves!
Sexlightened
Best thing to do is as above try going to a few socials etc and keep trying you will eventually find the good ones on this site!
Swinging sites are full of timewasters, dreamers, chancers, advantage takers and adrenalin junkies that is to say
Timewasters - no intention of meeting but enjoy the windup
Dreamers - would love to meet but not willing to put the effort into getting a meet because they don't really believe in the scene
Chancers - send loads of one line mails to everyone and anyone without any effort put into profile or the mails sent and then wonder why all the other couples and females ignore them
Adrenalin Junkies - they mail a good mail, have a reasonable profile, talk the talk but can't walk the walk, when it comes down to the actuall meet the adrenalin and thrill of arranging it all wains and they can't be bothered going through with it - onto the next chase for them.
Advantage takers or non-combatants lol. they love perving profile pictures, sexy chat in mails or chatrooms, love watching cams but don't want to meet.
All sites have them and they will never go away, sites have become more filled with them since they introduced cams in public chatrooms, why pay to watch sex on cam when you can join a free swingers site and see it all for nothing, don't blame them really.
All that said though, we have recently found a 500% increase in the number of couples who are genuine and not only want to meet us but actually have, the latest being last night, with a fantastic couple who contacted us on Friday, came over on Saturday, we then went to Atlantis together and back to ours for the rest of the night. An excellent meet with a lovely fun and sexy couple. (ty Bobcats xx)
Timewasters - no intention of meeting but enjoy the windup
Dreamers - would love to meet but not willing to put the effort into getting a meet because they don't really believe in the scene
Chancers - send loads of one line mails to everyone and anyone without any effort put into profile or the mails sent and then wonder why all the other couples and females ignore them
Adrenalin Junkies - they mail a good mail, have a reasonable profile, talk the talk but can't walk the walk, when it comes down to the actuall meet the adrenalin and thrill of arranging it all wains and they can't be bothered going through with it - onto the next chase for them.
Advantage takers or non-combatants lol. they love perving profile pictures, sexy chat in mails or chatrooms, love watching cams but don't want to meet.
All sites have them and they will never go away, sites have become more filled with them since they introduced cams in public chatrooms, why pay to watch sex on cam when you can join a free swingers site and see it all for nothing, don't blame them really.
All that said though, we have recently found a 500% increase in the number of couples who are genuine and not only want to meet us but actually have, the latest being last night, with a fantastic couple who contacted us on Friday, came over on Saturday, we then went to Atlantis together and back to ours for the rest of the night. An excellent meet with a lovely fun and sexy couple. (ty Bobcats xx)
I am back in the swing of things again. I will be seeing someone tonight who has been my friend for several years and who I met through an ad on this site. I have met others who whispered in the chat room. The next step is to socialise at an organised event without any expectations. There will always be the couple who do not turn up (like last night) but that's life. The cream will always rise to the top.
The thing about replying to mails is two fold, if your (and I have no idea how you use the site so not having a go) one of those single guys, couples or women who just send mails to people without taking thier profile into consideration then sending a mail can be seen as quite offensive, I mean if for example the couple or woman doesn't meet single guys then it is quite rude to ignore thier wishes and mail them anyway, it is just junk mail and who responds to junk mail they get in thier letterbox ?
If people do read and respect profiles there is still no guarantee of getting a reply, we personally do reply to mails but that is just our choice, we know we aren't everyones cup of tea but feel no response to our mail is an answer in itself.
Everyone just has to accept that some people reply and some don't personal choice has to be respected in all instances, some are too busy, some get inundated and cannot respond to everyone, some are ignorant and some feel that no response is a response
If people do read and respect profiles there is still no guarantee of getting a reply, we personally do reply to mails but that is just our choice, we know we aren't everyones cup of tea but feel no response to our mail is an answer in itself.
Everyone just has to accept that some people reply and some don't personal choice has to be respected in all instances, some are too busy, some get inundated and cannot respond to everyone, some are ignorant and some feel that no response is a response
Sex God
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It's true. No-one has ever met anyone.
How could we. We are all bots. Swing Bots.
Haha
Only just spotted this
:twisted: :twisted:
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i totally agree no one meets on this site they just want to go on cam and play and thats fine but its better in person
Like I said, there are a lot of dreamers who don't have pictures on their profiles, have a couple of lines of text more about what they want not what they have to offer, what they do write can often give off false information about themselves because when people read an uninformative profile they have to read between the lines.
