We reviewed a club on here a few weeks back, that did not particularly run down the club or staff, although we did moan about the attendance (which on the 6 times we have visited the club, has never exceeded 12 people) and the fact that the club owner barged into a room that had just been used, while the people were still present and started making the bed, while people were still sitting on that bed! We were careful NOT to mention that the club owner had at the time of the incident had consumed a considerable amount of red wine (in excess of 2 full bottles that we actually saw!) or that he was quite agressive in clearing the room he decided he wanted to clean.
The review stood for a period of two or three weeks, when it miraculously vanished! We can only assume that some sort of deal was struck between the club owner and the operators of this site. It just seems that when reviewing a club, the opinion of ANY individual is perfectly valid as the whole thing is subjective and the opinion is raised from the visitors point of view. It is irrelevant who agrees or otherwise, with such a review, if the intention is to present a fair and balanced platform. If reviews can be removed because someone (it really does not matter who) dislikes the review, only a biased picture can ever be painted.
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From the clubs point of view, it does little good as it has simply encouraged us to post the same review on every site we can possibly find....over 100 as I sit typing this. It just surprises me that the site owners are prepared to censor remarks made in good faith. I mean, the incident happened, quite a few people witnessed what happened (the club was hired out to another organiser at the time) and several other people left in disgust. And as to our remarks about attendance, it was the club barman who confirmed that on a normal club night, their attendance was pitiful. You cannot get much more valid than that!
Mod
It is NOT the case that we only allow positive reviews on clubs. If we did that nobody would believe any of them and the whole idea of having reviews would fall flat.
The only reviews not allowed are those by the club owners/staff as they would obviously be biased, or anything which is libellous and could lead to legal action being taken either against the site or you as an individual.
I have no idea what happened to your review or for which club it was for. If you want to resubmit it directly to me or any other mod we can check to see if it was the content which caused it to be deleted and if not we can tell you to post it as normal.
This concerns me though:
This leads me to think you are being vindictive if you have posted 100 negative reviews about the club.
Mal
The only reviews not allowed are those by the club owners/staff as they would obviously be biased, or anything which is libellous and could lead to legal action being taken either against the site or you as an individual.
I have no idea what happened to your review or for which club it was for. If you want to resubmit it directly to me or any other mod we can check to see if it was the content which caused it to be deleted and if not we can tell you to post it as normal.
This concerns me though:
From the clubs point of view, it does little good as it has simply encouraged us to post the same review on every site we can possibly find....over 100 as I sit typing this.
This leads me to think you are being vindictive if you have posted 100 negative reviews about the club.
Mal
Having been threatened by the club owner, yes, I did take it a little personally. However, the review was VERY carefully worded to not be contentious. As the review was removed very suddenly, having stood for a couple of weeks, the obvious conclusion would be that it was removed at the club owners request. I will not stoop to naming the club in the forum, but I have submitted the review to you directly. Frankly, I still expect lots of reasons why my review is unsuitable.
Mod
Thanks for your PM and we will be looking at your review.
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Sex God
No deal was struck between us and the club owners, we removed the review after the owner of the club contacted us, he did state that it was up to us if we left the review in place as he has no objection to people posting negative reviews if they are true, however he fealt that your review was personal and extreme, with incorrect information and gross exaggeration of events.
I have discussed this with someone else who doesn't work for the club and was there that evening, based upon what I was told the review was removed and will not be going back up.
I have discussed this with someone else who doesn't work for the club and was there that evening, based upon what I was told the review was removed and will not be going back up.
Orgasminator
sorry to butt in but arnt all reviews personal and can be prone to exaggeration. it is up to the individual reading the review to take a number of different reviews and not take 1 review into account.
myself i will go a couple of times normally before i decide to post a review or will read the last dozen or so reviews and make a decision from that, we all have an opinion about a club and how 1 person sees things is often interpreted differently
myself i will go a couple of times normally before i decide to post a review or will read the last dozen or so reviews and make a decision from that, we all have an opinion about a club and how 1 person sees things is often interpreted differently
Sex God
Well I'm not going to discuss this particular review, but we have many submitted that are clearly not in keeping with what we would consider to be either reasonable or accurate, as an extreme example we have seen a number that we can only assume are other club owners intent on damaging the reputation of a club or on some occasions people with a score to settle, so every one submitted is reviewed and not all are accepted.
