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How does a genuine guy get some fun in cumbria lol
Warming the Bed
hi
If you and the other guy from Cumbria are really that desperate to meet genuine couples for fun why don't you try clubf in Sunderland! There's plenty of genuine couples who are looking for genuine single guys but you have to be willing to mix and socialise not just stalk couples that you may fancy.
If you'd like to know more and are truly genuine, feel free to contact us.
Samson_Delilah
If you'd like to know more and are truly genuine, feel free to contact us.
Samson_Delilah
Sex God
Quote by Cie-cumbria
Genuine nice guy single attractive lives alone, got everything for the perfect encounter and yet it feels like it would be easier to hammer six inch nails thru my feet than to meet any genuine females or cpls? wonder why?
If you are contemplating doing this please put both nails within arms reach cos going down the shed to fetch the second one is bloody difficult after the first is in.
Quote by davej
Genuine nice guy single attractive lives alone, got everything for the perfect encounter and yet it feels like it would be easier to hammer six inch nails thru my feet than to meet any genuine females or cpls? wonder why?
If you are contemplating doing this please put both nails within arms reach cos going down the shed to fetch the second one is bloody difficult after the first is in.
Did someone shout me ?
Sex God
Quote by Cie-cumbria
Genuine nice guy single attractive lives alone, got everything for the perfect encounter and yet it feels like it would be easier to hammer six inch nails thru my feet than to meet any genuine females or cpls? wonder why?
probably helps if you have been here longer than a month...write more than twice in the month that you have been here...... and have more than two lines in your ad for a start.........
have you given any reason for anyone to say "yes, he is different from all of the others and he stands out... i have to meet him!!!!!
thought not!!!!!!!
:roll: :roll: :roll: :roll: :roll: you get out what you put in and there are 15,000 ads in men seeking women.... and they can be as picky as they want.... so instead of lazy writing put some effort into it...
you asked........
Quote by Samson_Delilah
If you and the other guy from Cumbria are really that desperate to meet genuine couples for fun why don't you try clubf in Sunderland! There's plenty of genuine couples who are looking for genuine single guys but you have to be willing to mix and socialise not just stalk couples that you may fancy.
If you'd like to know more and are truly genuine, feel free to contact us.
Samson_Delilah
He he, Desperate, Stalk, not willing to mix, un-sociable?
Quite judgemental, But thanks for the tip !
Quote by fabio grooverider
Genuine nice guy single attractive lives alone, got everything for the perfect encounter and yet it feels like it would be easier to hammer six inch nails thru my feet than to meet any genuine females or cpls? wonder why?
probably helps if you have been here longer than a month...write more than twice in the month that you have been here...... and have more than two lines in your ad for a start.........
have you given any reason for anyone to say "yes, he is different from all of the others and he stands out... i have to meet him!!!!!
thought not!!!!!!!
:roll: :roll: :roll: :roll: :roll: you get out what you put in and there are 15,000 ads in men seeking women.... and they can be as picky as they want.... so instead of lazy writing put some effort into it...
you asked........
MMM you obviously now how many adds are on her, but iam sure you dont know how many ive wrote and as for stats, you are quite wrong in how long ive been a member! since the new site update my profile has been re-freshed!
So instead of backlash writing and judgementel trivia, if u do post a reply please be more intellectual or more humurous, which obviously isnt yr strong point!
Dont be lazy put some effort into it!
Sex God
Cie, you are obviously refering to the photos ads, but this is the forums and is completey different from the photo ads (also people sometimes get a bit pissed of when folk only ever bother coming on here to moan about the photo ads)
The advice that Fabio and Samson_Delilah gave is good advice, and you are not doing yourself any favours by slagging off people who are trying to help.
Can I suggest you read the Site AUP before you do any more posts, especially the part around being agressive/abussive.
Good luck.
The advice that Fabio and Samson_Delilah gave is good advice, and you are not doing yourself any favours by slagging off people who are trying to help.