Getting meets as a single guy is so easy (I know I was one)
First off there is very little competition
You dont need babysitters (ok some do but the vast majority dont)
You dont have to buy her a new outfit lol
Sex God
Quote by YoungSexy1
I have had 7 arranged visits not show up in a row now... Is it possible to report these people?
As you are Shrep enabled, have you considered using the Shrep meet function for arranging these meets ?
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/members/shrep/meetings/
then select the Create option and follow the simple options
Post meeting, you'll then get prompted to Leave Rep, both positive or negative for them (and they for you)
Not actually reporting per se, but if you look at a profile with red SHrep Meet feedback .......
Master of Sex
I have been on here since 2005.I have never had an ad on here or ever asked for a meet and yet I have met some fantastic people at socials and one very special person.I'd like to think I have friends on here, some of whom i've never met, some I have .
There can be many reasons for a no show, most have been mentioned above, read the replies and take in what has been said, you may just have been unlucky.
I hope this helps, john
There can be many reasons for a no show, most have been mentioned above, read the replies and take in what has been said, you may just have been unlucky.
I hope this helps, john
Quote by MidsCouple24
Like I said, there are a lot of dreamers who don't have pictures on their profiles, have a couple of lines of text more about what they want not what they have to offer, what they do write can often give off false information about themselves because when people read an uninformative profile they have to read between the lines.
That sums our profile up nicely. Strangely enough though we seem to muddle by OK and manage to play every week.
Certainly there are lots of dreamers on all the sites, many with fully filled in profiles complete with pictures. We wouldn't dream of taking anyone's profile seriously until after we'd met them, until then it is just words and pictures on a page.
Naming and shaming is not a good idea when you see the backbiting that goes on in the swinging scene. Unfortunately people who make arrangements to meet, very often with no intention of ever meeting, seem to be a fact of life on the internet. To avoid having your time wasted avoid the internet as a means to meet new people or spend a great deal of time and energy vetting people with no real guarantee of success.
Sexlightened
meets are easy just be cheeky 
socials are kind of boring. full of people who turn out to not be who they seemed online. but a lot seem to like it..
good luck :)
socials are kind of boring. full of people who turn out to not be who they seemed online. but a lot seem to like it..
good luck :)
That sums our profile up nicely. Strangely enough though we seem to muddle by OK and manage to play every week.
Certainly there are lots of dreamers on all the sites, many with fully filled in profiles complete with pictures. We wouldn't dream of taking anyone's profile seriously until after we'd met them, until then it is just words and pictures on a page.
Naming and shaming is not a good idea when you see the backbiting that goes on in the swinging scene. Unfortunately people who make arrangements to meet, very often with no intention of ever meeting, seem to be a fact of life on the internet. To avoid having your time wasted avoid the internet as a means to meet new people or spend a great deal of time and energy vetting people with no real guarantee of success.
You "muddle by" but your profile says you only play in clubs, how many people do you "muddle by" with from contacts made via internet sites arranging to meet in clubs ?
We also go to clubs each week but don't always find compatible couples to play with. as said we have had some excellent meets from this site also from other and at clubs, we like the combination of both and occasionally attend socials, it is all about personal choice.
My comment was my opinion and that is that the more effort you make with your profile the more chances you have, if a profile without information is doing well for you now then in my opinion a profile with information will get you even more results.
This is a perfect example of how things are in the world, we all do it our own way and that is how it should be, each to thier own without offending others. We take peoples profiles 100% seriously.
I agree that naming and shaming should never be allowed as that is far too open to abuse.
Certainly there are lots of dreamers on all the sites, many with fully filled in profiles complete with pictures. We wouldn't dream of taking anyone's profile seriously until after we'd met them, until then it is just words and pictures on a page.
Naming and shaming is not a good idea when you see the backbiting that goes on in the swinging scene. Unfortunately people who make arrangements to meet, very often with no intention of ever meeting, seem to be a fact of life on the internet. To avoid having your time wasted avoid the internet as a means to meet new people or spend a great deal of time and energy vetting people with no real guarantee of success.
You "muddle by" but your profile says you only play in clubs, how many people do you "muddle by" with from contacts made via internet sites arranging to meet in clubs ?
We also go to clubs each week but don't always find compatible couples to play with. as said we have had some excellent meets from this site also from other and at clubs, we like the combination of both and occasionally attend socials, it is all about personal choice.
