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I'm going to my first one soon and I've been told to just enjoy it. It's just a social where like minded people get together to meet, chat, dance and get to know each other. If you want more then I'm sure there will be lots of fun to be had but I understand that all happens after the party lol
Sex God
If you're nervous, first don't be :-) everyone's lovely. But it might help to arrange for someone you know to look after you at the start. That way you're not walking straight into the big crowd of strangers. Once you get chatting with people, I'm sure any first-time nerves will vanish.
If those asking about socials are going to the same social, maybe you could meet in a pub before, so you can arrive together and not feel alone.
Everyone says socials are friendly, however at our first we tried to chat to people but found it very cliquey and even people we had chatted with in rooms only wanted to sit, chat and eat with people they had met before.
We went to the same area social a second time as first impressions can be wrong, however we found it much the same and only enjoyed it because we talked to a nervous couple who were alone and looked like they were about to leave after less than an hour and as we all got on really well, we all stayed longer and had a good laugh, but again hardly anyone else spoke to us, even when we started a conversation.
Good Luck
Everyone says socials are friendly, however at our first we tried to chat to people but found it very cliquey and even people we had chatted with in rooms only wanted to sit, chat and eat with people they had met before.
We went to the same area social a second time as first impressions can be wrong, however we found it much the same and only enjoyed it because we talked to a nervous couple who were alone and looked like they were about to leave after less than an hour and as we all got on really well, we all stayed longer and had a good laugh, but again hardly anyone else spoke to us, even when we started a conversation.
Good Luck
Warming the Bed
We have been to a couple of socials, the first was 2 years ago in Coventry and to be honest it was a good way of meeting people,a bit like going to a party where one of you don't know anyone only , neither of us did lol.
People chat, dance and drink, we enjoyed it and met some really nice couples.
Good luck x
People chat, dance and drink, we enjoyed it and met some really nice couples.
Good luck x
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If those asking about socials are going to the same social, maybe you could meet in a pub before, so you can arrive together and not feel alone.
Everyone says socials are friendly, however at our first we tried to chat to people but found it very cliquey and even people we had chatted with in rooms only wanted to sit, chat and eat with people they had met before.
We went to the same area social a second time as first impressions can be wrong, however we found it much the same and only enjoyed it because we talked to a nervous couple who were alone and looked like they were about to leave after less than an hour and as we all got on really well, we all stayed longer and had a good laugh, but again hardly anyone else spoke to us, even when we started a conversation.
Good Luck
Hmmmm... Whilst I'm sure the people are generally friendly, I suppose its expected that there might be a few cliques which does nothing for the confidence of first timers like us. I suppose theres a natural caution of outsiders in this scene because of the narrow-minded and judgmental people that are around.
Its that first icebreaker thats always the hard one at any gathering I find. People who we used to think were quite up themselves we have ended up having a great laugh with at parties once the barriers have come down (which is us being judgmental i know).
Perhaps if the more confident regulars make a special effort to help us newbies find our place then surely that would be good for the party atmosphere in general.
Maybe we should wear L plates or something.
Funnily enough another thread was opened on this very subject not so long ago, it soon fell into disarray but heres the link
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/424711.html
I was nervous as heck when i went to my first social, I've made some amazing friends, met some incredible and diverse people and had an awful lot of fun afterwards with people ive met.
Its a non-pressurised environment, just like a big party, particularly fun are the ones that are themed or fancy dress, gives you something to focus on and not worry too much about how people will look at you, lets face it - on halloween themed socials everyone looks half dead in fancy dress and we can all have a good laugh at each other ;)
I't really a good way to meet people and get to know them and what makes them tick - if you are going to either Macclesfield or Manchester please dont hesitate to come and say hello, no wallflowering in the corner ;)
Kat xxx
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/424711.html
I was nervous as heck when i went to my first social, I've made some amazing friends, met some incredible and diverse people and had an awful lot of fun afterwards with people ive met.
Its a non-pressurised environment, just like a big party, particularly fun are the ones that are themed or fancy dress, gives you something to focus on and not worry too much about how people will look at you, lets face it - on halloween themed socials everyone looks half dead in fancy dress and we can all have a good laugh at each other ;)
I't really a good way to meet people and get to know them and what makes them tick - if you are going to either Macclesfield or Manchester please dont hesitate to come and say hello, no wallflowering in the corner ;)
Kat xxx
Sex God
For anyone who has not attended a Social before, and for some of the regulars who may have forgot the definition of a Social, the following link may be of help –
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/65788.html
For those who attend Maccs (aka Macclesfield) it helps that we have exclusive use of the venue, plus people remind us on entry that 1st Social, we'll try and initially sit them with some of the regulars whilst they find their feet
After that we try and get around every one during the evening to check with people, though if we see they are deep in conversation or dancing, we 'pass' as take it as a good sign they are enjoying
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/65788.html
For those who attend Maccs (aka Macclesfield) it helps that we have exclusive use of the venue, plus people remind us on entry that 1st Social, we'll try and initially sit them with some of the regulars whilst they find their feet
After that we try and get around every one during the evening to check with people, though if we see they are deep in conversation or dancing, we 'pass' as take it as a good sign they are enjoying