Can I suggest you read the Site AUP before you do any more posts, especially the part around being agressive/abussive.
Good luck.
Hiya Cie-Cumbria :welcome: to the forum.
I'll try to be as helpful as I can by offering a female perspective (granted every woman's view isn't going to be the same as mine)
Firstly as Fabio has said your in the majority group so you really need to make yourself stand out.
A lot of couples and singles don't even look at ads without pics so it might be getting a selection on you profile - not cock pics (you can block your face out if you wish or put up a nice body shot). Have a read of some of the other male ads to check out the competition
Bear in mind females get a lot of replies to ads so may not even bother looking at other ads, but just reply to recieved responses so it's worth making an effort to reply to other ads. But be spefic and show what you have to offer - don't just copy and paste replies.
I would also say that the number of males/females/couples on the forums is more evenly balanced, so you may want to join in around here and get yourself known to improve your odds a bit
Lastly, there's also the socials and munches where you can get to meet a lot of the regular forum users.
In a nutshell this site has a lot of different mediums through which to meet people, but whichever areas of the site you use you'll find the more effort you put in, the more you'll get out of it.
Good luck :thumbup:
I'll try to be as helpful as I can by offering a female perspective (granted every woman's view isn't going to be the same as mine)
Firstly as Fabio has said your in the majority group so you really need to make yourself stand out.
A lot of couples and singles don't even look at ads without pics so it might be getting a selection on you profile - not cock pics (you can block your face out if you wish or put up a nice body shot). Have a read of some of the other male ads to check out the competition
Bear in mind females get a lot of replies to ads so may not even bother looking at other ads, but just reply to recieved responses so it's worth making an effort to reply to other ads. But be spefic and show what you have to offer - don't just copy and paste replies.
I would also say that the number of males/females/couples on the forums is more evenly balanced, so you may want to join in around here and get yourself known to improve your odds a bit
Lastly, there's also the socials and munches where you can get to meet a lot of the regular forum users.
In a nutshell this site has a lot of different mediums through which to meet people, but whichever areas of the site you use you'll find the more effort you put in, the more you'll get out of it.
Good luck :thumbup:
Sex God
complicate isn't it Cie...I'd still go for the hammer and nail option. 
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: To a certain extent I can understand where our Cumbrian friend is coming from.
I've replied to countless ad's in the couples seeking men section. In turns I've tried being funny, thoughtfull, flippant, daft, respectfull, etc, etc. But still people don't have the courtesy to reply. I would also like to say tht in these responses I always include a facial pic
I've just checked my mailbox on here and of the messages I've sent in response to ad's. 1% are still unread, 7% are conversations that haven't worked out (I'll take the blame there) and 92% unanswered.
OK, you have to make your ad stand out but at least have the decency to say a polite no thank you.
Sorry to go on a rant but I've had a bad day.
Glass of wine or a beer anyone?
I've replied to countless ad's in the couples seeking men section. In turns I've tried being funny, thoughtfull, flippant, daft, respectfull, etc, etc. But still people don't have the courtesy to reply. I would also like to say tht in these responses I always include a facial pic
I've just checked my mailbox on here and of the messages I've sent in response to ad's. 1% are still unread, 7% are conversations that haven't worked out (I'll take the blame there) and 92% unanswered.
OK, you have to make your ad stand out but at least have the decency to say a polite no thank you.
Sorry to go on a rant but I've had a bad day.
Glass of wine or a beer anyone?
Quote by The_Maverick
To a certain extent I can understand where our Cumbrian friend is coming from.
I've replied to countless ad's in the couples seeking men section. In turns I've tried being funny, thoughtfull, flippant, daft, respectfull, etc, etc. But still people don't have the courtesy to reply. I would also like to say tht in these responses I always include a facial pic
I've just checked my mailbox on here and of the messages I've sent in response to ad's. 1% are still unread, 7% are conversations that haven't worked out (I'll take the blame there) and 92% unanswered.
OK, you have to make your ad stand out but at least have the decency to say a polite no thank you.
