its hard going

20 Mar 2005

Hi everyone
well i am sure you regulars will be sick to death of all the single males posting the same kinds of posts but it is really hard going getting a foot hold in this kind of site, I mean i think its great that everyne can be so open with each other.
If anyone has any none pee taking advice, that would help me out loads.
I am male 23 from newcastle.
Thanks for your time

20 Mar 2005

Look in the advice section on the left, there's something about single males in there.
And don't keep moaning if you don't get meets rolleyes

There are single males on the site who do have fun, so it is possible.

20 Mar 2005

I think you need to think of it in the same way as meeting people face to face. You have to build up a relationship and trust before you are going to be fully accepted.
I have been a vistor to the forum for months before I joined, and it seems to me that generally paople are pretty welcoming of anyone who is not too pushy but makes an effort.
I came on here because to have some fun communicating with some interesting people, and not with any great expectations of anything else. So my advice is relax, chill and have fun, and maybe.... smile

20 Mar 2005

Quote by uk_fisher
well i am sure you regulars will be sick to death of all the single males posting the same kinds of posts but it is really hard going getting a foot hold in this kind of site,

Actually we love the new posters when they do a nice sensible post like the one you have done. Its the idiots who expect all the couples and females to be begging them for a bit of fun that we get sick of!
Anyway, welcome to the site, really hope you have fun, join in with the posts and let people get to know the real you. It takes time to get known but it is time well spent!

Quote by shortouse
I think you need to think of it in the same way as meeting people face to face. You have to build up a relationship and trust before you are going to be fully accepted.
I have been a vistor to the forum for months before I joined, and it seems to me that generally paople are pretty welcoming of anyone who is not too pushy but makes an effort.
I came on here because to have some fun communicating with some interesting people, and not with any great expectations of anything else. So my advice is relax, chill and have fun, and maybe....

Exactly what he says! Welcome Shortouse, I am VERY SURE you will have fun!

20 Mar 2005

You are right when you say its not easy to just slot right in, but to honest mate, you have to make a bit more effort than 27 posts in 15 months. Only 2 of them this year !
Join in few of the threads, post some replies and opinions, look out for parties, meets and munches etc. Do what you can to get yourself known.
People will always be wary of the unknown. And only you can change that.
Good luck and see you around sometime.

20 Mar 2005

Quote by uk_fisher
Hi everyone
well i am sure you regulars will be sick to death of all the single males posting the same kinds of posts but it is really hard going getting a foot hold in this kind of site, I mean i think its great that everyne can be so open with each other.
If anyone has any none pee taking advice, that would help me out loads.
I am male 23 from newcastle.
Thanks for your time

All the advice so far is sound, get on the site more and join in with the banter, keep posting, there's plenty of interesting stuff in the cafe forum too.
Maybe you can come along to a munch sometime, there's one in the NE on the 8th October (you do need to be a regular poster though to attend)
It's a social event but there'll be loads of nice, friendly people there (including me lol)

20 Mar 2005

Thanks alot, i hope to be noticed for the right reasons in the months to come. smile

21 Mar 2005

I admit it can be hard(no pun)for single males on swinging sites,but as I am also in that category I can only advise you to stick at it as I have met quiet a few people off of here and have totally forgotten about the early days when it did seem like a good idea to leave the problem some single males have is they think all females should be throwing themselves at them.
Good luck.

21 Mar 2005

Quote by pb4u
I admit it can be hard(no pun)for single males on swinging sites,but as I am also in that category I can only advise you to stick at it as I have met quiet a few people off of here and have totally forgotten about the early days when it did seem like a good idea to leave the problem some single males have is they think all females should be throwing themselves at them.
Good luck.

nicely said mate, thats such a true thing as well, some guys believe they are gods gift, in truth its the lasses who are gods gift to us single guys ( or the devils torment anyway )
UKFisher if you are noticed be it for the right or the wrong reason plays a large role yes, but the main thing to remember is this, we like honest genuine people who behave like mature ( that dont mean being 50 either ) responsible adults, show yourself to fit that bill and even the wildest of humours is acceptable. I still consider myself a newbie here, even tho I am accepted to parties and meets, I have been lucky that my posts came over in a way that gave a good impression of me, after 4 months here I am proud to say I have been to 2 paties plus a munch/afters party and am invitited to several others already. The people here are the salt of the earth types, and I am honoured to have been accepted into the fold

21 Mar 2005

, there are couples on here who have not found anyone yet, i think it really helps if you live 100 miles north of Watford they seem very randy up north e by gum and all that
im on a few sights this one is very good coz you can a laugh in the fourm as well
all good things come to those who wait biggrin