My comment was my opinion and that is that the more effort you make with your profile the more chances you have, if a profile without information is doing well for you now then in my opinion a profile with information will get you even more results.
This is a perfect example of how things are in the world, we all do it our own way and that is how it should be, each to thier own without offending others. We take peoples profiles 100% seriously.
I agree that naming and shaming should never be allowed as that is far too open to abuse.
Sex God
We have meets from here on SH and by and large they have been quality meets both couples and single me, Only had one sgl guy no show for a social drink and one couple who cried off the day we we're suppose to meet.
Socials have been a great way to meet people and has afforded us good sex meet ups as a result.
So, yes, people on SH do meet up do have sex and do enjoy themselves as a result!
Socials have been a great way to meet people and has afforded us good sex meet ups as a result.
So, yes, people on SH do meet up do have sex and do enjoy themselves as a result!
Casanova
Quote by nostringsluton
full of people who turn out to not be who they seemed online.
Care to explain this bit?
Sex God
Quote by YoungSexy1
Is it just me or does noone seem to be up for meeting on this site?
I have had 7 arranged visits not show up in a row now... Is it possible to report these people?
Just seems to me like people love wasting others time!
where are u arranging to meet them??
don`t know up north ... but we`ve been to some quite weird places...
find a decent looking nice pub near u and arrange to meet there maybe?
Sex God
Quote by HnS
I have had 7 arranged visits not show up in a row now... Is it possible to report these people?
As you are Shrep enabled, have you considered using the Shrep meet function for arranging these meets ?
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/members/shrep/meetings/
then select the Create option and follow the simple options
Post meeting, you'll then get prompted to Leave Rep, both positive or negative for them (and they for you)
Not actually reporting per se, but if you look at a profile with red SHrep Meet feedback .......
never yet figured out how to arrange a shrep meet....
Sex God
Quote by nostringsluton
socials are kind of boring. full of people who turn out to not be who they seemed online.
In what sense? Surely the real life people you might meet at a social are by definition being their flesh and blood real selves? If you're disappointed because you expected something different, maybe you need to question your expectations, and the way you read people?
The reason I say that is because most of the people I've properly got to know online have been very much what I expected when I met them in the flesh. I may have had me mental visual images all to cock every now and then, despite perving on profiles and what have you, but as people I like to think I read 'em more or less right?
Ever wondered where you might be going wrong?
Quote by YoungSexy1
Is it just me or does noone seem to be up for meeting on this site?
Yes. It's just you.
HTH?
:P ;)N x x x ;)
Why are so many people on this site so bloody rude and impolite. If I get a message I find it flattering that someone might be interested. I will always try to reply as it is polite to do so even if it "thanks but no thanks"
I think I get blamks than I get replies even though I say I prefer a response even if it is a NO.
Come on Swingers let's have a degree of common politeness on here.
I think I get blamks than I get replies even though I say I prefer a response even if it is a NO.
Come on Swingers let's have a degree of common politeness on here.
Quote by icehockeyfans
I have met many people from the site, but there is about a 97% timewaster rate - keyboard swingers - seriously, and that includes the guys.
:lol: :lol: spot onWOW I thought the % was much higher than that, but even with that high figure there are still 3% who are genuine according to that figure, that means that there are actually 39,553 genuine swingers here, now of course we understand that for a very large number of those (perhaps 97% we are not what they are looking for).
Because we are slim and some people like people with a little more meat on them.
Because we are too far away.
Because they like single males only
Because they like single females only
Because we have the wrong colour skin or hair.
Because we are too short, too tall.
Because we are too old
Because we are too young
Because we have a large age gap between us (in our case the biggest reason)
But based on the % quoted that means that still more than 1100 people we would like to meet us, then there is the "us" factor, we probably don't find a lot of them compatible to us (perhaps around 97%
) so that leaves 35 who are mutually compatible and would find us close enough and what they are looking for - we have met 5 of you, so would the other 30 please get in touch very soon :)AREN'T NUMBERS FUN ;)
y'know the biggest problem with timewasters ........ they don't realise they are wasting your time, those that contact without reading profiles, those that ignore profiles even when they read them, those that like the rush of the chase but wont go beyond to actually meet, those that are just here for the cams but not honest enough to admit it, those that like to look at the pictures but wont own up to just being a picture collector.