Sorry to go on a rant but I've had a bad day.
Glass of wine or a beer anyone?
Ok sorry to those for being off hand, but mavericks put it in a nutshell, all those who are being judgemental,dont call us lazy, try living in Cumbria, now wheres that hammer!
Sex God
Cie and Maverick:
try looking at this from the perspective of the couples. There will undoubtedly be many many single males replying to any given ad in the 'couples looking for men' section. I have read on here before that some can get replies in the hundreds. Imagine how long it would take to answer every one. Then think about why they don't.
Oh, and this subject has been done to death - the moaners STILL don't get anywhere. Do you think that people will see your rants and take pity on you? Because it sure doesn't work that way. Most of the people who read the complaints are people who spend time on the forum and don't venture into the ads section, and I think it's safe to say that the majority of people who use the ads don't bother with the forum. Unless they come to complain about lack of replies to ads or to tell us all that the site is full of timewasters. Your posts on here don't even run to double figures between you, yet you have managed to piss off lots of people. Try making your next posts more positive.
try looking at this from the perspective of the couples. There will undoubtedly be many many single males replying to any given ad in the 'couples looking for men' section. I have read on here before that some can get replies in the hundreds. Imagine how long it would take to answer every one. Then think about why they don't.
Oh, and this subject has been done to death - the moaners STILL don't get anywhere. Do you think that people will see your rants and take pity on you? Because it sure doesn't work that way. Most of the people who read the complaints are people who spend time on the forum and don't venture into the ads section, and I think it's safe to say that the majority of people who use the ads don't bother with the forum. Unless they come to complain about lack of replies to ads or to tell us all that the site is full of timewasters. Your posts on here don't even run to double figures between you, yet you have managed to piss off lots of people. Try making your next posts more positive.
Sex God
Quote by Cie-cumbria
Ok sorry to those for being off hand, but mavericks put it in a nutshell, all those who are being judgemental,dont call us lazy, try living in Cumbria, now wheres that hammer!
mate, i lived in Dumfries for a year.... so don't blame where you are mate.... there is a scene in cumbria, may not be as big as the cities......
the point is if 99% of people write 2 lines and put in a cock shot..... and you put in your ad "2 lines" how does your ad stand out?????
also look at your ad.....
"Hi iam an attractive 33yr old guy slim athletic build, 5`11 brown hair nice and easygoing, clean shaven, live alone and able to travel,would like to meet interesting ladies/cpls who would be willing to meet , i enjoy good company a drink or two and sensual fun very genuine add, discreet and trustworhty,email to get intouch. Will cam to prove genuine. paul"
all very nice... but very generic.... you say a tiny bit about you, but absolutly nothing about the people you are after......tall/short??? fat/thin??? young/old????? black/white???? ect..........
you decided to have a whinge earlier......you asked people for opinions.....people gave you the opinions......
Sex God
Quote by Cie-cumbriatip ,if you bite your nails ,do the ones in your feet cause if you do the hands your in for a cany fall
Genuine nice guy single attractive lives alone, got everything for the perfect encounter and yet it feels like it would be easier to hammer six inch nails thru my feet than to meet any genuine females or cpls? wonder why?
Quote by freckledbird
Cie and Maverick:
try looking at this from the perspective of the couples. There will undoubtedly be many many single males replying to any given ad in the 'couples looking for men' section. I have read on here before that some can get replies in the hundreds. Imagine how long it would take to answer every one. Then think about why they don't.
Oh, and this subject has been done to death - the moaners STILL don't get anywhere. Do you think that people will see your rants and take pity on you? Because it sure doesn't work that way. Most of the people who read the complaints are people who spend time on the forum and don't venture into the ads section, and I think it's safe to say that the majority of people who use the ads don't bother with the forum. Unless they come to complain about lack of replies to ads or to tell us all that the site is full of timewasters. Your posts on here don't even run to double figures between you, yet you have managed to piss off lots of people. Try making your next posts more positive.