Sex God
... makes me curious as to what club it is now ...
Sexpert
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... makes me curious as to what club it is now ...
same here
Please feel free to carry on being vindictive and pm me the club details
Sex God
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just an idea....but if a bad review, maybe the club concerned should have the right to reply....right below the review. At least that way, we have two sides to a story, and can make our own minds up !!
I agree, though I thought they already could do that.
The club in question has had some really poor reviews on other sites. Not the least of which, moan about staff being drunk and rude! However, as mine was the only poor review on here, and as it was deemed biased, presumably because it was the club owner that was rude, and I said so. That was more or less why it was removed. I am assured by the site administrator that no "deal" was struck.
Sexpert
People will probably know that we go out of our way to do (very detailed) fair and unbiased reviews of clubs on the web, which led to the clubbing guide book.
To quote an excert from it, this is our criteria when reviewing a venue and it accurately summarises my thoughts on the previous exchange on this topic.
'You will find that some swinging web sites also have sections where you can find club lists and reviews of the venues submitted by members of that site. While most sites will have a fairly decent list of clubs very few of them are as comprehensive or as detailed as the one you will find in this book.
Any review (Including dare we say it, the ones in this book) should be treated with caution, along with the reasons we have already stipulated above the Adult Club market is now fiercely competitive and reviews on the net can be highly influential on a potential customers choice of which venue to visit. As a consequence a critical review of a club on the net will often be followed by a tirade of posts from loyal customers defending it, this is equally reflected when a club gets an excellent review only to then be followed by another tarring its reputation. Such damning comments and vaunted praise must be treated with scepticism by any reader as there are plenty of people in this business with an axe to grind and not everyone is as scrupulous as the next when it comes to false advertising and business practice. Club reviews can have a direct impact on the business itself, in either a positive or negative way, depending on the content of the review. One must also remember that different people want different things from their club experience. Reviews criticising a club for ‘Too many people standing around…’ or ‘There was not enough action…’ could equally be interpreted as the reviewer didn’t have any success meeting anyone on that occasion and therefore their frustration has manifested itself in their review of the club. People standing around could equally mean that they were new to the scene, nervous and therefore hesitant about joining in, or they could be more interested in watching than taking part, such is their prerogative. The intimate nature of the scene also means that friendships can be as easily broken as they are formed and will occasionally result in people falling out or having differences of opinion. The owners of a club are as vulnerable to fickle loyalty as anyone else on the scene and they can often be on the receiving end of verbal abuse both on the internet forums and club reviews, much of which is often unwarranted. Such is the nature of the world we live in and this was one of the pretexts for writing this book, to give as open, informative, honest and fair reviews of clubs as possible.'