Thanks for the feedback, not quite the constructive comments I was hoping for but I appreciate the time and effort you put into the reply
I'm sorry on a number of accounts.
As a newbie I wasn't aware this topic has been "done to death"
To the people I've managed to "piss off" because of my comments, please PM and tell me why as that was never my intention.
Also why does the number of posts matter? If you point is valid then the number of posts you have made is irrelevant?
Quote by freckledbird
Cie and Maverick:
try looking at this from the perspective of the couples. There will undoubtedly be many many single males replying to any given ad in the 'couples looking for men' section. I have read on here before that some can get replies in the hundreds. Imagine how long it would take to answer every one. Then think about why they don't.
Oh, and this subject has been done to death - the moaners STILL don't get anywhere. Do you think that people will see your rants and take pity on you? Because it sure doesn't work that way. Most of the people who read the complaints are people who spend time on the forum and don't venture into the ads section, and I think it's safe to say that the majority of people who use the ads don't bother with the forum. Unless they come to complain about lack of replies to ads or to tell us all that the site is full of timewasters. Your posts on here don't even run to double figures between you, yet you have managed to piss off lots of people. Try making your next posts more positive.
One of the most frequently made points on this forum and te ad's section is to have an up to date profile including a pic.
Here's yours.......
Name: Dot
Sexuality: N/A
Age: 66
Height: N/A
Build: N/A
Assets: N/A
Smoking: N/A
Alcohol: N/A
Name: Ted
Sexuality: N/A
Age: 66
Height: N/A
Build: N/A
Assets: N/A
Smoking: N/A
Alcohol: N/A
Pot, Kettle and black anyone?
Quote by The_Maverick
Pot, Kettle and black anyone?
Quote by freckledbird
Most of the people who read the complaints are people who spend time on the forum and don't venture into the ads section, and I think it's safe to say that the majority of people who use the ads don't bother with the forum. Unless they come to complain about lack of replies to ads or to tell us all that the site is full of timewasters.
Miss this part of her post did you ?
Could it be that freckledbird includes herself in the "Most of the people who read the complaints are people who spend time on the forum and don't venture into the ads section" part of that ?
If so; why should she need to fill in the N/A's and other personal info ?
Quote by Cie-cumbria
To a certain extent I can understand where our Cumbrian friend is coming from.
I've replied to countless ad's in the couples seeking men section. In turns I've tried being funny, thoughtfull, flippant, daft, respectfull, etc, etc. But still people don't have the courtesy to reply. I would also like to say tht in these responses I always include a facial pic
I've just checked my mailbox on here and of the messages I've sent in response to ad's. 1% are still unread, 7% are conversations that haven't worked out (I'll take the blame there) and 92% unanswered.
OK, you have to make your ad stand out but at least have the decency to say a polite no thank you.
Sorry to go on a rant but I've had a bad day.
Glass of wine or a beer anyone?
Ok sorry to those for being off hand, but mavericks put it in a nutshell, all those who are being judgemental,dont call us lazy, try living in Cumbria, now wheres that hammer!
I thought my comments were constructive and I thought I was friendy and non judgmental.
At the end of the day it just boils down to the fact that there are far more single men than couples or females.
Unfortunately probably most of the guys who reply do well written responses - it just a question of making them really stand out - Hence why I also pointed out some other options
Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
To a certain extent I can understand where our Cumbrian friend is coming from.
I've replied to countless ad's in the couples seeking men section. In turns I've tried being funny, thoughtfull, flippant, daft, respectfull, etc, etc. But still people don't have the courtesy to reply. I would also like to say tht in these responses I always include a facial pic
I've just checked my mailbox on here and of the messages I've sent in response to ad's. 1% are still unread, 7% are conversations that haven't worked out (I'll take the blame there) and 92% unanswered.
OK, you have to make your ad stand out but at least have the decency to say a polite no thank you.
Sorry to go on a rant but I've had a bad day.
Glass of wine or a beer anyone?
Ok sorry to those for being off hand, but mavericks put it in a nutshell, all those who are being judgemental,dont call us lazy, try living in Cumbria, now wheres that hammer!
I thought my comments were constructive and I thought I was friendy and non judgmental.
At the end of the day it just boils down to the fact that there are far more single men than couples or females.
Unfortunately probably most of the guys who reply do well written responses - it just a question of making them really stand out - Hence why I also pointed out some other options
I think your right! I wonder if a female had posted the same post, would ppl have been so quick to criticize and condem?
I didnt post to be a moaner as u can see i did include a lol, kinda expected some humorous feedback and constructive comments but hey iam a single guy and suppose i better start to get used to it!
Surely people who use this site weather its just for the forums should at least have a profile ? Even in the forum its nice to see a profile?
What do i know iam a single guy!
Last time i post, cant be on with all the negative feedback.
To all those nice ppl have fun.
Sex God
Quote by Cie-cumbria
To a certain extent I can understand where our Cumbrian friend is coming from.
I've replied to countless ad's in the couples seeking men section. In turns I've tried being funny, thoughtfull, flippant, daft, respectfull, etc, etc. But still people don't have the courtesy to reply. I would also like to say tht in these responses I always include a facial pic
I've just checked my mailbox on here and of the messages I've sent in response to ad's. 1% are still unread, 7% are conversations that haven't worked out (I'll take the blame there) and 92% unanswered.
OK, you have to make your ad stand out but at least have the decency to say a polite no thank you.
Sorry to go on a rant but I've had a bad day.
Glass of wine or a beer anyone?
Ok sorry to those for being off hand, but mavericks put it in a nutshell, all those who are being judgemental,dont call us lazy, try living in Cumbria, now wheres that hammer!
I thought my comments were constructive and I thought I was friendy and non judgmental.
At the end of the day it just boils down to the fact that there are far more single men than couples or females.
Unfortunately probably most of the guys who reply do well written responses - it just a question of making them really stand out - Hence why I also pointed out some other options
I think your right! I wonder if a female had posted the same post, would ppl have been so quick to criticize and condem?
I didnt post to be a moaner as u can see i did include a lol, kinda expected some humorous feedback andconstructive comments but hey iam a single guy and suppose i better start to get used to it!
Surely people who use this site weather its just for the forums should at least have a profile ? Even in the forum its nice to see a profile?
What do i know iam a single guy!
Last time i post, cant be on with all the negative feedback.
To all those nice ppl have fun.
oh for god's sake!!!! :roll: :roll: :roll: :roll:
okay..... let me try putting it like this....
no of ads in the last 30 days of men seeking women: 13334
no of ads in the last 30 days of women seeking men: 539
no of ads in the last 30 days of men seeking couples: 11529
no of ads in the last 30 days of couple seeking men: 1400
your ad is in men seeking women.... there are approx 25 times more ad by men than women in that section......they can afford to be picky.... now do you understand why it is important to make your ad stand out and why "2 lines" isn't really going to cut it.....
so why do you not do anything about it???? be proactive!!!!
Sex God
Quote by The_Maverick
One of the most frequently made points on this forum and te ad's section is to have an up to date profile including a pic.
Here's yours.......
Name: Dot
Sexuality: N/A
Age: 66
Height: N/A
Build: N/A
Assets: N/A
Smoking: N/A
Alcohol: N/A
Name: Ted
Sexuality: N/A
Age: 66
Height: N/A
Build: N/A
Assets: N/A
Smoking: N/A
Alcohol: N/A
Pot, Kettle and black anyone?
I'm not the one complaining about not getting meets or contacts. The site works very well for me, thanks. If a single female had come into this forum, or a couple for that matter, the same comments would - and have been - levelled at them also. As Dambuster has said, I use the forum, not the ads. I haven't had contact from details in my profile (which is mine and hubby's) as we make contact with people who chat to us on here, and they also contact us from seeing posts I have made.
Quote by dambuster
Pot, Kettle and black anyone?