'We must prefix our ratings guide to clubs with the caveat that these are based purely on the reviewer’s opinion and experiences of that club on that particular visit. If we have been to the club more than once, we will say so. If there are many conflicting opinions on a club, we will state that also. All clubs will have off nights just as any entertainment venue does. Also a club is only as good as the people who visit it, and sometimes clubs can be quiet one weekend and extremely busy the next. On one night the mixture of people can be just right, the atmosphere great and consequently the mood hits the mark for a great night out, on another night it can be exactly the opposite. A club can never be totally certain who is going to attend on any given evening or if those attending will be either the type of people you are looking to meet or indeed if you are the kind of people they are hoping to see there. However the maintenance of the club, the attitude and appearance of those who run it and the facilities they have to offer will all contribute towards the atmosphere in either a positive or a negative way. It is also worth stating that what we enjoy from a club on the scene maybe different from your own requirements. We like to dance, so good music and a dance space of some kind is important to us, as is the fact that we hope we will not be the only people dancing that night! We also like either a Jacuzzi or a pool to cool down in at some point, so wet facilities are also a welcome bonus for us. However most important is that the club is kept clean and run by friendly and helpful staff. A low rating will normally have been the result of any one of the following: Rude behaviour (On behalf of the staff, not the patrons) obvious presence of single men on a couples night and failings by staff to address any poor behaviour on the part of any patrons, poor maintenance of facilities, poor hygiene in areas such as toilets and so on, failure by the owners to enforce the rules of the club and false advertising. Again we stress these reviews would be based on the experience on that particular night; others of course, will feel differently. Despite having some personal preferences of our own, we have tried to review the clubs with as much impartiality as possible, stating quite clearly what the club has to offer its patrons and how much it will cost you to go there. To this end, we have asked several friends to also provide reviews on the clubs they have visited as well as comment further on some of our own reviews to give a differing opinion.'
To quote an excert from it, this is our criteria when reviewing a venue and it accurately summarises my thoughts on the previous exchange on this topic.
'You will find that some swinging web sites also have sections where you can find club lists and reviews of the venues submitted by members of that site. While most sites will have a fairly decent list of clubs very few of them are as comprehensive or as detailed as the one you will find in this book.
Any review (Including dare we say it, the ones in this book) should be treated with caution, along with the reasons we have already stipulated above the Adult Club market is now fiercely competitive and reviews on the net can be highly influential on a potential customers choice of which venue to visit. As a consequence a critical review of a club on the net will often be followed by a tirade of posts from loyal customers defending it, this is equally reflected when a club gets an excellent review only to then be followed by another tarring its reputation. Such damning comments and vaunted praise must be treated with scepticism by any reader as there are plenty of people in this business with an axe to grind and not everyone is as scrupulous as the next when it comes to false advertising and business practice. Club reviews can have a direct impact on the business itself, in either a positive or negative way, depending on the content of the review. One must also remember that different people want different things from their club experience. Reviews criticising a club for ‘Too many people standing around…’ or ‘There was not enough action…’ could equally be interpreted as the reviewer didn’t have any success meeting anyone on that occasion and therefore their frustration has manifested itself in their review of the club. People standing around could equally mean that they were new to the scene, nervous and therefore hesitant about joining in, or they could be more interested in watching than taking part, such is their prerogative. The intimate nature of the scene also means that friendships can be as easily broken as they are formed and will occasionally result in people falling out or having differences of opinion. The owners of a club are as vulnerable to fickle loyalty as anyone else on the scene and they can often be on the receiving end of verbal abuse both on the internet forums and club reviews, much of which is often unwarranted. Such is the nature of the world we live in and this was one of the pretexts for writing this book, to give as open, informative, honest and fair reviews of clubs as possible.'
'We must prefix our ratings guide to clubs with the caveat that these are based purely on the reviewer’s opinion and experiences of that club on that particular visit. If we have been to the club more than once, we will say so. If there are many conflicting opinions on a club, we will state that also. All clubs will have off nights just as any entertainment venue does. Also a club is only as good as the people who visit it, and sometimes clubs can be quiet one weekend and extremely busy the next. On one night the mixture of people can be just right, the atmosphere great and consequently the mood hits the mark for a great night out, on another night it can be exactly the opposite. A club can never be totally certain who is going to attend on any given evening or if those attending will be either the type of people you are looking to meet or indeed if you are the kind of people they are hoping to see there. However the maintenance of the club, the attitude and appearance of those who run it and the facilities they have to offer will all contribute towards the atmosphere in either a positive or a negative way. It is also worth stating that what we enjoy from a club on the scene maybe different from your own requirements. We like to dance, so good music and a dance space of some kind is important to us, as is the fact that we hope we will not be the only people dancing that night! We also like either a Jacuzzi or a pool to cool down in at some point, so wet facilities are also a welcome bonus for us. However most important is that the club is kept clean and run by friendly and helpful staff. A low rating will normally have been the result of any one of the following: Rude behaviour (On behalf of the staff, not the patrons) obvious presence of single men on a couples night and failings by staff to address any poor behaviour on the part of any patrons, poor maintenance of facilities, poor hygiene in areas such as toilets and so on, failure by the owners to enforce the rules of the club and false advertising. Again we stress these reviews would be based on the experience on that particular night; others of course, will feel differently. Despite having some personal preferences of our own, we have tried to review the clubs with as much impartiality as possible, stating quite clearly what the club has to offer its patrons and how much it will cost you to go there. To this end, we have asked several friends to also provide reviews on the clubs they have visited as well as comment further on some of our own reviews to give a differing opinion.'