Quote by freckledbird
Most of the people who read the complaints are people who spend time on the forum and don't venture into the ads section, and I think it's safe to say that the majority of people who use the ads don't bother with the forum. Unless they come to complain about lack of replies to ads or to tell us all that the site is full of timewasters.
Miss this part of her post did you ?
Could it be that freckledbird includes herself in the "Most of the people who read the complaints are people who spend time on the forum and don't venture into the ads section" part of that ?
If so; why should she need to fill in the N/A's and other personal info ?
No I didn't miss that part of the post.
The point I was trying to make was that one of the most common criticisms about people is that they don't have an up to date or incomplete profile on here.
Quote by freckledbird
One of the most frequently made points on this forum and te ad's section is to have an up to date profile including a pic.
Here's yours.......
Name: Dot
Sexuality: N/A
Age: 66
Height: N/A
Build: N/A
Assets: N/A
Smoking: N/A
Alcohol: N/A
Name: Ted
Sexuality: N/A
Age: 66
Height: N/A
Build: N/A
Assets: N/A
Smoking: N/A
Alcohol: N/A
Pot, Kettle and black anyone?
I'm not the one complaining about not getting meets or contacts. The site works very well for me, thanks. If a single female had come into this forum, or a couple for that matter, the same comments would - and have been - levelled at them also. As Dambuster has said, I use the forum, not the ads. I haven't had contact from details in my profile (which is mine and hubby's) as we make contact with people who chat to us on here, and they also contact us from seeing posts I have made.
I'm glad the site is working for you. Allthough I have only recently started to post I have been reading these boards for a little while. I accept that the comments would have been levelled at any poster, however I still feel that when you have put time and effort into a reply, not just 2 or 3 lines, gone to the trouble of including pic's, it would be good manners for whoever placed the ad to send a polite "no thank you" rather than just ignoring the message.
My point was that it's not the level of success or failure I find frustrating but it's the lack of manners at times which I find annoying.
Sex God
Quote by The_Maverick
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My point was that it's not the level of success or failure I find frustrating but it's the lack of manners at times which I find annoying.
And the majority of people who have addressed you on this forum are not the people to whom you should be directing your annoyance. Forum users are, on the whole, users of the forum and not the ads, and vice versa. So, the people you find annoying are not on here. So your frustration is pointless. Deal with it and move on.
The point about people being advised to keep profiles updated is a valid one, which is meted out to people who complain, but don't have an up-to-date profile. It's seen as another way of giving people more details about you and possibly making them more inclined to contact you. I have no doubt that it works for some people, some of the time.
I used to use the ads section, and still reply to some now and again, but in general found them a waste of time and effort. I did get replies but majority were timewasters.
I can agree with both sides of this argument, if that's the right word, but since I started to use the forums and chatrooms I have had a laugh and like to think made some friends.
This site is definitely not just about a quick shag, and as lots of people have said before you get out of it what you put in.
Must admit I did reply to an ad recently, not just 2 lines, and with pics as was asked for, the ad actually said pic guarantees a reply even if just no thanks.
Did I get a reply? No I didn't, which is just bad manners, that part I agree with.
As for Cumbria, I have friends up there and everyone in their village seems to be at it at some point or another
Stick with the ads if you wish, but you'd be better off in here or chatrooms and get yourself know.
Good luck in what you decide.
I can agree with both sides of this argument, if that's the right word, but since I started to use the forums and chatrooms I have had a laugh and like to think made some friends.
This site is definitely not just about a quick shag, and as lots of people have said before you get out of it what you put in.
Must admit I did reply to an ad recently, not just 2 lines, and with pics as was asked for, the ad actually said pic guarantees a reply even if just no thanks.
Did I get a reply? No I didn't, which is just bad manners, that part I agree with.
As for Cumbria, I have friends up there and everyone in their village seems to be at it at some point or another
Stick with the ads if you wish, but you'd be better off in here or chatrooms and get yourself know.
Good luck in what you decide.