Which is basically what we said.....each review is subjective.
The thing is, the club in question gets quite badly slated on other sites, other reviews giving similar comments to ours. We have also had quite a few messages from this site, all from members who have worked out which club, and who have messaged us, agreeing with our comments.
However, not one bad review appears on this site regarding the club, and ours was removed.
It is the censorship we have complained about, not agreement with our comments (although there has been lots) and the fact that in this instance, no adverse comments will be tollerated on this club, despite evidence to support our remarks. We felt that this was unfair.
We are prepared to accept the site admins remarks that no commercial reasons affect his decision to remove our review, but cannot understand why far more "spiteful" reviews exist on this site for other clubs.
We do not, did not and will not expect everyone to agree with our remarks, but still reserve the right to make them, especially as the incident that we described was far worse than the "watered down" version that we published. Mrs Dippergt750 is STILL quite badly upset by what happened, a month and a half after the event!
The thing is, the club in question gets quite badly slated on other sites, other reviews giving similar comments to ours. We have also had quite a few messages from this site, all from members who have worked out which club, and who have messaged us, agreeing with our comments.
However, not one bad review appears on this site regarding the club, and ours was removed.
It is the censorship we have complained about, not agreement with our comments (although there has been lots) and the fact that in this instance, no adverse comments will be tollerated on this club, despite evidence to support our remarks. We felt that this was unfair.
We are prepared to accept the site admins remarks that no commercial reasons affect his decision to remove our review, but cannot understand why far more "spiteful" reviews exist on this site for other clubs.
We do not, did not and will not expect everyone to agree with our remarks, but still reserve the right to make them, especially as the incident that we described was far worse than the "watered down" version that we published. Mrs Dippergt750 is STILL quite badly upset by what happened, a month and a half after the event!
Warming the Bed
ill let u know when i go xx
Sex God
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We do not, did not and will not expect everyone to agree with our remarks, but still reserve the right to make them, especially as the incident that we described was far worse than the "watered down" version that we published. Mrs Dippergt750 is STILL quite badly upset by what happened, a month and a half after the event!
I don't know the details of the incident but am quite shocked that abuse and threats were made. I really hope Mrs Dippergt750 feels better soon.
I don't know about the review this thread refers to, but I do think its ridiculous that you dont allow reviews of Adam and Eve's in Salford because the owners don't like them. There is NO POINT in having reviews at all if the owners of the establishment being reviewed can simply ask not to be reviewed.
Maybe its because people were upset that said club offered people life memberships and then after two years (if that) announced that they were no longer to honour them. Since then they have upped membership (for single guys) from £40 to £50 a year, and now to an astonishing £50 for SIX months. This is probably illegal anyway under equality legislation, but who is likely to take a swingers club to Trading Standards!
Maybe its because people were upset that said club offered people life memberships and then after two years (if that) announced that they were no longer to honour them. Since then they have upped membership (for single guys) from £40 to £50 a year, and now to an astonishing £50 for SIX months. This is probably illegal anyway under equality legislation, but who is likely to take a swingers club to Trading Standards!
Sex God
and on that note its time to lock this one up and move on.
